ALEX MYLES: “Navigating the Pleasure and Pain of Twin Flame Connections”

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“Ultimately the twin flame connection is here to teach us about unconditional love and acceptance by showing us whatever we have the most difficulty in loving and accepting within others and ourselves.  It is easy to love the qualities that reside in the light, our greatest challenge is also being able to love and accept those that reside in the darkness.”

~Alex Myles

 

A Twin Flame connection is often defined by one thing: an instantaneous, intense and magnetic soul resonation.

However for many, despite the heightened emotions and strong longing to connect with a twin flame, the opposite usually happens, and instead of coming together they seem to move further apart.

When we live open-hearted and are highly sensitive, we recognize our twin flame immediately, as they seem familiar and their energy feels like what many describe as home.  However, the ultimate twist in this is that the other person often won’t recognize us, or if they do, they are stuck in denial.  It can sometimes feel like the closer we move toward our twin flame, the farther they move away.

The reason behind this is not a comfortable pill to swallow, but it is important to know so we can awaken and heal from the aching desire to unite with the person whom our heart craves.

Twin flames are not the same as us — they are our polar opposites.  This ignites immense fear, as we are innately terrified of what we don’t fully understand, so we subconsciously attempt to reject it.

Where one person is open and inviting, the other may be closed and unwelcoming of the energetic bond.  Our entire universe is made up of yin and yang opposing energy and we are often pulled toward the opposing side in order to achieve harmony and balance.

The tricky part with this is that our egos play a huge role in resisting these twin flame/yin yang dynamics as we have become conditioned to behave in ways that are limiting, demanding, judgmental, controlling or fearful.  Therefore, even though the one who is closed off at the heart center will still feel an undeniable attraction, that attraction may feel chaotic and full of friction as it evokes an array of emotions they are currently unable to manage and process.

We simply will not get close to a twin flame until the barriers within ourselves that were erected at a point when we felt a need to self-protect are finally broken down.

Despite what we may have previously come to believe, when we initially connect with our twin flame we are usually entirely unprepared for the emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of this meeting.

This is because our twin flame projects back at us all the things that we either do not like, do not understand or that we deny, reject, oppress and refuse to accept in our own lives.

Although we often turn a blind eye to the parts we dislike in our twin flame, our subconscious mind is aware and will work tirelessly to attempt to guard our heart by triggering us to behave in ways that cause separation and keep our twin flame out of reach.

The denial of the other person is ultimately a denial of ourselves, because although we may have tried to hide aspects of our personality out of fear that they are hideous and unacceptable, they still exist.

We are often left in total dismay when this happens as in our mind we may have hoped and expected our twin flame would be an identical match, reflecting the same qualities that we have and therefore making us feel validated, worthy and acceptable.  If we believe we have inner strength, courage, and confidence, and we feel secure and centered, we hope that our twin flame also reflects these same things back — only then do we feel that we’ve met our match.

Our primal instincts, on an evolutionary scale, encourage us to admire and gravitate toward certain traits and disregard others so that we receive the greatest chance of survival both for ourselves and our offspring.  While this was all well and good in the caveman days when we had to fight harsh extremes for daily survival, the things we desire, need and want in today’s world are very different from what we may have desired, needed and wanted thousands of years ago.

It is no wonder we struggle to co-exist harmoniously with a twin flame.  We desire and want certain things on one level, but on other levels we are drawn to the qualities our DNA is convincing us that we need in a partner.  When it comes to matters of the heart and soul, these expectations can cause us to fail miserably.

Our needs and wants filter down to the same thing — security.  Not just on a domestic level, but security within ourselves.

The one who is open-hearted will be desperate to connect on a heart level and pour all their affection and admiration over the person their heart adores.  The opposite partner, the closed-hearted one, will accept the outpouring of affection, but it will not hit them in the heart, it instead serves only their egotistical mind.  It is no wonder that the longer these two interact, the further away from one another they seem to get.

The ego stands between them and redirects these messages wherever it feels they are best placed in order to “survive.”  Therefore, although these two flames are on opposing ends of the scale and feel drawn to explore the connection further, there are subconscious underlying forces pulling them apart.

The more attention and admiration the closed-hearted person receives, the more they feel as though they are above the open-hearted one.  The ego convinces them they can forget this connection and instead meet a match who is equal to them on all levels, failing to see that the yin and yang — opposing but balancing qualities — are the exact ones needed for complimentary soul resonation.

The tricky part arrives when the illusions fade, the rose tints are off and the ego steps back. Then we see the situation with clarity:

A twin flame is simply mirroring all the tendencies that we perceive as weak and undesirable.

If we hold disdain for emotionally unavailable types, it is a sure bet that our twin flame will be emotionally unavailable to us.  If we despise people who are trapped in their ego, that is the exact manifestation that our twin flame will take on.  If we hate people who are arrogant and self-absorbed, yes, our twin flame will project those traits outwardly too.

We may not consciously accept that these characteristics are inherent in our twin flame, as we can become captivated with the image our imagination helped create, but when that illusion is torn down and reality hits, we start to see that our twin flame is not as “perfect” as we may have first believed.

Spiritually we are being asked if we are still willing to keep our heart, that is tempted to close, wide open knowing that the person we placed on a pedestal is simply a human — just like us — with a myriad of perceived and real flaws and faults.

Instead of suppressing our darkness and attempting to only rest in the light, it is essential that we embrace, integrate and balance all of our shades if we want to gain inner peace and receive the chance of connecting with this person.

We often feel compelled to only express the light parts of ourselves due to fear that we will be rejected if anyone sees the broken fragments beneath the surface.  However, in our terrified state we are also rejecting ourselves as well as those around us whose dark sides we witness.

The key to a twin flame soul connection is in accepting one another in our entirety and continuing to love regardless of all the imperfections that this person presents to us.

When we are able to love not just others but also ourselves, without conditions, expectations or attachments, we have then reached a heightened form of love.  The toughest and most challenging part is maintaining it.

There is a difference between a soul mate and a twin flame.  A soul mate is someone we share similarities with, learn from and communicate well with.  They are kindred spirits and we can usually co-exist harmoniously with them without being challenged too far outside our comfort zone.  These relationships feel natural and comforting and generally flow effortlessly.

A twin flame appears as our opposite incarnation and we learn continuously from the connection regardless of whether we are in close contact with them or not.  We usually struggle to co-exist with a twin flame as we are challenged beyond our comfort zone and these challenges trigger our deepest insecurities, beliefs, values, motivations, intentions and feelings.

We learn from a soulmate for our own higher good, but we learn from a twin flame for the higher good of the entire planet and collective evolution.

Ultimately the twin flame connection is here to teach us about unconditional love and acceptance by showing us whatever we have the most difficulty in loving and accepting within others and ourselves.  It is easy to love the qualities that reside in the light, our greatest challenge is also being able to love and accept those that reside in the darkness.

Both halves of the twin flame dynamic will struggle equally to accept the opposing traits of the other person.  As much as they feel a bond and are magnetized towards one another, there is also a strong undercurrent repelling and forcing them apart.

When we finally learn to release our past pain, our conditioned beliefs and the trauma that is causing obstacles, we can then begin to truly love and accept ourselves and one another exactly as we are.  The undercurrent pulling us away will weaken and we will stop subconsciously resisting the powerful and unique flow of unconditional, limitless love.

Until then, a twin flame connection may feel complicated, frustrating and will likely elude us.

 

 

~via ElephantJournal.com

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GUSTAVO CASTANER: “Should You Be With Your Twin-Flame?”

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“Unfortunately the great majority of people who know about twin flames believe that they have to be with their twin flame.  And because of the free will choices and/or the karma buildup this is near impossible.  But let me ask you this.  Would you rather be or try to be with your twin flame and end up in a dramatic, painful and non-functional relationship?  OR Would you rather be with someone who is not your twin flame and end up having the most fulfilling, higher loving and passionate relationship?”

~Gustavo Castañer

 

Today many are celebrating St. Valentines Day and you probably think that I’m going to tell you that being with your twin flame has to be the most romantic, passionate and spiritual thing you can experience…

Not really, let me explain.

If you do some research on twin flames on the internet you will find tons of dramatic and heartbreaking stories of people who have met their twin flames.

Instead of finding their true love many people find that a relationship with their twin flame most likely turns out to be like one of the following scenarios:

1)  They live on the other side of the world and being together is near impossible.

2)  The Runner-Chaser Karmic Loop — one person tries everything to make the relationship happen while the other one (usually the man) runs away.

3)  The Ultimate Karmic Mirror — both partners mirror each other’s karma like a magnifying glass and unbearable pain results from this.

And yes, there are the rare twin flame relationships stories that turn out to be the most higher loving and spiritually conscious, but these are extremely rare.

Why Are Twin-Flame Relationships Like This?

The first thing you need to understand is that when it comes to relationships, even twin flame relationships, each person has free-will.  Even though to one of them the twin flame connection is astronomically evident (pun intended) the other one might be oblivious.

People who are in twin flame relationships need to work on themselves 10 times more than people who are in any other type of relationship.  And usually there is one person that is very focused on clearing their own emotional baggage, transmuting their karma and growing spiritually while the other person is not (once again, usually the man).

Some will try desperately to rescue the other person but this only aggravates the problem.  It might not be easy but their free will must be honored.

The second thing you need to understand is that just because that person is your twin flame doesn’t mean that YOU HAVE TO be with them.  What many people are not aware of is that you are not supposed to be together in a relationship in ALL lifetimes.

Unfortunately the great majority of people who know about twin flames believe that they have to be with their twin flame.  And because of the free will choices and/or the karma buildup this is near impossible.

But let me ask you this.  Would you rather be or try to be with your twin flame and end up in a dramatic, painful and non-functional relationship?

OR

Would you rather be with someone who is not your twin flame and end up having the most fulfilling, higher loving and passionate relationship?

The answer is simple.  However, too many people get attached to the twin flame label.  Don’t get me wrong, I know there is a spiritual connection like no other but if it’s not meant to be then it’s not meant to be.  It takes two people to make it happen.

So if you find yourself in this twin flame predicament and you truly desire to be in a relationship then make yourself a priority and choose SELF-LOVE.

Don’t force the relationship with your twin flame or try to wait for them.  Continue to raise your frequency and focus your intent on attracting a partner that will want to be with you and work towards it as you do.

After all, you will meet your twin flame again. 😉  And at some point, sometimes during their life review, he/she will most likely realize what an incredible opportunity he/she missed to be with you.  Then on the next lifetime they will step up and do what it takes to find you and be with you.

In the meantime, make sure you enjoy this lifetime and cherish the wonderful experience that is being madly in love with someone who is madly in love with you.

Sincerely,

Gustavo Castañer

Founder of Ascended Relationships

 

 

~via AscendedRelationships.com

INSPIRED AWARENESS: “The Twin Flame Journey”

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The Twin rays or Twin flames are ONE cell from Creator Source, one soul, that in the origin was divided into two polarities, to experience the incarnations and know itself, embody and discover unconditional love in a long journey through the third dimension to finally return to Source as ONE, Ascended.

Throughout many lives they were incarnated, sometimes one of them, sometimes both, but particularly in the previous incarnation to Ascension both incarnate, in two opposite polarities, as it was in its origin.

Both will have a strong spiritual awakening in this incarnation, and the meeting occurs, in one way or another.

Their souls are preparing for their next reunion and merging.  Which is a process that is not easy, because all outstanding wounds they need to heal, by each one of them, will come to the surface.

They may be aware of the connection (both) or just one of them will.

Prior to that, they probably had experiences with kindred souls that will more or less prepare them with the energies of the next encounter with the true twin flame.

They are souls in service, and their meeting will have the purpose to serve to help to the rising of the planetary vibrations for the ascension of the Earth in general.  The union is very important because it is part of divine plan, for their energies are strong individually, but when they become a unit, their energy is healing at its greatest and higher potential, and is expansive.

But prior to this, they must have completed the healing process, both parties, because a meeting at the moment they are not prepared, could even be detrimental to both.

At 5th dimension level (since we are all multidimensional) both are already ONE, and are part of the Guide received, by both parts, when they really listen to their hearts.

 

 

~via inspiredawareness1111.wordpress.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “The Kundalini Awakening And Twin Flames Energy”

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Everyone has a twin flame and everyone has a chakra system; our chakra is our energy centers and the energy which runs through them is called the kundalini.  So what is the kundalini awakening and twin flames energy?

Whenever twin flames connect for the first time and spend time together, they feel the sensational bolts of energy run through them.  They feel the energy centers heat up.  This is one of the true twin flame connections.  When twin flames meet their chakras can activate, it feels like awakening.  What if my chakras didn’t activate?  Some say if your chakras don’t activate then you have not met your twin flame, which is untrue.

There are many reasons why your kundalini energy won’t flow through.  First, being not everyone has balanced chakras, in fact everyone has some of their chakras underactive or overactive even worse blocked, for kundalini to flow we need balanced chakras, however your chakras will still activate.

It is important for twin flames to heal together and go through the purification process, we know in our soul when we meet our twin flame, the soul recognition is more important than bodily energies.

Kundalini Awakening And Twin Flames Energy

This chakra activation is one of the symptoms of twin flame soul recognition.  We know that twin flames share the same soul signature and blueprint.  They are the two important patterns that help twin flames recognize each other.  The chakra and kundalini activation is just one of the steps to a twin flame connection.

When twin flames meet the chakra centers pull them closer to each other, this pull is even felt when you are thinking of your partner, it won’t matter how far away they are.  Now you have probably read stories of people meeting their twin flame and this magnetic pull is very apparent.

It’s very important to have the kundalini running through the energy centers.  This energy has the power to purify and clear congestions that may take place in our chakras.  Everyone has chakras that are either blocked or unbalanced; however the kundalini energy may still flow through your chakras.

When your chakras are clear of congestions kundalini can flow freely.  So it’s very important when the activation or awakening starts, as unwanted feelings and behaviors may emerge.  Unwanted feelings like remembering pain again of the past, until you have dealt with them and healed up from the pain, you can’t be near or with your twin flame.

We now know that kundalini awakening and twin flames activation is one of the recognition process and there are many others you may recognize.  Each of us have different experience meeting our twin flame, what’s true for one may not be for someone else.  We now leave you in Love and Joy.  Namaste.

~via SpiritualUnite.com

SOPHIE GREGOIRE: “Message for Twin Flames: You’ve Become Love — Its Vibration, Its Energy”

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The Twin Flame Community is learning a new way of loving and all is well.  This is a CONGRATULATIONS! message.

Until recently, you thought that either you love your Twin Soul, or you move on.  You thought that either you were going to build a life together soon, or it was never meant to be.

You believed that life is either Black or White. 

You thought, I commit to it everyday and I repeat my Twin Flame’s mantras — or it will never be.  You thought, it happens with Him / Her or love is gone.  You thought, even some days:  It’s Us — or I don’t want love.

You also thought… that love is simple and straightaway… you thought, He / She loves me and shows it — or they don’t love me, and this is it, this is over.

You thought: If they loved me they would do this or that.  If they truly felt what I feel, they would call now.  Yes, I know that sentences like those were in your mind.

In other words, your love was Conditional because it started with “If”.  You thought that love is demonstrated, or love isn’t.

Also, you thought that your happiness is found in the success of this relationship or isn’t found at all.  It was like — it works out or we all die.  You were writing a new Romeo and Juliet type of story.

There was drama and fear and pain in this love, because at that time you were giving all of your attention to it.  So all of your feelings were too much.  Life had lost its flare because life was only this, and this wasn’t working.

You were not strong enough within to see that you can have both — this and life, love without attachment, a divine heart but that doesn’t expect anything.

Your love was an exchange and as they were not replying — you wanted to take your love back, because to love when we love conditionally becomes too painful… if the beloved doesn’t seem to pay us back.

Also, you were attached to it.  You were so attached.  You could have died if they had said the wrong thing.  I do remember the pain in your eyes, the agony that you felt because they weren’t what you wanted and needed them to be.

You’ve hang on and cling to it so much.  It became your life at some point — your breathe, your good morning, your good night, your smile.

Things have changed, shifted even.  Now you know that it’s not what it used to be.  Now you can love, but as you don’t need love, even this love — you aren’t attached to it.

You love, but you just love.  You’ve forgotten about neediness, attachment, the chasers, the runners, the labels, your need to be rescued, your hyperfocus, your “It’s him or no one else”.  Your love comes from a new and very high energetic point.

You’ve forgotten all the wrong reasons that made you love.  The need, the void, the hurt.

Now it’s different, you just love because you love them and that’s the way things are, that’s the way you are.

It’s funny because now, you see this as an adventure again.  Like you used to, centuries ago.  An adventure of love.  In the meantime it became your life, or your pain, or your goal, or your sparkle, or you drama.  You were hyperfocusing, it was life or death, passion or blood — it was always too much but in many different ways, depending on the day.

It’s weird because you still love but you care less and less.  The OUTCOME?  You don’t need to know anymore.  You only love now, you’re a vibration, an energy.

You’ve attained the purity of it.  Now, you just LOVE.

You almost think, that you’ll love even if nothing new happens — even if life between you and them never unfolds in the physical.

You almost think, that Happiness can be found in other arms.  It’s funny how life has changed.  But this, is because you Love them as a pure feeling.

We’re proud because, you don’t love in order to receive anymore.

You just love, that’s your vibration. Y ou love them, and in the meantime — life is.

Congratulations!!

 

~via TheTwinFlameJourney.com

BRANDI NEAL: “New Moon in Aquarius 27 January: What It Means For You And Your ‘Twin Flame’ Connection”

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If you believe in astrology like I do, you’ll want to pay close attention this week: When the new moon is in Aquarius on January 27, some interesting things are going to happen with your twin flame.  Astrologers report that the new moon, coupled with an Isis and Osiris conjunction, makes this time ripe for a twin flame evolution.

What exactly is a twin flame?  Many people confuse twin flames with soulmates, but the reason why is somewhat understandable.  Whereas soulmates are our perfect match, twin flames are just the opposite — our perfect mirrors.  In an article in Thought Catalog, Brianna Wiest explains, “Relationships with twin flames tend to be on-again-off-again, intensely passionate, and sometimes intensely painful.  Twin flames help us awaken like nobody else, and they ultimately serve to show us who we really are.”

According to an article by Alex Myles on Elephant Journal, Isis (feminine/moon) and Osiris (masculine/sun) are two separate asteroids that represent the Egyptian twin flame energies.  They are twins who were fathered by the Earth God, Geb, and born from the womb of Nut, the Egyptian Night Sky Goddess.  According to Miles, “The significance with Isis and the current twin flame energies is that she shows us the power and force of her feminine energy when she set her mind on retrieving, repairing and healing her loved one’s body and soul.” 

Having someone mirror your behaviors back to you is not always a pleasant experience, and twin flame relationships tend to be rife with difficulty.  On the other hand, feeling like you’re really truly being seen for the first time by another person can feel amazing.  Either way, though, it can be somewhat complicated: As Miles writes on Elephant Journal, “Due to these sacred partnerships causing a variety of emotions to arise within us, we can find ourselves questioning whether the person we feel bonded to is someone we want to have as a permanent fixture in our lives, as they often bring extreme emotional turmoil.”

You might be wondering, does everyone have a twin flame?  The answer is yes, though just because someone is your twin flame doesn’t mean you’ll end up together.  Some people don’t know about the concept at all, or they outright reject it.  For others, the relationship may be too intense to sustain.

“People can feel terrified about the strong bond felt between twin flames, particularly when the connection is intense without a romantic relationship taking place first,” Miles explains.

So how does the new moon fit in?  For the Isis and Osiris conjunction to occur in tandem with a new moon is extremely rare.  The new moon is also a time for new beginnings, so it would make sense that if your twin flame has been absent, they may show up again.  If you haven’t met them yet, this could be when you’ll cross paths.

If you have already met your twin flame, be mindful of how you interact with them during the new moon Jan. 27.  If you haven’t met your twin flame yet, pay attention to any intense connections you may make during the new moon, like someone you feel like you’ve known in another life, or someone you’re magnetically drawn to.

And if you don’t believe in this sort of thing, maybe it just hasn’t happened to you yet.

 

 

~via spiritualunite.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “4 Signs You Have Met Your Twin Soul”

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What are the signs you have met your twin soul?  A twin soul connection is not like a soul mate; we can have many soul mates; a twin soul connection is unique and profound and there is only one twin soul.

It has been written that our soul is divided into two, so Source can experience duality and mortality on earth.  Since Source does not have an equal, dividing itself into two was necessary, eventually the two would meet and unite again.

Whether you experience a twin soul connection or not, it does not mean you are not complete; Soul and Source are always complete, it’s just our human self senses the incompleteness.  It’s crucial for one to be complete from within.

There are many signs you have met your twin soul.  I am going to list the most important ones, let’s dive into those shall we?

Signs You Have Met Your Twin Soul

Acceleration Of Personal Development

When twin souls do meet, the instant connection and spark are usually followed closely by a prompt development of personal evolution for both twin souls as a whole and individually.

Twin souls are mirrors, reflecting aspects of the self which are deep and significant when twin souls meet the energy between them will uncover gifts from within, a true twin soul connection has a purpose to teach or heal the world.

Twin Souls Are Eternal, You And I Are Old Friends

Whenever you meet your twin soul, the connection will be unlike anything you have experienced before, although the intensity of this connection is different there is still a familiarity about it, it feels beautiful in your soul to have this connection again.

You instantly feel oneness with this person and the love you feel is vast.  You feel you have known this soul for infinity.

Runner And Chaser Chaos

Twin soul connection is not for the fainthearted; many don’t want it and they run from it.  Could it be they are not ready?

This type of relationship can either be great with incredible love or it can crash and burn.  Things don’t go well when twin souls have yet to ascend into higher spiritual vibrations, they are not willing to let go of old beliefs and habits.

Sex Is On A Different Level

Because the soul level connection is intense, sexual experience is unlike anything you have experienced before.

Twin soul sexual experience may go beyond the physical, for example, astral sex.  The astral sex experienced is intense, like the feeling of one’s spirit is merging with the other, astral sex can take place with or without physical intercourse.

Although sexual intercourse is personal, a time for merging, however with twin soul there are other attributes where by looking into each other’s eyes can reveal other places in space and time, either past or future.

Your twin soul experience might be different and the relationship can have numerous outcomes depending on your life path.  These are the main traits of the astonishing twin soul connection.

 

 

~via SpiritualUnite.com