MATEO SOL: “12 Signs You’ve Lost Your Authenticity and Are ‘Selling Out'”

Authenticity is a big buzzword these days.

“Be more authentic,” “honor your authenticity,” “find your authentic self” — we hear these phrases scattered all over the internet and spoken about everywhere.

But what does being authentic mean? And most importantly, how can we tell when we’re being inauthentic — also known as “selling out”?

What is Authenticity?

Authenticity is the state of simply being yourself, listening to who you really are, and making decisions that align with your beliefs and values. Authenticity at its core is about deeply accepting all that is ‘you’ and honoring it above ALL else.

What is Inauthenticity (i.e. Selling Out)?

Inauthenticity, on the other hand, is about placing external things above your genuine values, needs, dreams, and artistic vision. When we ‘sell ourselves out’ we are essentially placing all of the most important parts of ourselves up for auction. Instead of making decisions based on our genuine beliefs, values, and personal style, we make decisions based on how much money, attention, fame, or acceptance we will gain from other people.

Examples of Authenticity vs. Inauthenticity

Sometimes reading examples helps to flesh out abstract concepts like authenticity. Here are a few examples taken from real life:

An artist has been contacted by a large publishing agency. They would like to mass produce her art but on the one condition that she change the titles and descriptions. Deep down, the artist knows that the titles and descriptions of her art are intrinsic to her work. She refuses the publishing agencies offer. She has made an authentic choice.

A father sees how gifted at writing his teenage son is. But instead of encouraging his son to pursue a career in writing, the father pressures his son to study business and accounting because it is the “safe” choice. The son then dutifully studies business and accounting in university. Both father and son have made inauthentic decisions.

A life coach who specializes in online mentoring wants to grow her business. In order to get more clients, she focuses solely on what is trendy and popular and writes/talks about those topics. She begins to lose touch with her original vision. She has become inauthentic.

A company is pressured by investors and shareholders to change its philosophy in order to be more “hip,” appeal to the new generation and make more profit. The company refuses to compromise their philosophy. They have made an authentic decision.

12 Signs You’ve Lost Your Authenticity and Are Selling Out

We are not perfect people. Perfection is an illusion. Therefore, it is guaranteed that at some point in your life, you will make an inauthentic decision that compromises your values, vision, or beliefs. It’s just part of being human!

Although we can’t be perfect, we can strive to be more conscious. Self-awareness and honesty are the two key qualities we need to prevent ourselves from slipping into bad choices.

If you’re concerned that you might be “selling out,” read the signs below. They will help to either confirm or challenge your feelings:

  • Your top priority is making bucket loads of money

  • You’re obsessed with getting new followers, fans or subscribers (e.g. on social media)

  • You let others make decisions for you

  • You let others dictate who you are + who you ‘should’ be

  • You follow the crowd and do what everyone else is doing

  • You always follow trends even if they don’t make sense to you

  • You reveal only what makes you look good

  • You copy other people and their style/lifestyle

  • You ignore your gut feelings and intuition

  • You wear a mask around others
    You’re scared to be vulnerable and express your true feelings, thoughts, or values (which may be unpopular)

  • You make decisions based on how much attention, fame, money or acceptance you’ll receive rather than your genuine beliefs, values, or vision

Take a few thoughtful moments to make a serious assessment of the list above. Evaluate each point with an honest heart.

How many can you relate to?

How to Stop Selling Out

 

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”

~B. Brown

 

I want to make a clear distinction here. There is a difference between selling yourself and selling out.

Selling yourself, in business and career fields, is about highlighting your genuine strengths and gifts, and offering those to the world. Selling out, on the other hand, is about compromising your personal integrity and letting external things drive you instead of internal qualities.

Also, not everyone has the liberty of making authentic decisions — but I want to emphasize that these situations are literally survival situations. For example, if a small business owner from an impoverished country was approached by a wealthy businessman who wanted to invest in and change his company, do you think it would be smart to decline? In certain environments and situations, making choices that go against our creative vision is essential in order to survive. But if you’re blessed to live in more fortunate circumstances where you’re not literally faced with starvation or anything else equally serious, then making authentic decisions is an intelligent way to live life.

Why is being authentic intelligent? Because you are listening to your heart and nurturing your soul. Money, fame, adoration, and approval from others will quench your ego’s need for safety and control — but that only lasts for so long. Soon, you will be left with a big, empty, gaping hole inside. The true joy, inner peace, and fulfillment come when you are living your truth and putting your essence out into the world.

So how do you let your essence — your passions, perspectives, and values — guide you? Here are some ideas; many of which I have discovered across my own authenticity journey:

1. Pay attention to how the decisions you make feel physically. Do you feel uncomfortable, heavy or dark sensations? Or does your body feel light and energized? Unlike the mind, the body cannot lie. Your body is the best lie detector out there. If you are about to make a decision that does not align with your values, your body will immediately feel and express that. Pay attention to warning signs such as heaviness in the heart area, tensed muscles, lightheadedness, cold shivers, and even physical cringing. Your physical warning signs will be unique to you (and can’t all be listed here), so search for them diligently.

2. Get your priorities straight. At the end of the day, what will TRULY fulfill you? Think about this question very carefully. Will you ultimately be happy with truckloads of followers, clients, money, or a lavish lifestyle, without feeling like you’ve stayed true to yourself? Money is important, don’t get me wrong. But how much money do you actually need in order to be happy and feel fulfilled? You might also like to explore what your main driving forces are: are you driven by power, success, fame, wealth or your individual and unique style, talents, passions, visions, and desires to make an impact? Focus on nailing down your main motivating force and ask yourself, “Is this healthy? Is this aligned with who I truly am?”

3. Explore inauthentic areas in your life. Intentionally carve out time and space to assess your life – that might even mean just sitting here as you’re reading this article and doing a bit of quiet reflecting. Think about areas in your life that you’re unhappy with. Have you lost your authentic voice in that area … or is the issue something else altogether? This process takes honesty. Write down every choice, commitment, and behavior that feels out of alignment with your deepest passions, perspectives, and values.

4. Make the hard choices. Once you’ve identified the inauthentic areas of your life, it’s time to act. You will need to carve out a plan — possibly multiple plans — to regain a sense of personal integrity. Ask yourself questions such as, “What must absolutely go and what can stay?” “What is true to me and what is false?” “What options do I have?” “What is the potential loss and gain in this situation?” “What is the best scenario and worst scenario?” “What is my plan A and plan B?” “What am I clinging to for dear life?” Use a tool like journaling to help you get out your thoughts, feelings, and plans in a coherent, organized, and structured way.

5. Integrate the experience with self-compassion. Once you have made the necessary change, it’s time for reflection. How did it feel to make such big (or small) changes? What parts of you felt threatened? What did you find it easy to let go of and difficult to surrender? How does it feel to walk your own genuine path? How can you avoid making inauthentic decisions in the future? These are all the kind of vital questions you’ll benefit from asking and exploring. Most importantly, integration is about accepting our humanness and all the frailty that comes along with it. Embrace your mistakes, forgive yourself, and let your hard-earned lessons make you stronger and wiser.

In this loud, confusing, and overwhelming world, it can be easy to slip into the role of selling out your integrity and authenticity to gain power, fame, or money. We are bombarded with messages from the media, social media, our colleagues, and even our friends and family members to be anything other than what we are. But in order to live fulfilled and soul-driven lives, we need to put a firm foot down. We need to learn when to say “no” and forcefully draw the line and protect our integrity.

I hope this article has inspired you to preserve your artistic vision, inner values, or deeply held passions. What makes life beautiful is how unique and varied it is. I hope you share your own unique flavor of authenticity with the world!

What is your experience with selling out? Do you have any tips to share surrounding integrity and authenticity?

Finally, I’ll leave you with a final quote. Tell me in the comments, do you agree or disagree with this statement below?

“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”

~Andre Gide

 

~via WakeUp-World.com

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ELVA THOMPSON: “The Awakening of the Spirit and the Journey to Authenticity”

We live in the Information Age — a fast digital reality of gloss and glitter — a stage show with plot and purpose specifically designed to keep us in a constant state of physical stimulation — lots of things are on offer in this electrical paradigm from toothpicks to silicone sex dolls and everything imaginable in between.

The wrong direction

Locked up in our cities of concrete and glass we have become fast ‘everything’ junkies living our lives through facebook, twitter, phones and ipads. We have traded the natural world for a digital copy and given our minds away to computerized numbers and codes.

If we wish to go into the future with any vestiges of humanity left… we’d better wake up to our Spiritual Self. Wake up to our multi-dimensional heritage and take back our minds from the imposter that rules our lives… the voice in our heads that whines and undermines.

Species in crisis

Estranged from nature, programmed by fear based religions and hijacked by technology, mankind and his planet have reached a tipping point. We are a species in a spiritual crisis. We can either stagnate with the hive mind — become a chipped matrix clone — or turn inward and explore spiritual reality.

In a Duality there are two kinds of awakening: Physical and Spiritual.

Physical awakening takes place when we realise we’ve been duped by the guys that run the stage-show — the educational, legal and political systems are all about controlling our minds, using our energy and taking our money — and the financial markets are just one gigantic ponzi scheme… and we are not invited to share in the profits.

Friendships go down the drain

Most of the time our new revelations of fact and fiction don’t sit well with our family and friends… and the hive mind is quick to react with denial and anger when its belief system is undermined or challenged. Years of friendship can quickly go down the drain into the gutter of the past, marriages break up and families get divided. But it is what it is, and when you know the truth about our world, there’s no turning back the page or pressing the mental delete button.

Awake is here to stay in a world of sleepwalkers, and even some of those people who have woken up to the physical lie are still spiritually asleep.

The Awakening of the Spirit

Spiritual awakening is far more complex that physical awakening because it deals with the unknown, unseen side of our nature. And, like all cultures, we get the inherited spiritual thought forms and fairy stories programmed into our consciousness: ghosts and monsters, witches and ghouls and things that go bump in the night. And, to top it all off, we get the religious programming of devils, demons and lakes of fiery brimstone to frighten us into mental submission.

A priest on our reservation asked one of the Lakota elders if he knew about the devil. The old boy replied. “You tell me. You brought him over.”

In all of ‘old time’ faerie stories there is a dark understanding of what awaits beyond the veil and in this climate of confusion and hate, we need to proceed on our journey into spiritual reality with caution.

Discernment in the search for meaningful connection

Waking up takes time, and in our eagerness and longing for a deeper, more meaningful connection with the spiritual side of our life, we are vulnerable to predators both physical and energetic. The internet is a cess pool full of dark magic and agendas… and most of the smooth glitzy sites pushing all things spiritual are traps for the unwary. We have to be on our guard and not give our minds away to some charismatic dude in his digital cloud castle who doesn’t practice what he preaches.

Did we make a quantum jump without knowing

We have all kinds of folk in our lives — family and friends, people we work with, our mates down the pub… and there comes a time when we suddenly realise how shallow and superficial their lives are… and how shallow and opinionated our lives were before we woke up.

Where we used to be in with the in crowd, we now find we have little in common with their status quo thinking. We become withdrawn… locked up in our minds with no one to talk to about the ‘stuff’ going on in our heads. This can lead to depression and despair… we wonder what is happening and may even doubt our sanity.

…But what has actually happened is our awareness has shifted — expanded… and the people around us have stayed in the same place of standing still.

It’s almost like we have taken a quantum jump without knowing it.

Are we standing quietly in the new life?

The experiences we have in life make us who we are and as rough as it can be… every dark cloud has a silver lining. Our dogma and conditioning fall away when we throw ourselves into life and live it… in all its darkness and light — its joy and sorrows — its ugliness and beauty…

Reflect and grow

Making mistakes in this world is all part of the learning process — a chain of events — cause and effect that has brought us by whatever road to the point of awakening Now… so cosmically it would seem there are no mistakes and our destiny awaits… however we try to avoid it.

The Journey to Authenticity

The journey into the world of the spirit is a voyage into authenticity — into a knowing born of experience and not some second-hand news. But spiritual reality doesn’t happen to us — we have to happen to it. We have to want it… not in some half-hearted manner but with all of our being. And, if we are going to catch the beyond visible light bus that’s going to take us out of here — we’d better be ready to board.

Until next time….

 

About the Author

Elva Thompson was born in England in 1947 and moved to Rosebud Lakota reservation in 1987. She is the author of the Heartstar Series; Book One: The Key made of Air, and Book Two: The Gates to Pandemonia. Her other interests include organic gardening, ancient phonetic languages, sonic sound and their application in the healing arts. She is also a medical intuitive and teaches sonic re-patterning using sound, colour, and essential oils. Elva Thompson is on Amazon Author Central @ amazon.com/author/heartstar

 

~via WakingTimes.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “The Body Is A Human Space Suit For Your Soul”

We are souls wearing human space suits.

We are not going to die when our body does not exist anymore, our souls will keep being alive, just like the souls of everyone else. Every one of lives in order to experience such density and reality; every one of us is on some adventure or journey.

Every person has his or her destinies. There are the ones who are going be aware of the reality, while there are the others that are not.

We are all awake; our souls are here for help, together with a lot of other souls. The purpose of every person here is to help in saving humanity from dark times which descended on every one of us. We are also here to offer help to the ones who want to be awake.

We have to remember that we are all one, so hurting others means hurting ourselves, or judging other people means that we judge ourselves too. We can see in other people what is there in our hearts, but not simply in theirs. For example, when we practice understanding and love, we are going to receive the same back.

Our life is tough and challenging; it drains us or even takes away the empathy and humanity within us. Every one of us comes from birth, or every one of us is conditioned to fear of others and of ourselves too, and we are all crushed or lose sight of our real selves. The self-esteem within us will also diminish; the decisions we make will come from some miserable place.

Moreover, we are controlled and manipulated from birth. The true power within us is taken away and hidden. We will not be able to be our real selves ever, and we will keep these selves, and also our feelings hidden, or locked away, being afraid to represent ourselves differently or stand out, or speak out, and even say our feelings or being afraid to listen to our own hearts.

We eat contaminated foods, drink contaminated water, get injected with some poisonous substances or get sprayed with certain chemicals, and we take dangerous medicine. In fact, all of this will keep us under control and enslaved, because those that are ill are much easily controlled than those that are healthy.

However, we may still be alive and find the love deep inside our hearts. Also, darkness is probably very afraid as it uses all those methods in order to subdue us and keep us down or under its control.

The darkness also brainwashes people with movies, TV shows, news programmes, newspapers and magazines, books, or something else, but people will discover the truth despite all.

It is afraid that people are going to discover the truth, so it stands in every corner, cowering and frightened.

It was smart for some time, but its end came as we started shining our lights, shining through it and lighting up the souls, our planet and also our universe for everyone to see.

Truth is simply the truth, and nothing has the ability to change it, nothing may get on its way or hide it. It is going to shine brighter above every life and untruth. And finally, the truth is always going to be the winner. It is how it is.

And finally, the darkness is aware of this, but it still tries to hide everything from us.

It will try to cause us damage and destroy us. We can feel the coming of the day. We can see the shining of the light, and we can see the changing of the energy. This will be our time of shining.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Your Guardian Angels Communicate With You — These 6 Subtle Sensations Reveal Their Presence”

Are you trying to connect with your Guardian Angel? Do you feel that you are not able to receive their messages?

Well, the thing is that maybe your Guardian Angel is reaching out to you but you aren’t realizing it. Here are some of the different ways in which your Guardian Angel is trying to send you a message through touch; so you can actually feel these messages as they have a physical manifestation:

1. Embrace Or The Angel Hug:

Sometimes when you are trying to connect with your Guardian Angel, you might feel as if someone is hugging you. Yes, you might feel as if someone is holding your hands gently and giving you a warm loving embrace. Well, that’s a sign that your Guardian Angel is around you and trying to help you out. This usually happens when you are very stressed and tired and the Angel wants to show that they are around you to help you get better. So, it’s their unique way of telling you that you are important to them and thus they care for you enough to give you a warm loving hug.

2. A Warm Feeling:

If you are trying to connect with you Guardian Angel and you begin to feel that the temperature around you is rising, this means that they are around you. Yes, they want to literally make you feel warm and this is one way in which you can realize that they are around you and acknowledging that you’re longing to connect with them.

3. A Current Of Electrical Power:

Sometimes you may also feel a current of electrical power. This also means that they are around you. This electrical power may just affect your body but not in a negative way. It may shock and stun you and it might actually be very powerful. But don’t worry, it is just a sign that your Guardian Angel is around you. They are just making sure that you know and recognize their presence more than ever and this is why they are using a strong sign to tell you about their presence.

4. Angelic Wind Or Breeze:

You might also feel the presence of you Guardian Angel in a very easy breezy way; yes; actually with an angelic wind or breeze around you. The Guardian Angel may just be trying to tell you that they are hearing you and assuring you of their love and affection. Also, the breeze can be a way of soothing you and bringing peace and good wishes in your life. The breeze is a sign of how your prayers are being heard and good things are coming your way.

5. Liquid Sensation:

Guardian Angel may also give you a sensation as if a thick liquid is falling on your body. It might feel like honey and this liquid sensation is also proof that your Guardian Angel is around you and trying to tell you something that you don’t know about.

6. Feeling As If Someone Is Sitting Beside You:

Sometimes you may also feel that someone is sitting with you while you are struggling to connect with your Guardian Angel. Well, that’s none other than the Guardian Angel themselves. It may seem creepy but it surely isn’t. There is no one that you can trust more than your Guardian Angel. So, don’t get uncomfortable or scared if you feel they are around.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

KIM RUSSO (The Happy Medium): 11–1–2016 — “This Will Be The Unveiling Of Hidden Illusions That May Make Your Head Spin”

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“This is not one party over another.  It is about how we are going to grow into our highest spiritual being.  The bigger picture is why this will happen.  No fears.  It must go down this way.  I feel it will be for the highest good.  It will open our eyes to many truths.  I feel it will teach us once and for all to trust in a higher power in the Universe.  And that power is not left or right.  THAT POWER IS UP.  GET READY FOR THE PLOT TWIST PEOPLE.  Not just for the United States — but for the betterment of humanity and to raise the consciousness of our world to a higher vibration.”

~Kim Russo (“The Happy Medium”)

 

 

[November 1 at 10:20am]

 

As a Medium I am often asked who will win this upcoming election.  Okay so I have dropped some hints here and there on Twitter, as I do not wish to start a political debate and I do not wish for anyone to post anything negative here about either candidate.  Please be mature adults.  I respect your opinions.  All of you.  This post is not about anyone’s opinion.  It’s about what I’ve seen and been told by the other side regarding this election.  Now everyone has their favourite candidate and everyone has a reason to back it up.  I am here to tell you that what you think you know — YOU DON’T.  Whether you are a republican or democrat, what I see is not about either party.  The structure of government as we think we know, it will no longer exist.  The election may have one winner over the other but then the outcome will quickly change.

This election is not cut and dry as you know elections to be.  One winner right?  Wrong. Wrong wrong.  There is going to be a plot twist like you’ve never seen before.  It will change everything in our system.  I say system because that is what it is.  It’s a system that we were programmed to buy into.  A system that does our thinking for us.  A system that allows us to believe that if one has more paper money over another then they are affluent and the other is a failure.  A sure way of segregating humans into categories.  Okay back to my vision.  You will say omg how didn’t I see this before.  You will scratch your head in amazement.  You will think it’s the biggest show on earth.  Bigger than any drama that you can ever watch in the media.  If you think it’s what’s been shown on the news already?  Well, it’s more involved and has not yet been revealed.  I say between the election and the new year we will know.  I RARELY give world predictions.  In fact, I never do.  I usually keep them to myself.

Spirit told me to let you know to let go of what you think you know.  Do not assume it will be an outcome that the media has you so brainwashed to believe or that your personal opinion is based on what you think you know.  This will be the unveiling of hidden illusions that may make your head spin.  Don’t ask me what it is.  I only have some glimpses.  If you know me and how I receive my information, you know my Guides typically show me the final outcome which is what I just wrote.  This is not one party over another.  It is about how we are going to grow into our highest spiritual being.  The bigger picture is why this will happen.  No fears.  It must go down this way.  I feel it will be for the highest good.  It will open our eyes to many truths.  I feel it will teach us once and for all to trust in a higher power in the Universe.  And that power is not left or right.  THAT POWER IS UP.  GET READY FOR THE PLOT TWIST PEOPLE.  Not just for the United States — but for the betterment of humanity and to raise the consciousness of our world to a higher vibration.

 

 

 

~via https://www.facebook.com/kimthehappymedium/