STEPHANIE: “11 Things You Should Know About Introverts”

“Small talk with strangers is my kryptonite.”

~Stephanie

 

11 Things You Should Know About Introverts

1) We need to recharge alone

This right here is the cusp of the entire introvert vs. extrovert debate (if there is one, anyway) — Introverts need to be alone to recharge. We tend to get completely worn out by socializing. This is basically what it means to be an introvert.

2) We don’t hate being around people, but we probably hate crowds

I love being with people, but if you drop me into a large crowd I instantly feel like I’m alone and invisible. I try to avoid situations where I feel that way, so I may decline your open invitation to some random event. It doesn’t mean I don’t like to be around you, it just means I like to have more control over my surroundings.

3) We don’t mind silence

I can sit beside you in silence and not think we are having a bad time. This is especially true on road trips and can be a little confounding to true extroverts. For this reason, I especially like going to the movies where it is already considered rude to chat. Rule #1 for dealing with introverts — Don’t tell me I’m “too quiet.” I hate that. Sorry I’m making you uncomfortable, but you really don’t get to decide how much I have to talk.

4) Just because we are introverted doesn’t mean we are shy

Introvert and shy are actually two different things. Google it! In my case, I’m a shy introvert (the double whammy!).

5) We can turn on an extroverted personality when necessary, but it is especially draining

See #1 and #2. I have no problem getting up in front of a group of people and giving a talk. I don’t even get nervous by a question and answer period. But — here is the thing — I will need major recharge time afterwards and I won’t be able to keep up this extroverted illusion all day. I can turn it on to dazzle a crowd, but if you take me out for lunch afterwards, I’ll probably just listen to you talk. I am an excellent listener.

6) We aren’t judging you

See #3. Did I get quiet? Do I have a mean look on my face? I’m not judging you; I’m just wrapped up in my thoughts with my resting-face on. I might have even forgotten you were there. Sorry, just poke me. I didn’t do it on purpose.

7) We secretly love it when you cancel plans

I like being with you, but finding out I suddenly don’t need to be “on” and it wasn’t actually me that backed out? — priceless! Don’t worry if you have to cancel, I’m probably thrilled to be able to stay in my pajamas.

8) We can get very wrapped up in our own thoughts

My inner monologue is epic. When you have a strong monologue constantly running in the background, it is pretty easy to settle-in and listen for a while. I have to work through things in my head before I proceed, so I usually need a few minutes. When I’m ready to move forward though, I am 100% on top of it!

9) We can be pretty bad at connecting

You know when you have had a really bad day and you just want to call up a friend and chat? Yeah, I’m bad at that. I tend to wait for extroverts to reach out and include me, so when the time comes that I need support, I can be a bit lost.

10) We don’t like to hang around

That time after an event or meeting ends and stragglers hang around to talk — yeah, I know this is the perfect time to make more plans, connect with new people, and get involved with future projects, but I really really really hate this. I’m probably already checking my phone in my car before you have even picked up your purse. Small talk with strangers is my kryptonite.

11) We have strong opinions

Just because I have difficultly sharing them sometimes doesn’t mean I don’t have opinions. Give me an extra minute to compose my thoughts and I will continue to push myself to speak up sooner. It is a give and take here.

 

BMSS Addendum by Gregg Prescott:

BMSS Addendum: On #2, we really don’t hate people or crowds… it’s just that most of us are empaths and we absorb everyone’s energies so it’s a lot easier staying away from crowds than being immersed in them. For me, if I were to go to some gala event, you would most likely find me near the outer wall of the room watching everyone and saying very little. Some would call this “antisocial” but as an introvert I know that it’s something that’s misunderstood by those who aren’t introverted.

If you’re an introvert (which is only about 25% of the population), don’t change yourself to appease anyone else. Just keep being YOU!

~ Gregg

 

~via BodyMindSoulSpirit.com

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LJ VANIER: “12 Signs You’re A Deep Thinker Who Enjoys Being Alone”

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It is said that we are a product of our environment and when we are young, lasting impressions are burned into our minds about what love is, how the world works and what we ought to do when we are older.

As if settling down, getting married and having children is the benchmark for success.  But who is really to say what happiness is and what it looks like?

Maybe some of us are perfectly happy, just being alone…

1.  Dogmas and social conditioning don’t phase you

You have navigated the emotional concourse of societal expectation and found that it just doesn’t resonate with you.  Instead you listen to your heart and follow your inner voice, wherever it might lead.

2.  You screen your phone calls

If you find yourself waiting to respond to text messages and emails after they light up on your screen, this is a sure-fire sign that you prefer your privacy.  Setting your own boundaries for what you allow into your personal zone and when.

3.  You aren’t desperate to make plans on the weekends

You are confident enough in yourself and do not seek externally for the temporary and fleeting satisfaction that others bring.  You prefer to set your own schedule and make plans that you know you’ll enjoy.

4.  You enjoy your freedom

A cluttered calendar leaves no time for numero uno and you strive to clear off as many duties as you can, to allow more time for your own personal freedom.

5.  You are confident as a party for one

You are complete and well-rounded and don’t feel uncomfortable being the ‘fifth wheel’, neither do you mind eating alone.  You find clingy couples a bit needy and prefer others who are more self-reliant.

6.  You put yourself first

You don’t allow the pressures of others to persuade you from achieving what you want to get out of life.  You know that every minute is precious and you always make the most of it.

7.  You do what you want when you want

You follow your gut and trust your instincts. You find that living in the flow of life, is the best way to stay balanced and centered.

8. You’re genuinely happy

Constantly being bombarded with people can be draining, especially for an introvert like you.  Being alone brings you happiness, and relieves you from all of the personal drama of others.  Being genuinely happy means being happy with yourself.  When you love and accept yourself, you become all that you will ever need.  It is then a choice to be with others and share your gift to the world.

9.  You bask in peace and quiet

You would prefer to live in the countryside, or outside of the city. Apartment buildings and condominiums are a living nightmare for you. You strive to take time out in nature, finding remote spots with serene views to just read a book or meditate.

10.  You enjoy your own company

You prefer dining, watching movies, taking a walk in nature or exercising by yourself and are very comfortable in doing so.  You laugh at your own jokes, and enjoy the lightness of just being you.

11.  You sleep better alone

Cuddling is nice, for a few minutes… and then the blanket war, leg war and breathing war all begin.  Quite simply, a nice big bed all to yourself is your vision of perfection.

12.  You are a deep thinker

 Last but not least, you prefer the time and space to be with your own thoughts and highly regard this time.  You enjoy the self exploration and inner transformation of giving yourself the moments needed to just think it out.

 
 
 
~via In5D.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “10 Signs You’re A Deep Thinker Who Loves Solitude”

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In this article we discuss, why you love being a deep thinker. Deep thinkers dive into their soul and every essence of being more conscious, so being a deep thinker is great.

It has been once said that we are a product of the environment, when we were young, society has burned into our mind what love should be, how this planet works and what we will be doing when we reach old age.

It seems today’s benchmark and success is to get married and have children. But no one can really tell you what happiness is and what it would look like. Some people are perfectly fine being alone.

Deep Thinker Definition:

Definition of a deep thinker is someone who thinks beyond the obvious, someone who has profound thoughts and very intellectual. I am sure you can relate to this?

Can Being A Deep Thinker Be Curse Or A Gift?

It can be a curse if friends and family tell you that you are sensitive and you don’t have the channels to make sense of the insights you are getting from within.

However it is also the greatest gift if you have the channels to apply what you have recognized when you are going deep with your thoughts and views. The channels have to be stable emotionally, so you have the push to go forward and be practical with your observations.

Signs Of A Deep Thinker

Social Conditioning Never Phases You

You have found what society can offer and it does not resonate with you, it never meets your expectations. You are one who follows their heart and soul instead.

Never Alert To Cell Phones

You don’t constantly check your cell phone, or when you receive a text or email you wait and respond when you feel you are ready. This is for sure a sign you are a deep thinker and you prefer privacy. You have boundaries for what you permit into personal life.

Never To Make Plans

You are never seeking external satisfaction by others instead you make plans that suit you even if it means means being on your own.

Love Your Freedom

You allow time for yourself and personal freedom. You know that cluttered calender means there is no time for yourself.

You Are Confident On Your Own

Another sing of a deep thinker is that, you are complete and enjoy being on your own, you don’t mind eating alone. You don’t like clingy people and prefer someone who is self reliant.

You Put Yourself First

You are never pressured by others, no one can persuade you, you do whats best for you. You also know that time is precious and make the most of it.

You Follow Your Instincts

You are one who trusts their intuitions. You find the best way to live your life and keeping yourself balanced is to flow through it.

You Are Happy

You are an introvert but a happy one, too many people drain you of your happiness. You are genuinely happy with yourself.

Prefer Nature

Your preferred place to live would be in the countryside away from the city, nightmare places to live would be apartment buildings. You love to meditate in nature.

You Are A Deep Thinker

You love space and time to be with your own thoughts. You seem to enjoy self exploration and inner transformations.

  • You love nature and enjoy being on your own
  • You are an introvert and happy
  • You are intuitive
  • You can never be pressured by others
  • Prefer a simple life

Conclusion

It’s a great gift to be a deep thinker, you need to be stable in your emotions to understand and process your thoughts or you may end up being too sensitive. We know that people who are deep thinkers enjoy being alone, love nature and are never pressured by society. Does that describe you?

 

 

~via spiritualunite.com

GREGG PRESCOTT, M.S. (IN5D): “Why Are Spiritual People Generally Introverts?”

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by Gregg Prescott, M.S.
Editor, BodyMindSoulSpirit

According to recent statistics, approximately 75% of the world’s population are extroverts but within the spiritual genre, the numbers are reversed, so why are spiritual people generally introverts?

Society tends to mislabel introverts as being antisocial or reclusive, but this isn’t true. As introverts, we tend to speak with like-minded people versus anyone or everyone. Sometimes, we choose not to speak at all. That doesn’t mean we are not interested in what is being said… it means that we would much rather listen than talk.

According to Betty W. Phillips, Ph.D., Psychology, “…introverts have been found to constitute 60% of highly gifted individuals. Einstein was an extreme introvert. In fact, in elementary school he was so quiet and withdrawn that he was actually thought to be ‘dull-witted.’

Often, an extrovert will ask an introvert, “You’re so quiet, what’s wrong with you?” There’s nothing wrong with us! It is difficult for the introvert to understand why everyone isn’t like he or she.

One of the most famous introverts was Gandhi. I seriously doubt if anyone asked him, “What’s wrong with you?” Despite his introvertedness, he was socially available for interviews and public appearances.

The extrovert tends to be more interested in his or her environment and in socializing with other people while the introvert is more interested in his or her thoughts and feelings. This doesn’t necessarily mean that the introvert cannot have extroverted tendencies or vice-versa. It simply means that there are general tendencies that seem to be consistent with both the introvert and the extrovert.

If given the choice, the introvert will prefer to work alone or in small groups than with a large group of people.  The ideal profession for the introvert does not involve being around a lot of people and may include careers in writing, computer programming, webmasters and graphic design.  In the end, the introvert could do virtually any job that an extrovert can do but ultimately, introverts need to find their own space at the end of the day.

Many introverts are avid readers and are constantly studying and researching various topics of interest, including spirituality and metaphysics.  Reading may come in various forms such as books, e-books or internet articles.

Why Are Spiritual People Generally Introverts?

The introvert tends to be guided by his or her higher self in what areas to pursue when researching spiritual and metaphysical topics, almost as if the higher self is guiding the introvert (which it is!).

By internalizing their feelings, the introverts are susceptible to anxiety related issues such as migraines and panic attacks but they are also more apt to find natural solutions on their own before consulting others for their advice.

Because the introvert tends to look within for answers, he or she will find it easier to meditate and to quiet the mind.  The extrovert’s mind tends to remain overactive as he or she will often have difficulty quieting the mind while focusing within.

Another common spiritual activity for the introvert is yoga, which integrates the body and mind while the extrovert is more apt to play team sports.  In yoga, one uses their body as a vehicle for consciousness while in most sports, the body is used as a vehicle for aggression.  Once again, this does not mean that the introvert will not participate in team sports, nor does it mean that the extrovert will not practice yoga.  These are general tendencies that introverts and extroverts exhibit in every day life.

 

The introvert may have a stronger bond with nature as nature may not provide enough stimulation for the extrovert.  You will generally find that people who enjoy hiking are predominantly introverts, as they appreciate the solitude and oneness they receive from being outdoors in whatever particular element of nature that they enjoy.

Stargazing is another popular activity for the introvert for the same reason, as extroverts will become quickly bored with staring at the sky and may not understand how the stars are connected to our bodies and everything that is happening on our planet.

While 75% of the population are extroverts, the introvert needs to remain true to his or herself, despite peer pressure to conform to society. Despite not wanting the acknowledgement or recognition, the spiritualists within this genre are the leaders of tomorrow’s world as we enter a new stage of consciousness and spiritual awareness.

 

 

About the Author:
Gregg Prescott <a href=Gregg Prescott, M.S. is the founder and editor of In5D and BodyMindSoulSpirit. He hosts a weekly spiritual show on In5D Radio and promotes spiritual, metaphysical and esoteric conferences in the United States through In5dEvents. His love and faith for humanity motivates him to work relentlessly in humanity’s best interests 12-15+ hours a day, 365 days a year. Please like and follow In5D on Facebook as well as BodyMindSoulSpirit on Facebook!

LAUREN MARTIN: “Simple Life: 10 Things People Who Love Being Alone Never Worry About”

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I’m a recluse as much as the next guy… At least, that’s what I thought.

After a recent move to a city that welcomed one too many nights out and one too many clubs to name, I came to the harsh realization that my aversion to nights out and the company of others was not normal and I was coming off as, well, rude.

I thought there was nothing wrong with choosing to spend Friday night in the company of myself and my empty apartment.

I thought it was okay to enjoy walking alone more than with a friend. I thought it was healthy to relish in all those moments of solitude.

To people trying to be my friend, or at least use me as a pawn in their game of nights out, I was the antithesis of everything they wanted.

I tried to make myself go out more, push myself to spend Friday nights in the company of others and try to enjoy all that mindless chit chat that came with money spent on too many drinks.

Soon, I began to hate myself and those around me. I started worrying about insignificant nonsense that shouldn’t bother me.

And after one too many nights spent around everyone but myself, I decided that enough was enough and I would spend as much time alone as I ******* please.

I like my company, even if it’s just a little too much, because there’s something beautiful about being at peace with yourself. There’s something comforting about knowing I can come home to myself every night and love it.

There should be more respect for people who can relish in themselves. There should be more admiration for those who aren’t scared of being alone.

There should be some nice words about the loners and the introverts who are content with themselves and don’t need anyone to feel better.

Because loving your alone time is many times a lot healthier than hating it. Those who bask in their own company are the ones with significantly fewer worries than those who need to be around people to fill that void.

The loners, introverts and asocial people of the world are the ones spending their time creating and growing from themselves, rather than worrying about what everyone else is thinking.

They never worry about how they come off

People who like to be alone are more secure than those who are so good at showing face. They are the ones who are never second guessing their actions or working on their appearance.

They don’t care what people think of them because they, themselves, are their harshest critics.


They never worry about what they just said

The only times people who like their alone time are going out is with people who deserve their shared time. They don’t spend it with people who will judge them or people they worry about taking what they said the wrong way.

They don’t spend hours lying in their beds thinking about what they said or didn’t say back there. They are confident around the people they choose to talk to.


They never worry about acting like they have something to prove

People who enjoy their own company are not the types to put on airs. They never have to act like they have something to prove because they never have anyone to prove anything to.

When you meet them, you will see they are completely themselves, because that’s who matters to them. If you don’t like them, that’s just one fewer person they need to worry about hanging out with.


They’re never worried about doing things they don’t want to do

They don’t sit in bed wishing they didn’t have to go to a party where they hate most of the people just so they won’t spend Saturday night stuck with their own thoughts.

They never replace alone time with empty interactions. Their solitude is never rationalized or bargained for by trivial moments with undeserving people.


They’re never worried about ending up alone

They don’t have that irrational fear of never finding someone. If anything, they fear they will never understand how to share their alone time.

They don’t date people just for the company or settle for unfulfilled love just so they won’t end up alone.


They never worry about finding something to say

Because they’re not constantly putting themselves around others, they’re not constantly searching for new topics and talking points.

They know who they are and what they like and they don’t have to pretend to be interested in things just to keep the conversation going.


They never worry about missing out on something

They never have fear of missing out because there’s no place they’d rather be than with themselves. They don’t find it a wasted evening when they don’t go out.

In fact, they see it as the opposite. In our hectic schedules, getting a night to ourselves is easier said than done.


They never worry about being single

They search for meaning in themselves and take pride in that relationship. They don’t need to feel validated by the significant others they’re supposed to have.

They make sure they are completely in love with themselves before they worry about finding someone else to love.


They never worry about needing time to think

They spend their alone time exploring all the unexamined spaces of their mind. They don’t go to parties or friends’ houses wishing they could just have a moment to think, alone.

They are constantly thinking and constantly wondering. They are never without moments to ponder those questions that need time.


They never worry about having to lie or exaggerate

Their lives are complete by themselves. They don’t have to name drop or worry about being cool enough around the people they’re with because they don’t care about impressing current company or making new acquaintances.

They aren’t about collecting friends or racking up phone numbers. They know who they are and there’s no need to exaggerate about that.

 

 

 

 

 

~via EliteDaily