~via Surviving Narcissism
~via Surviving Narcissism
“It is about you and your healing after all. We have the ability to create boundaries for those with none and in this process we find our self-worth… we begin to value ourselves.”
It was no surprise to see I’m an ‘Idealist’… 🐬
“Knowing your personality type helps you understand yourself, your interests, your motivations, and your relationships. Although your personality type doesn’t completely define who you are, it helps you have much more awareness about yourself and gives you tools for making important decisions in your life.”
~Barrie Davenport @ Live Bold & Bloom
“There’s a thin line between confidence and arrogance… it’s called humility. Confidence smiles, arrogance smirks.”
Somewhere along the line what we recognized as confidence may have been misconstrued a little. We started associating traits like aggressive, loud, opinionated and arrogant with being a confident person. You’ve probably seen the type, or maybe you are the type.
They know FOR SURE that what they believe is the unequivocal truth. Therefore they need to tell everyone about it… constantly.
When they aren’t able to convince someone to believe exactly as they believe they may be caught calling others, “asleep” or a “sheep” or any other plethora of derogatory names that I probably can’t mention here. We also may have misconstrued what it means to be humble a little bit too. Being Humble is associated with weak, shy, meek, and someone who cowers to others.
Someone who is so unsure of themselves or their beliefs that they keep them to themselves and are too insecure to tell everyone they meet their opinion on everything. Is there a way to be both? Can a confident person also be a humble person? In order to answer that question we must dissect what it means to be truly confident, and how does “artificial confidence” come about.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself the whole world accepts him or her”
There are many reasons a person may develop artificial/arrogant confidence. One may be cognitive dissonance, which means they may be holding on to a belief so tightly that when evidence is presented that contradicts this belief they may be completely unwilling to look at the new evidence. They may have become so attached to this belief that it has become a part of their sense of self.
Since they are completely attached to who they think they are it may be a painful experience for them to open their mind up and see things from a different perspective. The actual energy behind holding on to a belief so tightly that you are unwilling to let it go is fear.
The human ego is always afraid to be found out, so to speak, therefore, any threat of someone or something coming along and debunking one of its belief attachments may bring about a negative emotional reaction such as anger. Anytime anger is involved we can be assured that fear is the culprit behind it.
Genuine confidence doesn’t need to get angry because there is no part that fears being wrong or that others aren’t believing them. Another reason a person may develop artificial confidence is because they are insecure.
An insecure person may not truly believe in their theory or themselves so they feel if they can convince others that they are absolutely the right one they can at the same time convince themselves.
This is often done in an aggressive manner, because they are attached to the outcome of people believing them. Again, the fear behind not achieving the outcome they desire is causing them to act in a rude or aggressive manner. Genuine confidence can remain quiet, kind and humble because there is no underlying fear that needs other people to believe exactly what they are saying.
Genuine confidence is humble. It kind of realizes that most people are operating from their own level of understanding and trying to convince them that they are “stupid” or “wrong” usually won’t work anyway. The humble part of them realizes that LIVING and BEING their truth is always more effective than incessant talking or convincing ever will be.
Also, humble confidence isn’t attached to being right. In fact, it happily welcomes new ideas and beliefs because it knows that only when it opens itself up to seeing things from all perspectives is it able to perhaps learn something new.
“The time which people spend in convincing others, even half of this time if they spend on themselves, they can achieve a lot in life.”
In order to maintain humble confidence about our beliefs we must do two things. One is question ourselves….constantly. You may ask yourself, “Do I know absolutely without a doubt that this belief is true?” Meaning, “Did I see it with my own eyes”- normally the answer to this will be no.
So not to say that you won’t have some beliefs about things that involve situations that you weren’t physically there, but it just means that you always maintain a healthy sense of doubt about your beliefs.
This doesn’t mean that you’re unsure of yourself, it means you are wise, because it means you are open to hearing new evidence. Or you can ask yourself, “Is it possible that I am so attached to this belief that it has become a part of who I think I am?” Or even, “Does it matter if the person I am telling about my belief believes me or not? In this present moment does the fact that they are convinced or not convinced change anything in this exact moment in time?”
“Confidence is silent.
Insecurity is loud.”
You may find that most of the time, the answer to that is “no.” The other thing a person can do in order to remain humbly confident in their beliefs is to realize that every person they come in contact with can only understand things from their own level of understanding. Which means they are only operating from their own personal programming which may or may not be completely different than yours.
So yes, there may be times when you tell someone something and you enlighten them to something that they hadn’t thought of before but there will also be times where any effort to convince will fall on deaf ears.
When you are unattached to the outcome, you will be fine with either without getting frustrated or angered. Once we realize that our “truth” may not be someone else’s “truth” we can completely relax into interpersonal relationships and take every interaction with a human being as a potential learning experience, which will allow us to always be learning and growing as a person.
One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.
Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.
Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.
Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.
The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.
These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.
Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.
Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.
They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.
So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.
Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.
These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.
These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.
For a long time, Native Americans used dream catchers like a way of preventing some nightmares, as well as guaranteeing just some good and beautiful dream results to the dreamer.
In fact, dream catcher can come in different shapes, designs, and sizes, and each of them reveals some specific things about the person that uses it. Here, we have five types of dream catchers, so your preference will reveal something about your traits and personality.
Picking the first dream catcher will mean that you are an honest and dependable friend. You also find it quite easy to trust others blindly soon after you get to know those people better.
Also, you have the expectation of others having total faith in you. Sometimes, the emotions inside you will get the best self of you, especially when there is something which disturbs your everyday routine.
If you choose the second dream catcher, it is a sign of cleanliness and innocence.
You don’t like the act of keeping hate in life, so you better like to pay attention on some specific things, as well as loved people. When some things go away from the line, in fact, you will often isolate from it because of your empathic side for perfection and harmony.
In fact, you are a person that is an optimistic and positive extrovert. Actually, you don’t feel any stress when you are about to accept others without having extreme judges for them.
Despite that, you are afraid of the judgments from other people, and you also spend more time when it comes to preparing yourself for some decisions.
Actually, you are a person that is quite supportive, sympathetic, as well as subtle, and you tend to put other people in the first place.
Because of the compassion within you, the words, as well as the actions of other people will hurt you very often then they should.
Choosing the fifth dream catcher will mean that you are a determined, detached, and independent person.
When you made up the mind for a certain thing, there will be no talking and persuading from the ones you love which will change that decision.
Positively, this is going to help you overcome worrywarts and pessimism. However, negatively, you will have the tendency to scare other people and refuse good pieces of advice which come in front of you.
Narcissists are people who are always full of themselves. They don’t look beyond themselves. They end up hurting people around who are compassionate and sensitive.
Narcissists always want to be the eye of the storm. They want constant attention. They dump the burden of their insecurities on others. Narcissists make people miserable in a number of ways. The term narcissist has its root in the Greek mythology. It comes from the myth about Narcissus. Narcissus was a man who fell in love with his own reflection. This self-obsession led to his demise eventually.
Freud has often theorized about this idea of narcissism and self-absorption. He had claimed that such people are far from the real world and often lead to their own doom. Moreover, it is not very tough to spot narcissists around us these days.
They can preach a doctor about medicine. This is how they are. Highly interruptive, narcissists hate those conversations which are either neutral or not about them. They crave attention and try to drive the conversations towards themselves only.
Just as they assume they are superior to others in every way possible, they also believe themselves to be at the top of the ladder. They believe that laws and dictates are below them.
However, with time, their true colors are out there for people to see. They exude charm, and confidence. But they wear off and emotionally drain you.
Narcissists tend to use rage to put you into a submissive stance so that they can naturally dominate and rule.
They aren’t wired to be sensitive towards others. Though neutral themselves, they know the tactics of how a human empath can be manipulated.
Did you chart the numerological predictions for your beloved pet? Recent numerologists have found out that pets benefit from numerological insights. This can help you understand what’s behind a dog’s sudden growl and a cat’s sparkling eyes.
It’s simple. Spell out your pet’s name, connect the letters with the numerical chart, add the digits and you get your pet’s Destiny Number. Destiny Number is simply a part of the numerological chart which will help you dive into what life has to offer. It helps you understand what role you are meant to play in it.
It’s easy. You have to assign specific numbers to the letters of the name of your pet according to the chart. Once you get the total, add up the single digits and voila, you got your pet’s Destiny Number.
Here’s an example to help you out.
Let’s suppose your dog’s name is Bruno.
So, following the numeric chart:
2+9+3+5+6 = 25
2+5 = 7
And you got it. Your pet’s Destiny Number is 7.
So, what does it mean to have a Destiny Number as 7?
Each Destiny number has a special significance. Let’s find out what each means.
If you have a pet with Destiny Number of 1, you might find them being loyal. They will stay by you at all times. But, of course, they will get a bit selfish once in a while, and do anything to get a bit of your cuddly love.
Pets with Destiny Number of 2 must have brought balance and peace in your life. It signifies serenity and peace. They can be great helpers and will remain a source of support for you.
Destiny Number 3 pets can get into a lot of mischiefs. They are extremely social and will want to go out and play all the time. They can be difficult at times. But they will remind you to be happy and to enjoy yourself.
Pets with Destiny Number 4 can be a bit shy. They may not actively go out to meet new people, and would often hide behind couches. But you will become more nurturing to them, and that’s the purpose of the Destiny number 4. They know how caring you are and they have come to your life to help your caregiving side grow.
Destiny Number 5 can be very intuitive. They just automatically know when you’ll be needing love and care and they would be beside you instantly. But they can be very high maintenance, and will seek out attention. Being intuitive and moody, you should keep a track of their shifting personalities!
Having a Destiny Number 6 makes your pet heavily reliable and faithful. Pets with these destiny number will go anywhere with you. They’ll be happy to go on a ride, take a walk and experience the outside with you. These pets will love to be with you and your other animal friends. They have come to your life to bring back friendship and make you feel affection.
Destiny Number 7 is almost human. Pets with this number are very evolved and can understand what’s going on around them. They have a keen perception of everything. These pets can bring back your connection with the spiritual and natural world.
With the Destiny Number 8s, you are going to face a lot of problems! Their energy levels are just skyrocketing all the time. They require a lot of exercises. Destiny Number 8s have an endless hunger and bring a lot of vitality in your life.
Destiny Number 9 signifies a bravery. They have a lot of courage and are very protective in nature. You can count on them for protection. Share your love and adoration and they will definitely give it back.
So, calculate your pet’s Destiny Number by the same method. Doesn’t it match with their behaviour?
There are people who are awake, they know what’s going on in the world, and they have woken up and seen the truth. They have done the research and used their knowledge to help others.
They are trying to wake other’s up, some have dedicated their whole lives to this endeavour while others do whatever they can to spread the message far and wide.
Usually these people are isolated, waking up alone all over the world, unable to talk to family and friends about what they have learned.
They have tried talking about it to people but they meet with deep-rooted opposition, so they try other methods whatever works for them. They are brave and courageous human beings.
Many more people are waking up each day and joining them.
There are people who are still asleep, they do not think anything is wrong in the world, they trust their governments to a certain degree.
They see awful things happening in the world but they tend to believe whatever the mainstream media tells them.
They are so busy surviving, bringing up children, working all day long, they are too tired to try and dig deeper and they rarely have the spare time anyway.
They vaccinate their children, feed them with GMO’s, drink the fluoridated water and believe chemtrails are normal and that 5G is a good thing.
They just cannot see what is going on around them. They trust the system, it may have flaws but somehow they still believe in it.
Sometimes they can see the truth in a situation, but they cannot connect the dots and see the full picture.
These people need our help and support, one day they may wake up.
We were all like this once.
There are people who are supporting the dark side but they are totally unaware of what they are doing. They join the freemasons thinking they are helping people when ultimately they are supporting the dark side.
There are people in the health services who believe they are helping us by vaccinating us with, mercury, aluminium and aborted fetuses. They are also administering drugs that haven’t been tested properly.
There are people in positions of power who truly believe in what they are doing but this couldn’t be further from the truth. Somehow they have been manipulated without even realising it.
These people have been brainwashed by the system, they have no evil intent, they truly believe in what they are doing.
They also need our help.
There are normal people who have been seduced by the darkness, one way or another they have gone over to the dark side. Some have been blackmailed into it, some have been given fame and fortune and some have been given great power.
They have sold their souls to the dark side. They follow the satanic path.
They go to parties where children are used for sex, they have their own little sex slaves at home, they have lost their humanity, their empathy.
Somehow they put on a nice, normal persona out into the public arena, but inside they have chosen evil over goodness.
Their reward is fame and fortune; they are loved by many, if the truth were known this would change in a heartbeat. They have chosen fame and fortune over love for their fellow man and woman.
They were not born this way, they chose this way of life. If you are one of these people, consider your position, we are waking up en masse, we are finding out about you each and every day. We see you as you really are, not how you would want us to see you.
Leave the darkness behind and come back to the light. Join humanity in our fight against evil.
Anyone who knows about all this and has not succumbed, please come forward and reveal the truth. Help your fellow man and woman in our hour of need.
There are people who have taken over our world, they have been working towards ultimate control their whole lives as were their ancestors. The goal of total power over humanity has been passed down from generation to generation. They see us as useless eaters.
Unfortunately they are trying to cull us to a more manageable level, in whatever way they can.
They have been born into this way of life. They believe in human sacrifice, pedophilia, and cannibalism, they follow a satanic path. They have grown up with it.
They have no empathy or compassion.
They live lives totally different from the rest of us. They believe they can do whatever they want and they do.
They have gathered wealth beyond comprehension and used it to further their evil plans.
They want humanity to suffer, they want us in a total state of fear and anxiety all the time, we are easier to control this way.
They are so evil they have attracted negative interdimensional entities into our world causing even more pain and suffering.
Up until this point, generally their plans have gone unnoticed. They nearly succeeded, until we started waking up.
Some people born into this way of life have managed to see the truth and left it all behind.
The truth seekers need to spread the truth whatever way they can. Try to spread love, peace and harmony around the world. We can get through this.
The misguided ones need our help and understanding.
The brainwashed ones also need our help to see the truth.
The ones who sold their souls, need to know that we can now see what they are doing and have done, the fat lady is about to sing.
The power-hungry ones need to accept that they have lost their power, too many of us are awake and we do not want to live this way anymore, their time has come and gone.
The one thing in this life we can be sure about is change, nothing stays the same.
Things have changed. It’s now our time.
This right here is the cusp of the entire introvert vs. extrovert debate (if there is one, anyway) — Introverts need to be alone to recharge. We tend to get completely worn out by socializing. This is basically what it means to be an introvert.
I love being with people, but if you drop me into a large crowd I instantly feel like I’m alone and invisible. I try to avoid situations where I feel that way, so I may decline your open invitation to some random event. It doesn’t mean I don’t like to be around you, it just means I like to have more control over my surroundings.
I can sit beside you in silence and not think we are having a bad time. This is especially true on road trips and can be a little confounding to true extroverts. For this reason, I especially like going to the movies where it is already considered rude to chat. Rule #1 for dealing with introverts — Don’t tell me I’m “too quiet.” I hate that. Sorry I’m making you uncomfortable, but you really don’t get to decide how much I have to talk.
Introvert and shy are actually two different things. Google it! In my case, I’m a shy introvert (the double whammy!).
See #1 and #2. I have no problem getting up in front of a group of people and giving a talk. I don’t even get nervous by a question and answer period. But — here is the thing — I will need major recharge time afterwards and I won’t be able to keep up this extroverted illusion all day. I can turn it on to dazzle a crowd, but if you take me out for lunch afterwards, I’ll probably just listen to you talk. I am an excellent listener.
See #3. Did I get quiet? Do I have a mean look on my face? I’m not judging you; I’m just wrapped up in my thoughts with my resting-face on. I might have even forgotten you were there. Sorry, just poke me. I didn’t do it on purpose.
I like being with you, but finding out I suddenly don’t need to be “on” and it wasn’t actually me that backed out? — priceless! Don’t worry if you have to cancel, I’m probably thrilled to be able to stay in my pajamas.
My inner monologue is epic. When you have a strong monologue constantly running in the background, it is pretty easy to settle-in and listen for a while. I have to work through things in my head before I proceed, so I usually need a few minutes. When I’m ready to move forward though, I am 100% on top of it!
You know when you have had a really bad day and you just want to call up a friend and chat? Yeah, I’m bad at that. I tend to wait for extroverts to reach out and include me, so when the time comes that I need support, I can be a bit lost.
That time after an event or meeting ends and stragglers hang around to talk — yeah, I know this is the perfect time to make more plans, connect with new people, and get involved with future projects, but I really really really hate this. I’m probably already checking my phone in my car before you have even picked up your purse. Small talk with strangers is my kryptonite.
Just because I have difficultly sharing them sometimes doesn’t mean I don’t have opinions. Give me an extra minute to compose my thoughts and I will continue to push myself to speak up sooner. It is a give and take here.
BMSS Addendum: On #2, we really don’t hate people or crowds… it’s just that most of us are empaths and we absorb everyone’s energies so it’s a lot easier staying away from crowds than being immersed in them. For me, if I were to go to some gala event, you would most likely find me near the outer wall of the room watching everyone and saying very little. Some would call this “antisocial” but as an introvert I know that it’s something that’s misunderstood by those who aren’t introverted.
If you’re an introvert (which is only about 25% of the population), don’t change yourself to appease anyone else. Just keep being YOU!