STACY VAJTA: “How Do You Know What Is Truly Aligned With You?”

There’s a shift in consciousness happening that’s moving people into their own energetic integrity; living life in alignment with their heart and spirit.

How we live, what we choose to do, the relationships we foster, and even the work we do are all being assessed these days for how aligned they are with our deepest truth; how they support us in moving forward in our own spiritual evolution and what we do right here, in our everyday lives.

The idea of alignment soothes the soul. Yet understanding what is in agreement with us — the right thing to choose — is often a sticking point for people. I see this all the time in my work. People know what they don’t want but have a whole lot of confusion around what is desirable… and even more so, what’s truly aligned.

How do you know what is truly aligned with you?

The other day, someone asked me why I thought a project I had started fell flat. And I shared how I realized I was doing things that lived up to some idea outside of me; a point of reference my dad held that I’d never accomplish what I really wanted to.

I had deferred my own knowledge about myself to his assessment for so long, it had become not only a belief of mine but a deeply woven external reference point that I had to extract myself from to change the belief and start making more aligned choices that did work for me. Although at the time, my initial choice felt aligned because I was so energetically enmeshed in the energy of this point of view. There it is though. When our choices are not aligned, the bottom line is with our own inability — at the time — to recognize, choose, and live our own truth because we are energetically enmeshed in something other.

Energetic Reference Points.

I talk about energetic reference points in my work a lot. They’re those energetic stakes in the sand that we anchor to, that help us assess something or compare things to. These energetic reference points are like signposts, helping us to both understand, and relax into, how we move through the world.

Yet, when we’re working off an energetic reference point that’s external — stemming from outside of us and our truth — we’re actually working off of other people’s ideas, energies, and needs.

Our energetic sensors recognize what’s familiar to that referencing system. We’ll gravitate to what emotionally fits and feels aligned with that. We’ll use that external energy (a.k.a. information) as a source of reference to help us make decisions and understand things. We’ll tie our energy to that and let it influence our choices.

And, in the process, we often forget our own internal point of reference, which helps align us with what we want and need: our true story.

Confusion.

When you get your most confused, it’s because you’re working off of this external energetic reference point. Deep down, you know something is off… but what? You know this energetic signpost so well. You may have even been working off of it your entire life.

Yet this nagging need for alignment is still there. This inner conflict begins to play out between the need to find alignment and the energetic information coming from outside of you, fueling your process. You get lost in how to understand yourself and what you need.

It can be challenging to let go of working off of someone else’s energetic point of view — be that your family, society or someone who impacts you in some way. To do so, you have to let go of what has “externally” helped you establish meaning, and now find your original energetic signpost within yourself. You have to own up to what is you and stand in the power of that. Anchoring back into you.

Shifting back into your own internal energetic referencing, like anything, begins with awareness. You must first recognize that you are using someone else’s energetic universe and ideas to fuel your own decisions.

Next comes reconnecting to your own passions and ideas. You must claim your own truth, despite the fears of falling short in someone’s eyes, disappointing someone, feeling ashamed for choosing you, or any other myriad of healing that needs to happen to transform what has kept you from feeling safe enough to choose you in the first place.

And then, you must do the work of growing into the person you must be, to live your truth through what you do.

This isn’t about cutting cords. It would be really easy to think that perhaps you could just cut an energetic cord to someone (or their ideas) if their energy was connected with you. But that’s way too simple of an idea. Sorry. I really hate to burst the bubble on that concept.

If you are working off of someone else’s energy — their energetic reference point and not your own — it’s because you, for some reason, have not yet had the ability to recognize and claim your own truth. You have unconsciously deferred your energy and your choice to someone, or something, else.

To find alignment, you must first come back to you. You must first know yourself and be able to use that as your gauge for what feels aligned with you. The signs. You’ll know alignment when you feel ease and grace, but more importantly, you’ll recognize alignment when you establish your own internal energetic referencing system that guides you into choices that deeply resonates with your truth.

If you aren’t owning your truth and working off your own energy — and using that as your reference for what is real and right — alignment will allude and confuse you.

I love the phrase, “If a door isn’t opening, it’s not your door.” If things aren’t working for you, then there’s something that’s still out of alignment; there’s still some energy that you are using as your own source of assessing what choice to make, that is not your truth. Don’t keep randomly trying new doors. Find the means to do the inner work to assess where you are working off of some external reference point.

Shift back into you; claim you. Then, you — and energetically only you — can begin to choose what is aligned from a place of clarity and energetic integrity.

 

~via Wake-UpWorld.com

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CHING HAI: “The Ego Separates Us From Our True Self”

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Wisdom is really important; and ego, we have to cut it.  The less ego, the better.  It is a pity because we don’t really need this ego.  The ‘I’ that knows everything already, the ‘I that is expert in this and specialist in that we don’t need all that.  Because if we don’t have them, then we are more smart.  We will become more intelligent, smarter, really.

The only reason I can do many things well and that everyone likes is because, perhaps, I have very little ego or none.  I keep checking myself to see if any ego pops up.  Perhaps the reason that your ego doesn’t go away is because you don’t have the chance to rub with other people, like no one checks you, no one fixes you; no one tells you what’s wrong with you because you don’t do anything with other people.  Or, you are in a very high position outside in the society, like you are a boss or some director, manager, whatever; you are the one who tells everyone what to do all the time, and no one ever talks back at you.  Also, sometimes even as a practitioner, you have no chance to be corrected by anyone else.  But don’t be offended; cut that ego off.  Okay?

It’s not enough that you meditate.  You’ve got to be exposed to many situations to grow up.  You have to go out and also react to the reality in order to have more intelligence.  Meditation helps also, but if you don’t have a chance to polish it, then it doesn’t work.

If anyone at all scolds you, or even wrongly accuses you, be thankful for that person.  That’s good for your humility, actually; and even if it’s not true, it’s also good for you.  At that time, you check yourself out and then you know how much ego you have.  If at that time you just still say, “Oh, I’m such a good person, why does he say like this and like this?”  And you complain all day, and then you’ll begin to hate that person, then still it’s no good.  Anyway, if someone corrects you in any way, that’s really good for you.  You learn from that mistake, and you become better and better.

No one is bad, just ego is bad.  Truly the egos is the worst enemy of everyone.  Many people like to keep it, that’s the problem.  If you listen to this ego too much, you forget your great Self, your intelligent Self, your wise wisdom Self.  That is the only problem.  It’s a pity if you keep listening to the ego, like you know too much and all that.  Then you don’t know your real Self.  The main problem is the ego separates us from our true Self, from the one who truly knows everything.  If we just think we know everything about this world, then we don’t know our Self.  That’s the greatest problem with the ego.

The ego is the greatest enemy.  Sometimes the ego destroys a marriage, destroys a relationship, destroys a friendship, destroys the love between mother and son, or father and daughter even, because the ego causes conflict all the time — doesn’t want to do anything that is pleasing to the mother or father or pleasing to the partner, just wants to do the thing that causes trouble.  Day after day like this, if a partner always causes trouble, then of course the relationship is broken.  You cannot remember anything but bad things about each other — bad souvenirs, bad happening, bad events, bad result — and never good.  So, of course the relationship cannot live this way, the marriage cannot continue.

This is just physically speaking.  Talking about the spiritual level, of course you’re even far away from your Self.  If you’re clinging to your worldly know-how a little bit, even if you don’t even know enough and you think you know a lot, and you just cling to that, then you don’t know your Self.  For example, if you have something in front of you, like even just a thin curtain, you cannot see yourself through the mirror.  But if that thin curtain falls down, then you can see yourself clearly.  This is the ego problem.  It just stands between people; it stands between your real Self and anything else that comes near you.  Then it makes everything damaged or ruined or distorted; it is not the real thing anymore.

It’s a pity.  This is not the thing we should keep.  It’s our enemy.  The little knowledge that we think we know — that is not our true knowledge.  The ego is really hard to get rid of, very, very hard; and it ruins many things in this world.  It causes war.  It causes enemies and hatred, and ruin of nations.  The people who have no ego never want to war with anyone because they can see through the uselessness of those things.  So, ego is the worst enemy of everyone in this world.

Animals, they don’t have ego.  True dogs, for example, don’t have any ego.  They are so pure, that’s why they can love you every minute.  Even if you just scold them, they come with wagging tail immediately, the moment you come and love them.  They never hold any hatred within their heart for a second.  You can see that.  So if you want to see the egoless being, look at the dog.  Truly it’s like that.

Most animals don’t have ego at all, until humans interfere and ruin their nature.  That’s the problem.  We humans not only ruin ourselves by our little so-called knowledge of the world, but we also ruin nature, and we also ruin animals.  We force them into crazy behavior.  I observed it all and I know it.  It’s the truth.  I’m not just telling it from books — it is truly like that.

 

 

~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com