NEZEL PADAYHAG: “The 2 Most Important Traits Of A Soulmate”

Most people think that a soulmate is a person who magically appears in your life out of nowhere because they are destined to be with you.

However, a true soulmate doesn’t have to be a romantic partner. But they will most likely be. And they do not appear magically, they are attracted to your vibration.

So this means that no matter how close your soulmate is to you, if you do not let yourself be yourself, and shine with your light, they will not perceive the truth of you.

To find the right person and connect with on a cosmic level you have to become the right person yourself. And once you find this person, everything changes in your life.

When the two of you unite, your energies complement each other and become so extremely strong that just your partnership in love creates a positive change in this world.

There are countless signs, traits and explanations of what is a soulmate and how it feels when you find them.

But most of these traits are not concrete enough. So here are the two most important traits of a soulmate.

The 2 Most Important Traits Of A Soulmate:

If someone has these two traits, whether you believe in soulmates or not, they are what is considered a soulmate.

1. You’re deeply inspired by them.

“Inspiration” comes from the Greek word “Theopneustos”, which literally means “God breathed”.

In other words, when you meet a soulmate you feel connected to them on a much deeper level, a level that is spiritual, coming from the Source.

This person inspires you more than you can imagine. It goes beyond reason, time, space, and comprehension.

You feel a deep connection on a subconscious level. Having this subconscious connection, you both tap into your infinite potential.

You’re inspired to do things you never have done before. Because you inspire each other, manifesting your dreams is easier.

You become aware that you’re both co creators creating your reality.

When you’re together, your energies are so strong that people can’t help but notice its magnetic power. When both of you enter a room together it illuminates the atmosphere.

You know what the other person is thinking even just by gazing at each other’s eyes. And whenever you are together you feel as there are no limits to your potential.

You are changed into the best version of you not because they magically transform you, but because you are inspired by them to transform into your best self yourself.

At times, it takes true love so the darkest places of your soul can surface and be healed. And this kind of love is what really transforms us.

2. You love deeply and care strongly for them.

As we said, a soulmate doesn’t have to be a romantic partner. Some times it is a friend, or maybe even a person you consider a foe.

But most often it is going to be a romantic partner. This is because a soulmate reflects deep parts of yourself you are often attracted to or you disassociate with and hate.

There are many ways to define love. And it’s often subjective. A person can love someone out of a deep need. Or, they can love someone just because they do.

Most often, the second kind of loving is the deepest kind of loving. It’s because you have no need to love a person, but you still do, that hints to some deeper reason.

You love deeply and care genuinely when you’re willing to give without demanding something in return.

A usual phenomena that happens with your soulmate is when you can look at each other’s eyes and see that you’re both timeless.

You unconsciously understand that you come from the same source and the same breath of life.

If you feel your partner is the right person but things aren’t flowing smoothly, there might be some issues that both of you need to solve.

Both of you may have reflected upon each other’s aspects that need healing. It’s scary to look but if it’s the only way to heal, then face your fears and inner wounds.

This often happens with soulmates who are not romantic partners but a friend, or maybe even someone you just hate. But it can happen with a romantic partner.

You hate them because they reflect the things you hate within yourself and they are, in a way, trying to heal you by making you face what you avoid within yourself.

But whoever they are, a friend, a foe, a romantic partner, if they are your soulmate you will feel deep care for them, even if you hate them.

So what do you need to do to attract your soulmate:

You shouldn’t force yourself trying to attract your soulmate. If a relationship isn’t making you happy or fulfilled, then you might be in the wrong relationship.

You don’t need to suffer in a relationship wishing the person you’re with is the right one. No one knows it better than you. But first, you need to work on yourself.

You need to have a deeper connection with yourself because your vibration is the link that connects you to your soulmate.

When you’re fully aware of yourself and vibrate in the same frequency your soulmate is vibrating, then there’s a big chance you will meet each other.

Whatever the case may be, continue to shine your light. When the right person comes, you will just know it. Any other explanation will be just irrelevant.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

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ALEX MYLES: “Navigating the Pleasure and Pain of Twin Flame Connections”

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“Ultimately the twin flame connection is here to teach us about unconditional love and acceptance by showing us whatever we have the most difficulty in loving and accepting within others and ourselves.  It is easy to love the qualities that reside in the light, our greatest challenge is also being able to love and accept those that reside in the darkness.”

~Alex Myles

 

A Twin Flame connection is often defined by one thing: an instantaneous, intense and magnetic soul resonation.

However for many, despite the heightened emotions and strong longing to connect with a twin flame, the opposite usually happens, and instead of coming together they seem to move further apart.

When we live open-hearted and are highly sensitive, we recognize our twin flame immediately, as they seem familiar and their energy feels like what many describe as home.  However, the ultimate twist in this is that the other person often won’t recognize us, or if they do, they are stuck in denial.  It can sometimes feel like the closer we move toward our twin flame, the farther they move away.

The reason behind this is not a comfortable pill to swallow, but it is important to know so we can awaken and heal from the aching desire to unite with the person whom our heart craves.

Twin flames are not the same as us — they are our polar opposites.  This ignites immense fear, as we are innately terrified of what we don’t fully understand, so we subconsciously attempt to reject it.

Where one person is open and inviting, the other may be closed and unwelcoming of the energetic bond.  Our entire universe is made up of yin and yang opposing energy and we are often pulled toward the opposing side in order to achieve harmony and balance.

The tricky part with this is that our egos play a huge role in resisting these twin flame/yin yang dynamics as we have become conditioned to behave in ways that are limiting, demanding, judgmental, controlling or fearful.  Therefore, even though the one who is closed off at the heart center will still feel an undeniable attraction, that attraction may feel chaotic and full of friction as it evokes an array of emotions they are currently unable to manage and process.

We simply will not get close to a twin flame until the barriers within ourselves that were erected at a point when we felt a need to self-protect are finally broken down.

Despite what we may have previously come to believe, when we initially connect with our twin flame we are usually entirely unprepared for the emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of this meeting.

This is because our twin flame projects back at us all the things that we either do not like, do not understand or that we deny, reject, oppress and refuse to accept in our own lives.

Although we often turn a blind eye to the parts we dislike in our twin flame, our subconscious mind is aware and will work tirelessly to attempt to guard our heart by triggering us to behave in ways that cause separation and keep our twin flame out of reach.

The denial of the other person is ultimately a denial of ourselves, because although we may have tried to hide aspects of our personality out of fear that they are hideous and unacceptable, they still exist.

We are often left in total dismay when this happens as in our mind we may have hoped and expected our twin flame would be an identical match, reflecting the same qualities that we have and therefore making us feel validated, worthy and acceptable.  If we believe we have inner strength, courage, and confidence, and we feel secure and centered, we hope that our twin flame also reflects these same things back — only then do we feel that we’ve met our match.

Our primal instincts, on an evolutionary scale, encourage us to admire and gravitate toward certain traits and disregard others so that we receive the greatest chance of survival both for ourselves and our offspring.  While this was all well and good in the caveman days when we had to fight harsh extremes for daily survival, the things we desire, need and want in today’s world are very different from what we may have desired, needed and wanted thousands of years ago.

It is no wonder we struggle to co-exist harmoniously with a twin flame.  We desire and want certain things on one level, but on other levels we are drawn to the qualities our DNA is convincing us that we need in a partner.  When it comes to matters of the heart and soul, these expectations can cause us to fail miserably.

Our needs and wants filter down to the same thing — security.  Not just on a domestic level, but security within ourselves.

The one who is open-hearted will be desperate to connect on a heart level and pour all their affection and admiration over the person their heart adores.  The opposite partner, the closed-hearted one, will accept the outpouring of affection, but it will not hit them in the heart, it instead serves only their egotistical mind.  It is no wonder that the longer these two interact, the further away from one another they seem to get.

The ego stands between them and redirects these messages wherever it feels they are best placed in order to “survive.”  Therefore, although these two flames are on opposing ends of the scale and feel drawn to explore the connection further, there are subconscious underlying forces pulling them apart.

The more attention and admiration the closed-hearted person receives, the more they feel as though they are above the open-hearted one.  The ego convinces them they can forget this connection and instead meet a match who is equal to them on all levels, failing to see that the yin and yang — opposing but balancing qualities — are the exact ones needed for complimentary soul resonation.

The tricky part arrives when the illusions fade, the rose tints are off and the ego steps back. Then we see the situation with clarity:

A twin flame is simply mirroring all the tendencies that we perceive as weak and undesirable.

If we hold disdain for emotionally unavailable types, it is a sure bet that our twin flame will be emotionally unavailable to us.  If we despise people who are trapped in their ego, that is the exact manifestation that our twin flame will take on.  If we hate people who are arrogant and self-absorbed, yes, our twin flame will project those traits outwardly too.

We may not consciously accept that these characteristics are inherent in our twin flame, as we can become captivated with the image our imagination helped create, but when that illusion is torn down and reality hits, we start to see that our twin flame is not as “perfect” as we may have first believed.

Spiritually we are being asked if we are still willing to keep our heart, that is tempted to close, wide open knowing that the person we placed on a pedestal is simply a human — just like us — with a myriad of perceived and real flaws and faults.

Instead of suppressing our darkness and attempting to only rest in the light, it is essential that we embrace, integrate and balance all of our shades if we want to gain inner peace and receive the chance of connecting with this person.

We often feel compelled to only express the light parts of ourselves due to fear that we will be rejected if anyone sees the broken fragments beneath the surface.  However, in our terrified state we are also rejecting ourselves as well as those around us whose dark sides we witness.

The key to a twin flame soul connection is in accepting one another in our entirety and continuing to love regardless of all the imperfections that this person presents to us.

When we are able to love not just others but also ourselves, without conditions, expectations or attachments, we have then reached a heightened form of love.  The toughest and most challenging part is maintaining it.

There is a difference between a soul mate and a twin flame.  A soul mate is someone we share similarities with, learn from and communicate well with.  They are kindred spirits and we can usually co-exist harmoniously with them without being challenged too far outside our comfort zone.  These relationships feel natural and comforting and generally flow effortlessly.

A twin flame appears as our opposite incarnation and we learn continuously from the connection regardless of whether we are in close contact with them or not.  We usually struggle to co-exist with a twin flame as we are challenged beyond our comfort zone and these challenges trigger our deepest insecurities, beliefs, values, motivations, intentions and feelings.

We learn from a soulmate for our own higher good, but we learn from a twin flame for the higher good of the entire planet and collective evolution.

Ultimately the twin flame connection is here to teach us about unconditional love and acceptance by showing us whatever we have the most difficulty in loving and accepting within others and ourselves.  It is easy to love the qualities that reside in the light, our greatest challenge is also being able to love and accept those that reside in the darkness.

Both halves of the twin flame dynamic will struggle equally to accept the opposing traits of the other person.  As much as they feel a bond and are magnetized towards one another, there is also a strong undercurrent repelling and forcing them apart.

When we finally learn to release our past pain, our conditioned beliefs and the trauma that is causing obstacles, we can then begin to truly love and accept ourselves and one another exactly as we are.  The undercurrent pulling us away will weaken and we will stop subconsciously resisting the powerful and unique flow of unconditional, limitless love.

Until then, a twin flame connection may feel complicated, frustrating and will likely elude us.

 

 

~via ElephantJournal.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “4 Signs You Have Met Your Twin Soul”

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What are the signs you have met your twin soul?  A twin soul connection is not like a soul mate; we can have many soul mates; a twin soul connection is unique and profound and there is only one twin soul.

It has been written that our soul is divided into two, so Source can experience duality and mortality on earth.  Since Source does not have an equal, dividing itself into two was necessary, eventually the two would meet and unite again.

Whether you experience a twin soul connection or not, it does not mean you are not complete; Soul and Source are always complete, it’s just our human self senses the incompleteness.  It’s crucial for one to be complete from within.

There are many signs you have met your twin soul.  I am going to list the most important ones, let’s dive into those shall we?

Signs You Have Met Your Twin Soul

Acceleration Of Personal Development

When twin souls do meet, the instant connection and spark are usually followed closely by a prompt development of personal evolution for both twin souls as a whole and individually.

Twin souls are mirrors, reflecting aspects of the self which are deep and significant when twin souls meet the energy between them will uncover gifts from within, a true twin soul connection has a purpose to teach or heal the world.

Twin Souls Are Eternal, You And I Are Old Friends

Whenever you meet your twin soul, the connection will be unlike anything you have experienced before, although the intensity of this connection is different there is still a familiarity about it, it feels beautiful in your soul to have this connection again.

You instantly feel oneness with this person and the love you feel is vast.  You feel you have known this soul for infinity.

Runner And Chaser Chaos

Twin soul connection is not for the fainthearted; many don’t want it and they run from it.  Could it be they are not ready?

This type of relationship can either be great with incredible love or it can crash and burn.  Things don’t go well when twin souls have yet to ascend into higher spiritual vibrations, they are not willing to let go of old beliefs and habits.

Sex Is On A Different Level

Because the soul level connection is intense, sexual experience is unlike anything you have experienced before.

Twin soul sexual experience may go beyond the physical, for example, astral sex.  The astral sex experienced is intense, like the feeling of one’s spirit is merging with the other, astral sex can take place with or without physical intercourse.

Although sexual intercourse is personal, a time for merging, however with twin soul there are other attributes where by looking into each other’s eyes can reveal other places in space and time, either past or future.

Your twin soul experience might be different and the relationship can have numerous outcomes depending on your life path.  These are the main traits of the astonishing twin soul connection.

 

 

~via SpiritualUnite.com

 

INGA NIELSEN: “Twin Flames And Codependency”

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Twin Flames and other strong soul connections cannot come together in a codependent relationship. The love that these souls have for each other is simply far too pure, too bright and too divine to accept a pattern of codependency. However, the conditioning and life circumstances that many Twin Flames incarnated into make codependent relationships the only form of affection that they know. Consequently, codependency patterns are one of the greatest obstacles for Twins coming into a 3D Union.

Do we know the difference between codependency and twin flame love? Between loving unconditionally, and becoming a doormat? Between setting boundaries and pushing people away?

All Twin Flames are wired for Union. We may, or may not enter into it fully in this lifetime, but this is what our souls are yearning for. And yet the way we learned about love was often quite dysfunctional.

Almost all advanced souls had considerable difficulties growing up, often incarnating into very dysfunctional or damaged families. Most of us did not get a good picture of healthy love. Most of us spent our formative years having no idea what healthy love is.

Additionally, the collective ideas about “love” have outlived themselves. Twin Flame Union is not a “relationship”. The template of “relationships” that we have inherited is no longer working in our society. And this is not necessarily a bad thing! On the cosmic scale, we are undergoing a great transformation, especially in terms of the relationship between Masculine and Feminine. This is part of what the Twin Flames  are here to do — to help shift the ideas about “love”, to bring in the model of love that is based on a face-to-face communication of equals, the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine dancing with each other, on all levels, in all dimensions.

But this can only happen through healing.

Codependency and Inner Child Healing

The unbalanced love of a codependent comes from our wounded inner child. The deep and unprocessed wounds are causing us to either cling like crazy, or to push our Twin away, sometimes quite unconsciously, and often as if against our own will.

The wounded inner child feels she is not good enough. That’s what she learned, and that’s what her universe keeps reflecting unto her, until she is healed. Our bodies are not good enough, our education is not good enough, we are never competent enough, our identity (ethnicity, race, gender) is not good enough, basically, being our own self is not good enough.

The key to truly healing this wound is not to fight the harsh criticizing inner voice, or to forcibly numb it with alcohol, food, or over-achievement. Instead we have to try and rescue it – this inner voice is actually an integral part of us – a part which has been cut off from us, and is wounded and in pain. It is actually your inner child that is crying out for healing and comfort.

It is true that the twin flame journey is a process of ascension. There is no other way but up. But guess who is leading the ascension, guess who is the intuitive, the divinely connected part of ourselves? The inner child! The subconscious mind that acts out in ways that often perplex us. And so in order to go up, we have to go down into the basement of our pain, scoop up our inner child, heal her, and let her come out and play.

Healing and Fixing Others

I feel it’s easier to address the workings of the human mind by defining the many sub-personalities within us. And so let’s accept a working definition, that in addition to our inner child, we also have an inner parent. And if our inner child is unhealed, the inner parent will usually be over-responsible and out of balance, as well.

An over-protective inner parent reflects feelings of inadequacy. I feel inadequate, therefore, I will try to fix you. Everything is better than dealing with my own pain. Attempting to fix another person, to heal them against their will is the dysfunctional side of the inner parent. And if our inner child is not healthy, if our scared little boy or girl is sitting in a dark basement shaking with fear — our inner parent is guaranteed to be quite dysfunctional.

We need to balance our compassion with wisdom. If your child never gets to know that some things are unacceptable, he will most likely grow up into a monster. If you can’t say no to a child, who might be yelling and screaming and kicking to get his way, you are guaranteed to become the puppet of someone who doesn’t even have the maturity to know right from wrong. It is the same with our sub-personalities.

Trust. Trust that the Universe that brought you this far is not going to leave you now. Trust, above all, that they have their own capacity to heal. You don’t have to run out and heal their inner child against their will. Most times, all you can do is set the boundaries and do your own inner healing.

And you know what? It’s not only about you. Sometimes they will be our parent. The good parent who refuses to give us what we think is love. Even the unawakened, the seemingly irrational rejection by our Twin Flame  is doing us the greatest service of all — teaching us to love. To really love. To love ourselves, to love the Creator, to love the Beloved, to learn about what love really means. It is the service that their souls took on for us, a far greater service than what we can comprehend in the 3D, where we are fooled by appearances.

Why Is It Like This?

Meeting our twin flame is a powerful soul activation. So powerful that, in fact, all of our soul shows up, at least temporarily. I believe that only parts of our soul incarnate in each particular lifetime, to work on a specific issue or lesson. This is in part due to the nature of this world, where the 3D reality cannot “hold” the completeness of our soul. This changes when Twin Flames meet for the first time. The burst of energy that twins generate when they meet calls up the whole soul, from the highest heavens to the deepest dungeons.

This explains in part what happens during the separation process. Some parts of our soul that came up had been hijacked by dark energies, had been stuck in the lower levels, completely devoid of light and love. It is not just the inner child, it is those parts of our soul that are so desperate for even tiny morsels of light. Now that we have seen the light, we want our Twin to stay in the role of a Divine Lover for us. And they can’t, because they are not there yet, just as we are.

Until we clear this desperation, we are pretty much stuck. The Spirit needs to fill all the deep dark desperate corners of our soul. The parts of us that disconnected through trauma. The parts of us that have descended into hell, be it literal or metaphorical. The parts that are in utter terror to loose even the tiny bit of light, terrified to descend again into darkness. All of those parts come to the surface when we meet our twin. And the good news is — we get to heal those parts, no matter what.

As Above, So Below

If I feel really deprived and small in relation to my twin, and will put up with absolutely anything, this is also reflected in relation to the Universe. Somewhere deep within me is the perception of lack — that there isn’t enough coming from the Universe, that there isn’t enough love to go round, enough money to go round, enough jobs to go round. And the Twin is the reflection of what I think I deserve. Of my unworthiness.

If I see my relationship with my Twin that way, this is a reflection of my relationship with God. God is not there for me. Which, ironically, means I have to get it from my Twin. He is the best possible person I can get this from. And he can’t give me what I ask. This pattern only reinforces the already existing concept of lack. See, God doesn’t want to give me anything, he never wanted me to be happy in the first place!

We must learn to receive love directly from the Source. This is not about anyone giving love to us. This is about us becoming love. If we see love as something outside of ourselves, if we demand love from others, or blame them for not loving us, we are giving our power away.

We have learned from the society around us that love is out there, that we have to change to get love, not realizing that we can receive love just as we are. We don’t need to be anything other than who we are right now at this moment in order to be loved.

While we may understand this intellectually, and even think that we implemented it before in our lives, there are layers of our soul that have not integrated this concept. And these layers have shown up when we met our Twin Flame! The trick is to give up all our yearning and our sense of lack to the Universe, and ask to be filled. Ask the Universe to take over some of the parenting. You don’t have to do it all by yourself.

We need to heal our desperation to want our Twins in whatever way they show up for us. We don’t accept morsels. We are not undeserving of God, of love, and of deep communion. But to receive the higher, we need to say no to the lower. And for some of us, this is the hardest thing in the world. And there are no guarantees. But once we let go of the need to control the situation in 3D, once we heal that needy part of ourselves, the spiritual connection with our Twin Flame will shift. It will be like finding a pearl that is so precious that everything else pales in comparison. Everything we owned, needed and strove for becomes just an empty sound.

Ultimately, this is about us becoming One with the Universe.

 

 

 

by Inga Nielsen,
Guest writer, In5D.com

About the author: Inga Nielsen, MPH, brings in a unique combination of knowledge, metaphysical and practical, as well as deep-seated passion for healing and communion with the Divine. Inga assists people in connecting with their higher selves, spirit guides and high beings, through accessing the Akashic Records. Inga was trained in a variety of healing techniques, including hypnotherapy, inner child work, meridian therapy, breathwork, yogic practices and energy clearing. Inga is a Reiki master and a professional intuitive. She is here to assist people in raising their vibration and living from their soul, as facilitators of their own ascension. You can find out more about Inga on her website, healing-radiance.com.

NEW SUN UNITY: “Twin Flame Love and Reunion”

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As humans we intrinsically yearn for that rare love, twin flame, relationship with another who understands and somehow completes us on the deepest spiritual level; one who cherishes us always. The reason we yearn for this is because when God created our spirit out of His spirit, he separated each of us into a male and a female counterpart. Although cleaved in two, twin flames are never truly separate from each other and are still one, like two sides of the same coin. This resulted in our one perfect partner in spirit, our exact mirror twin flame, who is made as we are, of the same Presence.

I met my twin flame some years ago and as is typical of most reunions we parted again. This article will describe most of the common signs and stages in a typical twin flame reunion.

What Is A Twin Flame?

Our twin flame is our closest soul mate. We have other mates that are aspects of our soul, part of our soul family who are very much like us. Yet soul mates are never exact mirrors the way our twin is. The twin flame is truly our cosmic partner in spirit, who sometimes incarnates with us so that we can meet them in a physical body. Once a rare event, it is more common now due to humanity raising its consciousness.

There are multiple other aspects (soul mates) that arise from our soul, yet our twin flame is the closest to us and mirrors our exact soul characteristics and traits. They think as we think and feel as we feel. We tend to go through life feeling we are the “only one” or are unique. Being with a twin flame is meeting that other aspect of self, one that reacts to events the same way we do; and that can be disconcerting! I had issues when my twin possessed my own uniqueness, he was the same as me. He would always say everything exactly as I was about to say it to a group, only he would beat me to it. He would literally steal my conversation and that was something I didn’t really enjoy. Yet what is guaranteed with our twin souls is strong attraction and a deep spiritual connection, so there are plus sides to this relationship after some big adjustments regarding how we see our self.

How To Recognise A Twin Flame

Sometimes this recognition is instant and at other times it takes a little bit of time. Once twins catch each other’s attention, the bond can be overpowering, even if they are the last person we ever believed was suitable. Twins can have large differences in age and upbringing, or be from completely different walks of life (both true for me). This can be disconcerting and, I won’t lie, it can make things very rough going. Despite some big differences, there is a powerful recognition that can leave both twins surprised and puzzled.

When my twin first noticed me it was electric and took us both by surprise. It is often so with twin flames. If there is any doubt about them being the one flame for us, then they probably are not. The connection is undeniable and deeply spiritual, but can also be overwhelming and intoxicating. There can be elements of infatuation, but also very deep elements that are undeniable. Our spiritual twin seems beyond familiar as we get to know them, perhaps too familiar, yet we are always hooked by them nonetheless. For me it was like being with myself, which lent me the feeling it was not supposed to last; it was a weird feeling.

There are downsides to the intense attraction / attachment that is experienced because the thought of losing them can feel like death. Because we are very close to our twins in spirit, we get very close fast in the physical dimension. We have very strong emotional feelings about our spiritual counterpart and nothing we do can make that simply go away. Once we know this person, we become attached. Their soul is our soul, their blood our blood. Any time we allow our self to go too high, we open the possibility of falling to an equal low.

Problems And Differences

Believe it or not, these relationships are not supposed to be easy. We find our mate testing us on many levels and this relationship is not an easy ride by any stretch. We may well be in different stages of life, one person young and inexperienced whilst the other seasoned, divorced, with children or possessing a much different attitude to life. Our twins enter into our lives in order to stretch us and help us grow. Whilst this can be true of many romantic relationships, it can be especially true of soul mates and twin souls. Heartbreak is possible, as well as separation. Although it may be a short lived relationship, it will be one that takes a while to forget. My twin meeting was over twenty years ago, and whilst I have forgotten it now, I have met another who is so similar to my twin, astrologically and temperamentally, who possesses the exact same emotional problems. This second relationship cannot hurt me because my twin already hurt me in just the same ways.

There is a lot of idealistic information circulating on the net somewhat falsely claiming that twin soul relationships are perfect, with no ego, no arguing, no separation. But our twin counterpart is not a fairytale figure; they are human and have faults and issues. Although we can become improved by the twin relationship, separation is common and so are arguments. Imagine meeting the one person who can push your buttons precisely. Twins tend to mirror each other so perfectly that if we possess a fault that we dislike, we see the same fault in our twin and all hell can break lose. Twins are as mirrors to each other and will bring up issues of self judgment or self loathing that can then be transferred onto the twin mirror.

Sometimes a twin flame has led a selfish life or has mental issues that border on the dangerous. Not all issues vanish simply through the reunion of two flames. Some twins are promiscuous drunks, who crave freedom and don’t wish for a relationship. Some are already married and in love. A twin could be a nerd, our total opposite, or a social butterfly extrovert who parties endlessly. We may have nothing in common with them; they could be poor or rich, a bum who never showers, or a well-healed snob. Chances are they will be very different to what we would normally expect or look for in a partner. They could also come from a different geographical location, culture or religion, or from a completely different upbringing to our self.

How To Find Our Twin Flame

They usually have a way of finding us. What I mean by this is that they will simply appear when we least expect it. Our angels and guides set up the meeting and then sit back to watch the fireworks explode. The angels tell me that it is not possible to cause the meeting to occur, but we should have faith and hold a positive mental attitude and get on with life. Twin flame meetings usually occur when one counterpart is going through a life crisis. This dramatic, once in a lifetime crisis occurs first then the twin appears suddenly. They come in to help, although it may not always unfold this way depending on the twin. I wonder if they are called “flame” because of their propensity to burn us? They do not mean to of course, it is just that the chemistry is so intense. My feeling is we must not judge the experience. Not all reunions are romantic in nature, especially if the age difference is very large.

Telepathy – Knowing What The Other Is Thinking/Doing/Feeling

Telepathy is a given with our twin flame, it is a well known phenomenon which also happens with true soul mates who are part of our soul family. Their uncanny ability to see into each other is what can scare away any soul mate we meet in the flesh, because this dynamic is rare and one we don’t often have when interacting with other souls. The natural telepathy and familiarity can shock us to the core.

I had a strange experience when I met two soul mates as well as my twin all at once. The others are male and I am female. One part of my soul family was very down and out and was a drunk, although I simply could not judge him as easily as I might another – there is much compassion within soul families. Another was a young, handsome man my own age (both very young at the time) who already had several children with different girls. Then there was my twin, who was significantly older and a complete mess. The younger soul mate and I got along amazingly well as friends and could have been close friends if not for his fear. He would push me away then get close again. He was too young to understand the meaning of platonic friendship, like he was afraid a friendship was forbidden. This soul mate also became amazing friends instantly with my twin, and followed him around like a puppy.

There is telepathy between all soul mates. They can see right into us as no one else ever can. Mine ran from me and I regretted the lost potential of friendship. My twin flame also ran (more on the “runner” phenomenon in the next section).

It is the very closeness we crave that causes us or them to run in shock and fright. We need to adjust quickly when we first realise this other person can see into our very heart and mind; it is eerie at first. We cannot hide even the deepest secrets about ourself because telepathically and claircognizantly, they know All. They notice that we also know all. The immature or emotionally closed ones almost always run. The meeting of four members of my soul family was divinely organised for us, but it all fell apart because people got scared of the closeness. The telepathy and empathy is such that we know each other well after no time, and can feel what the other feels, even at a distance. Actual telepathic conversations can occur between twins, and some twins will sync themselves so that their moods match, or even their activities.

5 Twin Flame Stages / Phases

There are several well known stages to the twin flame relationship. I have found that these phases are almost exactly like what I went through.

1.  Preparation Stage

There is a preparation stage before the twins meet, where one if not both have a strong feeling or longing for someone to enter their life. This preparation comes from soul level so that both are prepped and ready for the meeting.

2.  The Meeting

The first meeting between twins usually occurs in the last place you would ever imagine. This phase is described as the initial blissful, perfect relationship. This happens for some but not all of us. In my case we skipped straight to stage three after a few weeks because my twin was recently divorced and bitter, and I “turned him down”. He became what is known as “the runner” almost from the start. I could not be forgiven for the misunderstanding that occurred, and he ran from the other half of himself.

3.  Disagreements and Fights

Phase Three is the inevitable Fighting that seems to occur in these relationships. It may be karma, it may be that age and cultural differences are just insurmountable, or it could be a horrible misunderstanding, or perhaps one twin simply likes to argue. As well, this phase commonly manifests as a cold, unbreakable silence consisting of one ignoring the other steadfastly, for months or even years. Though it seems strange that two parts of the same soul can’t get along, this is indeed what occurs with the typical twin flame relationship.

At this point, one twin becomes the “chaser” and the other one the “runner”. This position will most likely swap completely at some point when the former runner begins chasing, and the former chaser starts to run. The initial chaser is almost always the feminine counterpart. In my instance, I was the chaser for three years and kept bumping into my twin on the street. Each time he would duck away and literally run. As time passed and I moved on, he then became the chaser. For the next three years I continued to bump into this man, and although he made advances, I went to extraordinary lengths to run from him. In my heart I wanted to reunite, but the damage had been done and to this day I would still run.

4.  The Reunion

The reunion between twins is supposed to happen when their karma is balanced and both have forgiven the other. Any kind of reunion needs to conform to a freewill decision to revive something long dead, or perhaps only sleeping. After researching people’s experiences online, I have some evidence of couples who have experienced phase 4 & 5. Yet most stories I have read have ended with separation after a short period of being together. Even in the case of Doreen Virtue and her published book about her twin flame relationship, they later separated and are no longer together. In my own heart I know I will not be reaching phase four in this life. The fact is that most twin flames move on and eventually end up with other partners, although there are always exceptions. My angels hint to me that this phase takes place after we pass over from this life, and we make good again with our twin.

5.  Bliss

Phase Five is Eternal Bliss. I am not sure bliss can so easily be experienced on the Earth plane, but maybe it can if that is what one wanted badly enough and was able to achieve with their twin. As the  Earth continues to ascend, it will probably become much more possible. Most twin flame stories I have read describe the way one or both twins, during one of the above stages, moves on enough to only want to be “friends” (this is my experience too). Yet stage 5 can happen according to a smaller percentage of stories I have read. For some of us, stage five bliss with our twin happens after passing into the higher dimensions after this life is over.

The Purpose Of Twin Flame Relationships

Channeled material tells us there is a divine purpose to our linkups with our flame, a purpose that is relevant to this era and world as we prepare to ascend spiritually. Twin flame partnerships exemplify unconditional love and set up a template for the world. They are an example of true love to aid in humanity’s Ascension. If this is so, then many of us may have completed the task and simply moved on again, and maybe this is how it is meant to be.

 

 

 

 

~via NewSunUnity.com