ALETHEIA LUNA: “12 Signs It’s Time to Move On and Burn All Bridges”

“It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.”

~Aletheia Luna

 

There often comes a point where we outgrow the people in our lives, develop different interests, and even in the best circumstances, lose people due to the natural cycle of life and death.

But when is the right time to move on from a relationship that feels doomed? Should we wait it out … should we try to pick up the broken pieces, and if so, for how long? At what point is it acceptable to walk away and never look back?

Burning bridges is a tough and serious decision to make. When we “burn bridges” we are essentially cutting off all contact with a person and making it impossible to return. If you’re struggling with this decision, there are a few things you might like to know first.

When Burning Bridges is the Wrong Choice

Cutting people off is not always the right decision. As much as we would like to quickly dispose of a person who is causing us trouble, sometimes the problem originates more within us than them.

For instance, burning bridges might be the wrong choice if you’re wanting to dispose of a person due to fear of intimacy and the unwillingness to be vulnerable. Both of these problems will not be solved by cutting a person off, and in fact, making such a decision will exacerbate and deepen your insecurities. If you’re uncomfortable with sharing your entire self with another person in a friendship or relationship, the problem obviously isn’t the other person, but your own internal fears and traumas. In order to work through this problem, be honest with yourself and the person in your life. Explain how you feel. If they truly love you, they will understand and will stop trying to make you open up.

Another example of a wrong time to move on would be in the heat of anger (or another strong emotional reaction). When we are consumed by emotions our logic is overridden and we cannot think or see clearly. So many poor and even fatal decisions are made when our amygdala has gone haywire (bring to mind all the crimes of passion you hear on the news). In order to prevent yourself from making a rash decision, force yourself to breathe in and out for a couple of minutes. Removing yourself from the person or situation also helps your mind and body to settle down.

The final example of a wrong time to move on is when a relationship changes and stops being fun and exciting all the time. So many people tend to mistakenly believe that there’s something “wrong” with their relationship as it matures and grows because it’s no longer filled with the same ecstasy experienced at the beginning. But the reality is that every relationship changes: you will not experience the same dizzy euphoria as you did when you first fell in love. But there will be new emotions to experience as you grow and change with your partner. It is normal to feel a bit of boredom every now and then, but this does not necessarily mean that you need to burn bridges and move on. Obviously, if you’re feeling constantly bored and unfulfilled then you should seriously reconsider your relationship. But don’t make the mistake of hopping from partner to partner in an attempt to find that one person who makes you feel euphoric 100% of the time. It just won’t happen.

If you need more guidance on how to improve your relationship, read my article How to Save a Relationship or Marriage. You might also like to read more about how to create a deep spiritual connection with your partner.

12 Signs It’s Time to Move On

So when is it the right time to move on?

At some point in our lives, we all need to make the heart-wrenching choice to sever contact with certain people. For some of us, that might mean burning bridges with our ex-partners or friends, and for others, this might mean cutting off contact with our parents, siblings or even our own children.

It is unrealistic — and even dangerous — to believe that all relationships can be repaired, no matter what has happened. We cannot change other people, no matter how hard we try. Yes, we might be able to influence them, but the choice to change comes from them, not us. We cannot force others to change. Therefore, sometimes we need to accept that it’s time to move on, let go, and open a new chapter of our lives because no matter what we do, a person will only change if they are interested in changing.

Letting go can even seem cruel to some people, especially if a strong emotional bond is present. But the reality is that we have to take care of ourselves as well. If a person is not a source of comfort or support in your life, then they hang around you like dead weight holding you back from self-fulfillment. It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.

Here are some major signs that it’s time to move on:

1. They don’t show interest in your thoughts, opinions or needs

Your relationship is very lopsided. Even when you try to express your thoughts and needs, you are met with a blank, uninterested wall. Life seems to revolve around the other person, and whenever you try to draw a conversation towards yourself, this person will immediately try to hog attention. In the past, you may have drawn attention to the fact that this person doesn’t show interest in your needs, but nothing changed and they made no effort to pay attention to you. This person has an “ME first, you second” attitude.

2. They emanate constant negativity

No matter what you do or say, the other person is always unhappy. This person might nitpick, whine, criticize, judge, and moan about you or other people all the time. Not only that, but you always seem to go away feeling miserable after spending time with this person. They are like a damp heavy blanket suffocating your soul.

3. They don’t encourage your freedom

A major red flag: if the other person is controlling and authoritative, back away slowly! If you feel trapped and unable to be your true self, it’s most definitely time to move on. Feeling trapped can also be subtle and passive, for example, a partner or parent who tries to keep you dependent on them so that they have power over you.

4. They twist the truth

You struggle to trust this person because they have lied to you so much in the past. Lying is not always active, it can also be passive, for example, withholding information or details that you needed to know. This person has repeatedly broken your trust and is not transparent with you.

5. They don’t prioritize your relationship

The other person doesn’t seem to value your relationship/friendship as much as you do. While you put in so much work to improve your relationship with them, the other person doesn’t seem to care at all. Even when you have asked them to uphold their side of the relationship, they still ended up prioritizing other things over you. For example, they might spend long nights out with their friends at the pub and return at 3am. Or they might forget dates, meetups or agreements and put work or other commitments above you. While busyness is a normal part of life, this person doesn’t seem to have time on their schedule for you at all.

6. They create constant drama

You feel exhausted having to deal with all of the problems and dramas surrounding this person. Even when something goes well for your friend/partner/family member, they quickly find something else to be unhappy about. You have a sense that this person thrives on drama and is empty without it. You’re tired of hearing detailed accounts of their fights, work dramas, relationship tragedies, righteous opinions, ad infinitum.

7. They feed off your energy

This person seems to be fuelled by your attention and emotional reactions. They might enjoy provoking you to elicit a response that makes them feel like they have power over you. You also feel very tired around them, and almost sucked into their gravitational pull. If you feel this way, you’ve likely got an energy vampire on your hands. While I don’t particularly like this term, it accurately describes people who enjoy leeching off our energy.

8. They’re relentlessly needy

You feel smothered by this other person and like you’re bound to them with a ball and chain. Not only do you have to take care of your needs, but you feel as though you have to take care of their needs as well. This person seems to constantly demand attention, pampering, affection, and favors from you. You’ve tried encouraging this person to stand on their own two feet, but they seem intent on clinging off you. This person seems to be incapable of being self-assured and constantly seeks approval from you.

9. They have physically hurt you

In moments of rage, your friend/partner/family member may have hit you or physically hurt you in some way. While they may have apologized, your trust and confidence around them have been broken. Physical abuse is a crystal clear sign that it’s time to move on and burn bridges, forever.

10. They make you want to hide your true self

You’ve tried being relaxed and open around this person, but you’ve been met with coldness, criticism or judgment. As a result, you may have resorted to hiding your true self and wearing a mask instead. Gradually, you may have even started to forget who you truly are, having become a shell of your former self instead. You feel sick of changing who you are for the other person.

11. They manipulate you

You chronically feel emotionally blackmailed or gaslighted by this person. Sometimes you even feel like you’re the abuser, when in fact, the other is just playing mind games with you.

12. They intentionally hold you back

On the surface it may appear that your friend, partner or family member has “the best intentions for you,” but really, they don’t. They are scared. They don’t want you to change. They don’t want you to reach your full potential, for that will make them feel left behind. They don’t want to see you happy, for that will reflect how unhappy they are. They don’t want you to take risks, for that will force them to reconsider their own life choices. As the old truism goes, “misery loves company.” Unhappy people want to be surrounded by other unhappy people because it gives them some sense of consolation. As a result, you might feel like you have to dim down your lights, blend in, and become a wallflower.

After reading this list:

After reading this list, please know that you don’t have to say “yes” to every sign. Even if you’re experiencing just one or two of these signs, you should seriously consider the possibility that it’s time to move on. While you don’t have to necessarily burn bridges, you might like to create space and distance and see how you feel.

Hopefully these signs can gently awaken you to the possibility that it’s time to open a new chapter of your life. And please know that feeling things like stress, shame, and grief are all normal reactions. Personally, when it was time for me to burn bridges I felt intense emotional and psychological turmoil for many months. In my case, I had to cut ties with my entire family in order to escape their oppressive fundamentalist religion. But to my surprise, I felt so free and liberated that all of the pain of going through separation was worth it.

I hope you can find the same kind of freedom. Your heart and soul are stronger than you may think.

 

About the author: Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a psychospiritual counselor, tarot reader, and professional writer, Luna’s mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance.

 

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EARTH DRUM COUNCIL: “Guidelines for Participating in a Drum Circle”

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A drum circle is a community cooperating together to make something greater than the sum of its parts.  That’s why there’s more to a good drum circle than expert drumming.  In music, as with all forms of communication, the silence between the notes is as important as the notes themselves, and listening is as important as voicing.

If you are a novice drummer, watch the skilled drummers.  If you cannot hear what they are doing, play more quietly.  Use fewer notes rather than play every beat.  Leave spaces in your playing so that other drummers will have space to play in.  Using fewer notes will help you keep up speed with the other drummers and dancers, and also allows you to be more creative.  It is all right to get lost.  If you do, stop playing for a while, listen for the basic pulse, and join in with it.  It is not necessary to play something entirely different from everybody else; try playing the same rhythm as other people at least part of the time.  Repetition is an important and integral part of drumming.  Use your eyes as well as your ears to understand what is happening.  Pay attention, look and listen while you play.

If you are an experienced or lead drummer, be responsible.  Listening is even more important when you are the glue holding the rhythm together.  Be aware of the energy of the group.  Add solos only when the existing rhythm is well established.  If you are starting a new rhythm, choose one that others can easily join.  Work with the whole group of drummers and dancers.  Playing with a well rehearsed group is easy.  Playing with a mixed crowd of novice and experienced drummers is more challenging, but it can bring out the best in everyone, and be a lot of fun.

Drums can be classified as having a tone which is low, middle, or high in range.  If you sit close to other people who have drums that have a similar tone and volume to yours, it will help give the rhythms focus and cut down on distractions.

Be aware that bells, claves and shakers cut through the sound of all the other instruments.  That is why they are the timekeepers and the key to most complex rhythms.  These are sometimes called the “guideline” instruments, and they should hold to a steady part rather than “jam”.  If you are a novice drummer, it is good to learn the basic bell and clave parts if you can follow and learn from someone more experienced.  Bells and claves can throw the whole group off if they are out of sync, so when in doubt go back to the basic pulse.

We are all teachers and learners.  Don’t hesitate to ask for help to figure out a rhythm, or to offer help to someone else.

It is customary to ask permission of a drum’s owner before playing it — but don’t be afraid to ask!  If you do not wish to have anyone else play your drum, please put it away or cover it when you are not using it.  If you borrow someone else’s drum, please observe the basics: remove rings before playing hand drums, and return the instrument to where you found it.

Please do not play melodic instruments like flutes and guitars at drum council.  They confine the rhythm instruments to the span of their melody, and can be very distracting.

Do, however, feel free to express yourself with your voice.  Chanting which blends with the rhythm can enhance the overall effect.

Most of all, have fun!  Drumming and dancing are wonderful forms of creative self expression, and the drum council is a great place for us to express ourselves together.

 

~via Shift.is

LISA RENEE: Avatar of Ascension ~ Hieros Gamos ~ Inner Balance to Sacred Marriage ~ “ES Core Triad Practice” (Part 6/10)

 

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ES Core Triad Practice

DEVELOP SKILL SET FOR DAILY USE – Three Steps plus Daily Guidelines

Step One:

Daily Declaration of Intention (resolve the authority problem between Ego and God)

My declaration of intention is to serve my Source.
I commit to serve my highest power fully, completely and totally.
I am God. I am Sovereign. I am Free!

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Step Two:

AM/PM practice the 12D Shield to Learn how to Command Personal Space

 The 12th Dimensional Shield is to protect your body to receive an increasing flow of higher frequencies.[Access the JW player on this page to listen to MP3]:

https://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/hgs/es-core-triad

GodSovereignFree!     

 

The First stage in working with the 12 D shield is to achieve the following PERSONAL results:

  • To fortify and strengthen our Aura and Energy Field by reconnecting to the Over-soul Matrix and the 12 D Blueprint
  • To learn energetic boundaries of our Aura and to be able to boundary test discordant energies that are uninvited
  • To re-imprint the body to physical sustainability and health (achieved by energetic balance)
  • To allow communication links to be restored with Spiritual Forces and Star Families
  • To begin a process of reawakening dormant energy receivers and/or repairing damaged genetic imprints
  • To empower our cells to reawaken to our True Origin, including decoding light language and the hidden history of the human race.

After this has been practiced with commitment and dedication on a regular basis, new levels of awareness will begin to emerge. Let this express itself freely and do your best to allow and do not place judgment on any experiences you may have. All of us are unique and may have different variations of experiences.

Depending on your soul gene code, lineage and willingness to be rehabilitated for service to others orientation, you may find after a certain time of working with this technique that you are called to the second stages of building and working with larger fields of 12th dimensional energy.  A certain level of personal light integrity must be stabilized in order to be effective to work with the larger 12th Dimensional vortexes. The 12 D Vortex fields are extremely effective at harmonizing personal environments and stabilizing energies such as planetary grid lines. Working to harmonize energy spaces is the next stages of working with the 12 D fields of energy. You can also think of this 12 D energy, in its Platinum color, as the Cosmic Christ Frequency. Still it is a good mental focus technique to practice daily your 12th dimensional divine light shield, which is necessary to prepare your aura, and for the neurological entrainment of our NERVOUS SYSTEM and to be receptive to the huge influx of higher frequencies during the Ascension cycle.

Step Three:

Before Bedtime – Work with the Core Fear Removal Programs

Spend time and listen to the below tracks below:

Core Fear Removal Introduction (7m 29s) [Access the JW player on this page to listen to MP3]:

https://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/hgs/es-core-triad

GodSovereignFree!

 

Core Fear Removal (9m 24s) [Access the JW player on this page to listen to MP3]:

https://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/hgs/es-core-triad

GodSovereignFree!
Establish connection with Higher-Self/Guides to move out old fear programs, and clear implants in your energy field template.

Start first with general fears being rooted out. Request them and remove them in your personal voice command (you request it out loud).

Then move to more specific fears that you know create limitation. The more specific your request, the better, as you work with this technique.

Establish Sleep State programming to continue these clearings with your Guidance as you are sleeping.

DAILY GUIDELINES – Moving from Mental Confusion to Inner Clarity:

MENTAL DISCIPLINE TECHNIQUE: STAY IN THE NOW MOMENT!

The 5 Steps to Negative Ego Reprogramming:

1. RELABEL – Identify the negative thought or emotion as a distorted pattern of negative ego consciousness. This “Fear” is my Negative Ego. This is not the real me.

2. RE-ATTRIBUTE – Dis-identify from the thought or emotion as you. You begin to master your emotional states and you can begin to choose. I am the eternal being, not my thoughts or emotions.

3. REFOCUS – Move yourself out of situation, environment or the trigger for that thought. Go for a walk, listen to music, change your focus.  Affirm: Not my will but Divine will.

4. REVALUE – Revalue the power you have given this thought or emotion to rule your life.  See it for what it truly IS. Limiting you. Disempowering you. Robbing you of inner peace and fulfillment as a Divine being. Get behind ME, Ego! I AM that I AM!

5. REQUEST Help – Commit to expressing Higher Emotion and Living your Soul Purpose. Ask for help from Spirit. Work your tools. Be here NOW!

 

DAILY GOAL Monitor and Track your SELF Awareness, by Cultivating “THE WITNESS”

The Witness or Observer has no judgment. It allows observation of external events without needing to control the outcome. Practice this intentionally as a daily exercise by monitoring:

Mental Awareness – Often our minds fall into a groove that has a certain tone or resonance to it. Sometimes our mind is agitated and sometimes our mind is very calm. We are expansive and receptive when we are calm, centered and mentally relaxed. When our mind feels agitated and stirred up, we then become constricted and energetically blocked. Agitation, anxiety and worry often indicate that we are operating in the active Beta brain wave state (which is where most adults operate from) .When our mental body and mind feel calm and flowing, it means we are in the more relaxed Alpha brain wave state (where children generally operate from). Try to operate from the relaxed Alpha brain wave state as much as possible since that expands and allows more energetic flow into your body. You will experience greater ease in your life and begin to go with the flow, allowing yourself to receive more “spiritual- energetic” support into your daily life.

Self-Talk Awareness– We talk to ourselves with an inner dialogue all of the time. We talk to ourselves over 50,000 times a day and what we say to ourselves determines to a large extent the quality of our lives. When you begin to meditate and hold more periods of inner silence, you will be amazed by the amount of self-talk you start to witness in yourself. Try to begin tuning in as much as possible to what you are saying to yourself in the still places of your very receptive mind.

When you get anxious and notice a self-defeating program of your ego taking over, go to the next daily practice tool as a REFOCUSING EXERCISE and apply breath and self-forgiveness.

 

DAILY PRACTICE TOOL  Self Application of Forgiveness

USE WHEN TRIGGERED INTO NEGATIVE PROGRAMMING OR UNLOVING THOUGHTS TOWARD YOURSELF (i.e. worry, anxiety, self-doubt)

Breathe in and slow down your body by applying breath. Take in deep inhale 4 counts, Hold in 4 counts, Exhale 4 Counts. Do this for 4-8 counts until you feel totally out of your mind programs and in your full “presence” of breath- The NOW presence. The goal here is getting you OUT of your mind program and INTO your PRESENCE. This can happen when you apply breath. Your mind has to release. Reprogramming is most effective when done outside of the mind, when you are engaged in the “observer” mode of your full present consciousness.

Now Invocate:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience _________________.

(Minimum of 3 sets, then work with the breathing exercise again if you feel you have lost “now” moment presence, for a total set of 9 sets of commands for each item chosen)

You choose the item you feel is most pressing for each “set” of the exercise. You may want to alternate daily or work on one issue you know is pressing consecutively for 21 days until you feel emotionally freed from the memory or pattern. You can choose.

Some sample suggestions:

  1. Lack of Self Love or Acceptance
  2. Lack of personal power/fear or limitation
  3. Entities and people dominating me or sucking my life force.
  4. Poverty consciousness or lack of a self-identity (lack of trust in God/Goodness)
  5. Self-doubt/worry

 

REPLACE THOUGHT AND AFFIRM: 

I AM THE POWER, MASTER AND CAUSE OF MY EMOTIONS AND MENTAL STATE!

 

 

 

 

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