PHILOSOPHY FOR THE DAY ~ Eric Raines on Toxic People

“It is about you and your healing after all. We have the ability to create boundaries for those with none and in this process we find our self-worth… we begin to value ourselves.”

~Eric Raines

 

~via Unleashing Natural Humanity

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THE MINDS JOURNAL: “10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness”

One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.

Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.

Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.

10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness

 

1. You are not a priority.

Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.

2. They’re always blaming you for their mistakes.

The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.

3. They have serious double principles and standards.

These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.

4. They don’t like your loved ones.

Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.

5. They disrespect your boundaries.

Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.

6. They always make you feel sad.

They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.

7. They tend to lie to you a lot.

So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.

8. They won’t give you a space for yourself.

Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.

9. They attempt to control you.

These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.

10. They don’t care about your necessities.

These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.

 

~via TheMindsJournal.com

DEJAN DAVCEVSKI: “This July Rant From The Heart — Get Up, Brush Off, Look Straight, Love Stronger…”

Every person, once they take a glimpse of their purpose, once their heart fills up with joy, motivation and excitement, thinks they can tackle anything on their way.

But as you start following your purpose, the joy, motivation and excitement slowly fade away because that’s normal for emotions. The path gets harder. You start facing obstacles.

Suddenly the people around you, people you love and care about turn against you. Some friends might even ridicule you. Others might think you are crazy.

Many people judge you, they question your sanity, you might even question your own sanity. False opportunities open up, distractions multiply.

Suddenly it seems that everyone around you is having more fun than ever but you have to follow your purpose.

You have to do things that bring you closer to your dream.

And let’s be clear, most of the things you need to do are not fun at all. They are mundane tasks that are necessary.

You might even doubt if it’s worth it.

And as you doubt there will be just enough push from The Universe and signs around you to remind you why you fo what you do.

And you will have just enough will to continue, if you choose to. And as you continue, more obstacles will come.

There will be moments all you want is to just take a breath, to pause for a second, but in those moments problems will arise. They will try to kick you when you are down.

And if you quit, you will be relieved for a day. But the next day you will do anything to not have quit.

Because when we are tired we want to rest, when we are cold we want to be hot, when we are thirsty all we want is to drink something.

But if we drink something unhealthy, at first we will feel better, but later we will regret. We regret it because it’s not what we really wanted.

It’s because our mind knows what you want momentarily, but if you listen to your heart it knows what you really want. And sometimes, what you really want will not be comfortable.

So as you follow your purpose, and as these obstacles start ganging up on you, beating you down, do not quit.

Take the beating, get up, brush up.

Look at them, look at them straight at their eyes, smile and keep doing what you did.

You will get closer to your dream, and then problems will arise again. And they will still try to beat you up.

But again, get up.

Brush up.

Look at them straight.

Smile and keep going even harder at tackling your dream.

People will judge, problems and obstacles will arise, distractions will show, you will doubt yourself, you will feel confused, you’ll be tired.

But if you don’t quit everything will pass.

As these things try to knock you down, they might sometimes succeed. But it’s ok. It’s not about who is stronger, it’s about who is more persistent.

Get up, brush off, look straight, and love even stronger!

And there will come a moment when these things cannot even hurt you anymore because their beating has made you stronger.

And you’ll thank them as you make your beautiful dream a reality and follow your purpose.

 

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

SUSAN VIVYAN: “10 Pragmatic Steps For Higher Self-Awareness”

As we are in the “flip-around” time from 3D to 5D awareness these are some pragmatic tips on how to release the old 3D programming.

1)  Read or listen to articles, books, webinars that are inspiring, uplifting. Discern what resonates with you. Allow any thoughts or inspiration gained from these to be a springboard toward forward movement.

2)  Disengage from any media, situation(s), groups or individuals that dispense or are engaged in any fear based mentality according to your discernment.

3)  Release, release, release and let go! As we often say allow any negativity or old programming to flow in and out of you without getting stuck in the vibration of unhealthiness. Much like a piece of scotch tape let the stickiness of anything be pulled up, out and thrown away. Meditation, yoga, and any creative activity be it music, dance, art, writing, etc. helps in the release process. Engage in activities of your choosing that help you clear the clutter from your vibration.

4)  Gratitude. Be grateful you are alive at this time. What you focus on amplifies. Sometimes things are not what they seem; amidst it all be grateful. There is a grander plan of action. Trust. Have faith in yourself and in higher guidance & direction outside of your control. Let go and trust.

5)  Let your emotions flow in & out. Envision the rain washing over you, the wind blowing all away. You are adrift on a flowing river; don’t get caught in the currents of drama. Use meditation as your guide and seek others to support and guide you as needed. Acknowledge all emotions but don’t let them dictate your sense of well-being.

6)  Self-care. Take care of your own needs & desires first. Not selfish in some instances but allow your talents to rise with others and create a higher state of consciousness. We are saying that sometimes others needs take precedence but overall do not ignore your own well-being.

7)  Focus. Persevere. Persist. Grit. Do it Now. Even though appearances may be different than your current reality — shift your focus on what you want. The tough get going when the going is (perceived) tough. Even though time is perceived differently in your current reality keep going for what you want. Don’t give up. Those gentle nudgings are there to steer you in a direction of your choosing. The more you align with the nudges; the more you align with your higher self. If one road is not taken have no fears or worry of taking the wrong road — another way will open up.

8)  Do what you love. Do what you love the money, relationship(s), job or career, etc. will evolve. So true. Set your sight on what you enjoy and life will be a grand adventure. Enjoy the ride!

9)  Flow. When you are in the flow you enjoy the present moment which leads to another present moment dissolving past & future; dissipating any worries or concerns.

10)  Ground into the earth. Ground into the earth. As we said it is good to read, disengage from 3D programming (if you’re reading this you know): however, keep your focus on the present moment and keep your feet on the ground. Get out and immerse yourself in nature. Engage with children, animals. Spread your light to others — a smile, a kind word, a nice gesture. Be in the world, not of it as you transition and are transitioning into 5D consciousness. And again we repeat…ENJOY THE RIDE!

 

 

~via In5D.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Your Body Is Smarter Than You Think”

The human body is a temple of thoughts. It has the wisdom of its own.

For centuries, healers have pondered the connection between mental and physical health. In recent years, science has begun to recognize the powerful connections through which emotional, spiritual, and behavioral factors can directly affect health outcomes.

As research in the field of mind-body medicine is finding, emotions and thought patterns can contribute to imbalances within the body, and therapies like hypnosis, visual imagery, meditation, and yoga are being used to re-establish balance and promote health. The mind and body connection happens on both a physical and chemical level.

The brain is the hardware that allows you to experience mental states that are labeled the “mind.” This concept of the “mind” encompasses mental states including thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, and emotions. Different mental states can positively or negatively affect biological functioning.

The human body is a temple of thoughts. It has the wisdom of its own. There are a lot of positive energies that run through our body and a person should channelize those energies for effective results. Meditation is the best way to keep our minds focused and it also helps in maintaining an effective connection between the mind and the body, helping us to act prudently.

Meditation isn’t about becoming a different person, a new person, or even a better person. It’s about training in awareness and getting a healthy sense of perspective. It is about not trying to turn off the thoughts or feelings. Through meditation, a person learns to observe them without judgment.

And eventually, he might start to better understand them as well. Meditation is of several types and the correct one should be chosen depending on the type, habits, and nature of the person who will be meditating.

The different types are Loving-kindness meditation, Body scan or progressive relaxation, Mindfulness meditation, Breath awareness meditation, Kundalini yoga, Zen meditation, Transcendental meditation.

In order to establish a good connection between the mind and the body, a person should be able to listen to his body. In order to do that, one must be a good listener and must be very patient.

The use of hot water is a very effective tool which helps in relaxing the mind so that a person can pay attention to his body. Discussed below are a few things that can be under a shower which will help a person to listen to the wisdom of the body.

When you are under the shower, try to close your eyes and feel the hot water running down your body. Keep yourself calm and don’t let other thoughts disturb you. Focus on the sensation of your body. Use your hands and massage your body a little to make it feel better.

After a long hard working day, you must be exhausted. While under the shower try to find the part of your body which aches the most. Try and concentrate on soothing that part of your body, leaving out all the rest.

For better results use some lotion or oil on that area. It helps in increasing the sensation. In the end, ask that part of your body that what does it want you to know.

Hot water helps in relaxing the nerves of our body and helps to calm the mind. This, in turn, establishes a good connection between the mind and body.

After the question has been asked, there is a thought, vision or intuition that pops up in the mind. Trust the instincts and follow out the order. This is the first sign that the body is communicating with the mind.

After this, you can either choose to do the same with the other parts of your body that might be troubling you or leave the shower. By repeating this method on a daily basis, you will know how to listen to the wisdom of your body.

 

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com