ALETHEIA LUNA: “12 Signs It’s Time to Move On and Burn All Bridges”

“It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.”

~Aletheia Luna

 

There often comes a point where we outgrow the people in our lives, develop different interests, and even in the best circumstances, lose people due to the natural cycle of life and death.

But when is the right time to move on from a relationship that feels doomed? Should we wait it out … should we try to pick up the broken pieces, and if so, for how long? At what point is it acceptable to walk away and never look back?

Burning bridges is a tough and serious decision to make. When we “burn bridges” we are essentially cutting off all contact with a person and making it impossible to return. If you’re struggling with this decision, there are a few things you might like to know first.

When Burning Bridges is the Wrong Choice

Cutting people off is not always the right decision. As much as we would like to quickly dispose of a person who is causing us trouble, sometimes the problem originates more within us than them.

For instance, burning bridges might be the wrong choice if you’re wanting to dispose of a person due to fear of intimacy and the unwillingness to be vulnerable. Both of these problems will not be solved by cutting a person off, and in fact, making such a decision will exacerbate and deepen your insecurities. If you’re uncomfortable with sharing your entire self with another person in a friendship or relationship, the problem obviously isn’t the other person, but your own internal fears and traumas. In order to work through this problem, be honest with yourself and the person in your life. Explain how you feel. If they truly love you, they will understand and will stop trying to make you open up.

Another example of a wrong time to move on would be in the heat of anger (or another strong emotional reaction). When we are consumed by emotions our logic is overridden and we cannot think or see clearly. So many poor and even fatal decisions are made when our amygdala has gone haywire (bring to mind all the crimes of passion you hear on the news). In order to prevent yourself from making a rash decision, force yourself to breathe in and out for a couple of minutes. Removing yourself from the person or situation also helps your mind and body to settle down.

The final example of a wrong time to move on is when a relationship changes and stops being fun and exciting all the time. So many people tend to mistakenly believe that there’s something “wrong” with their relationship as it matures and grows because it’s no longer filled with the same ecstasy experienced at the beginning. But the reality is that every relationship changes: you will not experience the same dizzy euphoria as you did when you first fell in love. But there will be new emotions to experience as you grow and change with your partner. It is normal to feel a bit of boredom every now and then, but this does not necessarily mean that you need to burn bridges and move on. Obviously, if you’re feeling constantly bored and unfulfilled then you should seriously reconsider your relationship. But don’t make the mistake of hopping from partner to partner in an attempt to find that one person who makes you feel euphoric 100% of the time. It just won’t happen.

If you need more guidance on how to improve your relationship, read my article How to Save a Relationship or Marriage. You might also like to read more about how to create a deep spiritual connection with your partner.

12 Signs It’s Time to Move On

So when is it the right time to move on?

At some point in our lives, we all need to make the heart-wrenching choice to sever contact with certain people. For some of us, that might mean burning bridges with our ex-partners or friends, and for others, this might mean cutting off contact with our parents, siblings or even our own children.

It is unrealistic — and even dangerous — to believe that all relationships can be repaired, no matter what has happened. We cannot change other people, no matter how hard we try. Yes, we might be able to influence them, but the choice to change comes from them, not us. We cannot force others to change. Therefore, sometimes we need to accept that it’s time to move on, let go, and open a new chapter of our lives because no matter what we do, a person will only change if they are interested in changing.

Letting go can even seem cruel to some people, especially if a strong emotional bond is present. But the reality is that we have to take care of ourselves as well. If a person is not a source of comfort or support in your life, then they hang around you like dead weight holding you back from self-fulfillment. It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.

Here are some major signs that it’s time to move on:

1. They don’t show interest in your thoughts, opinions or needs

Your relationship is very lopsided. Even when you try to express your thoughts and needs, you are met with a blank, uninterested wall. Life seems to revolve around the other person, and whenever you try to draw a conversation towards yourself, this person will immediately try to hog attention. In the past, you may have drawn attention to the fact that this person doesn’t show interest in your needs, but nothing changed and they made no effort to pay attention to you. This person has an “ME first, you second” attitude.

2. They emanate constant negativity

No matter what you do or say, the other person is always unhappy. This person might nitpick, whine, criticize, judge, and moan about you or other people all the time. Not only that, but you always seem to go away feeling miserable after spending time with this person. They are like a damp heavy blanket suffocating your soul.

3. They don’t encourage your freedom

A major red flag: if the other person is controlling and authoritative, back away slowly! If you feel trapped and unable to be your true self, it’s most definitely time to move on. Feeling trapped can also be subtle and passive, for example, a partner or parent who tries to keep you dependent on them so that they have power over you.

4. They twist the truth

You struggle to trust this person because they have lied to you so much in the past. Lying is not always active, it can also be passive, for example, withholding information or details that you needed to know. This person has repeatedly broken your trust and is not transparent with you.

5. They don’t prioritize your relationship

The other person doesn’t seem to value your relationship/friendship as much as you do. While you put in so much work to improve your relationship with them, the other person doesn’t seem to care at all. Even when you have asked them to uphold their side of the relationship, they still ended up prioritizing other things over you. For example, they might spend long nights out with their friends at the pub and return at 3am. Or they might forget dates, meetups or agreements and put work or other commitments above you. While busyness is a normal part of life, this person doesn’t seem to have time on their schedule for you at all.

6. They create constant drama

You feel exhausted having to deal with all of the problems and dramas surrounding this person. Even when something goes well for your friend/partner/family member, they quickly find something else to be unhappy about. You have a sense that this person thrives on drama and is empty without it. You’re tired of hearing detailed accounts of their fights, work dramas, relationship tragedies, righteous opinions, ad infinitum.

7. They feed off your energy

This person seems to be fuelled by your attention and emotional reactions. They might enjoy provoking you to elicit a response that makes them feel like they have power over you. You also feel very tired around them, and almost sucked into their gravitational pull. If you feel this way, you’ve likely got an energy vampire on your hands. While I don’t particularly like this term, it accurately describes people who enjoy leeching off our energy.

8. They’re relentlessly needy

You feel smothered by this other person and like you’re bound to them with a ball and chain. Not only do you have to take care of your needs, but you feel as though you have to take care of their needs as well. This person seems to constantly demand attention, pampering, affection, and favors from you. You’ve tried encouraging this person to stand on their own two feet, but they seem intent on clinging off you. This person seems to be incapable of being self-assured and constantly seeks approval from you.

9. They have physically hurt you

In moments of rage, your friend/partner/family member may have hit you or physically hurt you in some way. While they may have apologized, your trust and confidence around them have been broken. Physical abuse is a crystal clear sign that it’s time to move on and burn bridges, forever.

10. They make you want to hide your true self

You’ve tried being relaxed and open around this person, but you’ve been met with coldness, criticism or judgment. As a result, you may have resorted to hiding your true self and wearing a mask instead. Gradually, you may have even started to forget who you truly are, having become a shell of your former self instead. You feel sick of changing who you are for the other person.

11. They manipulate you

You chronically feel emotionally blackmailed or gaslighted by this person. Sometimes you even feel like you’re the abuser, when in fact, the other is just playing mind games with you.

12. They intentionally hold you back

On the surface it may appear that your friend, partner or family member has “the best intentions for you,” but really, they don’t. They are scared. They don’t want you to change. They don’t want you to reach your full potential, for that will make them feel left behind. They don’t want to see you happy, for that will reflect how unhappy they are. They don’t want you to take risks, for that will force them to reconsider their own life choices. As the old truism goes, “misery loves company.” Unhappy people want to be surrounded by other unhappy people because it gives them some sense of consolation. As a result, you might feel like you have to dim down your lights, blend in, and become a wallflower.

After reading this list:

After reading this list, please know that you don’t have to say “yes” to every sign. Even if you’re experiencing just one or two of these signs, you should seriously consider the possibility that it’s time to move on. While you don’t have to necessarily burn bridges, you might like to create space and distance and see how you feel.

Hopefully these signs can gently awaken you to the possibility that it’s time to open a new chapter of your life. And please know that feeling things like stress, shame, and grief are all normal reactions. Personally, when it was time for me to burn bridges I felt intense emotional and psychological turmoil for many months. In my case, I had to cut ties with my entire family in order to escape their oppressive fundamentalist religion. But to my surprise, I felt so free and liberated that all of the pain of going through separation was worth it.

I hope you can find the same kind of freedom. Your heart and soul are stronger than you may think.

 

About the author: Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a psychospiritual counselor, tarot reader, and professional writer, Luna’s mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance.

 

~via LonerWolf.com

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SARAH CARVALHO: “The Sun Walks With You”

The Sun of the awakening consciousness is the Light in your walking. It lights your inner universe, your sight, your body, your life, your thoughts, your feelings. In its essence it is the pure expression of the Light.

Beyond the night, the Sun is always rising somewhere. Walk with it, It is always day — clear and awaken.

The shadow feeds from discord, from judgment and from every sensation of separation. The more it finds out that the sunlight is about to dawn its brightness within you, more it agitates to prolong the nocturnal period in your interior. In a direct or indirect way you begin to be surrounded by unbalanced thoughts that go through winding ways, and why not say liar ways, to arrive to conclusions also unbalanced and unfavorable to harmony that more look like sentences that your ego and the limits of your mind impose to yourself, prolonging the wait of your soul for the Light and freedom that it so much yearns to experience.

Take care of your thoughts, watch yourself in your impetus of judging instantaneously people and situations, distributing shallow and limited conclusions of eternal stories that deserve your respect and admiration.

You talk about your brother with the easiness of someone who talks about trivial subjects of the daily, of a common life. You forget that before you stands an infinite being with its potentialities who has already lived and seen what you have no idea about, who has its fights and limits, but above all is the son of a same Universal Father, as you are also. This brother needs first a positive evaluation from your part, thoughts favorable to fraternal union and your lovely comprehension and, when you are able, your generous aid, in that you offer what you have already trailed and the best you have conquered in yourself. Share.

Share instead of removing the chances of success and happiness in the Light.

Comprehend instead of finding past and present mistakes and praise the chances of success at each new day.

Welcome instead of separating, the distance can — and sometimes needs — to exist in times and spaces, but not in the heart.

Discern until where you manage to be close to the other without allowing yourself to entangle through vicious circles that compromise your balance and your conquests. By mixing yourself with such energies know that you will need a great amount of energy and strength to free yourself and assume again your way.

Love and cultivate what is best — this Love that believes and persists in faith is the divine substance to the rise of the Sun inside yourself and in the whole world.

 

~via In5D.com

LAURA EISENHOWER: “The Most Organic Thing”

The most organic thing to us is healing when we are injured, no matter what it is or whether it is physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual.

We are designed to be able to heal just about anything and our life-force alone is able to transmute things. Mind-control and AI is all about turning us in another direction, so that we degenerate and feel stuck in a turmoil, affliction or endless issues or struggle, until we become something entirely different.

That is all changing, we just have to let go and realize the most natural thing we know how to do is heal and guidance especially from our wisdom body, will take us in the direction of healing and magic and synchronicities are abundant when we can see that.

The rest is only wanting to stick us further into the mud, well, we are wearing the right boots to get out and if not, there is always a giant bird ready to swoop us up and get us to safer ground.

 

~via TheEarthPlan.com

INSPIRATION FOR THE DAY ~ Nickolas Patrick Joseph Schoff: “Quieting The Mind”

It’s time to quiet yourself

Not physically and not externally, but rather quieting yourself internally. Quiet the voice you identify as you. That voice; it is not you. It is only an aspect of you. An aspect of you that resides here in the third dimension. That same voice and the two lower voices come together to create what you think of as “your” voice. Its the same voices that analyze, criticize, hate, and doubt. Its time to finally shut those people up. You do not need it anymore. Simply let it wash away and silence it. Once you quiet that specific voice and let go of control within your head, you will be able to hear a myriad of other voices. Other voices that still sound like you but have distinct differences in the kind of messages they send. These higher voices or your “Higher Selves” can only be heard when all the chatter stops from the lower three.

It’s time to start looking inward

…instead of looking towards the external to tell us what we already know deep inside. I know we’ve all heard that “the answers you seek are inside of you”, but how many of us truly understand what that means? These higher voices I speak of are the “inner knower”. They reside at a higher vibration or dimension if you will. Dimensions being frequency bands or spectrum’s. And because these voices reside at such a high base frequency, they have access to the dimension of infinite knowing. Dimensions where all data exists. So if your questions or problems seemingly don’t have a solution in the 3D, then you look inward using meditation, extreme focus and thought control. Listen for the answer from within and make sure it resonates. You don’t want to be taking any answers from the voices that doubt and hate. Don’t hate these lower voices or reject them. Simply understand that these are their answers from their perspective.

Remember that when you look inward, right and wrong no longer apply nor need to be labels anymore. Everything has its purpose. Arguing over right and wrong is the same as arguing over left or right. They’re both the right direction; depending on your point of view. They’ll both lead to the same location but the real question is how fast will this direction take to get there? How many dead ends or accidents are involved in this route. Is it worth running out of gas and doubling back to the best route? Or do you just start on the best route because it’s what’s best for YOU? Everyone else benefits too but mostly importantly YOU. It’s important to look at this data from a non biased perspective. I like to use visualizations of floating above and out of my body when I’m making important decisions. It puts you in the shoes of no one, yet everyone. A very important, neutral position where human judgment and hate are hard to reach.

I wish I could say awakening is easy and I really wish I could give you all the answers, but you didn’t come here for that. You didn’t come here to just be told the answers. You came here to find them for yourself. To EXPERIENCE it yourself. You chose to come to challenge yourself and what you know as your reality. And no, no one ever promised you that this would be easy. Nothing good or worth it comes easily.

I’d like to share with you the “keys” that got me where I am today.

1. Never live in fear

I repeat, NEVER think or make your decisions based on fear. Fear of being alone, broke, or even death. A decision made out of fear results in greed, lust, gluttony, adultery, murder, etc. Sound familiar? Replace fear with love and gratitude. Fear needs an illusion to survive, remember that. Understand fear and anxiety for what they truly are, a simple illusion because you forgot you are infinite in life and love.

2. The Middle Ground:

Within the middle ground is the new direction. The trinity of two extremes. When in doubt, the middle ground or neutrality is usually the safe bet. But in order to find the middle ground, an understanding of both extremes is necessary. Moderation is different for everything which requires caution and observation to find. You do not need to always make mistakes to figure things out. The quiet observation of the world around you reveals everything.

3. The answer’s always right in front of your face:

So many times the revelation I sought was staring me in the face the entire time I was searching for it. What I realized is that the universe not only just works through the voices in your head, but also through the eternal. Events, conversations, Internet, music, numbers are all different ways the Universe can communicate to you. Stop and listen.

4. As above, so below; As below, so above

 

5. Stay calm in Chaos.

 

6. You can do ANYTHING. Literally.

Don’t limit yourself. Don’t try, just do. The biggest thing that prevents people from being able to control your body, feelings, emotions, and thoughts is that we’ve been bred and trained to believe that we can’t. So stop using the term I can’t all together. We are gods, not metaphorically but literally. We are in control of the most power piece of technology known to man. OUR BODY. It is but a tool for our consciousness. Removing this old programming is one of the hardest things you will have to do when ascending. But it’s so worth it once you develop that control. Self control is but a muscle.

7. Don’t be upset when things don’t happen the way you want.

Yes, this is contradictory to number 6, and thus is the nature of the universe. You can do anything but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you at this moment in time. If a door is closed, that just means that’s not the door for you. That’s closed door is not the path you have chosen. Though maybe you could’ve beat down the door and pry it open, but you’ll find everything you didn’t want behind it. Remember to see the big picture when bad things happen. If something bad happened, maybe if it didn’t, something even worse may have happened.

These are some of the things I wish I was told about Awakening.

Remember to stay in Love and Light. Be kind, be generous. Help those around you in need. Guide and provide wisdom when asked. And remember to still have fun and don’t take yourself or your past too seriously.

Meditation is simply listening to these voices.

Victory of the Light!

Nickolas Patrick Joseph Schoff

 

 

~via In5D.com

PERCEPTION FOR THE DAY ~ Caitlin Johnstone: “Plutocracy”

“In reality, the US political system is like the unplugged video game remote that kids give their baby brother so he stops whining that he wants a turn to play. No matter who they vote for they get an Orwellian warmongering government which exists solely to advance the agendas of a plutocratic class which has no loyalties to any nation; the only difference is sometimes that government is pretending to care about women and minorities and sometimes it’s pretending to care about white men. In reality, all the jewelers work for the same plutocrat, and that video game remote won’t impact the outcome of the game no matter how many buttons you push.”

~Caitlin Johnstone

 

~via https://caitlinjohnstone.com/2018/09/21/trumps-opposition-supports-all-his-evil-agendas-while-attacking-fake-nonsense/