ALEXANDER PAPAGEORGHIOU: “Family Values In 5D — Letting Go Of The Past And Your Loved Ones”

“Love is all that remains and truth is all that ever was. Incompatibility with that energy is destructive. We need to look into our hearts and ask ourselves honestly, about what will happen with this relationship in the future, can this person possibly accept to change and ascend or will they stay where they are?”

~Alexander Papageorghiou

 

Since birth, you have been surrounded by a group of people, your clan, your kin. You have grown to know them as your protectors, as the ultimate circle of love, a deeper belonging than you could understand at an early age. As you have progressed through your journey and gotten to know yourself, you developed your own circle of belonging within your heart. With time, and with your Ascension and awakening, you are increasingly becoming one with yourself and with your spiritual guidance.

For many of us, as we awakened, our spiritual development became enhanced, reaching new heights every year. With time, a gap was created between us and our former clan, a dissonance that has kept on separating and contradicting our new ideals and values, as our loved ones grew to represent our old selves. That side had stopped developing and become stagnant, while we morphed into completely new entities of light. This became more and more difficult for us to accept, that there may be an end to that chapter.

Our New Selves are free of karmic ties, cleansed of the past and the strings that attached us to our former pain and discord, the life we had in 3D. Our physical families had been bound to us by karma, built over many lifetimes, and often unresolved. Being that this is the last incarnation for many light beings, as we are finally ascending, the Karma accompanied us and took form to be released. This has created many difficult nuclear family situations that many of us have felt repeatedly. As we have grown into our new vessels, we have gotten accustomed to knowing ourselves and our new values, what we truly hold dear. We have finally become what we have always been. The layers of society and fear have been shed. We have learned to love ourselves and our truths, personal, and collective, more than ever before.

Those around us that we call family, have often not gone on the same path and have stayed in the old mindsets. The more we have ascended, the more we have felt the void created between the old and the new grow. They were compatible energetically with the old us, but the NEW US is something they can seldom comprehend and accept. Topics of discussion, values, and mores are now completely different. We see ourselves as part of something infinite and loving. It becomes more difficult daily to look at family with the same sanctity as we have in the past. The genetic lineage we share in this lifetime is but a very minute part of the equation. Our Karmic lineage is a story of millennia, of ties between souls, of the need to release and replace with love. All in all, as we look at ourselves now, the concept of family in 5D is completely new. We can meet total strangers through our guidance, and be connected in ways we have never been before, since we removed the blockages of the ego, and allowed ourselves to be nourished by love for the first time. This is not a material 3D love, but a completely new energy. It surpasses all genetic, karmic, and conscious lineage.

Most awakened light beings have been guided by the light in the guise of their spiritual guidance, whether physical or etheric. These beings have played a very important role in our development and taught us valuable lessons we had never learned before. We must accept that they play a paramount role in the definition of our new family values. They are part of our new family. We must also begin to break the mold of the nuclear family and, within our hearts, start to look at the collective on our planet as one entity, spending less time criticizing and differentiating, and more including and embracing. All divisive concepts of the Third Dimension have come to a halt. We can see all of that rising to the surface daily, in more blatant ways than we have seen before. These concepts are void and illusionary today. The longer we embrace them, the longer we delay the inevitable ascension of the collective as a whole.

What should our attitude towards our nuclear families be then, in this new time? We must look inside with total honesty and the absence of fear of letting go. We need to re-evaluate how these relationships make us feel, where there is love, and where lie emotions such as criticism, anger, fear, and control. We need to look at our new values, and how these family members are compatible with them. We need to measure their acceptance with love of what we have become. Some may be so entrenched in their 3D fears that they cannot support this new energy and the dissonance is so great that we feel toxicity when we are in the same room, and there is avoidance that we are not addressing. These are exactly the red flags that we need to discuss with ourselves. Love is all that remains and truth is all that ever was. Incompatibility with that energy is destructive. We need to look into our hearts and ask ourselves honestly, about what will happen with this relationship in the future, can this person possibly accept to change and ascend or will they stay where they are? What happens to our love when we are around that? The fear of letting go is completely normal. This is our family, the one that has raised us and an integral part of us, the thought of letting them go is unfathomable. This is the fear talking, the fear of trusting our intuition, our need to love and be loved unconditionally. This is a discussion all ascending beings need to have with themselves at this time.

What does letting go mean for our families? Energetically, they have been sensing our journey since the beginning, though they have been unaware of it. Their energy has become increasingly incompatible with ours, and we have often felt out of balance when we are with them and afterwards. There is so far a refusal, out of fear to change and let go on their part, and there is a part of us that suffers when trying to help them with their process, an anticipation, and a pain that results when that is met with the same attitude. The only way to help them is to let them ascend by themselves. Only confronted with the physical reality of this gap, this void that has been created, will they understand that there are unaddressed issues within themselves that can go no further. We often see in today’s world, in many extreme displays, the very obvious, sometimes ugly, wake-up calls that society is being given in order to deal with certain issues that are way overdue, and have been conveniently brushed off for decades, even centuries. The same process affects our personal lives and our families. There is a generational gap, which is a given, and an immense energetic gap that is approximately 15 to 20 years old. We feel it more and more, and they succumb to fear and frustration.

We must help them by loving ourselves as we should, trusting in the Universe and the Creator, and to let go of that does not serve love anymore. The scariest part of the process is the emptiness that follows and the fear that tries to fill it. This is the struggle for most of us. We need to embrace our faith and love in the Ascension and believe in the love at the end of the path. Our guidance loves and supports us and we need not be afraid of what may be as a result, but notice the difference in how we feel, when we replace these heavy emotions, these ties, with love, and the understanding that we have a family all around us, that supports our awakening and wants us to flourish. Family starts from your heart, that is where it lives and always has.

Much Love,

Alexander

 

 

~via IndigoLightLove.com

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ALEXA PELLEGRINI: “Forgiving Your Family and Finding Empowerment”

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If there’s one thing most of us are taught during our childhood years, it’s that family is important and should be a source of joy and security in our lives. But what if your family didn’t fit the paradigm we see in movies and on television? What if your family has become a dark, well-kept secret, or a source of shame or trauma in your life? Reconciling your expectations of what family should be and the reality of what family is can be incredibly challenging for those who have come from abusive homes. As an adult child of an alcoholic, I’ve struggled intimately with how the cracked foundations of a childhood home can bleed into adulthood and make loving yourself a tremendous feat. But even in your darkest hour, it’s important to recognize that there is always hope for you to heal, to step into your own power and leave the pain of your childhood behind. All it takes is three simple steps.

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Step 1: Be Kind and Forgiving to Yourself. 

Adult children of damaged parents tend to be hard on themselves. I know this firsthand: for years, I struggled with crippling perfectionism, an issue that stemmed from needing to impress my parents, particularly my father, in order to gain their love and attention. Making mistakes gave me terrible anxiety, and if anything went wrong in my home I automatically blamed myself. This behavior continued well into adulthood until I realized that the only person I needed to impress to be happy was me, and that I was never to blame for my parents’ faults. And even now, I’m still struggling to put these concepts into practice on a daily basis. 

If there’s one thing adult children of dysfunctional homes need to do, it’s give themselves a break. A devastating number of us are chronic perfectionists, workaholics and masochists. It can be difficult for us to take compliments, to believe that our partners love us. Practice mindfulness by monitoring your inner dialogue every day, paying careful attention to the way you react to any slip-ups you make. Support yourself with positive self-talk, not self-destructive speech. And don’t hesitate to compliment yourself for your achievements and for simply being the amazing person you are. Lose yourself to joy, to silliness, to feelings of hard earned success. Reward yourself. You deserve it.   

Step 2: Keep Moving Forward – Don’t Look Back. 

Breaking down a dysfunctional family is like peeling back the layers of an onion: it’s arduous, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s difficult not to be brought to tears while doing it. Especially when someone else is doing the peeling, and it’s your family! This is why I quit therapy. I became tired of having therapists deconstruct the defects of my parents, flaws I was already understood all too well. I discovered that the more you obsess over the past, the more you lose focus on the beauty of the present moment.

When I reflect on the past, I do so with a non-judgmental perspective. The past cannot be changed: it can only be accepted for what it is. This concept has allowed me to dislodge the resentment I had toward my parents for taking away the normalcy of my childhood. Looking back on the past with the intention of accepting someone for who they are and leaving your expectations behind allows you to move one step closer to finding freedom from the pain others have caused you.

Step 3: Break Off Harmful Relationship Patterns That Mirror the Past. 

Adults from dysfunctional families frequently encounter situations that eerily mirror the dynamics they had with their parents. Many of us become ‘rescuers’ for damaged partners and we like to have excessive control, which sabotages the healthy relationships in our lives. Why? Adult children of alcoholics, in particular, tend to have serious issues with control and self-worth. After all, we develop self-esteem from how our parents reacted to our feelings and needs. If our parent(s) were distant, critical or failed to be our mirror, developing healthy self-esteem as an adult can be challenging. Not to mention that living in a chaotic environment can quickly create a deeply insecure person who craves control and order to feel safe.

FamilyAs we discussed, the past can’t be changed. But what you can change is your attitude toward yourself. Your self-image is the one thing you can undoubtedly control. Although long held negative beliefs you’ve had about yourself – that you’re unworthy of love because your alcoholic mother did not love you, that you’re damaged beyond repair because your narcissistic father left you – may seem too powerful to control, they can only define you and affect you if you give them permission to do so. Who told you that you’re unlovable because you had a parent who struggled with their past and also felt unlovable themselves? As an adult who has made it this far, the definition of who you are begins within you. What your parents, siblings or relatives think of you has no meaning unless you believe it has meaning. And taking the shortcomings of your parents personally will always hold you back from healing.

As your self-awareness grows and you can confidently look yourself in the eye and tell yourself that you are lovable, you’ll encounter others who believe the same — and reaffirm that you’re worth it, and always have been.

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JEFF STREET (Divine Cosmos): “Moving Beyond Awakening Shock Syndrome”

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One of the things that I’ve noticed that seems to happen to many people early in their spiritual awakening is they become hyper-aware of all the lies, manipulation, and control that’s been going on in our world, and they are shocked and appalled — and rightfully so.  Some people get so fixated on these unsettling revelations, so obsessively focused on them, that get themselves stuck in a state that is very counter-productive that I’ve dubbed “Awakening Shock Syndrome”.  Although awareness is good, fixation is not — here’s why and how we can move beyond it.

Disturbing Truths

There’s plenty of disturbing truths to get obsessed over — “conspiracy” theories abound on the internet and in our collective consciousness;  the Illuminati control agenda, 9/11 was an inside job, manufactured terrorism, chem-trails, the UFO/ET cover-up, and more.

And there appears to be more than a little truth to much of this.  It seems that a few very dark and self-serving people within our governments, banks, and corporations have been deceiving and manipulating us for their own economic and political gain for quite a while.  The truth of much of these so called “theories” appears to be fairly well supported if you are willing to keep an open mind and follow the trail of evidence presented by those who have studied it.

Of course, you won’t find much about this in the mainstream media because these channels are largely owned by the very people that are the perpetrators of said deceptions and manipulations.

Shocked and Angered

It’s a perfectly normal reaction to be deeply disturbed by these facts, even shocked and angered.  And many of us go through a phase of intently focusing on these injustices, spending a significant amount of time reading books and articles on these topics and passionately discussing them with our friends and family.

Our focus on this seems to be encouraged by more than a few websites that routinely feature somewhat sensational articles about these issues that encourage us to remain hyper-focused on them.  While these websites may be well intentioned, there may also be a bit of “fear sells” motivation going on here.

Fortunately, most of us move beyond this phase relatively quickly, choosing instead to focus on changing ourselves and envisioning and contributing to building a better world.

Sadly, others get stuck in this phase — a malady that I’ve dubbed, somewhat tongue-in-cheek, “Awakening Shock Syndrome”.  These people let themselves fester on the injustice of it all and often let their imagination carry them away with thoughts of how the controlling ones might be plotting further dastardly deeds, and worry about dire events coming to pass.

They’ll often talk incessantly and emphatically about these subjects, feeling compelled by the need to warn us.  They tend to focus on fighting and stopping all the bad things that are happening in the world, yet they often have very little constructive or positive to say.  They seem to like to complain and blame and are hyper-focused on the evil doers and their evil ways.

Don’t get me wrong;  it’s good that we are waking up and becoming aware of the all the injustice running rampant in our world — but getting fixated on it isn’t good — or productive.  It’s distracting us from putting our full attention on envisioning and creating a better world.

Moving Beyond Focusing on the Problem

The people that get stuck in this phase lack the wisdom to realize that focusing on what’s wrong is, at best, an ineffective way to create change.  Focusing on problems rather than solutions and fighting the old rather than building the new is a well-known trap of thinking.

Anyone who understands and embraces the metaphysical laws and mechanics of reality creation — the Law of Attraction and more — know that what you focus on you attract and what you resist persists.  The very focus on the problem and the resistance against it potentially sustains the problem and takes focus and energy away from creating what we want — a better world.

This is why it is essential that we move beyond our shock and fixation on these disturbing truths and start envisioning the better world that we all know can exist.

We are creators and we attract the essence of our most predominant thoughts into our reality — that’s why one of the golden rules of manifestation is Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.

Sadly, there are some who are aware of the law of attraction and yet they still remain fixated on the problems of the world and their fears.

Transcending Victim Mentality

One of the things that keeps many anchored and fixated on the injustices that have been perpetrated on us is victim mentality.

Understand that nothing can come into your experience that you do not invite with your thoughts — this is the Law of Attraction.  Deeply understanding this means that you fully accept that you are RESPONSIBLE for everything that comes into your life whether you understand the reasons or not.

If we have been deceived and manipulated, we have ALLOWED it.  We allowed it by not being engaged in our political process, by not paying attention to what was important, and by not exercising discernment.  When you fully embrace your creatorship you take full responsibility for everything that comes into your life — no more blaming, no more complaining, no more focusing on the problem, no more focusing on what you don’t want — no more disempowering victim mentality!

By understanding your responsibility for everything that comes into your life you free yourself from the “blame game” and allow yourself to step into your true power and sovereignty.

Focusing on the Solution

“Focus on solutions, not problems” is a timeless pearl of wisdom and is true regardless of whether you believe in the strictly rational view of the nature of reality, or you embrace the idea that reality is a creation of our thoughts.

The fact that we are awakening and becoming aware of the many injustices in our world is good because only with awareness is change possible.  And there’s nothing wrong with being disturbed by these things, but instead of getting fixated on them let’s use our awareness to motivate us to create a clear vision of the world as we would like it to be.  Let’s use our understanding of what has happened in the PAST to help us formulate our vision of the FUTURE — and then let’s focus on that with all our hearts and minds.

Let’s envision a wonderful future and think about it, talk about it, and do whatever we can to contribute to building it.  Do anything, however small.  It might only be sharing your vision with others, or it might be donating money or volunteering time to your favorite humanitarian or progressive projects and organizations.  Learn about, share information about, and get involved in the new paradigms of the future;  sharing economy, conscious capitalism, food independence, contribtionism, the clean/green energy movement, and so many more. Do whatever you can and whatever interests you!

The path to a better world has little to do with worrying about the injustices of the past or fighting the old and it’s all about inner spiritual growth and focusing on envisioning and building the new.

Focusing on Solutions but Still Holding a Grudge

Many move beyond the “awakening shock” phase and begin to focus on envisioning and creating a better world.  Yet few let go of the need to fear and condemn the dark ones that have strived to control us for their own gain.

A few enlightened people choose to change their perspective and see the dark ones not as evil or bad but merely as LOST SOULS, and they completely release their judgments towards them.  They understand that, on the long and winding journey of our souls, we’ve all been lost to varying degrees, and we’ve all explored the dark side at one time or another in our many lives.  They understand that we all find our way back to light eventually, and so they chose to send unconditional forgiveness and love to the lost ones and invite them to join us in the light and in creating a wonderful new world for all.

And this doesn’t just apply to the few dark ones who have tried to dominate us.  It also applies to all those who have gotten caught up in the fear and darkness — just more LOST SOULS on the long and winding road back to the light.

Unconditionally Forgiving and Loving the Lost Ones

It is very challenging for some to embrace unconditional forgiveness and love.  For many the idea of unconditional forgiveness and love makes no rational sense at all and seems like a recipe to get taken advantage of.  And from the purely rational perspective, this is a very reasonable response.

But our rational perspective was formulated based on our observations of the surface layers of the grand illusion that we are a part of, and in ignorance of the wider and deeper reality.

Remember, that the dark ones have souls just like us.  We all joined the earth game to experience separation from our divine source, to see what that would be like and what it could teach us.  The dark ones are merely lost souls — souls that have lost the connection with their divine source and cannot feel the love and light that is deep within them. We have all been lost in the game for some time now and to varying degrees.  Holding fear or resentment towards others serves no useful purpose — in fact, it is counter-productive.

Holding on to fear, resentment, and condemnation is an energy that does not serve the highest good for yourself or anyone else. It also delays you from taking full responsibility for your experiences and fully stepping into your power and sovereignty.  Releasing our resentments and unconditionally forgiving and loving everyone has the power to transform our world if we’d only give it a chance.

A Prayer for the Dark Ones

Here’s a prayer that I use to help me release any resentment or judgement of the dark ones and to extend love and light to them in the hope that they will join us as we move forward in creating a wonderful new era of humanity.

To all those on Earth that have been playing the domination game, I say Bravo! You have played your game with skill and cunning.  You nearly controlled our entire world. You have demonstrated your prowess at deception, manipulation, and control, and I salute you!

But now your game is over, and it is time to play a new game — the “cooperation” game.  This game is far more challenging and rewarding than your domination game, and its goal is not to create wealth and power for a few but to create abundance, prosperity, and happiness for all.

We invite you to come play this new game with us.  All we ask is that you open your hearts and embrace all the love and light the we are sending you.  It is in this spirit that we welcome you with open arms to join us in the challenge and the rewards of creating “Heaven on Earth” — a world where EVERYONE is prosperous and happy.

And to those that have played this domination game so deftly I say “thank you.”  Thank you for teaching us a great lesson that we will never forget.  An invaluable lesson about trusting ourselves, about being discerning, and about not giving away our power. And perhaps the greatest gift that this experience has provided us is the complete clarity that we now have about what we want to be, and the kind of world we want to live in and intend to create.

Love and light,

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Jeff “El Jefe”