TANAAZ (Forever Conscious): “Eclipse & Retrograde Season Is Ending — Here’s What That Means For You”

“Retrograde energy is about going back and looking to the past. It is about reconsidering things or reflecting on things so you can learn from them and create a better future. Under the heavy retrograde energy we have been having, we have had to pause, stop, and reflect rather than be in a hurry to move forward.”

~Tanaaz

 

It has been an interesting time in the cosmos over the last few months with many planets in retrograde and a string of three potent Eclipses.

In fact, the Blood Moon Eclipse we had at the end of July was one of the longest and most potent eclipses we will ever experience.

With all of this cosmic energy now slowly wrapping up and coming to an end, the lessons and gifts of the season may be becoming clearer. After all, the Universe wouldn’t put on a show like this if it didn’t want us to take away something.

If we imagine this journey as a cycle, we are now entering towards the completion phase and we can look back and begin to make sense of what has been created.

Even though all of this energy extends back further in time to 2008, for simplicity, think back to what was happening for you around the months of January-February of this year.

Where were you emotionally? What was stirring for you? What were some major concerns you were having?

Around this time, the Universe would have begun highlighting things for you. In fact, the major themes and lessons that you have needed to work on during this season from June to August, would have arisen during this time.

Often we like to pinpoint our issues or concerns to be something outside of ourselves, like our career or our relationships, but there is a benefit in digging a little bit deeper and uncovering why these areas may be causing an issue.

When you dig a little deeper, you often find that it’s not about your relationships or your career at all, it is about something more personal.

We are all here on a journey, we are all here to learn and grow, and even though we may not always have control over what comes our way, we do have to learn to take responsibility for what comes our way. And this is exactly what the Universe has been beckoning us to do under this energy.

Retrograde energy is about going back and looking to the past. It is about reconsidering things or reflecting on things so you can learn from them and create a better future.

Under the heavy retrograde energy we have been having, we have had to pause, stop, and reflect rather than be in a hurry to move forward.

In fact, we may have even felt held back, sluggish, or that our lives have come to a bit of a standstill. We may have felt that change was needed, but perhaps we were unsure of what changes actually needed to happen.

All of this is very common during an intense period of cosmic retrograde activity. It is easy to feel frustrated under this energy, but we have to take this as a time to slow down and catch our breath.

Along with all of this retrograde activity, we have had a string of three Eclipses. Eclipses usually come in pairs, so to have three is definitely a special gift from the cosmos.

Eclipses always signify huge turning points of change and evolution, however under all of this retrograde energy, these Eclipses would have manifested in a slightly different way.

While they were still encouraging us to change and evolve, this was all on a much more internal level. A lot of the changes we were being asked to make were on the deepest level of our psyche so we could change and evolve who we have thought ourselves to be.

Under these Eclipses we have been guided to peel back the layers and look into the depths of our soul.We may have been confronted with our fears or with emotions and feelings that stem deep from childhood. We may have also been confronted with what is no longer working in our lives, and where we have been sacrificing too much.

Under the retrograde energy, we have not been able to escape these realisations or brush them off. Instead, we have really been encouraged by the Universe to sit and get cosy with them, for it is only when we do this that we can truly understand and clear them in order to make way for a brighter future.

Now as we are at the tail end of all of this, a new and fresh energy is going to emerge, one that feels more energizing and uplifting.

After months of digging deep and sitting with some painful realisations, we are now going to be given the momentum to push forward and make the changes we have been wanting to.

Through the end of August into September, we are going to be guided to make positive changes, and to start a new chapter in our lives. This new chapter is also about coming into a newfound source of inner strength and power.

We have all been through a rapid period of growth, and now as this cycle comes to an end, we are going to get to see just how much we have grown and what we have bloomed into.

The time to bloom is now, and we are going to be given a huge boost of energy to show the world and ourselves who we have now become.

With layers peeled back we are ready to take on a beautiful new chapter, and we are ready to welcome in a new energy into our lives.

The remainder of 2018 still has a slow and methodical energy to it, but as we emerge from this recent cycle of retrogrades and eclipses, we are going to feel energized and confident about the journey ahead.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

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VERNON HOWARD: “20 Powerful Secrets To Meaningful Relationships”

The following twenty powerful relationship secrets is an excerpt from Mystic Path to Cosmic Power, by Vernon Howard

20 Powerful Secrets To Meaningful Relationships

1. When two people meet, the prize always goes to the one with the most self-insight. He will be calmer, more confident, more at ease with the other.

2. Never permit the behavior of other people to tell you how you feel.

3. Pay little attention to what people say or do. Instead, try to see their innermost motive for speaking and acting.

4. Any friendship requiring the submission of your original nature and dignity to another person is all wrong.

5. Mystically speaking, there is no difference between you and another person. This is why we cannot hurt another without hurting ourselves, nor help another without helping ourselves.

6. When we are free of all unnecessary desires toward other people, we can never be deceived or hurt.

7. You take a giant step toward psychological maturity when you refuse to angrily defend yourself against unjust slander. For one thing, resistance disturbs your own peace of mind.

8. You understand others to the exact degree that you really understand yourself. Work for more self-knowledge.

9. Do not be afraid to fully experience everything that happens to you in your human relations, especially the pains and disappointments. Do this and everything becomes clear at last.

10. The individual who really knows what it means to love has no anxiety when his love is unseen or rejected.

11. If you painfully lose a valuable friend, do not rush out at once for a replacement. Such action prevents you from examining your heartache and breaking free of it.

12. Do not be afraid to be a nobody in a social world. This is a deeper and richer truth than appears on the surface.

13. Every unpleasant experience with another person is an opportunity to see people as they are, not as we mistakenly idealize them. The more unpleasant the other person is, the more he can teach you.

14. You can be so wonderfully free from a sense of injury and injustice that you are surprised when you hear others complain of them.

15. We cannot recognize a virtue in another person that we do not possess in ourselves. It takes a truly loving and patient person to recognize those virtues in another.

16. Do not mistake desire for love. Desire leaves home in a frantic search for one gratification after another. Love is at home with itself.

17. There are parts of you that want the loving life and parts that do not. Place yourself on the side of the positive forces: do all you can to aid and encourage them.

18. You must stop living timidly from fixed fears of what others will think of you and of what you will think of yourself.

19. Do not contrive to be a loving person: work to be a real person. Being real is being loving.

20. The greatest love you could ever offer to another is to so transform your inner life that others are attracted to your genuine example of goodness.

 

~via BodyMindSoulSpirit.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Why We Need To Stop Trying To ‘Fix’ People”

“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals.”

~Pema Chodron

 

After college, I was hustling hard to get a work visa so that I could stay in the US.

But then my mom got caught up in a political scandal, and without much reflection on how much this would alter my life’s plans, I dropped my dream of staying in America, drove 1,000 miles, and flew another 500 to be by her side.

Would she have crumbled without me there? My mama is a tough chick, so I highly doubt it.

But at the time, I (subconsciously) believed that when the ones we love are hurting, their pain trumps everything. Their pain gets top priority, and whatever goals and dreams we’ve been working toward now pale in comparison.

At the time, I thought that love meant tending to the other person’s needs first, always.

And this form of self-sacrifice came naturally to me (I’d behaved this way even as a young child), so I was lucky, right? Having inherent caregiver qualities is a beautiful gift, right?

Yes. And maybe not.

Are You a Natural Caregiver?

You’ll know if you have this trait too, because people will often tell you their secrets mere minutes after meeting you.

When someone has just been in a car accident or broken up with their boyfriend, you wrap your arms around them and for the first time that day, their body fully relaxes.

People tell you they feel at home in your presence. Safe. Heard. Cared for.

There’s so much beauty in having a trait like this. Without much effort, you nurture and care for those around you. It is a gift you give us all.

But there’s another side to the caregiver coin.

Helping other people can become addictive. It can begin to feel like the only way to show your love is to prostrate yourself at the needs of others.

 

Oh, you’re hurting? Lemme swoop in and save the day.

Oh, you’re broke? Lemme dump my savings into your bank account and all will be well.

Oh, you’re single again? Lemme set you up with my neighbor’s son.

Whatever your ailment, I’ve got a fix for you!

And the gratitude from the people we’re supposedly ‘fixing’ tends to flow so steadily that we become convinced of the healthiness of our stance.

We’re confident that healing every sore spot we see is not only natural and enjoyable, but it’s the main reason we were put on this planet.

When you carry the Nurturer Gene, fixing other people can easily become a destructive self-identity.

You will martyr yourself over and over again in order to meet the invisible quota of Lives Helped that floats above your head.

You will obsessively analyze how every choice you make might impact those around you.

You will assess every meal, every dollar spent, every vacation taken (or not taken) based on how it will impact the people you feel a responsibility to care for.

Because, in this unhealthy version of caregiving, our understanding of love has become warped. Love now looks like a relentless string of sacrifice.

Your thoughts might go something like this:

 

If I don’t love her with my constant presence, she will feel sad and lonely.

If I don’t love him with my attentive eye observing everything, he’ll get sick again, or maybe even die.

If I don’t love them with my efficiencies managing everything, someone will get hurt. Things will go very wrong if I’m not here to take care of them all.

Sometimes, love calls on us to invest our energy and time in tending to someone else’s pain.

But not 100 percent of the time. And not with the nurturing going down a one-way street, pouring out of the same person, over and over again.

If you see this pattern in any of your relationships, consider what it would take to expand your definition of what it means to nurture, to love, to care for.

A healthy caregiver not only nourishes the needs of others, but also nourishes her own.

Holistic nourishment. Nourishment of the whole of us, for all of us—which includes you.

Self-nourishment might look like hiring a babysitter so you can have a romantic getaway with your hubby.

Self-care might mean taking the job on the other side of the country, even though it means you’ll only see your parents twice a year.

Self-love might be quietly soaking in a bubble bath instead of probing everyone for a detailed account of their day.

You are not responsible for the world’s pain.

Share your talents and resources. Generously give your time and attention. But you cannot pour a magical tonic on the wounds of every person walking the planet. It’s not your job. And if it were, it’d be a sucky job because you’d fail at it every single day.

Especially when we identify as being “spiritual,” we can lift up words like “compassion,” “generosity,” and “kindness” to such a degree that we forget that even “compassion” sometimes must say no.

Even “generosity” has to allocate some of her resources for herself.

And even “kindness” must muster the nerve to walk away sometimes.

If you are the person in your relationship or family or company that defaults to caregiver and wound-tender, give thanks for the ease with which you dish out your love.

But be careful about inhaling that caregiver role to such a degree that your identity becomes dependent on having someone nearby to nurture.

Give your love. Freely and deeply.

And trust that even if you’re not there to ‘fix’ them, everyone will be just fine.

 

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

TANAAZ (Forever Conscious): “My Journey Through the Many Layers of Grief”

As I am writing this it has been just over a year since my little sister passed away. I have never experienced grief like this before. Before my sister passed I had lost people I had known and loved, but it wasn’t like this.

My little sister was my best friend. I spoke to her everyday, we shared everything, we were so close. Losing her has been like losing a part of myself, and the pain has just been excruciating.

Even though she passed away from cancer, it wasn’t like one of those things where you knew she was sick or she battled for years. It was all very quick. It just came so out of the blue.

Even with my connection to the spirit realm and my years of spiritual practice, none of it has excused me from going through the painful grieving process.

Through my year dealing with immense grief, I have learnt a lot and while I am sure I am still learning, I felt it important to open up and share my experience in the hope it can bring comfort and support to others.

Grief is normally narrowed down into stages, and while these stages are relevant, in my experience, they barely scratch the surface.

Here is what I have understood about grief so far, and the many layers that make up the word:

The 7 Layers of Grief

1.) Spiritual Understanding

Grief can sometimes lead you to a more spiritual way of life. In moments of grief, people turn to higher beings, dieties, and angels for comfort. Even though I have lived my life this way for many years, my grief actually led me in the opposite direction.

My spiritual beliefs were shattered and I felt closed off from my guides and angels. I felt I had been betrayed and unfairly treated. I felt my ego rising up and demanding answers as how this could happen to me. I am a good person, this should not have happened.

Of course, dealing with pain and grief has nothing to do with whether or not you are a good person. It is a fact of life, and part of our spiritual growth and development. I see that now, and I think I always knew it to be true, but I was angry, and I was particularly angry at the spirit world.

While I am back on good terms with my guides, this process has helped me to develop a deeper spiritual understanding that is more true to me. It allowed me to really gain clarity with what I believed, and helped me to weed out things that were no longer in alignment with my beliefs.

Whether you choose to turn to religion, atheism, or your own spiritual values, death really challenges you to open to a new way of spiritual understanding.

The one thing I can say is that I do feel grateful to have gone through this experience with some sort of spiritual connection. While it didn’t excuse me from the pain, it did help me to look at the bigger picture and manage my stresses and anxieties on a day to day level.

2.) Deeper Understanding of Life and Death

I really think that death can teach you so much about life.

Dealing with death has caused me to reassess my life and the meaning of it. I feel like before all of this, I was very ambitious and always had a list of goals that I was working on. I put a lot of value and emphasis on my career.

I would never take breaks, I would always work long hours, and while I am grateful for this as it helped me to build this website up, I just don’t do it anymore.

Now I feel like taking a softer approach to life. I feel like slowing down and spending more time on the things that I have realized are so much more important.

What feels more special to me now are the moments I get to share with my loved ones. What feels more important is the difference I can make in the lives of those around me whether it is through my website, my books, or simply smiling to someone as I pass them on the street.

Experiencing death has really helped me to re-prioritize my life and has allowed me to see what is really important. We are all going to die one day and none of us know when that day will be.

We have to start finding what is important to us and making time for it. For when death comes, it’s not going to be about how many likes you got on social media, or how much money you made, or how many goals you ticked off your list, it is really all going to come down to how much you loved, and how much you laughed and enjoyed yourself through the process.

I know life is not easy. In fact, I often feel jealous that my sister got to leave Earth behind. But I also know and appreciate that life is a gift, and life can be beautiful when we start to prioritize what is really important.

3.) Your Own Death

When you deal with the death of a loved one, you are not only mourning them, but you also mourning the part of you that died along with them.

Very often when I find myself crying, my tears are not for her but for me! I believe that she is up in the higher realms probably having a blast, and my tears are really just for little old me that got left behind!

My sister just had a way of knowing how to make me laugh, and we shared jokes that no one else would understand. I miss this, and I have realized that no one is ever going to fill these shoes, and making peace with that is hard.

We also turned to each other for advice about everything. Being the older sister, I know she looked up to me, and I hope she knows that I also looked up to her. But I am no longer a big sister. I am no longer the middle child. That is a role I no longer have to fill, that is an identity I no longer need to hold onto.

I have lost a huge part of myself, and while I feel this transformation is still underway, it is just another layer to deal with when grief comes your way.

When you lose someone that was so close to you, it leaves a gaping hole in your life and in your heart. I am not sure if we are supposed to fill the hole or just accept that it is there, but I feel that perhaps it is a little bit of both.

I think a good idea is to plant some beautiful flowers around the hole to honor that part of yourself and to fill it in, but not replace it.

4.) Relationship Dynamics

Because I have changed, so too have my relationships. For one thing, my family is a lot closer. I also feel closer to my partner, and I feel myself being more compassionate in general.

My empathic gifts have become very strong, and on most days I feel extremely sensitive when around others. I have also noticed a change in my friendships and who I feel comfortable hanging around with.

When you are extra sensitive, your awareness around everything is heightened and it becomes harder to tolerate things and people that are out of alignment or are not in the same vibration as you.

Death really challenges you to think about who is really important to you, and who you really want to spend time with. It also changes the way you interact with certain people, and personally, I have also found that I have less patience to tolerate certain behaviours.

Death has helped me to create new boundaries and has helped me open my eyes to the type of friendships I wish to keep.

If you haven’t lost a loved one that was near and dear to you, it can be hard to really understand what the other person is truly feeling.

Death also makes people awkward and uncomfortable, and most of the time people just don’t know what to say. While it is important to keep this in mind, dealing with death does open your eyes to the type of people you wish to keep in your life.

Even though for the most part, death has made the relationships in my life stronger, I understand that this is not always the case. Sometimes relationships fall apart and you lose touch with people you thought would always be in your life.

This is just another layer of the grieving process and if you are in the midst of it, try and remember that you are simply being shown the relationships that are strong and true in your life and the ones that need to go.

5.) Trauma and Physical Effects

This is the part of grief that I don’t think many people talk about. Since my sister’s passing my energy levels have been zapped. No matter how much green juice I drink or B Vitamins I take, grieving is hard work and I definitely feel the effects physically.

For a good year, it was hard for me to make it through the day. I would feel tired, I would lose my motivation or concentration, I would feel heavy. I was lucky as I work for myself and could take a break when I wanted, but I totally understand that this is not always possible for everyone!

I do think it is important to take time off work when dealing with grief. I also think it is important to make the time and actually sit with your emotions in order to deal and process them.

Burying them under the rug or doing things to distract yourself is sometimes necessary to get through the day, but you can’t hide like this for very long.

Along with feeling physically exhausted, I started developing skin conditions and digestive issues. My skin started breaking out with patches of eczema and my digestion has been all over the place.

I know these physical symptoms are all from stress, and I know from my past that I tend to hold a lot of emotions in my gut, so I was not surprised that is where majority of my symptoms showed up.

It took almost a year for my digestive troubles to ease up and even though I still have a few patches of eczema, I am trying to work on de-stressing and allowing my body time to heal.

Having physical effects is not something I expected, but it makes sense as our bodies are so connected to our emotions.

If you are dealing with physical ailments along with your grief, be sure to get them checked out, and then just be gentle with yourself as you allow your body time to heal.

6.) Post Traumatic Stress

The other layer of grief is post traumatic stress. Even though this is something that is typically used to describe veterans who have experienced the horrors of war, I have also found it to be present in the grieving process too.

While my grief is nothing like having to deal with the traumas of war, for many months I found myself gripped in constant fear and anxiety. Whenever the phone rang my stomach would drop and my heart would start racing- what if this was more bad news? What if someone else had died?

It took months before I could calm myself down about my phone ringing or not having my phone in case someone needed me.

Along with the phone anxiety, my mind was also scarred with the memories of my sister’s final hours. Death is not pretty. It’s not like what it looks in the movies where the person has a pretty face and then gently closes their eyes.

Don’t get me wrong, there is a peace in death, but leading up to that point is extremely challenging to witness.

All of what I saw that day would play over and over again in my mind. The memories of that hospital room, the memories of my sister’s face. The look on my parent’s faces. The smells. The sounds. They were all haunting.

For months after her passing, my stomach felt like it was constantly churning and it was just an awful feeling to have to deal with on top of everything.

I felt so anxious all the time, and I would just feel gripped with fear that something like this was going to happen again, that I was going to receive more bad news.

This is where my practice with meditation, journaling, and breathing exercises really, really helped. They helped me to manage my anxiety levels and helped to ease the constant churning in my stomach.

Eventually, the painful memories started to disappear and my anxiety lessened. I still feel anxious about it every now and again, but time has definitely helped to ease things for me.

7.) Grief Emotions

Finally, the last layer of grief are all those emotional stages everyone talks about- shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

All of these are real and you do feel them, except they may not come in stages. I found that I shifted back and forth between all of them. Some days I would wake up feeling very accepting, but then just a few days later I would still be in shock that this ever happened!

The emotions are like a rollercoaster, and all you can do is hold on and allow yourself the freedom to feel them all.

I can say that being a year into the grieving process, it does get easier. I don’t think the grief goes away but you learn to manage it better and you learn how to not let it run too much of your life.

I do think time helps, and for me, the one year mark was when I finally started to really accept what had happened.

Up until this point I kept wishing that I would wake up and it would have all been a bad dream, that it was just a glitch in the matrix, but when the one year mark rolled around, I realized that I needed to stop doing that, and start accepting my reality for what it was.

The emotions come and go and I am sure that will never change, but life does go on, and even though that in itself can feel scary, it can also aid in the healing.

Grief will crack you wide open, there is no doubt about that. It will bring up your deepest pains and fears, it will challenge everything you ever knew about yourself, it will wipe you out, drain your batteries, and in a way, it will cause a part of you to die too.

The best thing you can do is be gentle with yourself, give yourself permission to feel, and develop some tools to help manage physical symptoms or any anxiety that my be present.

Grief is no fun, but I do thank it for making me that much stronger.

 

 

~via ForeverConscious.com

L’AURA PLEIADIAN: “What True Love is ~ SELFLESS ~ Caring, Respectful and Kind”

This is a CALL to true self-awareness.

The True Love everyone desires, starts within.

The qualities and virtues that TRUE Love embodies, involves true caring, being respectful of others boundaries, is kind, gentle and is selfless.

When I say selfless, do not misconstrue that with the ideas of allowing abuse. This is not what I am referring to.

IN fact, NOT allowing oneself to be abused and treated without respect and love is loving oneself. I have been there, done that.

This is where it starts. Self love is the cornerstone of all love.

Many people in relationships on Earth involve the playing out of baggage or past life memories, which become the stepping stone to honouring true self-love.

The love that first honours themselves, that can then love, honour and respect the other.

THIS INCLUDES allowing whatever is BEST for the Other (not what we think is best) what THEY feel is best, and giving the space and respect to honour them, their wishes, their desires.

Does love blame someone else for hurting our feelings?

Does love Blame someone else who does not live up to our demanding ideal?

Are those ideals created only as an excuse to not look at ourselves?

Our own actions?

Our own awareness to be in the state of Love? Our own level of qualities and virtues of love?

Love never blames, never demands.

Anyone who attempts to tell you what is best, or they had your best interests at heart, yet ignore your desires, not only does not feel good. But is a crossing of boundaries, is a disrespect to their very own free will. That is not love.

Love allows, trusts, the other, even if that means it does not include a life with them. The common type of co dependency relationship is exactly the opposite.

Holding on, manipulating, judging, assuming, as a cover up for getting what we want, is NOT LOVE.

Love is SELFLESS.

So if you are in the process of learning and applying self-love, examine yourself. Your qualities, your virtues.

Do you always respect other people’s boundaries?

Do you care so much for the other, that you are willing to let go and stop demanding?

Do you respect their own private space?

Have you stopped badgering others for more time?

Do you need MORE from others?

Do you watch the clock and attempt to control what they do and when?

Do you invade others privacy? Or attempt to? To see who they are communicating with? And attempt to judge or control that?

These are the basics to look at within.

Love is not winning someone.

That SELF LOVE is self-love, it doesn’t judge or demand anything from oneself other than allowing, not judging, ACCEPTING and being truthful with what is, within.

Then mastery leads to giving the same loving, accepting, non controlling TRUE love to others.

We do not demand others to do what we want in love. We cherish and respect every moment for what it is.

The opportunity to LOVE ~ to be in that state of Love.

To be pure, to be totally accepting of the moment.

Trusting it is unfolding as it is, loving IT.

Loving all MOMENTS as they are.

Any resemblance of attempting to change what is in the moment is nothing less than ego still having its way. Protecting inner turmoil from surfacing before one is ready to deal with these past life memories.

It is the same with what one calls, the veil. It is a protection mechanism of the subconscious for the FEAR level in the buried memories, till it is safe enough (based on The Soul Plan, what level) for things to be revealed. Purely as they are,

If you find yourself caught up in an abusive relationship, please make it a priority to leave. There will be a way.

If you find yourself in old patterns that are not loving, PLEASE make the conscious effort to be present and begin loving yourself. It will take practice. LETTING go of control is not something the ego wants to do, it feels scary because of the fear held as energetic memories in the subconscious.

Start slowly, address these things that are NOT self-love, lovingly. Gently.

Trust the process.

IT IS ALL for being Love, that is it. Loving truly. Being True Love. Being the embodiment of TRUE LOVE.

Selfless, respectful of others boundaries, non judging, gentle and kind. That is Love, anything else is not true love.

In love and glory, always.

 

 

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