PHILOSOPHY FOR THE DAY ~ Eric Raines on Toxic People

“It is about you and your healing after all. We have the ability to create boundaries for those with none and in this process we find our self-worth… we begin to value ourselves.”

~Eric Raines

 

~via Unleashing Natural Humanity

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CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Don’t Give Up On Love”

Love is the biggest and the most potent force in our whole Universe. Love makes this world go around. Love is the glue which holds every single thing together.

It is also the true nature within us, so when we try to give up on love, we slowly give up on the person we really are. We slowly give up on our real nature, and we feel disconnected, confused, and disoriented.

Giving up on love will be the biggest possible mistake that a person can make. We cannot give up on something which is in us, or which is us.

When we do that, it means that we give up on ourselves and our lives. Without the presence of love, there will be nothing left.

We will frequently hear someone saying that he or she gives up on love, or that love hurts, or that he or she is afraid of loving again, and so on.

Well, people are really ignorant. They don’t have a clue about what love really is. They think that it is the primary source of pain and suffering, but they are completely wrong.

Loving is not what hurts. Loving is not the thing that causes people to feel heartbreak and pain, but rather their attachment to the ways in which things have to be or don’t have to be.

A lot of people find themselves in controlling relationships, instead of the loving ones. They control and pretend actually to know what the best for one another is, or they deprive themselves of the needed and wanted freedom.

Rather than permitting each other to express themselves and live their lives as their souls actually intended for them, authentically and freely, they get in each other’s way.

They influence and interfere with the destiny of one another, not positively, but negatively, and sometimes destructively too.

Love is simply about loving each other, and not about hurting. Love isn’t interested in trying to cage or change each other, or in controlling one another. Love simply wants to love as that is the only thing it knows.

Those people that were injured and hurt emotionally in a relationship they were in should know that love does not have the responsibility for that.

It also means that loving is not what they have to give up on but it is their attachment or the many distorted and toxic ideas they have and which are related to love.

People tend to compare love with distorted and toxic things too, claiming that they know the purpose of love; the truth is, they know just a little or simply nothing related to it.

When we start a relationship, and we have different expectations, wanting our partner to be this or that, or hoping our love is never going to end, we cannot help ourselves but suffer.

This suffering is never going to come from our love; instead, it will come from our attachment to the way things have to be and our attachment to our partner.

Things can go bad and relationships can end. However, it would not be the world’s end, and it should not be our loving life’s end too. We have to understand that the life which we live is ours and only ours.

Love is not about holding ourselves onto someone that is next to us. In fact, love would be about feeling that someone, permitting him or her to do, to be, and also to go everywhere his or her soul has him or her to go.

People should always have in mind that love will never hurt them, as it just knows how to love.

They should love themselves with all their might or love others in their lives, although they may not deserve that. They should remember that they should never give up on love!

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Are You Suffering From Post-Narcissist Stress Disorder?”

Ascension Avatar note: This brought a chuckle, but I suppose it would be no laughing matter for those who have experienced it (I’ve always kept narcissists out of my life…).

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Post Narcissist Stress Disorder or PSND affects those who have just managed to extricate themselves from a relationship with a narcissist. It is very much like PTSD.

PSND can be easily triggered by even the smallest thing the sufferer associates with the narcissist, be it a familiar smell or sound or taste.

Three major symptoms of PNSD:

1. Intrusive memories of the narcissist

Sometimes people suffering from PNSD are unexpectedly faced with triggers that send them into a nightmarish flashback about some incident with the narcissist.

They being to relive painful moments that involve narcissistic rage and other traumatic memories without being able to stop themselves.

Sometimes they begin to doubt their own sanity. Long periods of abuse may have conditioned them into believing that they are lacking in something.

They suffer nightmares and often have difficulty rebuilding their confidence in themselves.

2. Avoidance and emotional numbing

If you’re suffering from PNSD, you might begin to actively keep away from society and the things you once loved to do.

You’ll try your best to not dwell on the narcissist who hurt you. You’ll begin to feel like your mind is numb to all emotions.

Some try to overcome their issues by overusing recreational drugs or sedatives. Others might repress bad memories and have trouble focusing on even the simplest day to day tasks.

Forming new emotional connections will be hard and you might prefer to just hide yourself away from the world.

3. Anxiety and increased emotional volatility

Sufferers become very volatile and are prone to fits of irritability and rage while at the same time suffering from overpowering guilt which they try to hide.

Some may gaslight themselves (i.e., they begin to question every little action and memory and somehow bring all the blame onto themselves).

Insomnia, hyperventilation, hypervigilance, paranoia and distrust are also common symptoms.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

VEIL OF REALITY: “Love Bite Plus — Panel Discussion on Paranormal Interferences In Human Love Relationships”

Ascension Avatar note: Got 3+ hours to burn? I certainly didn’t, but thankfully, have never allowed anyone or anything into my life describing this scenario… and never will!

By Bernhard Guenther

We have completed a 3 hour and 22 minute Panel Discussion on The Love Bite and The Dark Side of Cupid topic (October 17th, 2015). This is the most comprehensive discussion yet available on the internet on the theme of paranormal interference in human love relationships.

  • Panel Discussion participants:
 Eve Lorgen, James Bartley, Laura Leon, Bernhard Guenther, Carissa Conti, Tom Montalk, Arella Eliora.

We covered many topics, shared our experiences, research, pathways towards healing, protection and much more.


Discussion Bulletin Points:

  • The history of how the term “alien love bite” came about.
  • The alien love bite and the Dark Cupid “love bite” symptoms.
  • The targeting aspect of Dark Side of Cupid connections.
  • Obsessive aspect of the love bite, love and drug attachment extremes.
  • How the love bite can trigger life threatening conditions.
  • How ETs/aliens handlers keep us in states of prolonged isolation where emotional needs go unmet, thus setting us up for love bite relationships.
  • Trust issues, intimacy issues as a result of abduction histories.
  • The inverse of the Love Bite—disrupting true love and how its not unusual for truth seeking abductees.
  • How others connected to the “abductee” can be manipulated to keep the abductee from awakening.
  • The Predator vs Prey set up in Love Bite/Dark Cupid.
  • One of the persons, the “prey victim” is usually more spiritually evolved because essentially they are being targeted.
  • How the Predator in the duo tends to have Narcissistic traits or personality disordered. How the predator can mirror our needs so well. Sexual attraction high. How both the Predator and the Prey are both empathic and psychic.
  • How it feels like one is under a spell and the “red flags” of true intuition get overridden.
  • How some people are groomed to be addicts of love.
  • How the predator types are acting like “organic portals”, puppet people and are very destructive. Some predators are possessed by high level entities and demons, psychic vampires.
  • Many victims of the DSOC were literally targeted by sorcerers, “hosts” for inter dimensional entities.
  • How true soul sparks or Twin Flame true love partners will be targeted to be set up in counterfeit “twin flame love bites” so that they don’t meet the real soul mate partner. How to tell if its a real twin flame versus the imposter love bite.
  • Many online Twin Flame web sites, forums, gurus are actually part of the parasite/predator program to keep and ensnare people in love bites. How difficult it is to “deprogram” people from the belief in their twin flame when the red flags of a love bite are glaring at them. Denial.
  • Cult leaders especially dangerous and often are hosted by parasitic beings who encourage and set up love bites in masse. (octopus head feeders)
  • The feelings of when your own intuition is being overridden, like you are in a trance but somehow just “go along with it”.
  • Our bodies can react with psychosomatic symptoms when we have invasive negative energy beings invading our energy bodies. Dark beings should be incompatible with our frequency hence unusual physical symptoms or pain.
  • Sexual interaction the most potent form of energy transfer between two people and with entities.
  • Some fractured people are groomed to be “empty vessels” and puppets for mind control agendas that may play out in love bite scenarios.
  • False timeline reality creation, through “black magic like” rituals can bring in dark beings, and cause a true destiny distortion, and a love bite instead of “true love”.
  • Love spells can yield love bites.
  • Solar plexus chakra affected in many love bites, where our will is weakened
  • Childhood wounding can contribute to vulnerability to love bites, and also be the source of great learning and healing.
  • Drug use can open one up to entity possession, unhealed wounds, fracturing of personality.
  • Narcissists and entity possession often go hand in hand.
  • How the narcissist uses blame, projection, shame, guilt and punishing tactics.
  • How you cannot rationally communicate to a narcissist because they twist, blame, shame and project so much it’s futile. Just disengage.
  • Healing discussion in love bite situations.
  • Self-awareness and self-correction necessary to re connect with spirit and intuition.

 

~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com

THE MINDS JOURNAL: “10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness”

One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.

Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.

Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.

10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness

 

1. You are not a priority.

Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.

2. They’re always blaming you for their mistakes.

The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.

3. They have serious double principles and standards.

These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.

4. They don’t like your loved ones.

Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.

5. They disrespect your boundaries.

Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.

6. They always make you feel sad.

They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.

7. They tend to lie to you a lot.

So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.

8. They won’t give you a space for yourself.

Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.

9. They attempt to control you.

These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.

10. They don’t care about your necessities.

These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.

 

~via TheMindsJournal.com