NEZEL PADAYHAG: “3 Ways To Empower Your Solar Plexus Chakra And Find Your Personal Power”

Your solar plexus chakra is the seat of your personal power that fuels your will and inner strength. It’s your inner sun that kickstarts metabolism and controls your energy.

Home to your gut feelings, it’s where you can connect with your spirit and access your ageless wisdom.

Having a balanced solar plexus chakra is of utmost importance because it’s the balancing point of all the 7 chakras.

An inactive solar plexus chakra makes you feel lethargic and less motivated to pursue your goals.

On the other hand, if it’s overactive, it makes you jump from one activity to the other, making you more dominant over other people.

There are a number of ways to bring balance to your solar plexus chakra. Here are the 3 that turned to be most effective for us.

3 Ways To Empower Your Solar Plexus Chakra:

1. The solar plexus Chakradance.

In ancient times, warriors developed a dance that brought balance to their inner energies and enhanced their strength and courage.

Dancing the Chakradance is dancing like an ancient warrior who goes with the flow of the music until he feels the fire inside him ignites and fuels his body with energy and strength.

The Chakradance is the warrior archetype’s inner journey. The warrior archetype depicts a person who is aware of his own strength and stands up for his own truth.

Healthy solar plexus chakra feels exactly how a warrior archetype feels, in the midst of fear and discomfort he still finds the courage to face every obstacle that befalls him.

To do this dance you need to play a song that gives you a sense of courage and power. We all have such songs, ones that we feel fearless while we listen to them.

Play this song and let the music spark up the flame inside you. The Chakradance encourages a vigorous movement of your legs and arms.

When it starts, you only notice the flame. As the music intensifies, the fire increases until you notice the fire within you bursting like flames that feel liberating and powerful.

Everything that’s no longer needed slowly dissipates and your body feels being energetically refueled.

After the dance you will achieve a clarity of purpose, passion, and an empowered will to tackle your goals.

2. Do something that your idol would respect.

We all have idols. These people, imaginary or real, are how we identify our superior ego, how we picture our ideals and values within a character.

However, it’s not always wise to meet your idols. That’s why you should look at your idols as inner personal mentors.

Ask yourself what would your idol do in a certain situation you feel afraid or uncertain of. Ask yourself what can you do to become a better man, what would your idol respect.

Once you know what this thing is, do it. It doesn’t have to be something big. In fact, it should be something as simple as helping someone out without asking anything back.

When you do the thing that your idol would be proud of you doing, you will empower your solar plexus chakra and fill it with pride.

3. Face your shame with dignity.

We feel shame for a reason. It’s not a bad emotion, it tells us where we fail to exercise our true power so we can see if we make some mistake and make sure we are a good person.

If we are not hurting anyone, if we play by the rules of society to a normal degree, and if we follow our heart doing what we want, but we still feel shame, then there is a problem.

However, the problem is not in what we do, but rather, it’s how we see ourselves. The problem is within.

Most of us feel shame when we follow our heart or when we do something we are passionate about because that’s how we were raised.

We were raised to be told what we should do. So, we have a sense of not being good enough to decide for ourselves. We feel unworthy of our own desires.

That’s why you need to face your shame with dignity. Inspect what you are ashamed of and face this shame. Ask it what it can teach you.

Ask yourself why you feel as not enough to use your personal power, see what you can learn, but tell your shame you are its boss.

It told you what you needed to know, but you don’t need it anymore. You are thankful for teaching you, but you also know that this type of shame is created by society, not you.

And there is no way you can get better at making decisions and using your personal power if you don’t free yourself to be who you are.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

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CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “People Who Vibrate On A Higher Level Of Consciousness Often Do These 5 Things”

To seek higher consciousness or reach spiritual divinity is a process of revelation, spiritual mutation and adaptation of one human being to the 3-dimensional world and the other dimensions is extremely hard PROCESS. In this process, each individual needs to point the focus and work on himself.

The first and most important step is to acknowledge yourself. This means a lot and it’s the basis of the entire classical philosophy. After you achieve this goal, you will be free from any negative/side effects of ‘opening the third eye’. The next step is working on opening your chakras or finding a true spiritual connection.

When you are fully ‘awaken’, you will see that nothing is going to be the same for you. Your view on all things will change. However, some people are on the right track and they don’t even know it!

In this article, we will share with you the 5 behavioral traits that can help you find out if you already reached a higher level of consciousness or if you are on the right track to seek spiritual cleansing.

1. YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR

All humans are drawn to temporary pleasures and satisfactions which are very often considered mistakes, sooner or later. However, the physical side of each human is controlled by the psychological side. If you are reaching the higher consciousness, that means that you are not interested in ‘guilty pleasures’ and deviant behavior anymore. Some people that ‘fascinate’ at one moment, may destroy our lives later — that’s what Sigmund Freud taught his students.

2. YOU DEDICATE YOURSELF MORE TO YOUR WORK AND ENJOY WHAT YOU’RE DOING

If you are on a superior level, you already feel the joy of being productive, both for yourself and your family. It is a big mistake if you thought that the spiritualists don’t work. They are very productive because they know how the things work in this world. If you feel more efficient, focused and responsible — this means that you have another trait of a spiritually strong person.

3. YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN GOSSIP ANYMORE

Of course, gossips and toxic conversations are something unacceptable for you. You will start feeling the energy of the people around you and you will be able to judge who’s positive and who’s negative. If you ride on HIGH FREQUENCY — you just can’t stick around to people who are a source of low frequencies and negativity.

4. YOU CARE MORE ABOUT THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU

As we already said, if you are surrounded with high-frequency energy that means that you are perceptive and you know how to maintain strong social connections and get rid of the ones who are the source of negativity in your life. If you are on the right path to your spiritual cleansing, you will care for the people you love better and you will, also, work better with people in your job.

5. YOU BEGIN TO APPRECIATE THINGS

You will begin to see the things around you with different eyes. You will appreciate every day on Earth and will use your positive energy to influence the others around you. Also, you will know how to show appreciation in the best possible ways.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

NEZEL PADAYHAG: “5 Types Of Fear That Are The Opportunities To A Positive Change In Your Life”

Considered to be an emotional response triggered by an imminent threat, our fear is the greatest challenge we all need to face and overcome in our life.

If our fear is always being avoided, it will become a monster that locks us up in the dark prison of our minds.

We hide, we run, we act stupidly just to avoid fear. And the more we resist it the bigger monster we create of it.

The truth is, fear has full control of us because we don’t live in the present moment, but in our mind, and in our mind fear can be anything.

Fear is a protective program, it’s not against you. But if we let fear to make the decisions for us it will protect us to the point where we find ourselves locked within our own prison.

Behind every fear there is a truth that needs to come out into the open. Every kind of fear is just a door that hides some truth inside.

Once you find the courage to open what’s hidden inside, you will find the biggest opportunities for growth and evolution in your life.

There are different types of fear. We are affected by different type of fear at different points in our life depending on what we need most for growth and what holds us back.

Here are the 5 most common fears that are disguises for big opportunities. Find the one that has the biggest effect on you right now and see what kind of truth it’s within.

5 Types Of Fear That Are The Opportunities To A Positive Change

1. The fear of change.

You’re afraid of change because familiarity breeds comfort. Like a child who doesn’t want to lose sight of his mother on the first day of school, you don’t want to get out of your comfort zone because it’s where you feel protected and secure.

But as you grow older and start to see the world, you realize how small your awareness had been.

Had you not let go of the sight of your mother, you would not have known another world that is open for you to explore.

If you’re afraid of change, you deprive yourself of growing, evolving, and of testing your limits. The fear of change keeps you locked up in an unhappy place, be it a toxic relationship or unfulfilling career.

This fear is an opportunity to accept the inevitability of change and proactively step out of your comfort zone and grow. It highlights the limits of your comfort zone so you will know where growth and evolution begin.

2. The fear of being alone.

Most often, the fear of being alone is prompted by your own feelings of insecurity. You don’t feel secure with yourself because you feel you’re not good enough on your own.

You have been used to relying on other people for your security and happiness. Dependence isn’t the same with sharing and working together.

Being separated from your mother as early as infancy makes you feel disconnected. As a child, you have an unmet need that needs fulfillment.

But as you grow up you can take care of yourself. This dependency, if not overcome, creates a fear of being alone.

And ironically, if you do not spend time alone you cannot prove to yourself that you can be just fine by yourself, hence, you cannot overcome this illusion of dependency.

If being alone is one of your fears, it only means you need to work on your self confidence and self worth.

Once you’re confident to spend time being alone, without feeling less, you will find your own self worth. You will begin to see that a lot of people are like family.

Look into this fear and provide comfort to your inner child. It’s one way of healing yourself from this fear.

This fear is an opportunity for you to become self sufficient and independent. It highlights all the things you think you cannot do by yourself. Look at these things and do them by yourself. Each activity will reveal more of your self worth.

3. The fear of standing for your own truth.

Being conditioned to get validity from others for every word that you say leads you to be afraid of standing for your own truth.

Even if you know your idea is much, much better than that of the common belief, you refuse to speak thinking others might disagree.

This fear might have started in your childhood when you experienced bullying or when you were ridiculed by your immediate family or caregivers for saying your truth.

As a result, you guard yourself against anything that doesn’t feel comfortable, hiding your true self.

But your truth is a gift not anyone possesses. No one can see things the way you do. When you follow your own truth, you attract like minded people who want to live freely like you.

The way to get out of the cocoon you have built for yourself is to open up and be your genuine self.

This fear is an opportunity for you to be and express more of yourself. It highlights where you are incongruent in your reality. Use this knowledge to tell your truth and your reality will reshape with things you love and resonate with.

4. The fear of trying.

You’re afraid to try because of the possibility of failing, or succeeding, which is what terrifies us the most.

It’s normal to fail. Only a few endeavors succeeded with the first try. Most successes passed through the bridge of failures. And we think we want to succeed.

But most often, we are terrified of both of them. In fact, we are afraid of trying because it means we will face reality and it’s either not the way we think it is, or it is and we are right.

Either we are wrong and we cannot fantasize anymore, or we are right and we might get the results we want and they are disappointing in reality.

In both cases, we cannot fantasize about our results. We face reality and we either fail or see it’s not like we fantasized.

The fear of trying comes from loving our fantasy for the result more than the result itself. But reality is better than fantasy, even if it’s not exactly how we fantasized it.

This fear is an opportunity for you get what you want to get. It highlights the things that really matter to you. Use this fear to see the things you really want to get, however, let go of fantasizing and try to actually get them.

5. The fear of rejection.

The fear of rejection has something to do with being afraid of not being good enough. It’s how society conditioned us to feel.

But if you’re able to tweak your mindset a bit you’ll see that rejection only means something better is within you and you are not showing it.

If you believe your lack of certain skills caused you to get rejected, then do something to improve those skills.

If you are scared of being rejected because you doubt you are good enough, open yourself to rejection.

In both cases you will improve yourself to be the best version of yourself. The point of this is the realization that the rejection has nothing to do with who you really are.

If you get rejected it has nothing to do with the real you. We are all good enough, but thinking that some outside factor can validate us makes us not good enough.

Open yourself to these things and be rejected, you’ll either see all the skills you want to improve or you’ll see they were never really a factor to tell your worth.

This fear is an opportunity for you to become the best version of you. It highlights all the things keeping you from becoming your best self. You do this with giving your power away to them by seeking validation. You decide your own worth.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

ALETHEIA LUNA: “Being Spiritual Doesn’t Mean Sh*t If You Can’t Hold Space for Others”

“If we ever hope to grow at a deep level and feel authentically connected to others, we need to learn how to hold space for both ourselves and others.”

~Aletheia Luna

 

So, here’s the thing. We might do Instagram-perfect yoga. We might meditate for at least an hour a day. We might pray. Say mantras. Do mudras. Send love to the world. We might have a hoard of crystals and other spiritual trinkets. We might do elaborate daily rituals, eat a cruelty-free whole food diet, and fast every month. We might burn incense, smile all day, say affirmations, and say “love and light” or “namaste” a lot. We might call ourselves spiritual seekers, healers, empaths, intuitives, old souls, or yogis.

But in my humble opinion, all of this doesn’t mean sh*t if we can’t show compassion and be there for others.

The Hypocrisy of Saccharine Spirituality

Firstly, I want to start by saying that I am by no means innocent. I have judged others before, turned a blind eye, shown unkindness, and committed spiritual bypassing — all while under the self-designated label of being “spiritual.”

I think to some extent, we all have. That is why I feel that the topic of this article is so important to cover — hypocrisy is something that we’re all capable of. The tendency is latent within each and every one of us. And I think we all need to understand and work to be aware of that.

But there are some things in life that tend to trigger, bring out, and exacerbate this hypocrisy. In this case, I am referring to a certain popular variety of spirituality. I call it Saccharine Spirituality — and it is a type of spirituality that is defined by a sickly sweet emphasis on “good vibes only” and “love and light” without much depth or real-life rawness.

Saccharine spirituality is the type of spirituality out there that involves worshiping the “feel-good” and “high vibe,” but actively avoids, denies, or shuns anything negative and uncomfortable. Saccharine spirituality is all about feeling empowered, developing self-love, and celebrating forms of spirituality that look good on the surface — but at the same time, it produces a phobia of anything too real, too emotionally challenging, too blood-and-dirt, too “unawakened” or “low vibe.”

And it doesn’t take much to see that saccharine spirituality is alive and thriving more than ever. We can literally see it everywhere: on social media, in real life, and in all spiritual and religious spheres.

I first witnessed saccharine spirituality growing up in the Christian church I was raised in. I remember how the church abandoned, passively shunned, and ignored one of the women who had been attending the church for 20+ years. This woman’s husband had been prosecuted for child molestation and was going to prison. I was the only one who spoke to this gentle soul, despite the fact that we were all supposed to be “brothers and sisters in Christ.”

I now witness this type of abandonment and hypocrisy in the spiritual realm.

I hear and witness self-described sensitive “empaths” show an extraordinary lack of empathy and self-entitled judgment towards others.

I watch “old souls” tear each other apart like animals.

I see spiritual seekers ostracize and react harshly to any person who thinks critically.

I look on as “healers” rush to fix, ignore, predict, or diagnose the suffering of others.

I watch as “psychics/mystics/witches/yogis” (*insert spiritual label here*) love talking and posting about themselves, but ignore meeting others on a deep level.

I’m sorry. I don’t care if you’re a talented healer or psychic. I’m not interested in whether you’re a self-identified empath or spiritual seeker. I don’t want to hear about how much mystical power or intuitive prowess you have. Being spiritual doesn’t mean sh*t if you can’t hold space for people.

What Does Holding Space Mean?

Holding space is very simple. It means being completely present with another person. Holding space means giving another the opportunity to be completely heard, seen, and understood. I’m not talking about trying to fix, give advice to, or pathologize the other person — when I say holding space, I mean it in the most simple way possible: just being 100% there for the person, without trying to change or force advice onto them.

To witness another person and be completely receptive to what they have to share is scarcely practiced. How often have you felt deeply heard, seen, and understood by another? How often has someone sat down with you and genuinely asked: “Hey, share with me how you feel” and held space for all your joy or sorrow? If you’re like most people: pretty rarely.

It’s no wonder that most of us are so emotionally starved. It’s no wonder that most of us are so desperate to be seen.

In a world full of stress, incessant business, emotional isolation, and self-absorption, holding space for someone is the most precious gift you can give. That is why I say that being spiritual doesn’t mean shit without this one important practice. Who cares if you possess extrasensory gifts or can meditate for six hours straight? Who cares if you have deep self-knowledge or can enter alternate planes of consciousness at will?

If you can’t bring those skills into your life in a down-to-earth way, they mean nothing.

If you can’t practically apply them in the blood-and-grit of daily life, they mean nothing.

If you can’t connect or show kindness to others, they mean nothing.

If you can’t sit down with a person and ask “Hi. How are you really?” and actually listen wholeheartedly, don’t even bother.

In the end, if your brand of spirituality encourages self-absorption and a superficial feel-good denial of other’s pain, it’s a waste of time.

“Your pain, your sorrow, your doubts, your longings, your fearful thoughts: they are not mistakes, and they are not asking to be ‘healed.’ They are asking to be held.” ~Jeff Foster

 

How to Hold Space for People

Holding space is about giving space.

Too often we jump to the part where we want to fix, instruct, or heal the person — or even worse, hog the conversation, talk about ourselves, and “one-up” the other person’s pain. But the truth is, most people (including ourselves) are just looking for a person who will sit with them in all of their joy or misery, and BE.

Mindful presence is the core of what holding space means. In other words, holding space means that we simply sit with a person and give them our undivided attention in the spirit of kindness.

“Undivided attention!?” you may think, “I don’t have the energy to do that!” Don’t worry. I realize that holding space for others isn’t always possible. You’re not alone. If you’re anything like me, your energy reserves are very limited. So it’s unrealistic to expect ourselves to always hold space for others, especially when we are tired, stressed, or sick. In which case, don’t be a martyr. Take care of yourself. Have a break. Step away. Have a nap. Top up your energy reservoir.

But if you’re still struggling to hold space for others, there might be a deeper underlying issue that you need to work through.

For example, do you often feel yourself talking over or interrupting others? Do most of your conversations center around your issues, thoughts, and feelings? Do you feel uncomfortable when others get too emotional? Do you find deep topics of conversation unsettling? These are all signs that you aren’t holding space for yourself. In such a case… how can you hold space for others when you aren’t holding space for yourself?

If we ever hope to grow at a deep level and feel authentically connected to others, we need to learn how to hold space for both ourselves and others.

Here’s how to do that.

Holding space for ourselves and others:

1. Mindfully tune into yourself

How can you become receptive and open to others without doing the same for yourself? Tuning into your thoughts and feelings is a practice called mindfulness. It requires you to become curious about what is going on inside of you. And to do that, you’ll need to slow down and breathe a little. Ask yourself, “How am I feeling at the moment?” “What type of thoughts/stories are running through my head?” Also be attentive to your body and notice whatever sensation, ache, or pain you feel. Simply note how you feel and move on with your day. If you need help doing this, I highly recommend that you use an app I use called ‘Calm’ — it will motivate you to develop mindfulness as a skill.

2. Be transparent with yourself

Express how you feel in an authentic way. Allow yourself to be seen by yourself. To do this, find a notebook or journal that you can dedicate to your thoughts and feelings. Journaling every day about what is worrying or concerning you will create more clarity in your life. Not only that but when you make this therapeutic tool a habit, you will feel more emotionally balanced and capable of truly holding space for others.

3. Release pent-up emotions

Don’t allow your emotions to build up inside of you. Find healthy outlets to express them such as through artwork, intense exercise, catharsis, or simply having a good cry. When we are motivated to “help” others out of the need to relieve our own internal discomfort, we’re not being kind. We’re not being empathetic. We’re just not. Instead, we are using others as a way to feel better about ourselves. Finding a safe form of catharsis will allow you to be calm and centered enough to show compassionate attentiveness to yourself and others.

4. Learn to listen more than talk

Master the art of listening. If you are a person who is used to chattering away, experiment with being quiet and allowing others to talk. How do you feel when you don’t talk so much? You might feel a sense of relief, or alternatively, you might feel unseen or ignored. Journal about these feelings. If you feel uncomfortable with allowing others to speak more than you, ask yourself “why?” In what ways are you depending on others to be seen and understood, rather than yourself? Practicing active listening involves making eye contact, letting others speak uninterrupted, indicating that you understand what the person is saying, and listening without judgment.

5. Let your mind be like water

Listen to other people without forming responses in your mind. How often has someone shared something interesting, and you miss the rest of what they say because you’re too busy constructing a clever/insightful reply? It’s tempting to fill the spaces in conversations with thoughts. After all, our minds think around 800 words per minute, compared to 125-150 words we speak per minute. But experiment with listening wholeheartedly to what a person says. If thoughts come into your mind, gently refocus your mind on what the person is saying. Then, after the person has stopped talking, give yourself a few seconds to gather thoughts, then respond. I promise that your response will be much more engaging and interesting to the other person because you have gathered all the nuances and details (instead of prematurely forming a response).

6. Let compassion guide you

The purpose of holding space for another isn’t to be a saint. It isn’t to be a martyr. It is to be entertained or to get karmic brownie points. To hold space for a person is an act of compassion, an expression of love for another human being. It not only makes you feel good, but it also makes the other person feel seen, heard, and understood. What could be more precious than that?

7. Practice with a friend or family member

An easy way to practice holding space is to schedule time every week with someone close to you, and to exchange mindful presence with each other. Notice how it feels to be completely received by another person. Imagine giving that to others on a regular basis!

8. Know your limits and take self-responsibility

Are you tired, cranky, overwhelmed, or otherwise incapable of holding space for another? Relax. It’s normal and 100% fine to feel that way. But make sure that you take responsibility for how you feel.

Final Thoughts

Holding space for others doesn’t mean that you have to be a pushover, doormat, or unnecessarily submissive person. Sometimes you will need to hold space for yourself more than others. Sometimes you will enter long periods of life where you are incapable of being present with others. That is normal. Not all of us can be Eckhart Tolle 24/7. So do the compassionate thing and draw a line. Learn to say a gentle no to others and be OK with it. If someone is becoming overly clingy or needy, be assertive, draw clear boundaries, and step away in a firm but caring manner. It is OK to be selective about who you hold space for, particularly if you dislike the person and struggle to stay present with them. (Hey, we’re all human!)

You might also be short on time, but still wish to hold space for another. In this case, explain to the other that you only have a couple of minutes to spare, or set another date and time to catch up.

Remember, holding space needs to come out of a place of compassion and the desire to help others be seen, heard, and understood. If you are doing it out of obligation, pressure, or duty, take a step back. Change course. Do something else.

The most important ingredient for holding space for another is the ability to hold space for yourself. By genuinely taking the time to wholeheartedly listen to your inner thoughts and feelings, you will be better equipped to show the same to others.

Spirituality is not just about learning to love ourselves. It is also about learning to extend that love and care to others in a down-to-earth way. One of the best and easiest ways to do that is by simply listening to others. You don’t need to always give them pep talks. You don’t need to always rush to prescribe a solution to their problems. Often, what people need the most is just a person who is receptive enough to simply listen without judgment.

To be completely seen, heard, and understood in the presence of another living soul is one of the most healing forces in the world. I hope you take the time to share this gift with others.

 

~via LonerWolf.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “The Best Version Of Yourself”

Every time you get comfortable in life, it will throw a bunch of hardships at you like as if it was waiting to do so.

Life isn’t the same for everybody. No matter how similar two situations look, they are always different and different people have their own ways of handling it.

Things that can be easy for you might be a nightmare for someone else.

Things that you absolutely love might not mean the same to others. What you need to remember at all times is that five fingers aren’t alike.

Different people have different struggles and their ways of solving their issues might not be similar to yours.

That doesn’t make them weak or wrong. That just makes them different from you and it’s OK.

Kindness wins every time. And if there are times when you think you can’t bring anything positive to the table then make sure you don’t open your mouth to say something mean and hurtful.

We all have our battles to fight. Adding on to others’ misery will never make you a winner, irrespective of how many odds you have conquered in life.

If you aren’t a good person then your accomplishments don’t really mean anything.

Now, this is for someone who doesn’t have anyone. You have to know that the best you’ll ever have is yourself. You are your biggest strength and nobody can love you and support you like you can support yourself.

What you think about yourself matters more than what others think of you. How you treat yourself is how you teach others to treat you.

Always remember that love begins at home, so stop being cruel on yourself. Don’t believe the negative things you tell yourself when you’re upset.

All of us should remember that it needs to rain before we can see a rainbow. Don’t let things like thunderstorms break you. Instead, use them to become the best version of yourself.

 

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com