SELF-MASTERY FOR THE DAY ~ Eric Raines on Triggers

What are your triggers? What sets you off?

 

Breathe into that feeling, inhale in your smile, exhale out what does not feel good, including your reaction to the trigger.

 

Train yourself not to react negatively to the trigger, then put it into action the next time it appears.

 

Magic.

 

~Eric Raines

 

~via Unleashing Natural Humanity

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NIKKI SAPP: “Seven Ways to Heal Negative Emotions”

“If God him/her/itself arrived at your doorstep for dinner, how would you treat him/her/it? Most likely with the utmost respect and reverence, right? So now you know how you should treat each emotion that arises as well.”

~Nikki Sapp

 

When you come to a point in your self-awareness process where you are beginning to become acutely aware of the emotional responses that are happening within you day-to-day, you may have found that there is a very fine line between showing support to yourself while you experience painful emotions and attaching yourself to the emotions as a sense of identity.

Walking this line, trying to find a balance between the two proves to be the difference between becoming a confident, healed and self-loving person, rooted in awareness rather than ego or being a victim of life, so intertwined with our painful emotions and the stories attached to them that they become extremely difficult to heal to completion.

While one should never use their idea of “being a positive person” as a means of trying to get rid of the natural emotions that are arising in them by methods of manipulation or judgment, there is undoubtedly approaches in dealing with painful or “negative emotions” that are in fact effective in helping them heal and transform all on their own, which in turn creates the space by which the blissful “positive” emotions that are our inherent nature can arise.

Seven Ways to Heal Negative Emotions

 

1. Acknowledge them

We cannot change that which we deny is even happening, which is why the very initial step to helping to create a space for healing for any emotion is to acknowledge it’s existence. You don’t even have to name the emotion if you are at a point where you can meditate and feel into the energy of the emotion, but nonetheless you must see that it is there.

Most emotions orbit repeatedly in our energy field because they have been feared, rejected or denied which only perpetuates them. When a painful emotion arises, that should tell you a deeper inquiry is required. Simply put, they are arising to be seen so that they can eventually be healed by you.

2. Honor Them

If we know that all stems from source (God/the divine/the omnipresent Universe) we should also know that even painful emotions fit into this category as well. Knowing this is a huge reason why honoring each emotion as God is hugely transformative.

If God him/her/itself arrived at your doorstep for dinner, how would you treat him/her/it? Most likely with the utmost respect and reverence, right?

So now you know how you should treat each emotion that arises as well. While it’s easy to treat joyful emotions with respect, it’s not as so with the emotions that feel painful in our body, but nonetheless that respect is required in assisting these emotions into a place where they can relax and dissolve into our awareness.

3. Do not blame them on anyone/ Do not own them as your own

Here is another approach that can be rather tricky, especially if you are new into self-awareness. Very often our emotions come as an onset after someone else’s behavior or words, which makes it “feel” like that person is to blame for the emotion. On one level of consciousness this may feel true, but those who are seasoned in self-awareness know something that takes this perspective into a higher truth.

That pearl of insight, is that people are coming into our lives to act as catalysts to bring up the very emotions that exist unhealed in our energy field. This means that rather than blaming them for causing the emotion (which completely disempowers us into needing them to change or apologize before we can heal), we can see them as messengers that provide unlikely clues into our own healing.

On the opposite end, we must also not become to attached to the idea of ownership from within either. We are the consciousness behind the emotion, so while there may be a limiting belief that is running a program in our subconscious mind that has been triggered by the action of another, it does not mean we ARE that emotion.

We are simply the awareness who has the power to heal that defunct programming and emotional block by observing it, feeling it, and respecting it — but not owning it.

4. See them as evidence of their opposite vibration

One helpful way to assist in actually having the courage to feel an emotion head on, is to know that emotions dissolve as a way to create space for their opposite to emerge. This means that all unworthiness — when actually faced and felt — is creating the healing space that makes way for worthiness to arise in it’s place.

Anytime you are able to pinpoint what emotion you are having, you can acknowledge it and also bless it with it’s opposite, or even just declare, “I accept that this fear of not having enough is the evidence that space is being created for abundance consciousness. In knowing this, I allow myself to feel this fear completely without judgment as it’s simply healing as I’m feeling it.”

5. Thank Them

As we come to know that no emotion arises as a mistake, we come to see some of the hidden gifts emotional responses contain. One is helping us identify where we are holding onto a subconscious belief or definition that is out of alignment with our highest truth.

All emotions stem from a belief, so no negative emotion can arise without there also being a belief behind it. Knowing this makes these emotions amazing gifts in helping us to re-write our subconscious beliefs!

By taking the time to sit with each emotion and appreciate it for the healing benefits and clues it contains, the emotions begin to soften and reveal their source — meaning the subconscious belief they stemmed from. As we re-write that belief we are able to heal that emotion.

6. Celebrate them

With many things on the spiritual journey it is the most ironic or unheard of approach that actually is effective. Probably the last thing you would ever think to do when a painful emotion arises is celebrate it’s arrival– which is why this approach is also hugely transformational.

Treat it like you truly cherish it’s arrival and are so humbled to have it’s presence and the wisdom it holds in your energy field. Watch how quickly you are able to detach from negativity when you do the one thing that you would have never thought to, which is actually celebrate it’s existence instead of judging or resisting it.

7. Welcome them back home into the light

Imagine your open heart as a doorway into the light for each emotion. As you open your heart and allow yourself to feel the energetic signature of each emotion, what you are actually doing is letting that emotion be welcomed into your heart space, which leads to the light that you are. The light is where all emotions go to heaven so to speak.

You may have heard the word alchemy in relation to the spiritual journey and this approach is exactly what that word means. Alchemists use the light of their true nature to be avenue by which painful emotions are dissolved into space — by simply feeling them to completion and welcoming them into their heart space.

It is important to note that it is most likely that you will need to use more than one or a combination of a few different approaches with each emotion. Nonetheless, it’s also important to remember to honor your humanity in all of this.

It’s often easy to see ourselves spiritual robots here to use our techniques to get rid of all that “negative energy” we don’t want to deal with, but without also honoring the part of us that innocently feels these emotions from a human place, we become the manipulators of our emotions vs. the safe place they long for to return home.

 

~via FractalEnlightenment.com

ALETHEIA LUNA: “The Dark Side of Spiritual Healing That No One Talks About”

Spiritual healing is generally considered to be something very positive.

I mean, what could be more uplifting than putting the two words “spiritual” and “healing” together? It’s like watching a puppy cuddle a kitten … or eating a triple-chocolate cake doused in melting caramel. It just feels wonderful and enchanting.

And don’t get me wrong. I love spiritual healing. I think it is absolutely essential on our inner journeys. In fact, if every single person in this world underwent spiritual healing, I think humanity and planet earth would be transformed forever. I believe that we could finally achieve the ideal of world peace.

But if you have been reading my work for a while, you’ll know that I’m not interested in focusing solely on the ‘love and light’ side of spirituality. I am a shadow worker. I love to plunge into the darkness and expose what is hidden. And today, we need to shine that torch on the dark side of spiritual healing.

But firstly …

What is Spiritual Healing?

Spiritual healing is the practice (and experience) of restoring, harmonizing and balancing our Spirit or Soul. There are many different approaches to spiritual healing. For example, some new age healing practitioners focus only on bringing balance to the etheric or non-physical energy field of the human body. Shamanic healers focus on restoring the soul and curing soul loss. And other holistic healers focus on unifying the body, heart, mind, and soul. Even psychologists and therapists are starting to incorporate spiritual healing into their work such as those operating in the depth and transpersonal fields of psychology.

Spiritual healing is also seen as a transcendental experience of reconnecting with our true nature. As author and teacher Shakti Gawain writes:

Spiritual healing occurs as we begin to consciously reconnect with our essential being — the wise, loving, powerful, creative entity that we are at our core.

 

The Dark Side of Spiritual Healing That No One Talks About

There’s a reason why no one talks about the dark side of spiritual healing. Number one, most people aren’t even aware that there’s a dark side. And if they are aware then number two: they are uncomfortable to face or confront it.

Here’s where I come in: your friendly neighborhood shadow worker. I will help to outline exactly how seeking for spiritual healing can be self-destructive and why. Sounds paradoxical, doesn’t it? Well here’s the thing, it is! Spiritual healing can feel like an enigma wrapped in a riddle, and I’ll explain why.

To be as short and succinct as possible, there are two dark twins of spiritual healing:

Spiritualized Resistance

The first dark twin is what I call spiritualized resistance.

What does spiritualized resistance mean? Basically, it means that sometimes we can use spiritual healing as an excuse to “get rid of” certain feelings, memories, and experiences that we’ve had.

What’s wrong with trying to banish or get rid of what we go through? It’s a form of resistance. And resistance leads to tremendous suffering. I’m talking anxiety, depression, anger, resentment, bitterness, the whole shebang.

I believe that everyone in the spiritual community needs to understand that trying to “heal” is not always about healing. In fact, often, healing is used as an excuse to deny, suppress, disown, or reject what we’re going through.

It is completely understandable to want to try and get rid of our suffering — particularly if we are exhausted and deeply wounded. But here’s the thing: desperately trying to heal can actually exacerbate your unhappiness and deepen your resistance to what’s happening, thereby preventing you from actually healing!

I will repeat that sentence again (read it slowly): desperately trying to heal can intensify your unhappiness and deepen your resistance to what’s happening, thereby preventing you from actually healing!

It is important for us to understand that true spiritual healing is about facing, acknowledging, exploring, and integrating what we are going through. It’s not about trying to escape our reality!

Dark Spiritual Teachers

The second dark twin is perpetrated by spiritual “healers” and practitioners who are aware — either on a conscious or unconscious level — of the first dark twin of spiritual healing. These teachers are aware of the addictive quality of the push-and-pull game of eternal self-improvement and they use it for their own self-gain.

I see this literally everywhere. It’s a sad thing to behold. It’s prevalent in people who believe they must pay big bucks to “manifest their desires,” keep their vibration high, and basically accumulate more and be more (as if who they are and what they have isn’t already enough). When does this getting and being more actually end? It’s an eternal cycle that leads to suffering.

Then, of course, you have the more sinister breed of spiritual teachers who appear divine and enlightened on the surface but are raging megalomaniacs underneath. A true spiritual teacher will always give your power back to you, but a false spiritual teacher will not only parade around wearing your codependency like a crown but will also actively encourage it. They will purport to have the power to “heal” all your issues and provide you with the “one true path” towards enlightenment, illumination, or Oneness. And if you believe them, you will be ensnared in a dangerous web of believing that someone outside of you can offer you salvation.

What is Authentic Spiritual Healing?

Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.

~Akshay Dubey

 

I hope that during the course of this article, I have communicated myself clearly. Spiritual healing itself isn’t to blame, it is our mental approach towards spiritual healing.

When spiritual healing is used as a way to avoid, deny, suppress, and disown our issues through “spiritualized resistance” we are abusing its potential. And when spiritual healing is used as a dangling carrot by unethical and unwise spiritual teachers, then it is being desecrated.

What is authentic spiritual healing? True spiritual healing is about facing, acknowledging, exploring, and integrating what we are going through. It’s not about trying to escape our reality! It’s really as simple as that.

Just think of it this way: if you had a blistering sore oozing blood and puss … would you really achieve much by covering your eyes and pretending to ignore it? No. The pain and infection would still be there. Would you really heal by pretending the sore wasn’t yours or by making it someone else’s responsibility to look after? No. You’d still carry that sore with you everywhere. It wouldn’t go away any time soon. The only way to heal that blistering sore is to face it, accept it, and find ways of alleviating your suffering — not as a way of trying to escape your reality — but as a form of self-love. This, to me, is true spiritual healing.

So when it comes to spiritual healing, please be mindful of these traps and practice healthy caution. Critical thinking skills and radical self-honesty are so vital in this day and age.

I’ve been guilty of using spiritual healing as a way to try and escape my suffering before. As a person who has wrestled with anxiety for years, I have often fallen into the trap of trying to spiritually bypass my suffering through fluffy feel-good thinking or methods that promise to instantly “get rid” of anxiety. It doesn’t work. Trying to put a band-aid on a festering sore will only make it worse. Resisting your reality, even in a “spiritual” way, will only serve to deepen your suffering. The only way out is through. You need to go to the core and roots of your issues in order to heal them.

 

~via WakeUp-World.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Are You Suffering From Post-Narcissist Stress Disorder?”

Ascension Avatar note: This brought a chuckle, but I suppose it would be no laughing matter for those who have experienced it (I’ve always kept narcissists out of my life…).

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Post Narcissist Stress Disorder or PSND affects those who have just managed to extricate themselves from a relationship with a narcissist. It is very much like PTSD.

PSND can be easily triggered by even the smallest thing the sufferer associates with the narcissist, be it a familiar smell or sound or taste.

Three major symptoms of PNSD:

1. Intrusive memories of the narcissist

Sometimes people suffering from PNSD are unexpectedly faced with triggers that send them into a nightmarish flashback about some incident with the narcissist.

They being to relive painful moments that involve narcissistic rage and other traumatic memories without being able to stop themselves.

Sometimes they begin to doubt their own sanity. Long periods of abuse may have conditioned them into believing that they are lacking in something.

They suffer nightmares and often have difficulty rebuilding their confidence in themselves.

2. Avoidance and emotional numbing

If you’re suffering from PNSD, you might begin to actively keep away from society and the things you once loved to do.

You’ll try your best to not dwell on the narcissist who hurt you. You’ll begin to feel like your mind is numb to all emotions.

Some try to overcome their issues by overusing recreational drugs or sedatives. Others might repress bad memories and have trouble focusing on even the simplest day to day tasks.

Forming new emotional connections will be hard and you might prefer to just hide yourself away from the world.

3. Anxiety and increased emotional volatility

Sufferers become very volatile and are prone to fits of irritability and rage while at the same time suffering from overpowering guilt which they try to hide.

Some may gaslight themselves (i.e., they begin to question every little action and memory and somehow bring all the blame onto themselves).

Insomnia, hyperventilation, hypervigilance, paranoia and distrust are also common symptoms.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

NANICE ELLIS: “Are You Suffering from PAST LIFE Traumatic Stress Disorder?”

Most of us know that unhealed emotional trauma can result in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and many of us have even experienced it. But, did you know that we can also carry unhealed emotional trauma from past lives? In fact, there’s a direct link between past life trauma and present day fears, phobias and panic attacks. If you’re experiencing any of these conditions, you could be suffering from Past Life Traumatic Stress Disorder!

Maybe you’re wondering, how can you carry unhealed emotional trauma from one life to the next?

Although you may live many lives and incarnate as very different characters, your soul remains with you from life to life, and even though you may not remember a thing, your soul maintains the memories from all lifetimes and keeps track of “unfinished business.” So, each time you reincarnate, you take it all with you, and this means that if you die with unhealed emotional wounds in one lifetime, you’re born with the same unhealed emotional wounds in another.

Past Life Trauma — Current Day Issues!

Most of us have no memories of traumatic events that occurred in other lifetimes. Nonetheless, when we carry unhealed past life trauma into our present life, it often manifests as some type of distressing issue that is somehow related to the original event.

When past life trauma surfaces through current life issues, it often triggers Past Life Traumatic Stress Disorder, and, as a result, we might experience irrational fears, anxiety, phobias or panic attacks.

Here are some examples of how Past Life Traumatic Stress Disorder shows up:

  • If you were ever severely punished for not following the rules in a past life, you may have an irrational fear of authority.
  • If you were ever rejected or abandoned in a past life, you may have an irrational fear of being different or not fitting in.
  • If you were ever enslaved or imprisoned in a past life, you may have an irrational fear of losing freedom.
  • If you were ever excommunicated for voicing your beliefs or taking a stand in a past life, you could have a fear of being seen or heard (by the way, this is often the cause of public speaking phobias).

Furthermore, when the same type of trauma is experienced in more than one lifetime, past life scars often become amplified, and, subsequently, with each repetitive experience, the symptoms of Past Life Traumatic Stress Disorder intensify.

Also, keep in mind that irrational fears and phobias can include basically anything associated with trauma — even as simple as the fear of pencils or shoelaces.

Unfortunately, until we understand the cause of our irrational reactions, we have no control over the triggers.

Traumatic Death

Oftentimes, Past Life Traumatic Stress Disorder is the result of a traumatic death. For instance, one of my friends had panic attacks whenever someone touched his neck or he had to wear a necktie. Not surprisingly, he often had “flashbacks” of being strangled to death in a past life.

Here are some more examples of how a traumatic death can result in present day fear:

  • If you ever died by drowning, you could have an irrational fear of water.
  • If you ever fell to your death, you could have an irrational fear of heights.
  • If you ever perished in a burning building, you could have an irrational fear of fire.
  • If you were ever fatally trapped, you could have an irrational fear of being confined (claustrophobia).
  • If you were ever killed by a ferocious animal or deadly insect, you could have an irrational fear of certain animals or insects.
  • If you were ever accused of being a witch or burned at the stake for possessing psychic powers, you could have an irrational fear of sharing your gifts.

Frozen to Death

For most of my life, I had an irrational fear of being cold, and, needless to say, this made long, winter months quite unbearable. Honestly, whenever I was cold, I would instantly go into mild shock, and while I couldn’t think clearly, I felt like I was going to die.

Then, one brisk autumn evening, I got terribly lost while hiking through the wilderness alone. As the sun began to set and I was beginning to feel very cold, that familiar panic started to takeover. But this time, something different happened. Suddenly, I experienced myself as a tribal warrior who lived in another era. Evidently, I just lost a major battle, and while I was fatally injured and all alone, I was left to die in the frozen wilderness.

After remembering this slow and brutal death, I finally understood my irrational fear of the cold — and why I associated it with death. Believe it or not, after I recalled this memory, the fear of being cold completely disappeared, and, in fact, winter became my favorite season!

The Purpose of Re-enacting Past Life Wounds

Let’s be clear; whenever past life trauma manifests as current day issues, it is never due to punishment nor karma. Instead, past life trauma is carried from life to life in order to support our human survival and spiritual evolution.

You see, in response to past life wounds, we develop survival mechanisms, such as specific fears, anxieties and phobias, and due to these protective mechanisms, we automatically stay away from potential risks that could result in similar traumas.

Additionally, when emotional wounds are healed during a human incarnation, we master certain virtues that our souls intended to attain — and this is why we experience emotional wounds in the first place.

In a nutshell, while past life trauma is carried from life to life in order to protect us from similar threats, it also gives us the opportunity to reap intended virtues as we heal.

Repeat, Repeat… Heal!

While past life fears keep us from partaking in risky behaviors and also provide opportunities to attain virtues, they also prevent us from living our lives, fulfilling our dreams, and reaching our full potential.

Furthermore, even though details may change from life to life, until we heal our emotional wounds, we could repeat the same type of issues over and over again.

Although free will allows us to ignore our wounds indefinitely, if we don’t properly address the cause, these issues inevitably escalate in frequency and intensity, and, at some point, and in some lifetime, they likely result in a personal crisis that cannot be ignored. Eventually, when emotional pain reaches a personal breaking point and familiar coping strategies no longer provide relief, we inevitably seek healing.

However, keep in mind that you don’t need to reach a breaking point in order to heal and you don’t need to repeat the same issues lifetime after lifetime.

Simultaneous Lifetimes

Before we continue, I’d like to acknowledge that the term “past life” could be very misleading. You see, according to quantum physics, all moments of time occur simultaneously, and, if this is true, it means that we are actually living parallel lives. Although we are only aware of this “current” life, who knows what we experience when we’re asleep or when we’re blinking in and out of reality countless times a minute.

Nonetheless, this concept doesn’t change a thing, and, in fact, when it comes to healing, there’s no time like the present!

So, how do we heal past life trauma?

Well, some people choose to heal past life trauma through past life regressions, and this means that under hypnosis they “go back” and remember one or more past lives where they experienced a particular trauma. Although this may sound somewhat “woo woo,” I personally guided past life regressions for many years and the results were often astounding.

Sometimes, just remembering past life trauma is enough to heal it, (for example, my fear of the cold), but, more often than not, healing is a process that must be actively embraced. Therefore, if you want to heal past life trauma through a past life regression, remembering your past lives is just the beginning. This is why it’s important to find a reputable past life regression therapist who knows how to work through multiple life traumas.

Present Life Healing

Even though it might be interesting to remember who you were or what you experienced in one or more past lives, there’s actually no need to do so. In fact, you don’t need to remember past life trauma in order to heal past life wounds. Since the same issues repeat from one life to the next, and all lifetimes are interconnected through your soul, when an emotional wound is healed in any lifetime that same emotional wound is simultaneously healed in all incarnations.

Therefore, by healing emotional wounds as they surface in your current reality, you inevitably heal those same wounds in all lifetimes!

So, exactly how do we heal emotional wounds?

Well, before we can heal an emotional wound, not only must we identify it, we must also address the real cause. Although we tend to confuse emotional wounds with precipitating traumatic events, emotional wounds are not caused by traumatic experiences!

Regardless of details or timelines, emotional wounds are caused by emotional reactions (how we react to trauma). For instance, if we react to trauma by adopting disempowering beliefs or abandoning ourselves, we self-inflict emotional wounds. Although few can argue that emotional wounds appear incredibly real, if it were not for emotional pain, it would be easy to see that all emotional wounds are based on disempowering beliefs and/or self-abandonment.

Since there’s no quick fix or easy escape, emotional wounds remain with us until we release disempowering beliefs and we stop abandoning ourselves.

By healing these two pivotal components during this lifetime, you inevitably heal all lifetimes!

Although you may have tragically died in a past life, the fact that you’re reading this now clearly demonstrates that you really didn’t die — did you?

So, despite one or more traumatic deaths, the Real You survived! If this doesn’t prove that you’re a powerful and eternal being, I don’t know what does?

However, if you still need more proof, please consider that your nighttime dreams might also reflect this truth. For instance, if you’ve ever been harmed or killed in a dream, you know that when you wake-up in the morning, you’re perfectly fine. Well, believe it or not, life operates in much the same way.

In fact, since we are all “willing dreamers” in the dream of life, every one of us withstands an array of challenges, triumphs and adventures throughout many lifetimes. Yet, no matter how realistic the dream called “life” may be, when we awaken in the afterlife, we are completely unharmed, no worse for wear, and immensely better for the experience.

So, rest assured, not only is your survival guaranteed, the ultimate destination ensures a successful outcome!

Just like light illuminates darkness, this truth can heal you and set you free!

In grace & gratitude,
Nanice

 

~via WakeUp-World.com