AMANDA GOINS: “Cutting Cords With That Which Dulls Your Shine”


by Amanda Goins

In life, at times it is necessary to let go of people and things which are no longer serving our highest good.  These may be new and fleeting things which are easy to let go of, or aspects of our lives which have been an integral part since childhood — that may seem much more difficult.  However, if a person or thing is truly bringing you down, you may find that after the dust clears you feel much freer.  I have been dealing with this in my own life recently.

Letting go of people and things has always been a challenge to me.  I tend to look at others through the scope of their best aspects, and give people the benefit of doubt.   The understanding that I finally came to — that which made me free, is that just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you have to have them as an active part of your life.

By choosing a life-style centered in love, you do not have to allow yourself to be a doormat for others negativity all the time.  Only you can discern who and what to have as a part of your experience.  Also, keep an open mind — I try not not give up on anyone completely.

Forgiveness is key. If someone has become toxic in your life, many times they are not aware.  Talk it over with them if you wish, however if you feel that they will not listen, do not feel obligated to do anymore but send them on their way with love toward them.  Even when I choose to cut ties with someone, I do not wish ill upon them.   Separation may give the person independence to grow, and may do the same for you as well.

I have recently learned, that I am only truly responsible for myself.  The more I allow myself to grow and be happy, the more happiness I have to share with all those I love.  I am not here to save anyone, or fix anyone.  We are each on our own journeys.   This is why judging another is always a mistake.  I had to learn, however, that you do not have to agree with everyone, or allow people to sway you in a manner that does not feel right in your soul.  Taking responsibility for yourself, sometimes means cutting ties with those who are impacting your life in a negative manner.

As I mentioned above, though this has been a trying experience for me. The result is that I feel much more free and true to myself.  Authenticity and honesty will never steer you wrong.

So much love everyone,

Amanda ❤ ❤ ❤