LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Demoralization Tactics”

“It is absolutely imperative that we stay neutral, focused and clear, be fearless in the presence of those who represent the anti-life or anti-Christ. Do not react to anything you see and do not lose control over your faculties, stay anchored in the now moment with neutrality and a calm presence. Remember this always, I KNOW WHO I AM. I AM THE ETERNAL SELF!”

~Lisa Renee

 

Dear ES Family,

As we travel in the high strangeness of these tumultuous and transformative times, many people can feel the weight of the attempts made to demoralize the public that comes from the constant spewing of the dehumanization agendas that are heightened in the energetic environment. It is important to know that demoralization and dehumanization tactics are the most important tools of psychological warfare and intentional torture that are used to break down a person, or groups of people.

Demoralization: A process in psychological warfare with the objective to erode morale or dehumanize those perceived as the enemy. By intending to destroy their dignity and morale, it can encourage them to retreat, surrender, or defect rather than confront them or to defeat them in physical combat. Demoralization and Dehumanization is the most important tool of psychological warfare and intentional torture used to break a person. Demoralization is most commonly implemented through various forms of fabricated propaganda to weaken people, while dehumanization is commonly used by the Satanic Agenda to mock and defile human dignity or attack the spirit within the person.

Thus, we must see it when it is happening around us, and identify what is going on before the subliminal messaging sinks deeply into our subconscious, as then we may feel emotionally spent and weighed down with energetic burdens, but do not understand the reasons why. Demoralization must be called out and recognized for what it really is — a tactic to weaken a person, weaken their spiritual strength and personal conviction in seeking higher truth.

I have made a partial transcript of what I feel to be a crucial understanding for those of us on the spiritual ascension path at this time, due to the high intensity of blow back generated from the recent field events.

Transcript: We come together today, to strengthen ourselves, to strengthen our spiritual dedication and conviction to be and live in truth, to work in harmony with the natural laws, to align ourselves into our greatest and highest expression of personal truth. It is of critical importance in truly understanding our heart, our pure heart, our connection to the Source through the undulating waves of light resonances that are shared in the environment from our heart, when we feel and express love.

When we recognize an energy signature around us and we can deeply feel something, this is the heart resonance at work, its function, the way it should function in all people. Recognizing that at this time on our planet we are sharing space with many human beings and human bodies that do not have this same function, some may even appear human but have lost their human abilities to feel love, compassion and empathy.

They do not have the same nadial structure upgrades or sensory connections which allow them to truly feel the presence of our human heart, our love, our empathy, our compassion, our caring for each other, and our caring about what happens in this world. Although we must remember that we cannot exert any kind of control over the end result. Without feeling love we wither and we die. Seeing death in this way, not death that is described in the physical world of the passing of the body, but that death is the decay of the loving spirit, when you do not have access, for whatever reasons, to experience love, heart, purity, affection, the unconditional acceptance that unconditional love brings, that is loving kindness.

Love is the organizing, harmonizing and synchronizing force that exists throughout creation, and through its expression, Love is in perfect balance and harmony with what is, as it is.

For this reason I’d like to share the strategy of the war over consciousness, in terms of more deeply understanding moralization and demoralization tactics that are used to shut down love, shut down our heart, and shut down our spirit. These concepts have been weaponized against our mind, and many of us suffer greatly from the plight of being misdirected by those controller figures who intend to gain control and power over us through the many complex layers of targeting that are directing psychological weapons of demoralization, and even misinterpretations of moralization.

What is demoralization? It goes hand in hand with dehumanization, and these are the most important tools of psychological warfare, which is increasing in its scope against the people of the earth, and it is for this reason we are surfacing this into greater awareness and understanding today.

We have been taught and conditioned to think that moralization has its basis in fundamental religion, and that its very nature is oppressive, judgmental and limiting. This is another lie we have been told, by those interested in the mainstreaming of Satanism and Luciferianism. When holding the concept of moralization in your mind, also bring to mind Virtue-Based Ethics which have their root in natural law and are essentially the foundation of the true meaning of moralization. Because demoralization is so common on the earth, I would like to bring to mind the association that needs to be made between moralization and Virtue Based Ethics, in order to clear the subconscious layers and the mental body of the negative associations that have been made to moralization, through the various levels of mind control that is used in many areas, such as organized religion.

We know this too is an NAA creation and it is embedded in the NAA religious structures placed on the earth to enslave the population by controlling their beliefs and by controlling their relationship with their inner divinity and spirit. To moralize is defined as to reflect on or express opinions about something in terms of right and wrong, especially in a self-righteous or tiresome way.

We’ve all seen and heard the priest in the pulpit offering sermons on moralizing which are entirely hypocritical and judgmental, exacting judgment on people to dehumanize them in this way, to make them feel guilty or ashamed of themselves. Many times this occurs in very damaging ways, it is automatically labeling human behavior as morally wrong, when many times the harmful behaviors being carried out are actually violations made against one’s soul, and being entirely misinterpreted by that person. A violation made to the soul, is to bring spiritual harm to yourself.

Bring to mind the Law of Suggestion, for this is a natural law.

Essentially, this means we are the sum total of our accumulated thoughts and beliefs, what has been suggested to us through spoken words, our direct experiences and interpretations of life, subconsciously, consciously and through our spiritual bodies. Suggestion is the psychological process by which one person guides the thoughts, feelings, or behavior of another person. What is spoken, what is heard, what is seen and perceived from this body filter, is the suggestion of what we become. Please let this understating go deeper, really feel the repercussions of what we are living through now on planet earth.

This consciousness principle also explains the gathering of inner strength that is required to go beyond what is spoken and heard, therefore go beyond what was suggested to us from environmental conditioning, such as the family of origin inherited beliefs and behaviors. How do we shift out from the accumulated results of the millions of suggestions sent out to us since birth? We must learn how to think clearly and speak clearly by directing focused mental energy upon a positive idea or loving thought form, in order to magnify that spoken word or thought form substance into the manifest. Yet, by holding Observer Point without attachment to how it actually manifests.

People must learn to love, accept, respect and honor themselves first, and this is the most important part of moralization, or the building of virtue based ethics. As until one can truly love and accept themselves unconditionally, they are unable to love others in the same way. This is a critical principle to understand, you will remain unable to love wholly, completely fully and unconditionally, until you give this exact same treatment of love, honor and respect to yourself, and until you can achieve this, you are withholding love from others, you are withholding love from yourself.

We have been educated to withhold love from ourselves and to replace the void and pain in our heart and the holes within our spirit body with something harmful, generally misinterpretations of our worth and value, our inherent deserved-ness. You exist here now, that is proof of your deserved-ness, your true value and your inherent divinity, to be acknowledged and recognized in this moment, as totally, completely and universally lovable — to love and be loved is who you are.

Thus, moralization is an important tool in understanding the concept of maintaining independence in all relationships. This means to achieve sustainability in an independent model, such as the concept of autonomy and self-determination, self ownership — the basis of which we can achieve this state is through being in alignment with truthful principles that are in harmony with the natural laws, and are in harmony with nature itself. This is moralization.

However, moralization is essentially holding respect and dignity for all living things. Its dual, the opposing side of moralization, which is demoralization, is avoided in open discussion in the mainstream because it is the most important tool of the tyrant and controller that desire to maintain their power over others. This extends to creating a slavery system in which the resources that belong to others can be easily exploited and taken. The main methods for achieving demoralization is to target and attack the inherent divinity of the living being, and to attack the inner spirit, to attempt to demoralize. The first level of psychological and emotional warfare is to isolate the person or groups of people, which generates separation, and to make all people feel they don’t belong anywhere, and that there is no one they can trust.

Then to promote disinformation campaigns in so to lead people in the opposing directions, away from what generates community and unity, away from what creates more love, compassion and empathy, which is a tactic of misdirection. And then to propagate a type of brainwashing through repetition which fosters disbelief and doubt in anything that deviates from what is the common consensus of the mainstreamed larger groups, which all have been subjected to the same forms of repetitive mind control of the death culture courtesy of the Archontic Deception Strategy. This is the classical conditioning used to take one’s focus and place it upon the outer world, to validate the exterior material values, that have been meticulously shaped by the controller pre-meditated programming, in so to ignore and invalidate the interior experience. The interior experience is where our inner spiritual essence, our authentic core self resides. Our core self will whisper to us, you are loved, you are connected, you are respected, you hold dignity for life and all living things! Dear spirit you must honor, respect and give value to all of your life experiences, for all this information is valuable, and you are valuable.

 

I love, respect and honor myself, through all of my life experiences, I am loved and valued.

I choose to love, respect, honor others, through all of my life experiences, they are loved and valued.

I choose to speak words that are kind and loving, and in return, I create more loving kindness for myself and others, I feel and hear kindness and love coming from others.

I am a strong, vital and valuable person, I am Love, I am lovable and I am Loved.

 

These are truthful words aligned to natural laws, the inherent design of what is, it just exists as it is.

Now we have controllers, bullies, intimidators, and the scope of what has been negatively co-created through the Law of Suggestion to oppose these natural laws, in order to replace the truth with deceptions and lies, in so we can be more easily controlled through spiritual oppression and rejection of the natural laws.

Remember that Demoralization Tactics are the most important tool of the Tyrant seeking control, and to place all of your conviction inside yourself to refuse its oppression upon your mind, heart, soul and spirit.

Demoralization is most commonly implemented through various forms of fabricated propaganda to weaken people, while dehumanization is commonly used by the Satanic Agenda to mock and defile human dignity or attack the spirit within the person. It is also the act of reducing another’s confidence and hope, or discouraging and disheartening someone’s optimism, causing them to lose faith in the future.

demoralize. … to deprive (a person or persons) of spirit, courage, discipline, etc.; destroy the morale of: The continuous barrage demoralized the infantry. to throw (a person) into disorder or confusion; bewilder

We have to change ourselves to change the world, so it is a good practice to not demean or deliver criticisms to anyone, as we can be honest and kind at the same time. A few suggestions:

1. Pay attention to who uses demeaning and demoralizing words, words that spread self doubt, and figure out who is who? It may be family members, a co-worker or a friend or anyone else. First realize who is a demoralizing person, as they may not be doing it knowingly, but sometimes they inject fear and doubt which will misdirect your thinking and feeling into the wrong direction.

2. When others are being critical towards you, listen carefully first, then use critical thinking, intuition and guidance. Then proceed with a decision or action. Listen deeply first to feel the motivations behind the words and behaviors, do not interpret when a person is advising you in that moment. Deeply listen to the words in the present moment, and then feel into it in so to let it germinate, making a well thought out decision.

3. Stay away from Demoralization Tactics and demeaning people whenever it is possible. Demoralizing people place seeds of doubt in our mind and that is more than enough to destroy everything we have been building or moving towards in the future. Do not let others demoralization tactics hurt your heart or enter into the garden of your peaceful mind.

4. Sometimes we cannot completely avoid these kinds of people or situations, so no matter what, always do your best to be kind. Most of the time people act like this because of ignorance or a lack of knowledge about a particular thing. They have been treated this way by others, so they repeat the treatment they experienced. When we are kind they may be open to become educated into expressing more kind behavior, which is shining a light into the darkness. When it is possible to light up the darkness and show genuine care for them, this can potentially help to evolve them into a higher expression.

5. Hold healthy boundaries. We must make an effort to identify what choices we do have and make changes in our environment that can increase our sense of safety and comfort while in a physical space. In order to be pro-active in creating healthy boundaries, we need to assess the physical safety of our environment and assess the emotional safety of our environment. And realize it may be necessary to remove people or situations from your life who are entrenched in extremely destructive or harmful behaviors in order to make these necessary changes to our life style.

Beloved God, We dedicate ourselves to love, honor and respect and value our inner spirit and the light that is within all things. We know we are the light of the world, and we value our light with all of the love in our heart.

We are in service to the light of the world, we are self-aware and know it is a time of great personal turmoil when we may see others go through the process of seeing deceptions and demoralizing situations. When we see things that are truly dark and evil, it is an assault against our spirit and we can feel demoralized. We must gather the inner spiritual strength to deflect these assaults against, us, and constantly affirm our true value, our true love, honor and respect for ourselves and each other.

This is rippling through many people in the ascension and spiritual groups at this time, and it is for these groups, we pray and ask the God Source for divine intervention when aligned to Cosmic Sovereign Law.

Through consecration of our body to be of Service to Others, we evolve to become the Compassionate Witness on behalf of God source. Thus, as the Compassionate Witness we may extend goodness through the blessing of others, which catalyze their own inner spiritual awakening so they can feel their own direct relationship with the God Source.

 

I am a strong, vital and valuable person, I am Love, I am Lovable and I am Loved.

 

Beloved Holy Presence, In Cosmic Sovereign Law, I am your Compassionate Witness. In service to all those friends and colleagues, that are being intentionally targeted into terror programming to reject their spirit, or to confuse them into deep despair, by the NAA groups targeting, I pray with all of my heart to bless them and protect them in the eternal light of God, and in the blessings of the Holy Spirit and Spirits of Christ, to be fully freed from the spiritual burdens and shackles that have been placed upon them, by those Impostors and Deceivers of God’s eternal light. Through the light of God I am, through the power of love in my heart, I consecrate and bless ___________ to be freed into their highest expression and true nature, that they may be God Sovereign Free in the eternal light of God, now and always.

It is absolutely imperative that we stay neutral, focused and clear, be fearless in the presence of those who represent the anti-life or anti-Christ. Do not react to anything you see and do not lose control over your faculties, stay anchored in the now moment with neutrality and a calm presence.

Remember this always, I KNOW WHO I AM. I AM THE ETERNAL SELF!

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May we hold each other in unconditional love, kindness and acceptance, knowing that we have many dark entities and controller types who expect us to fail, and succumb to a crisis of faith and divide and conquer behaviors. It is the pure heart and internal love presence that each of us must find deep inside of the recesses of the self. This is the challenging path to live as God-Sovereign-Free and to be in the first line of the world lightbearers and the way-showers, bringing us back to being authentically human again at the end of the dark cycle.

Much Love and GSF always,

Lisa

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – March 5, 2019

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LIVE BOLD & BLOOM: “12 Of The Most Important Values To Live By”

What values are important to a life well-lived?

What do you want to be known for? What qualities do you admire in others and work to cultivate in yourself?

And how do those qualities reflect your core beliefs?

Your life values are those that, once you identify them, help you with decision-making and provide the building blocks for your character — specifically the one you want to have.

For example, if one of your top value in life is courage, you’ll likely seek out new challenges so you can act in spite of the fear that comes when you’re faced with the possibility of failure or rejection.

And if forgiveness has recently become one of your values to live by, you’ll want to remind yourself of your new commitment when you’re about to spend time with someone who has hurt you in the past.

But what is the point of identifying your values, and how do they contribute to your growth and happiness?

To answer this question, we’re exploring 12 of the most important values in life and showing how they influence everything you do.

But before we do that, it makes sense to explain what values are in the first place.

What Are Values in Life?

Values are about what you consider important to the life you want to live. They inform your priorities and, when practiced consistently, form the character you want to have.

They’re rooted in your core beliefs about what makes for a life well-lived and about the behavior you want to model for others (including children if you have them).

Shared values are the basis for a common code – a value-based compass – that speeds up decision-making and unites those who share that code.

By expressing those values, the common code articulates different aspects of the shared mission and becomes the key motivator for those who share it.

You can take each of the following examples of values in life to create a code or motto that motivates you to practice that value every day, so it will become second nature when it’s most needed.

12 Most Important Values To Life By

 

1. Courage

Courage is about doing what you believe needs to be done — not in the absence of fear but in spite of it.

You might feel disinclined to offer a genuine apology out of fear that the other will reject it, but courage will help you apologize anyway, because it’s the right thing to do, out of respect for the one you hurt or offended. Whether they accept your apology or not is their business.

Courage requires a step outside of your comfort zone. If you have no fear, you don’t need courage, but when something you know you have to do makes you feel sick inside, courage is what makes you do that thing anyway.

Courage code: “I do what needs to be done, even if fear comes along for the ride.”

2. Kindness

Kindness is about treating others the way you want to be treated.

It’s more than just holding your tongue when you’re tempted to say something unkind; kindness looks for ways to make life better for others. It takes delight in lifting others up and reminding them they’re not alone, invisible, or insignificant.

Kindness and compassion are closely related; the latter involves the readiness to see a situation from someone else’s perspective and to give them the benefit of the doubt. It also takes into consideration what the other person has gone through and chooses to respond with kindness rather than anger or vengefulness.

Both demonstrate at least a subliminal appreciation for the connectedness of all living beings; when you show kindness and compassion to others, you benefit (at least) as much as they do.

Kindness to yourself is also important, and it’s the basis for self-care. Don’t forget to be as kind to yourself as you want others to be.

Schedule time each day for reasonable and thoughtful self-care, and practice mindfulness to be fully present for it. In practicing kindness to yourself, you also make yourself better able to render kindness to others.

Kindness code: “I treat others as I want to be treated — with thoughtfulness, patience, and respect.”

3. Patience

When someone is pushing your buttons, taking your time or attention away from something you want to finish, or making your life harder in some way, you practice patience by putting yourself in the others’ shoes, trying to see the situation from their perspective, and responding with kindness and respect.

No one wants to be treated like an inconvenience or a burden, and sometimes your priorities have to change to make room for something (or someone) more important or more likely to help you grow.

Patience code: “No matter how I feel when someone interrupts me or gets in my way, I always treat them with the same patience I hope for from others when necessity compels me to interrupt them or get in their way.”

4. Integrity

Integrity is about acting and speaking in accordance with your beliefs.

If you say one thing but do the opposite, witnesses to this contradiction aren’t likely to recognize you as a person of integrity. They’re more likely to accuse you of hypocrisy.

Though you may not be fully conscious of the disagreement between your words and actions, if you believe one thing but your actions profess a contradictory belief, you might feel a growing unease and unhappiness with the way you’re acting.

It doesn’t feel right. And you’re faced with a choice: either change your belief, or change your actions.

Integrity code: “What I believe is made clear by what I say and do.”

5. Gratitude / Appreciation

When gratitude is a core belief, you make time for it every day. You prioritize both feeling gratitude and expressing it — in your thoughts, in the words you speak or write, and in your attitude and actions.

You might create the habit of writing a daily gratitude list. And if you recognize the importance of emotion to the fullest experience of gratitude, you’ll likewise place a high value on a daily mindfulness practice.

Showing appreciation to others for their words and actions is also essential to making this a core value. Just as you appreciate it when others thank you for a job well done, for a thoughtful gift, or for rendering the help they needed, others appreciate that recognition too.

And far too often, we act as though others must already know how much we appreciate them. Don’t assume that they do; make sure of it.

Gratitude code: “In the morning, throughout the day, and in the evening, I feel and express gratitude for the good things in my life. And I make sure everyone who has done something good for me knows I appreciate them for it.”

6. Forgiveness

Forgiveness is about letting go of anger and resentment toward those who have hurt or offended you.

You’re not saying what they did was okay or not a big deal; you’re acknowledging that what they did was hurtful but choosing to forgive them in order to be free of the anger and resentment (toward them) that are making you miserable.

In forgiving them, you take back your power and choose happiness and peace of soul for yourself, even if the one who hurt you has never shown the slightest hint of remorse.

Everyone has a capacity for forgiveness — just as everyone has the capacity to hurt others with their words and actions — but not everyone has cultivated a habit of forgiveness.

We learn to be more forgiving by forgiving more. If you write morning pages, add a short list of people you forgive, adding what you forgive them for and something you appreciate about each person.

Forgiveness code: “I forgive those who have hurt me, because I know I’ve made mistakes and hurt people, too, and I want to be free of this anger and resentment. I choose freedom, and I choose to genuinely want (and work for) the good of those who’ve hurt me.”

7. Love

Love sees the good in everyone, and it wants good things for them. You may not always know what’s best for someone else, but if you love them, you want their ultimate happiness, and you want to see them grow.

You recognize that no one reaches adulthood with their character fixed and unchangeable; we’re all a work in progress. Things your 20-year-old self would say might appall your 40-year-old self. It’s part of being human if you’re a human that continues to grow.

Did someone you love do terrible things in their 20’s or 30’s — things they would never do now (in their mid-40’s)?

Forgive them for not knowing better before they learned whatever stopped them from doing those terrible things. And forgive yourself for not knowing that human beings are all capable of terrible things — just as we’re also capable of growth.

When you love someone, you don’t base that love on the kind of person they were ten or twenty years ago, or on the person, you hope they become or that you wish they were. Your love tells them, “You are enough — just as you are today.”

You recognize that their beliefs and behavior may change as they grow, but since your love doesn’t depend on what they believe or on whether you agree on everything, your love doesn’t lessen with time and with the challenges those changes bring.

Love code: “I love with both passion and understanding; real love is wide awake.”

8. Growth

If growth is one of your core values, you look for opportunities to grow as a person and to help others grow, too.

You take the time to identify your values and your overall mission, so you can live in accordance with it and become more and more the person you have to be in order to fulfill your mission.

You know that growth isn’t a destination but a process, and you want to enjoy that process and help others to enjoy their own.

You might take an interest in coaching or in group growth opportunities, where members support and encourage each other. You recognize true and wholehearted collaboration as an asset and a growth facilitator, and you prioritize growth over comfort and security.

Real growth might mean shaking things up at home or at work, but the more committed you are to your growth and to that of those you care about, the less you mind rocking the boat.

Growth code: “Every day, I’m growing more into the person I want to be.”

9. Listening

If active listening is a core value for you, you value others’ input and invest time and energy in learning how to see things from their perspectives.

So, it makes sense that when someone wants to tell you something, you give them your full attention and thoughtfully consider their words.

Whereas before you felt tense with the expectation of having to defend your beliefs against an unfriendly viewpoint, you’ve learned (through practice) to listen with genuine openness rather than an ego-centric fear of being proven wrong.

You recognize that you don’t know everything, and you don’t see even familiar things from every angle, so you appreciate it when others share their perspectives. And your body language as well as your feedback shows them you’re listening and that you care about what they have to say.

Listening code: “I listen to others with my full attention, so I can learn from them and show thoughtful consideration for their ideas.”

10. Respect

If you want to be known for treating all human (or living) beings with respect, you probably base that respect on something more fundamental than someone’s rank or social status.

Otherwise, why would you consider it a priority to treat all humans with equal respect — regardless of their age, income, or background?

Or why would you put more energy into making sure the least exalted among you is treated with respect than into making sure others treat you with the same consideration.

It doesn’t mean you don’t consider yourself equally worthy of respect, but you find it easy to put yourself in other people’s shoes, so in making sure they feel respected, you feel more respected, too.

Respect code: “I treat all living beings with the same respect with which I like to be treated.”

11. Self-Giving

Another word for self-giving is sacrifice, but self-giving has a more positive connotation. Essentially, you’re giving of yourself — your time, your attention, your energy, your treasure, your abilities — to help or enrich another.

Real love doesn’t hesitate to give of itself until it hurts, knowing that the momentary pain is nothing compared to the benefit won by that self-giving.

The word “selfless” implies that someone has given so much of themselves, they’ve reserved nothing for their own use or enjoyment, but in giving yourself — if you give out of love — your joy is in what that gift brings to others.

Self-giving can be overdone but only when the motive is pride (or insecurity) rather than love.

Self-giving code: “I give of myself to others not only to connect with them but to acknowledge our connectedness. What I give to them, I also receive.”

12. Vision

You may be used to talking about vision in the context of a specific person’s “vision for the future,” but the larger sense of vision is not something that you own or that comes from you; it comes through you and inspires you and others.

Because the larger vision isn’t confined to your ego, the power of that vision is free to attract, illuminate, and flow through you.

Your vision is connected to one that is infinite and uncontainable — you do not exist to serve yourself at the expense of others; you exist to cooperate with others in the creation of a community that benefits all living creatures.

Your personal vision — what you see as your response to the larger vision — informs your personal mission and the process by which you live out that mission.

It’s not about the lifestyle you want or the things you’ll have when you’re “successful.” It has more to do with allowing yourself to be led by the greater vision through your personal links to it — your intuition and inner wisdom.

Vision code: “I live according to a vision guided by my inner wisdom and judgment.”

Now, it’s your turn.

What are your values? And what will you do today to put one (or more) of them into practice?

One small action today makes more of a difference than you probably realize.

Think of each small action as a seed you plant that, as long as you nurture it along the way, grows into a healthy tree with roots and branches, shedding seeds of its own.

Your values are the life in every seed you plant. Choose the best values, and make them part of your blueprint for personal growth.

And may your courage and passion for growth influence everything you do today.

 

~via LiveBoldandBloom.com

LJ VANIER: “9 Ways to Set Healthy Boundaries and Maintain Them”

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Boundaries are important in our lives in order to have healthy relationships and careers.

Unfortunately,  many of us struggle with setting healthy boundaries in our emotional and professional lives maybe in fear of being misunderstood or seen as selfish.  As we struggle with setting these boundaries and making promises to ourselves, we watch others walk over us, take advantage of us or mistreat us.  Some of us feel more guilt, some of us feel weak.  Whatever the reason may be behind our failure of setting personal boundaries, we need to remind ourselves that if we do not have them, we will always have a hard time communicating with others.

So how do we handle this?  There are easy steps to do it and we will talk about them now here.

1. Set your limits

When we find ourselves face to face with difficult situations or with difficult people, it is important for us to know where we stand.  It is also important to know what we want and what we expect for ourselves and from others.  Knowing where we stand and our goals will help us better identify our limits.

2. Listen to your gut feeling

When we trust our intuition, we can read between the lines, we can see things much sooner than others from a different perspective.  Our intuition usually gives us early warning signs when something does not feel right or someone has negative energy.  If you feel like something does not look or feel right trust your gut feeling.  When you sense it, observe it carefully and identify the cause of the problem.  This also helps for good opportunities since everything is not bad or negative.  When you feel like something is right, eliminate your fears and concerns and be more positive and brave about taking the next step.

3. Meditate

We spend too much time living in the past or future.  We let our worries, our resentments and fears overpower us sometimes, forgetting about what we have now and enjoying this very moment.  Sometimes we let guilt and anger take over. We let negativity blind us and scare us.  Think about how many opportunities you have missed.  Maybe with a certain someone for a good relationship, because we were stuck in the past, trying to overcome the troubles of a prior relationship.  Sometimes we miss a good opportunity at work because we are not ready to take the necessary steps.  Sometimes we lack focus.  One way to stop this is to practice mindfulness meditation.  It keeps us grounded and it teaches us to live in the present moment.  It enhances our focus and helps us organize our thoughts.

4. Speak your mind

If you do not let others know about your boundaries, they will never have a clue.  Communication is the key.  When you know exactly what you want and how you want it, do not hesitate to let others know your limits.  When people understand where you are coming from, they will be able to communicate with you their limits as well.  With the help of communication, you can easily find a common ground.

5. Keep a journal

Every time you feel like you are having a hard time maintaining your boundaries, write it down.  Analyze why you are having a hard time.  What have you missed when you found yourself face to face with a certain person or a certain situation?  Were you weak?  Were you worried?  Were you afraid of being misunderstood or selfish?  Write everything down and think and rethink about what you could do instead.  Can you go back and fix the situation?  Or what can you do differently next time to not find yourself in the same place?  Writing these things will help you have better focus and courage next time you encounter similar situations.

6. Change your mind

Having boundaries does not make you a selfish person or a bad person.  Remind yourself that it is perfectly fine and healthy to set boundaries and maintain them.  Others have them.  Think of how you see others with good strength when it comes to maintaining their own boundaries.  Do you think of them as selfish or do you believe they are rigid?  Of course there are people who are rigid and they have unreasonable demands but you are not one of them.  Allow yourself to feel better about yourself for knowing your limits.

7. Respect others’ boundaries

If you think that your boundaries are reasonable and necessary but others’ are not as important as yours, you are not being realistic.  It is only fair to show respect reciprocally as others are as important as you.  Remember that respect goes both ways.  If you lack showing respect to others then do not expect them to respect you either.  However, recognize the difference between healthy boundaries and rigid boundaries.  Rigid boundaries are selfish and they mostly come from people who tend to control others.  When you identify them, you will also stop others from controlling you.

8. Be patient with yourself

Change does not come overnight.  It takes time.  Just like we need to exercise regularly to build muscles, you need to practice your boundaries on a regular basis.  It is something new that we learn.  Change is not easy.  After all we are trying to reverse years worth of bad habits and we need to be patient and understanding with ourselves.  We need to also show the same amount of understanding towards others as they may also be struggling to maintain their own boundaries and they also will need time to build strength.

9. Reward yourself and others

When we achieve something and we notice we made progress, the best way to celebrate it is to reward ourselves.  It could be a little gift we buy for ourselves, a treat like a favorite dessert or drink.  Why not?  You have tried and it worked.  It is a good feeling.  Likewise, you can also reward others when you notice they are on the right path.  Encouragement always helps us and sharing it with others only makes it bigger and better.

~via isoulscience.com

INSPIRATION FOR THE DAY ~ “Native American Code Of Ethics”

Native American Code Of Ethics

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The Native American culture is highly spiritual and places a great emphasis on the respect for Mother Earth, Father Sky, Grandfather Sun and Grandmother Moon as well as all living and non-living objects.

1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.

2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.

3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, Native American Code of Ethics | in5d.com | Esoteric, Spiritual and Metaphysical Databaseand yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.

4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.

5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.

6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth – whether it be people or plant.

7. Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.

8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.

9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven.

10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.

11. Nature is not for us, it is a part of us. They are part of your worldly family.

12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life’s lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.

13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.

14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of ones will within this universe.

Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self, all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self, all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.

16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.

17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others, especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.

18. Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first.

19. Respect others religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.

20. Share your good fortune with others. Participate in charity.

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