VERNON HOWARD: “20 Powerful Secrets To Meaningful Relationships”

The following twenty powerful relationship secrets is an excerpt from Mystic Path to Cosmic Power, by Vernon Howard

20 Powerful Secrets To Meaningful Relationships

1. When two people meet, the prize always goes to the one with the most self-insight. He will be calmer, more confident, more at ease with the other.

2. Never permit the behavior of other people to tell you how you feel.

3. Pay little attention to what people say or do. Instead, try to see their innermost motive for speaking and acting.

4. Any friendship requiring the submission of your original nature and dignity to another person is all wrong.

5. Mystically speaking, there is no difference between you and another person. This is why we cannot hurt another without hurting ourselves, nor help another without helping ourselves.

6. When we are free of all unnecessary desires toward other people, we can never be deceived or hurt.

7. You take a giant step toward psychological maturity when you refuse to angrily defend yourself against unjust slander. For one thing, resistance disturbs your own peace of mind.

8. You understand others to the exact degree that you really understand yourself. Work for more self-knowledge.

9. Do not be afraid to fully experience everything that happens to you in your human relations, especially the pains and disappointments. Do this and everything becomes clear at last.

10. The individual who really knows what it means to love has no anxiety when his love is unseen or rejected.

11. If you painfully lose a valuable friend, do not rush out at once for a replacement. Such action prevents you from examining your heartache and breaking free of it.

12. Do not be afraid to be a nobody in a social world. This is a deeper and richer truth than appears on the surface.

13. Every unpleasant experience with another person is an opportunity to see people as they are, not as we mistakenly idealize them. The more unpleasant the other person is, the more he can teach you.

14. You can be so wonderfully free from a sense of injury and injustice that you are surprised when you hear others complain of them.

15. We cannot recognize a virtue in another person that we do not possess in ourselves. It takes a truly loving and patient person to recognize those virtues in another.

16. Do not mistake desire for love. Desire leaves home in a frantic search for one gratification after another. Love is at home with itself.

17. There are parts of you that want the loving life and parts that do not. Place yourself on the side of the positive forces: do all you can to aid and encourage them.

18. You must stop living timidly from fixed fears of what others will think of you and of what you will think of yourself.

19. Do not contrive to be a loving person: work to be a real person. Being real is being loving.

20. The greatest love you could ever offer to another is to so transform your inner life that others are attracted to your genuine example of goodness.

 

~via BodyMindSoulSpirit.com

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GREGG PRESCOTT, M.S.: “So, Your Spiritual Awakening Cost You Some Friends”

Non-Conformity

 

Have you noticed a change in your relationships with other people lately?  Is it sometimes difficult or awkward to talk to others about spiritual topics?  Do you, at times, feel alone in your beliefs?   Have you lost contact with any long time friends recently?  You are not alone!

I’m fortunate to have a lot of Facebook friends who post similar types of links. Too many times, I see a lot of people who talk the talk but are afraid to walk the walk, due to being ridiculed for their thoughts and posts (GROUPTHINK). I’ve lost some longtime friends because of this but have made many, many new ones. Once the ego is released, you no longer worry about conformity and peer pressure.

Groupthink is a psychological phenomenon that structures various belief systems within a group of people while discouraging individual creativity and independent thinking.  Even within a group of individuals who are spiritually awakened, you will find groupthink.

If you look at the recorded history of mankind, you’ll find that this history is merely someone’s interpretation of a landmark event or evolutionary process, backed by eyewitness testimonial, scientific data, video or faith.  The actual truth may be hidden or distorted for many reasons, but mostly for control and power.  Look no further than the origins of mankind and you’ll find a plethora of creation myths from all cultures with varying dates of our existence.  Who’s right?

Can you talk to your friends about the universe?  Do they know what a stargate or chakra is?  Are they willing to talk about ascension or spiritual enlightenment?

When you talk to people about the creation myth, they tend to remain inside the box with a belief system that supports religion’s story of creation, which dates mankind back to 4,000 B.C.  If you raise questions about our true origins, it tends to separate people and relationships between those who think outside the box versus those who think inside the box.  When these topics arise within relationships, they often create dissension.  It’s hard for anyone to admit they’ve been deceived for so long and even more difficult to admit they were possibly wrong in their assumptions.

This is a prime example of how our educational systems keep us locked inside the box without questioning anything about what we’ve been taught.  Those who remain inside the box are afraid of what others might think if they venture outside the box, so they remain complacent and subservient while conforming to what society dictates rather than relying on their own discernment and judgment.  People could live their entire lives pretending to be what society expects them to be and not even know it!

From an ego perspective, our thoughts are basically cultivated by what we’ve learned from our family, friends, educational systems and religious beliefs, but what have we truly been taught?  What can we say about anything that wasn’t regurgitated to us by someone else?

Related: 20 History Questions They Refuse To Answer In School!

As evidenced by past life regressions, our previous lives and soul history remain dormant in our cellular DNA and can be recalled through our subconscious minds through hypnotherapy.   Within your cellular DNA, you actually remember being back with the Source along with all of the things you wanted to accomplish during this incarnation, as well as all of the challenges you wanted to overcome and all of the people who would lead you to where you are.  This includes the people that have come and gone from our lives.

Also see: Remind Me Again, Why Did I Incarnate To This Sh*thole?

Sometimes, we project to be someone that we expect others to see in us.  In psychology, this is referred to as the shadow self, where we project an identity that conforms to how other people may perceive us versus being true to who we really are. Some people may find out that they never knew who they were because they lived their lives through the expectations of how others will perceive them.

Those who have begun their spiritual journeys may also be confronting these issues, which initially creates cognitive dissonance.  Cognitive dissonance occurs when you get an uncomfortable feeling caused by holding conflicting ideas simultaneously.  This is the transition period that many of us have gone through, where our beliefs have changed, yet we’re unsure about relating these new ideas to our friends and family, due to fear or rejection.

As our spiritual journeys continue, we become more comfortable within our own beliefs and less concerned about how our friends and family view this awakening.  This is when the ego becomes separated from the self and fear is dissolved by love.  At this juncture, we begin to talk to acquaintances, as well as friends and family, about spiritual and metaphysical topics, with less regard about what they might think of us or how we may be perceived by others.

In time, spirituality will be the predominant frame of mind and it’s likely that those who have strayed from us will be the first in line to ask for help in adjusting to the new paradigm.

And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.
– Friedrich Nietzsche

So, Your Spiritual Awakening Cost You Some Friends

Remember thisYou are not alone!  Those who truly love you will stand by you, no matter what.  Those people who are no longer part of our lives have already played their role in helping us find out who we truly are.  Sometimes, it takes polarity to be able to differentiate who we are and where we’re going.  This is where the unawakened help immensely, by providing that contrast which allows us to see the differences.

Related article: It’s Okay To NOT ‘Fit In’ With Society!

Envision each awakened person across the planet holding a candle.  While your individual candle may not seem like a lot of light, it greatly contributes to making the world FULL of light and keeps us connected, no matter how far apart we may be.  While it may be painful to lose some dear friends, think about what they have brought to your life and why.

Chances are, you’ll end a few old relationships with people who were, at one time, very close to you, only to create new relationships with like-minded people.  Forgive yourself, as well as your friends, if you feel badly about this.  They came into your life for a reason a season or a lifetime:

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

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Gregg Prescott, M.S. is the founder and editor of In5D and BodyMindSoulSpirit. You can find his In5D Radio shows on the In5D Youtube channel. He is also a transformational speaker and promotes spiritual, metaphysical and esoteric conferences in the United States through In5dEventsGregg Prescott, M.S. is the founder and editor of In5D and BodyMindSoulSpirit. You can find his In5D Radio shows on the In5D Youtube channel. He is also a transformational speaker and promotes spiritual, metaphysical and esoteric conferences in the United States through In5dEvents. His love and faith for humanity motivates him to work in humanity’s best interests 12-15+ hours a day, 365 days a year. Please like and follow In5D on Facebook as well as BodyMindSoulSpirit on Facebook!  ~via In5D.com

DAVID WOLFE: “How Compatible Is Your Relationship According To Your Zodiac Sign?”

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No two zodiac signs approach relationships in quite the same way.  Capricorns, for example, hate vulnerability and experimentation while Aquarians welcome both with open arms.

Surely, then, a Capricorn and Aquarian could never get along in a relationship — right?

Wrong!  The truth is that any two signs — no matter the astrological distance between them — can form a lasting, meaningful relationship.  In this post we’ll be exploring the various types of zodiac relationships, what they provide and how you can make the most of each.

Let’s start with the most basic.

Same Sign Relationships

Dating someone with the same zodiac sign as you can feel sort of like dating a mirror at times.  The shared sign means you both possess many of the same values, quirks and insecurities.  Should you engage in such a relationship, prepare to learn many lessons regarding the art of self-acceptance.

Also prepare for awkward sibling-esque moments.  You can minimize these by maintaining your individuality in the relationship and putting effort into frequent romantic activities.

One Sign Apart

  • Aries: Pisces, Taurus
  • Taurus: Aries, Gemini
  • Gemini: Taurus, Cancer
  • Cancer: Gemini, Leo
  • Leo: Cancer, Virgo
  • Libra: Virgo, Scorpio
  • Scorpio, Libra, Sagittarius
  • Sagittarius: Scorpio, Capricorn
  • Aquarius: Capricorn, Pisces
  • Capricorn: Sagittarius, Aquarius
  • Pisces: Aquarius, Aries

As in our aforementioned Capricorn-Aquarius example, major differences in romantic approach begin to appear when you date someone even just one sign away from you.  To put it simply, if you want a dynamic relationship this is a good place to start looking.

Expect plenty of tension.  This will not be an ‘easy’ relationship.  But, when maintained properly, it will be quite a rewarding one when that tension boils over into exciting and explosive passion.

Patient, well-thought-out communication is key to success in a relationship between individuals one sign apart.  While partners will never totally understand each other, they can learn many things about human nature and romance by spending time together.

Two Signs Apart

  • Aries: Sagittarius, Aquarius
  • Taurus: Pisces, Cancer
  • Gemini: Aries, Leo
  • Cancer: Taurus, Virgo
  • Leo: Gemini, Libra
  • Virgo: Cancer, Scorpio
  • Libra: Leo, Sagittarius
  • Scorpio: Virgo, Capricorn
  • Sagittarius: Libra, Aquarius
  • Capricorn: Scorpio, Pisces
  • Aquarius: Sagittarius, Aries
  • Pisces: Capricorn, Taurus

The most successful ‘friends with benefits’ tend to reside in this category.  Both signs will always be represented by compatible elements.  For example, Libras are represented by air while Leos are characterized by fire.  The former needs the latter to burn.

Should individuals two signs apart find themselves in a genuine relationship, it will usually progress naturally out of a close friendship.  That said, should you engage in such a relationship, beware the friendship trap.  Make sure you find ways to keep the love spark going.

Three Signs Apart

  • Aries: Cancer, Capricorn
  • Taurus: Aquarius, Leo
  • Gemini: Pisces, Virgo
  • Cancer: Aries, Libra
  • Leo: Taurus, Scorpio
  • Virgo: Gemini, Sagittarius
  • Libra: Cancer, Capricorn
  • Scorpio: Leo, Aquarius
  • Sagittarius: Virgo, Pisces
  • Capricorn: Aries, Libra
  • Aquarius: Scorpio, Taurus
  • Pisces: Gemini, Sagittarius

Relationships in this category often lead to issues resembling parental conflicts (Mommy and Daddy issues).

Those who engage in such a relationship should prepare for clashes, with each side taking turns being the ‘parent’ and ‘child.’  But this dynamic is what keeps the relationship active.  Both people will learn about conflict and compromise in a way that helps them heal old wounds.  Also, when these two signs team up, they become an unstoppable force and are able to achieve anything!

Four Signs Apart

  • Aries-Leo-Sagittarius
  • Taurus-Virgo-Capricorn
  • Gemini-Libra-Aquarius
  • Cancer-Scorpio-Pisces

Mates in this category have signs of the same element.  This leads to a relationship abundant in harmony.  Partners feel no shame in exposing even the most embarrassing of personal details with one another.

It’s in such a relationship that one learns how to be vulnerable.  Should the relationship end, it will have provided each person with the confidence and willingness to go forward and open themselves up to future partners.

Care should be taken to maintain some mystery and not expose too much too soon.

Five Signs Apart

  • Aries: Virgo, Scorpio
  • Taurus: Libra, Sagittarius
  • Gemini: Scorpio, Capricorn
  • Cancer: Sag, Aquarius
  • Leo: Capricorn, Pisces
  • Virgo: Aquarius, Aries
  • Libra: Pisces, Taurus
  • Scorpio: Aries, Gemini
  • Sagittarius: Taurus, Cancer

When individuals five signs apart come together, the result is a truly odd relationship.  Observers will find themselves wondering how in the world such different people could ever come together so well.

And believe me, they are different; they’ve got nothing in common astrologically.  They may even have opposing ideas as to what a relationship should be.  But through work and dedication, each person can learn what service means in a relationship as they cater to one another’s needs.

Opposite Signs

  • Aries-Libra
  • Taurus-Scorpio
  • Gemini-Sagittarius
  • Cancer-Capricorn
  • Leo-Aquarius
  • Virgo-Pisces

Have you ever heard the term ‘opposites attract?’  That’s definitely the case when it comes to signs that reside across from one another on the zodiac wheel.  Such partners often make a great team, perfectly contrasting one another.

Should you engage in such a relationship, expect to gain a new sense of perspective.  Your opposite zodiac sign partner may ‘complete the picture,’ so to speak — providing you an understanding of the world that helps you better understand your place in it.

Which type of zodiac relationship are you in right now?  If you’re not in a relationship, which type appeals to you most? Share your thoughts on the topic in the comments!

 

 ~via spiritualunite.com

ALEXA PELLEGRINI: “Love Yourself First: Creating Healthy Relationships in a Superficial World”

Love Yourself

In the last several years, websites like ChristianMingle.com and Match.com have soared in popularity. Tinder and dating apps have blown up on social media. But relationship issues and loneliness are still more of a problem in our society than ever, and most of us continue to have a difficult time understanding the foundations of love. So, what is love – not just romantic love, but healthy, spiritual love? What does it mean to be in a genuine, loving relationship, and more importantly, how can we all find one? Here are some insights into improving your dating life so you can avoid unfulfilling relationships and get closer to discovering the healing power of love.

Finding ‘True Love’: It’s All About Your Energy

Relationships work on the basis of energetic attraction. The more you neglect loving and accepting yourself, the more you’ll encounter Karmic relationships that will show that this needs to change. To understand ourselves on a higher level, we tend to attract and be attracted to others who mirror our inner wounds. Instead of healing us, these people just exacerbate our pain – and yet ironically, these are the relationships we struggle to escape the most, because our souls are begging for us to heal ourselves! If we have a deep desire for attention, we may be attracted to a narcissistic person who denies us the attention we so desperately seek. If we have a strong need to be validated and nurtured, we may be attracted to someone who pull away the more we chase after them – and so on. There is a variety of ways we can go ‘wrong’ in our personal relationships by trying to deal with our inner wounds through our partners.

You’re probably wondering: how can this be avoided so we can get the relationship we really want? The solution to finding genuine, loving relationships that don’t reflect our identity crises is simpler than you think. Of course, it all starts with love – but not by giving all of your love and everything you have to the person you’re with, so you can convince them to love you wholeheartedly in return. It’s by showing all of that love and care to yourself.

Making Simple Changes, Day by Day

Repeat after me: you don’t need to prove you’re worthy or lovable to anyone – you already are. If you struggle to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re worth everything you have (and more!), it’s important to realize that some serious self-work lies ahead in order to find the relationship of your dreams.

Forgive yourself for all of your past mistakes. Give yourself a pat on the back for the wonderful things you’ve done and how hard you work every day. Look into your eyes and tell yourself that you are lovable and loved – over and over, until you really believe it. These behavioral adjustments are necessary for you to heal yourself and move on from words and events of the past that are holding you back from stepping into your own power and building healthy relationships. Don’t look for someone else to do the hard work of loving and accepting yourself for you – you can rise to the challenge and take on the quest with vigor and courage.

Love Yourself

Forget Flowers and Candy: Think Friendship and Forgiveness

Affection, gifts, romantic gestures and great sex are all hallmarks of a healthy, functional relationship, but it doesn’t stop there. We’ve all seen in movies and on TV how sexy, romantic relationships often end in heartbreak, how even the strongest of chemistry between two people often leads to nowhere except a series of one-night stands or a dysfunctional relationship. Yet society tells us that fantastic sex and romance are the defining features of a happy relationship, all while friendship and forgiveness are neglected.

Without being able to connect and empathize with our partners on a human level, we lose the ability to forgive their mistakes and realize that they aren’t solely around to fulfill our emotional, physical and financial needs. Codependency, resentment and declarations of “that’s not fair!” and “you don’t care about me as much as I care about you!” are usually the hallmark of these kinds of relationships. When we fail to see our partners as not only our lovers but our friends, we lose the ability to identify with them on a deeper emotional level and the energetic balance in the relationship is totally thrown off.

Here’s an exercise: in your mind, have your best friend and your partner switch places. How do you treat your best friend? Do you give your friend healthy space, reasonable forgiveness and support for their dreams? Do you do the same for your partner? Creating a feeling of friendship between you and your partner is the easiest way to try to heal a failing relationship.

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QUANTUM WORLD: “Has Your Spiritual Awakening Cost You Some Family And Friends?”

Look back on the documented history of humans. You’ll find that the events or evolutionary processes that are backed by scientific data, witness testimonial, videos or faith are just merely someone else’s interpretation.

For many reasons, the truth may be distorted or hidden. But mostly, it is for power or control.

Do you feel comfortable talking to your friends about the universe?

Do they know what chakras are?

Or what a stargate is?

Do they know what ascension is?

The earth’s evolution or spiritual enlightenment? Most people tend to stay “in the box” when you talk about the creation myth and they stay in a belief system that supports the story of creation according to religion. If you raise questions about our true origins, it tends to separate people and relationships between those who think outside the box versus those who think inside the box.

When these topics are discussed within relationships, they often create disagreements. It’s hard for anyone to admit they’ve been deceived for so long and even more difficult to admit they were possibly wrong in their assumptions.

So who’s right? If you look into the origin of mankind you’ll find an excess of creation myths from all different cultures that have varying dates of existence.

Our educational systems keep us locked inside the box without questioning anything about what we’ve been taught. And this is a prime example of this. Those who remain inside the box are afraid of what others might think if they venture outside the box, so they remain comfortable and subservient while conforming to what society dictates rather than relying on their own intuitions, perception and judgment.

People could live their entire lives pretending to be what society expects them to be and not even know it! What have we truly been taught? From an ego perspective, our thoughts are basically cultivated by what we’ve learned from our family, friends, educational systems, government, political and religious beliefs.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 ~via qwaym.com