~via Surviving Narcissism
~via Surviving Narcissism
One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.
Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.
Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.
Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.
The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.
These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.
Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.
Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.
They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.
So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.
Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.
These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.
These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.
Traumatic physical and emotional events can cause shards or pieces of our soul’s energy to fragment away. Soul loss is a mechanism which serves to protect us from unbearable suffering. These soul shards usually return back after a few hours or even days, but in some extreme cases these shards can stay fragmented. Soul shards can also be caused by a psychic attack from someone practicing black magic on us.
When we have an emotional trauma happen to us, we actually may leave a part of our energy “frozen” in that time or moment. This keeps us from actually being able to feel better and move on. If we do not “heal” or retrieve our energy several things can happen to these soul shards, but mostly they fall into these categories:
—A shard can become an entity of its own, a copy of you. This entity could wander off into the astral realms and eventually forget where it came from. This entity could eventually need an energy source, which could cause it to use the original soul and physical body to get energy in many ways.
—A shard can be captured in the etheric realms by Artificial Intelligence and used to siphon energies from other humans or to create new realities.
—A shard can just sit outside of the original body, perhaps on the shoulder or back. It can remotely influence the person’s thoughts but cannot fully return. One of these Shards can actually get so used to being the puppeteer that it does not want to integrate back at all.
I would say that almost everyone on Earth has had a traumatic event happen to them. Their ability to process emotions and to feel supported depends on how whether they can process and integrate the energy back. I would also say that this hi-jacked reality causes trauma to occur that tried to keeps us fragmented for the purpose of energy vampirism.
1. You feel a bit spaced out or don’t feel fully present all the time.
2. You have lost your creative spark.
3. You have addictions and/or self destructive behaviors.
4. You have become a recluse and you prefer to be alone, but your physical body/ego/human self yearns for love. You cannot feel love or have never “fallen in love”.
5. You have borderline or full on psychopathy or narcissism. Most of the time someone will have tried to point this out to you.
6. You feel that your soul is not connected to your physical body. You also have difficulties connecting with your higher self.
7. People tell you that you say things but you do not remember saying them.
8. You think you might have multiple personalities.
9. You have relationship and communication issues.
10. You feel powerless.
11. You have a negative psychological habit you just can’t seem to break.
First let me say that the positive aspect of this interactive matrix is the ability to have opportunities for healing as you live every scenario out that unfolds in your daily reality. Also, even extreme cases of fragmentation can be handled by experienced shamans, but eventually we will have technology that will be able to help us heal very quickly. Soul fragmentation has been happening for aeons and there is no one way to do this type of healing. I would say that this is one of the most important things we can work on for ourselves.
To start the healing process, the intention by speaking a prayer or mantra to begin to call any split shards you think you might have home to you. Call out to your higher self, guides, and Source connection for assistance. In your mantra, magnetize any splintered shards of your soul back to you, intend that they be cleansed, and imagine integrating them into your heart space. Ask Source that this be accomplished with ease and grace. This will create the energy in motion for you to begin to recognize what needs attention.
Many people need further assistance with soul shard retrieval through hypnosis. This, of course, requires that the hypnotized subject’s higher self guides them to that trauma so that it can be healed.
Personally, I created my own life review where I spent a few days in reflective meditation and re-visited the many traumatic things that had happened to me in this lifetime. I felt the emotion of the event and I also saw the event from the other person’s perspective. I then felt love and forgiveness for the person, realizing that it was only their wounded selves lashing out at me and not their true soul essence. Some of the things occurred as lessons for my soul growth yet my ego was lashing out as a victim, which caused unnecessary arguments and trauma. A lot of tears were shed in this process but in the end I felt more healed. This process was suggested by my higher self after asking for help. This is often the ” shadow work” that people find the hardest to do. Recognizing the shadow or darkness as a part of ourselves and healing through love and acceptance of experience, forgiveness, and soul growth magically reverses the polarity of the trauma’s energy and magnetizes it back to you.
Advanced soul shard retrievals can be assisted by experienced “seers” or tracker shamans who will be able to identify the status and location of the lost shard. If it is being held prisoner, it will need to be rescued and sometimes a fight literally ensues. If it has become its own personality or entity, it will need to understand that it is not whole and needs to be healed and integrated.
All energy will need to be cleansed before being integrated back to the whole of the person. Love and golden Source light works really well. Once all soul shards have been retrieved, one begins to become more “whole” and re-gains their connection to their “oneness” or Source.
Ancient tradition shamans use sacred plants to induce the person to “face their demons” so to speak. In my opinion this is a harsh way, but I can’t disregard it because it’s better than ignoring the issues. However, ejecting yourself into the astral can be a very daunting and dangerous task, especially if you haven’t changed a lot of your polarity from fear to love. You also are out there trudging around with other people’s shadow selves and wounded self creations! With a really good shaman and with a more advanced conscious awareness of the process, many people have reported good results with healings with The Mother.
The more awareness we have about soul shard retrieval, the more experienced healers are surfacing to help humanity heal themselves with more current methods.
I have focused on current lifetime healing rather than previous lifetimes because time does not actually exist. Anything from a past lifetime can be accessed in the now and probably only occurred in this lifetime because it already occurred in a past lifetime. On top of that, new fractures probably occurred in this lifetime. However, past life regression and healing can also heal maladies that are manifesting in the present lifetime. It seems easier to me to look at this current reality unfold and to see that things happen concurrently with the “past”, but many people are able to remember their past lifetimes. If that is the case then it can be accessed there. Also, much of what is set up for us in this lifetime actually leads to opportunity for soul shard retrieval even if we do not recognize it as such!
Furthermore, there may be soul retrieval occurring on solar, galactic, and universal levels as well. Rather than get too caught up in the expanse of this, you can focus on starting with your intentions to heal, ask for guidance, and do your basic mantras and then identify what is left from there based on how you are feeling and how your reality is unfolding. I would say that this is a gradual and ongoing process rather than a quick overnight fix.
This article in intended to be an introduction to this topic. If you feel a resonance to this material, please do your own research and ask your inner guidance what the best method of action is to retrieve your energy. The more we work on ourselves to become whole, the more we can help the collective. We are getting more help now than ever in doing the “work” necessary to become our true multidimensional selves once again.
Narcissists are people who are always full of themselves. They don’t look beyond themselves. They end up hurting people around who are compassionate and sensitive.
Narcissists always want to be the eye of the storm. They want constant attention. They dump the burden of their insecurities on others. Narcissists make people miserable in a number of ways. The term narcissist has its root in the Greek mythology. It comes from the myth about Narcissus. Narcissus was a man who fell in love with his own reflection. This self-obsession led to his demise eventually.
Freud has often theorized about this idea of narcissism and self-absorption. He had claimed that such people are far from the real world and often lead to their own doom. Moreover, it is not very tough to spot narcissists around us these days.
They can preach a doctor about medicine. This is how they are. Highly interruptive, narcissists hate those conversations which are either neutral or not about them. They crave attention and try to drive the conversations towards themselves only.
Just as they assume they are superior to others in every way possible, they also believe themselves to be at the top of the ladder. They believe that laws and dictates are below them.
However, with time, their true colors are out there for people to see. They exude charm, and confidence. But they wear off and emotionally drain you.
Narcissists tend to use rage to put you into a submissive stance so that they can naturally dominate and rule.
They aren’t wired to be sensitive towards others. Though neutral themselves, they know the tactics of how a human empath can be manipulated.
“Whatever the reason narcissists and sociopaths mistreat you and try to convince you that you are the problem, it’s time to end this. Making plans for the future with such person is like trying to walk through a brick wall — impossible and dangerous for your health and wellbeing.”
Being in a relationship with a narcissist or a sociopath is difficult on many levels, but one of the most ironic and infuriating things is when they try to convince you that you are the one who is crazy.
You would think how they can use psychology against anyone when they have so many psychological problems? And, why do they do that over and over again?
Before telling you the two possible reasons why narcissists and sociopaths shift the blame on you, here are some of their personality traits explained by Psychology Today.
—A sense of self-importance (wants and expects to be seen as superior to others regardless of the level of their achievements)
—Preoccupation with success, power, beauty, brilliance
—The belief that they are special and can’t be understood by “common” people
—Lack of empathy
—Arrogance, envy, haughty behavior
Sociopaths possess some of the characteristics of narcissists, plus the following:
—Inability to conform to social norms
—Lack of remorse and financial commitments
—Disregard for the safety of those around you
So, if you have someone in your life that possesses these characteristics, it’s best to stay away from them. And, if that person happens to be your partner, well you are in a toxic relationship.
These kinds of people will do everything until you believe you are the problem and them. You may tirelessly look for the “wrong” part of your character, but the truth is, you’ll never find it.
So, the question is, why do they do that?
Narcissists have a superiority complex which makes them believe they are faultless. They can’t accept that they have done something wrong so somehow they always find a way to make you responsible.
That’s because they are manipulators just like sociopaths are. They will make you believe it’s your fault and not theirs. Even if you don’t accept the blame, you’ll find yourself analyzing the situation over and over to see if you did or said something wrong.
Even though no one is perfect, the very fact that you are worrying if you are the sociopath or narcissist in the relationship makes you aware of the problem – something that no sociopath or narcissist does.
That’s why they often include their psychosis too. They see you as the one who’s dishonest, manipulative, and with lack of empathy and describe you as such in front of others.
But, you can’t change someone’s perception of you, so don’t even try to fight against it. Instead, let go and move on.
Whatever the reason narcissists and sociopaths mistreat you and try to convince you that you are the problem, it’s time to end this. Making plans for the future with such person is like trying to walk through a brick wall — impossible and dangerous for your health and wellbeing.
Being stuck in a relationship with a narcissist or sociopath can cause huge emotional damage. That’s why it’s crucial that you leave that person as soon as possible.
Leave them without a chance to persuade you to stay because they will succeed thanks to their manipulative skills. And, once you leave them, stop communicating with them. Don’t answer their calls and block their social media profile.
Otherwise, they will try to trick you into believing them. If you have kids together, consult a qualified therapist to work out a “parenting plan.”