KARA SCHALLOCK: “Security and Knowing”

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We continue to receive ongoing downloads of Light; there is no timetable for the downloads; they occur at perfect moments individually for each of us. Some downloads flow easily, while others seem to take our breath away. However you experience them is divinely orchestrated for you. Many of us are guided to go within and stop all outward busy-ness. Meditation and Silence as well as Nature are essential tools; more than they have been in the past. Still, there are those who continue their attachment to the outer world looking for answers or some sort of guidance. Guidance is found in the quiet times; the times of non-attachment. We can do both… be still and continue to observe the outer world. The key here is observation and detachment. I see the outer “chaos” as a positive sign that all is proceeding as it is intended to. Remember that Transformation requires a breakdown before a breakthrough. And a breakthrough is seen in some scenarios, is it not?

If one seeks security outside of themselves, they may very well be disappointed. For the only true Security is found within. We think Security comes from our paycheck or our relationships or our bank account, yet this is little security and it changes and shifts. What may seem secure in one moment is gone in the next. This little view of lower ego-security certainly can bring up fear, can’t it? If one can stay centered in their own Security (Soul Essence)… no matter what the outer is doing… they feel safe. Outer security definitely brings up insecurity; and this too is a gift, for it gives each being an opportunity to release these old and limiting energies of insecurity, not feeling safe and fear out in the open for release. Realize too that the energy of insecurity comes from lifetimes of old rules, separation and the fear of not being safe. Even the chaos of our present-time world is a gift, for it helps us identify where we hold fear, judgment, paranoia, discrimination and all things that keep separation alive and well. As we release these energies of separation, we find Peace within. When we feel peaceful, we shine our Light out, which touches all. Our Perspective shifts; we see things differently and through the eyes of Source. We see that the world is not an unsafe place, but truly a place of Love.

The old matrix/paradigm is for sure crumbling. This crumbling is a positive thing, for it leads to the New eventually. When one can be in their Center of Peace, they shift their perspective to see the “good” in even what the old mindset would judge as “bad.” As frequencies rise, the Light shines on all that is not Love and this is all that is separate in life. If one would look closer and deeper, they would see the Truth that is beneath the rubble and that is Love and Transformation. It is only when one is attached to how something “should” be that there is pain. When we let go of old assumptions and not wanting things to change, we are free.

What is Transformation and how can we be sure that it leads to something better? Transformation is a complete shift from the old to the New. It depends on what you hold in your Heart. If you don’t think anything will change, you hold doubt in your Heart. If you trust that Love is truly all there is, then Love is in your Heart. We know that we create through consciousness. When Love is your consciousness, then that is all that can be created. When fear is your consciousness, then that is what is created. Again, we choose. First comes the choice and then Commitment to that choice and from Commitment is being that which you choose to be in everything you say, do and feel. Through consciousness, we create the New Earth. Is it Love you choose or fear?

Is this easy? I would say no unless you truly flow with What Is. When you flow with What Is, you accept that which is hindering you so that you can let it go. We have had lifetimes of fear and persecution, which has created a heavy boulder of fear and unsafety within. It is our choice to release this and it may not be quick, for there are many layers that go deep. However, if one begins to let go of this old dark energy, they/you feel lighter and freer, even when there are more and more layers to release.

Along with releasing this old fear and insecurity, it is also important to realize that much of the ancient civilizations  that many hold as something to emulate, were rife with separation (rules, roles, expectations, etc.). It is best to let it all go, including the illusions you hold dear, and allow the New to unfold. So not only do we release our personal histories, we may choose to release our cultural histories as well, including all the illusions within those histories. This is a big task, so deep do these go and our love for them. As we cleanse, we also cleanse the Earth. This most likely feels huge to you as well and you may encounter much resistance within you. Yet unless we let go of everything, the New is delayed.

We are creating positive change. It may seem daunting and even impossible, yet it truly is happening. The more we commit to this personally, the more things in the world shift. As a way to affirm this, just look at your life, the world and how your body has shifted. Those of us who are ultra-sensitive feel much in our bodies and as we shift, our bodies feel this physically. Much of how we have experienced this physical shifting has changed for some. They may include (or not, for everyone is unique in their experience) a sense of not being in your body (feeling ungrounded, dizzy, etc.), different experiences in digestion and elimination, fluctuations of emotions (some may feel depressed when they never have before), lack of motivation to do much of anything, sleeping patterns vary widely, and these are just a few and meant to confirm your Ascension and let you know that you might not even notice that you are shifting, for all is slow to help us acclimate to the energies, although it may not seem slow at all.

As Sensitivity expands, you notice things you have not noticed before. Your Awareness becomes more acute and your senses are accentuated, as is your Intuitive Knowing. Realize too that a lot of what you experience are not only the downloads of Light, but you are also detoxing the old from your cells, tissues, organs, bones and muscles. You may still be in the old habit of wondering if it was something you ate or some malady you picked up. This is old thinking and a way to continue an old pattern of complaint and blame. The ultra-sensitive ones truly are required to keep their Solar Plexus clear, as it is easy to take on others’ toxins and old beliefs. Ask your body what it needs without following old rules of what’s good or bad for you. Your body will respond to you. And if you bump into things or stub your toe or something like that, your message is to slow down, ground and be in the Present Moment.

Our True Selves want nothing but the best for us (as us), and so anything that interferes with that will be “problematic,” which is a way of saying that we simply cannot exist in the old any longer, so shift to where you flow instead of blindly following your self or culturally-imposed rules that surely limit you. Being authentic means to be who you are everywhere you are and by me saying “be who you are,” I mean your Soul-self. I wonder how many of us are truly authentic, since we have been molded by culture and family values and beliefs. At times, it is self-loving to set boundaries in order to be authentically you. In time, there will be no need for boundaries, as all those around us accept fully who we are. Being authentic is being Love and there is no greater Truth than this.

Some of us have been having lots of memories of the past. These memories come up because they are releasing, yet many want to hold onto them, because it’s better than having nothing to hold onto now. Let them go. As we let the memories go, with them we release beliefs and patterns and old ways of being. It’s best not to cling to them for comfort. Find your comfort within. Have Faith; trust in what is here now in this Moment. Allow all to surface, even memories you have deemed “bad” or “good.” It all comes up to be loved and then released. With the release comes greater Love.

If you are concerned about not finding your “tribe,” since this seems to be a popular notion, realize that your “tribe” will not be found by seeking, but by being authentically yourself. If you find you don’t relate with anyone, let it be all right. A “tribe” is just a word that symbolizes a longing to belong. You belong to a bigger energy, so honor who and where you are. There is nothing wrong with you if you find you cannot relate to anyone or to just a few. Treasure those you find Resonance with and let the rest go.

As we continue to receive more Light and we continue to let go of what is not Love, we are also blessed with synchronistic meetings and surprising events that are joyful and meaningful. These connections help you evolve more as the Love you are, helping you be more. Continue to follow the energy; what expands, expands you; what contracts, contracts you. In this way, you are Divinely guided to be who you are meant to be. Pay attention to where and to whom you resonate. Your Heart and Soul know the way, while your intellect will hold you back in the past.

 

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MEDITATION FOR THE DAY ~ Energetic Synthesis: “Birds in the Rain — Mindfulness Meditation — Tibetan Bowls”

And now something mindfully peaceful… courtesy of Lisa Renee and Tomás Fernández-Calvo 🙂

DR. KELLY NEFF: “8 Ways To Stop Over-Thinking And Find Peace In The Present Moment”

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We all do our best to stay positive, but occasionally we can slip into negative thinking patterns that can wreak havoc on our lives. We might worry about our past mistakes or current stresses, and how these could lead to negative outcomes in the future. We might obsess about or over-analyze regular experiences and interactions, reading into them things that aren’t actually there. We might find that as soon as one bad thing happens, we associate it with all the other bad things that have happened in our lives and begin to feel miserable. We might feel anxious in the present, having a hard time getting out of our own heads as we worry and obsess about the things that could go wrong.

If you find yourself in this place frequently, you are what psychologists call a ruminator, or, an over-thinker, and this way of thinking can be harmful to your health. Psychologists have found that over-thinking can be detrimental to human performance, and can lead to anxiety and depression, especially in women, who are much more likely than men to ruminate on stress and disappointments than men.

As a psychologist and recovering over-thinker myself, I have a lot of compassion for people who end up in these spiraling negative thought patterns. Many over-thinkers are lovely, intelligent, nurturing people who value relationships and care deeply for the people in their lives. Unfortunately, they often push away the very people that they are worrying about or seeking support and reassurance from, because they can become obsessive, anxious, depressed, negative and difficult to be around. This is not a switch in the brain that can be easily flipped off, but rather, a pattern from which it requires dedication and work to recover. Based on research in psychology and my personal experiences, here is my advice for how to stop over-thinking and find peace in the present moment:

1) Accept that You Have a Problem with Over-Thinking.

The first step to healing is acknowledging that you have a problem. If you feel like you can’t get out of your own head and over-thinking is stopping you from living a happy life, making decisions, getting things done, or forming meaningful relationships, then you have a problem. If you find yourself spiraling into negativity and depression when a bad thing happens, you have a problem. If your anxiety about the future is stopping you from enjoying the present, you have a problem. Burying your head in the sand or denying this reality will only make the situation worse. If you are not sure if you have a problem, ask your friends and loved ones to be honest with you, because they are usually the ones who will see it even if you cannot.

2) Forgive Yourself: Our Brains are Hardwired This Way

Once you can admit that you are an over-thinker, forgive yourself, because the brain is actually wired to make over-thinking a natural tendency. According to Psychologist Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, the leading expert in this field, “the organization of our brains sets us up for over-thinking” because our thoughts and memories are intrinsically woven together, not compartmentalized. So when stressors are triggered or you get into a bad mood, it can unlock a ‘cascade’ of racing negative thoughts that have nothing to do with the original trigger for the bad mood. Nolen-Hoeksema gives the example of “when poor job performance causes you to think about your aunt who died last year.”

Furthermore, when something bad happens or someone is feeling negative, they are more likely to think negative things and also see connections (that may not actually exist) between all the bad events that have happened in their lives. The more frequently this happens, the more likely the individual is to engage in this over-thinking pattern in the future.

While the brain might be wired to make these associations, once you become aware you can begin to solve the problem.

3) Breathe More

If our brains are wired in this ‘interconnected spider web’ where one bad event can trigger a tidal wave of negative thought associations, how can we break this pattern?

The first and easiest thing you can do is BREATHE. Breathing will relax you, calm you, connect you to the present moment, and ground you to Mother Earth. It sounds so simple but often when our mind starts to race to bad places, we become manic and frantic when what we need to do is relax the body and mind.

The breathing technique that works for me involves lying down and taking a two-second long deep inhalation in through the nose, followed by a four-second long exhalation out through the mouth. This breathing pattern increases the CO2 in the bloodstream, which can relax the body and calm the adrenal system’s response to the obsessive thoughts. Do this for 10 minutes or until the excessive thinking slows down.

4) Talk Less

So many over-thinkers, especially those of us of the female persuasion, can’t help but want to ‘talk it out’ when we are feeling stressed and worried. While talking about the worries can sometimes help, it usually will make things worse, especially if the person you are talking to is also an over-thinker, and you spend the entire time over-analyzing and dissecting every detail of every negative problem in your lives. You might end up working yourself up into a frenzy of negativity and feeling even more upset after the conversation.

This type of co-rumination, where two ruminators get together to over-think about their lives together, can lead both people deeper into negativity and stress. For example, research has uncovered an association between co-rumination amongst female friends and increases in the stress hormone cortisol.

If you really feel the need to express your issues, you can always write them down, to clear them out of your mind and realize that your concerns might sound silly when you read them back to yourself. This type of free-association journaling has been incredibly beneficial for me.

5) Get Physical and Get Busy

What should you do instead of talking? Well, you already know to breathe to calm the body and mind, but sometimes you just want to let the energy out! In this case it can be incredibly beneficial to do something physical, whether it is going for a brisk walk, playing with a pet or children, doing yoga, playing sports, swimming, or running. Activities that are both mentally and physically engrossing are the best, because they require enough absorption to pull you out of obsessive thinking patterns and into a state of flow.

In addition to physical exercises, engrossing activities that stimulate the brain can also be effective for redirecting obsessive thought patterns. Playing cards, learning a language, or playing all different types of games can be great diversions or interrupters of these thoughts. Or you could always learn a new hobby, make art, draw, paint or take up crafting, such as making jewelry, clothes, dream catchers, hair extensions, really anything, You might actually discover a hidden talent you never knew you had, or be able to start a new career or meet new people as a result.

6) Practice Mindfulness

One of the big things that over-thinkers struggle with is the ability to live in the present moment. So consumed by the failures of the past and the worries over the future, the present moment does not get the attention and love it deserves. Lao Tzu said that “if you are depressed you are living in the past, if you are anxious you are living in the future, and if you are at peace you are living in the present.” So how can we live in peace in the present moment?

Well, we have already discussed some of the strategies that can help you quiet the mind and ground yourself to present moment, including breathing, talking less, getting physical and doing other activities that help redirect attention and bring the mind into flow. But one of the best things you can possibly do is practice mindfulness, a form of meditation where you focus on the present moment without judgment. As the obsessive, worrying thoughts come in, you acknowledge them, and then let them go, energetically releasing them and clearing your space. I strongly recommend learning mindful meditation techniques such as Transcendental Meditation, or if you are having trouble doing it yourself, seeking counseling from someone who practices Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy.

7)   Surrender to the Universe

When we worry, we are essentially hoping to control the flow of life because we are attached to the outcome of a situation. We want things to happen a certain way, and we are terrified that things could go wrong or that bad things could happen. In reality, we have little to no control over the unfolding of events in life, at least not from the conscious standpoint that our worrying will directly impact the outcome in the way we want. So, we can worry and obsess, or we can accept all that IS and let go of our attachment to the outcomes. The universe is way older and wiser than us, and instead of obsessively worrying, we can let go of control and with love and trust, surrender to the universe.

Surrender does not mean giving up; It just means you are willing to go with the flow of the current, instead of trying to swim against it and getting repeatedly bashed into the rocks. Surrender is a form of release and a form of peace, because it means you are willing to trust that everything will work out as it is supposed to: Trust that everything happens in its proper time and place and you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Even the concept of worrying about ‘good’ or ‘bad’ outcomes is flawed from this perspective and nothing more than a symptom of duality, which is only an illusion. As you zoom out to the grand scheme of the universe, there is no such thing as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – it is all ONE, two sides of the same coin.

8)   Remember, Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

Even though I just said that ‘we have no control over the unfolding of events in life,’ and this is true at least from the part of the conscious mind and its ability to dictate events, our thoughts do energetically shape and create our reality over time. Like attracts like, and so the more you worry about something, the more you will begin to attract exactly the energy you are worried about! If you still haven’t seen the wonderful online series Spirit Science, I strongly recommend you view Episode 1, which does an excellent job explaining how our thoughts create our reality.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xmN2RL4VJsE

 

We must be mindful of our thoughts because our thoughts have power, more than we realize. If you obsessively fear losing your job, you are actually INCREASING the likelihood of getting fired, not decreasing it. Same if you are worrying about contracting a life-threatening disease or medical condition: The more energy you send in that direction, the more likely you are to unknowingly give permission to your body to manifest this condition.

Your thoughts and feelings will energetically create your life, which is why my life partner, sound healer Jimmy Ohm always says, “Worrying is a misuse of creative energy.” Do you want to create a happy life, living at peace in the moment? If so, you have all of the tools to make this a reality by being mindful and present in your thoughts. You also have all of the tools to create a life of worry and negativity, if you continue to over-think and obsess about negative events. The choice is yours and I lovingly hope that you choose wisely. Blessings and Love!

Authors Note: Do you agree? Are you an over-thinker or recovering over-thinker? Have these tips worked for you? What other suggestions can you make to break this cycle? I would love to hear from you on Facebook!

About the author:
Dr. Kelly Neff is a renowned psychologist, author, founder of The Lucid Planet and the host of the hit new show, Lucid Planet Radio. She has reached millions of people with her articles on psychology, transformation, and wellness, which have been featured on websites like The Mind Unleashed, Mind Body Green, My Tiny Secrets, and now, The Lucid Planet. Before she became a full-time author, Dr. Neff spent seven years as a psychology professor where she helped thousands of students learn about health, relationships, love and sexuality, and co-authored the groundbreaking manual in her field, Teaching Psychology Online. She has a B.A. in Psychology from Georgetown University and an M.A. and Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Claremont Graduate University. Dr. Neff is an avid participant in the visionary art, music and culture scene in her home state of Colorado and beyond. You might find her traveling the globe to give workshops, speeches and do research at transformational festivals. You can find her on Facebook and Twitter. Light and Love!

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