CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “5 Tips To Restore Your Faith In ‘Magic’ When Things Get Rough”

It is not always the biggest event that proves to be magical. A beautiful butterfly flying gracefully is magic. The first sip of coffee on a Monday morning is magic. A warm hug of your beloved is magic. It is in the details, try to look for it.

 

Magic is a complete art in itself. It may not always be perfect and beautiful but it allows you to look at things from a different perspective.

From time to time, we wonder where the magic has gone from our lives. Where is the magic that I felt in my youth? Where is the magic that showed me my dreams?

So, how to reignite that fire of magic? How to believe in it again?

1. Remember that there is beauty in tragedy, light in dark corners, and gifts to be found in even the most difficult situations.

You must keep faith in yourself and in your journey. Even if things are not going your way, you must keep dreaming of success, keep believing.

2. Look at life as art.

Look at the life deeply; sometimes you are not able to see the beauty straight away.

3. Connect with your highest self, your divine spark.

When you are not connected to your higher self, things usually do not go well. You might achieve a lot in life but will still feel empty from inside. Connect with your higher self in order to be the best version of yourself.

4. Don’t push too hard.

Life is not just about maximum effort. Sometimes, you need to go with the flow. When things go bad, think of yourself as floating in a calm river, flowing downstream slowly and smoothly. Let your body relax and spirit refresh.

5. Remember that magic is in the details.

It is not always the biggest event that proves to be magical. A beautiful butterfly flying gracefully is magic. The first sip of coffee on a Monday morning is magic. A warm hug of your beloved is magic. It is in the details, try to look for it.

When you fail to find the magic outside, look for it inside.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

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CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Bringing Healing & Grace Back Into Your Life”

We should ask ourselves how frequently we see our sky, or touch our earth, and look at the mountains in the distance. We are just a small part of this changing, expanding, and ever-growing nature world, although modern technology consistently suggests the opposite. Stress will appear if we are not grounded properly, and when we lose our connection to the Mother Earth.

We shouldn’t underestimate the powers that the change of the four seasons brings, in order to awaken our spirit.

Since ancient times, people considered spring as the female persona that brings a rebirth of warmth, light, new life and new growth with it. We will also welcome the infusion of our Divine Feminine, every gift of God’s feminine face.

Spring comes after the long winter sleep melts away, making ourselves open to the opportunities for healing and hope that the new season will bring.

As we take a look around us, much work has to be done. Divine Feminine brings us gifts which we need in order to bring peace, balance, harmony, compassion, and love to this troubled world.

Feminine spirit’s power lives in women and men too, and they may be cultivated just like flowers in spring. If we use them to heal our inner world, we can also bring them to heal, save, help, and rescue our outer world.

We should ask ourselves what we would do with all those powers of our Divine Feminine connection. Are we going to bring shelter for the homeless, food to the starving children, end ward, heal and comfort the sick, the heartbroken, and the suffering?

There are numerous possibilities, but from where we should start?

These are the five ways which will help us wake up our spirit during the spring season and also call forth every gift that we wait to flourish with:

Nurture

We should take proper care of the incredibly miraculous human being that we are. Are we the loving parents to our inner child, and do we treat ourselves with compassion, patience, and kindness?

Do we take into consideration our physical necessities for adequate sleep, regular exercise, and proper nutrition? Do we appreciate and love ourselves? Do we practice gratitude for all our lessons, blessings and experiences?

Heal

We should ask ourselves about how we create wholeness and wellness within. Do we have some regular practices in order to connect to the Source?

Prayer and meditation will be the best possible practices to increase our light and keep our psyche healthy. Connecting to some power which is higher than us will ease pain, fear, anxiety, and fear, and it will create inner peace too.

Grow

We should ask ourselves how frequently we see our sky, or touch our earth, and look at the mountains in the distance. We are just a small part of this changing, expanding, and ever-growing nature world, although modern technology consistently suggests the opposite.

Stress will appear if we are not grounded properly, and when we lose our connection to the Mother Earth. Peace and happiness will come from simply immersing ourselves in the sounds, sights, textures, and scents of the outside. We are going to lose our feeling of presence and belonging if we don’t expose ourselves to nature regularly.

Express

We should ask ourselves if we look within, striving to appreciate and understand our feelings and thoughts. Do we find some ways in which we can express our authentic life experience? Keeping a journal is going to help us develop our capacity to express ourselves.

Recording our impressions and ideas may help us find some patterns in our thinking in order to help us know ourselves. Knowing more means growing more. While we grow, we are going to have tools which we need in order to express ourselves, share our ideas, or build, and even strengthen our relationships.

Serve

We should ask ourselves if we serve simply by placing warm meals in front of homeless veterans or by merely showing struggling children how they can read stories or solve math problems.

Every act of serving the world starts with our inner sense of aim and even connection to our fellow beings. Our inner spiritual works are going to create our inner peace that the world will see reflected as hope, encouragement, and love.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

RAVEN FON: “Numerology & Addresses — What Does Your House Number Mean?”

Ascension Avatar note: There is vibration in everything, and residential addresses are no exception! I’ve resisted posting articles such as this in the past for the reason they felt ‘off’ with my own perceptions and understandings of numerological applications, and — they never seem to mention how compatible the residential vibrations are with the personal numerology dynamics of each person living within the household (I live alone, lucky me) and for another reason: what about everyone in the world who happens to be living in or even travelling through a place which doesn’t happen to have a ‘matrix number’ assigned to it (now doesn’t THAT seem like a real, off-grid planetary paradise!)? This list is an outline and nothing more (though I admit reading about my residential vibration 8 was almost comically ‘too close to home’, pros and cons). Take it as a general reference only, and by all means, if you happen to be living in the ‘5’ vibration — please do not heed the message here as an invitation to “overindulge in food, sex, alcohol, drugs” as the article suggests unless of course, your own free will brings you there, haha — but remember, balance and discipline is a beautiful way of honoring your inner/outer temple and God/Goddess within/without!  Enjoy and have a Namaste! 🙏

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If you’ve ever wondered if the address of your house, condo, or apartment could affect the energy of your home, you’re not alone.

Lots of people have thought about the possibilities within numerology. As it turns out, the numbers in your address do mean something, and they are surprising to say the least.

House numbers have important meanings which can forecast and influence several aspects of your life. Things like how you experience a certain space, or how social activities take place in your home.

If you’re searching for your first home, thinking about a new move, or if you are curious about a past residence, looking into a home’s energy and the numerology meanings can be fascinating. Those moving into a new home can find what atmosphere best suits them.

To assess the meaning of your house number, you must consider the address itself. If you reside in a place that has a unit, or complex number, you would use those numbers to find your meaning. For houses with street numbers, those are the ones you would use.

When a building, especially homes, are erected, they are given a number. This assigned number is its birth, or vibration, number. This energy continues to flow through the structure for the duration of its lifetime.

To find your home numerology meaning, you must first reduce your address to a single digit. Simply add up the digits in your address until you are left with one.

Apt # 345 = (3+4+5) = 12 = 1 + 2 = 3

Home address 2129 Green Valley = (2+1+2+9) = 14 = 1 + 4 = 5

Letters

Letters also have numeric value in Numerology. So you live in apartment 15A, you would take the numeric value of the letter A (see below) and add that to the apartment number.

In this example: 15A = 1 + 5 + (A = 1) = 7

1 = A, J, S
2 = B, K, T
3 = C, L, U
4 = D, M, V
5 = E, N, W
6 = F, O, X
7 = G, P, Y
8 = H, Q, Z
9 = I, R

When you have found your home vibration number, you can then analyze the numerology significance within your address. Here is a look at some key points of vibration numbers 1-9, via Felicia Bender:

1 HOME

The 1 home is a place to establish independence.

It’s all about “#1” and its energy promotes innovation,individuality, ambition, drive, and leadership. The personality of this house supports self-employment or an active career. People living in this home will be encouraged to maintain their independence, autonomy, and personal freedom. Living here can teach you lessons about self-confidence, courage, determination, and failing forward.

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for a “soft and fuzzy” family environment, this is not the place for you. The 1 home fosters and focuses on independence to the exclusion of the give-and-take required for successful partnership. If your priority at this time in your life is to find a long-term intimate partner, you’ll find connecting and sustaining a reciprocal relationship challenging. If you’re a person who is sensitive to loneliness, this home can have too much “me/self” energy and might be a place where you spend time alone.

If your home adds up to 19 — which is a karmic number — the tendency might be that you feel unsupported and overloaded with work.

Upside: Great place for an active, outer-focused life. Perfect for finding success and establishing your sense of independence, individuality, and achievement.

Downside: This home is “all about you” to the exclusion of others. “One” can be the loneliest number.

2 HOME

The 2 home is a place devoted to love, family, and partnership.

It’s all about inclusion, nurturing, and providing a loving and safe environment. Its energy promotes loving relationships, devotion to the group as a whole, and is a harmonious place to live. The personality of this house supports people who want to co-create a life together — couples, couples with kids, or best friends. People living in this home will be encouraged to be diplomatic and take everyone’s needs into consideration. Living here can teach you lessons about love, relationships, peace, harmony, and emotions.

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for a launching pad that’ll encourage you to present yourself dynamically to the world, this is not the place for you. The 2 home fosters and focuses on relationship to the exclusion of independence and individuality. If your priority at this time in your life is to get moving with your career or get out of a codependent relationship, you’ll find that putting yourself first will prove challenging. You might find that you’re extremely emotionally sensitive in this home and become enmeshed with those living with you. You can begin to feel emotionally needy. If you live here alone, you can feel depressed that you’re not sharing your life in partnership with another person.

Upside: Great place to create your nest. Perfect for creating and establishing loving relationships and is a great home to raise a family. This is a comfortable and nurturing environment for everyone.

Downside: This home can make you want to stay home and away from the “fray” to the point where you start living in your own little world. You can become enmeshed in the emotional lives of those you’re living with in the house.

3 HOME

The 3 home is a place that’s full of joy and laughter and has an optimistic and upbeat energy.

It’s all about communication, emotional self-expression, and creativity. Its energy promotes socializing, inspired and uplifting conversation, and artistic expression. The personality of this house supports people who want to start a family, engage in innovation and creativity — anyone who wants to live life fully and joyfully feels good in this house. People living in this home will be encouraged to be emotionally sensitive and tap into their creative expression. Living here can teach you lessons about communication, emotions, joy, and expression.

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for a solitary retreat, this is not the place for you. The 3 home fosters and focuses on social engagement and joyful expression to the exclusion of a more “serious” expression of life. If your priority at this time in your life is to have some unplugged “alone” time, you’ll find it challenging. The energy of this home is vivacious, yet it can lend itself to the occupants feeling scattered and unable to follow through with things (commitments, projects, that sort of thing). You can also find that money slips though your hands when you live here. Since the energy of the 3 is all about creativity and emotions, you might have a tendency to experience bigger emotional highs and lows in this house, not to mention bouts with self-doubt.

Upside: Great place to expand your creativity and communication skills. Perfect for hosting parties and get togethers with fascinating people. This is a comfortable and inspiring environment for everyone.

Downside: This home can be a place where you experience money problems. You can feel scattered and have trouble focusing and following through with things in your life. If you’re not open to expressing your creativity and living with joy, you can experience depression and succumb to cynicism.

4 HOME

The 4 home is a place to establish security and stability.

It’s all about the slow and steady processes that produce security. Its energy promotes hard work, development and implementation of systems, organization, loyalty, and protection. The personality of this house supports growing a business, a family, or your solid investments. People living in this home will be encouraged to maintain conservative actions, hard-working endurance, and grounded practical activities. Living here can teach you lessons about service, practical goal setting, honesty, and security.

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for a free-flowing environment, this is not the place for you. The 4 home fosters and focuses on security to the exclusion of lighter, more creative, or more fanciful endeavors. If your priority at this time in your life is to bring out your fun-loving and freedom-seeking nature, you’ll find the energy of the 4 home challenging. This home supports hard work and concerted effort. It’s got a more “serious” vibration and feels very stable, organized, and well-managed. This home is very “earthy” and benefits from a nice garden and does well with live plants in the interior of the home as well.

You might find yourself becoming a “work martyr” or getting too bogged down in your to-do list (just say no to micromanaging!), particularly if you live in a 13 home — which is a karmic number. It’s important to make every effort to balance work with play and practicality with emotions.

Upside: Great place for you if you need to establish a sense of stability and security in your life. Perfect for slow and steady process meant to endure the test of time. Also conducive to knowledge seeking and study.

Downside: This home can feel “heavy” and supports continuous work and meeting of goals. If you don’t make a concerted effort to take some time off and lighten up, the energy of this home can feel oppressive. The energy here is all about discipline, structure, and order.

5 HOME

The 5 home is a place to party and have fun!

It’s all about fun, fearlessness, adventure, and progressive ideas. Its energy promotes versatility, flexibility, enjoyment of all things social, and freedom. The personality of this house supports developing your sense of freedom through self-discipline — it’s about the constructive use of freedom. People living in this home will be encouraged to live life to its fullest, tackle problems with fearless abandon, and make lemonade out of lemons. Living here can teach you lessons about acceptance, the focused use of freedom, dynamic change, and facing your fears.

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for a solid and steady environment, this is not the place for you. The 5 home fosters and focuses on freedom and pleasure to the exclusion of more serious or more conservative endeavors. If your priority at this time in your life is to get serious and build a solid future, you’ll find the energy of the 5 home challenging and counter-productive. This home supports variety and change, so it might not serve as a permanent residence for you unless you desire an ever-changing lifestyle. The 5 is the number of excess, so you might find that you (and your guests) overindulge in food, sex, alcohol, drugs. Any excessive behaviors are amped up under this vibration.

You might find yourself succumbing to addictions (if you’re prone to that) or alternatively becoming fearful to the point of seclusion, particularly if you live in a 14 home — which is a karmic number. It’s important to implement light healthy routine and focused self-discipline, or the energy of the 5 can easily run amuck.

Upside: Great place for you want some fun and energy in your life. This is a great house for tapping into your versatility, meeting and connecting with interesting and off-the-beaten-path sort-of people, and just livin’ large!

Downside: The energy of this home can move very fast, which can feel as though you’re being knocked off balance sometimes. It’s an intense energy of fun, sensual pleasures, and constant activities. If you have children in a 5 home, they’ll probably be engaged in a bundle of extra-curricular activities. Just make sure you don’t get carried away with all the impulsive energy contained in this home.

6 HOME

The 6 home is a place of beauty and nurturing.

It’s all about home and family and its energy promotes loving service, warmth, compassion, and is a superb home for children. The personality of this house supports running a business and raising a family. People living in this home will be feel nurtured and cared for — yet you must be careful not to over-give to the point of feeling drained. The energy of the 6 also has perfectionist tendencies, so be aware that you’ll need to loosen the reins on your need for control. This is a perfect home for your service-oriented business, especially something in the line of massage, energy work, counseling, interior decorating — anything having to do with making people feel better is in alignment with the energy of the 6. Living here can teach you lessons about service, trusting your visionary ideas, love, and acceptance.

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for a “no responsibility for me” environment, this is not the place for you. The 6 home fosters and focuses on service to the exclusion of more independent or individual endeavors. This home supports the value of home and family — it also supports the artist as well. The 6 is the “domestic” number and this home is your castle. It nurtures all who walk onto the premises. I can almost smell the homemade cookies baking! Make sure and take time to invite others into your world. The 6 home can become your own little resort of perfection, so make sure that you don’t turn a blind eye to the world around you.

Upside: This home is a nurturing and beautiful environment for families and for people who want to live in a house that feels like home. This is the place to nurture and be nurtured — it’s truly a sanctuary. Children and animals thrive here and it’s a home of taste and usually has an artistic and creative flair.

Downside: Since “responsibility” is the cornerstone for the energy of the 6, you might feel bogged down by responsibility in this home. The trick is to balance self-care with the care and loving service to others. You might also feel as though you want to just hang out in your little cocoon all the time and not venture out and engage with the world. Don’t cut yourself off from your engagement with experiences and people outside of your own family circle.

7 HOME

The 7 home is a place for introspection and contemplation.

It’s all about spiritual seeking, taking isolated time for yourself, igniting your intuition, and refining your data-driven ideas. Its energy promotes tranquility, soul-searching, knowledge gathering, and spirituality. The personality of this house supports developing your sense of truth. It’s a place you can really take the time to get to know yourself in a deep and profound way. People living in this home will be encouraged to find faith in themselves and in others, to take time to be by themselves, and to learn more about whatever you’re specifically interested in knowing more about. Living here can teach you lessons about trust, your own spiritual beliefs, how to develop and listen to your intuition, and uncovering the “real you.”

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for an environment that’s set up to move you forward in practical ways in the material world, this is not the place for you. The 7 home fosters and focuses on your “internal journey” to the exclusion of more practical and material endeavors. If your priority at this time in your life is to get your cash flow going and make your mark in a high-energy career, you’ll find the energy of the 7 home challenging. This home supports contemplation and intellectual pursuits, so if you’re in a relationship or marriage, you’ll have to make a special effort to connect and communicate clearly with your partner. Otherwise, the energy of the 7 is much more internally focused and self-directed, so you can confuse people when they feel you’re perhaps a bit aloof or stand-offish.

You might find yourself tempted to escape through addictions or living very much “in your head” to the point of feeling intellectually superior to others, particularly if you live in a 16 home — which is a karmic number. It’s important to bring yourself back to earth in order to operate successfully in the world.

Upside: This is a perfect home for a writer, scientist, professor — anyone who is working at becoming an expert in an area of specialty will benefit from the intense energies related to the headiness of the number 7. This home is a refuge and feels private. You can gain miraculous insight when you’re living in the energy of a 7 home. To promote a tranquil feeling rather than a feeling of isolation, water features are beneficial.

Downside: You might have a tendency to feel like a loner in this home. If you enjoy a vibrant social life, this home won’t jive with you. Since the number 7 also loves to escape, it’s not the best choice if you struggle with drug or alcohol issues.

8 HOME

The 8 home is a place of power and prestige.

It’s all about financial abundance and its energy promotes financial gain (and loss), control, authority, and achievement. The personality of this house supports you in getting ahead in the material world. People living in this home will tend to feel as though money and achievement are top priority — therefore it’s vital that you maintain a healthy sense of loving communication with your family members or they’ll feel neglected or second on the totem pole. The energy of the 8 is all about the mastery of money, yet it’s highest form is in giving back to others and doing business with the utmost integrity. This home is often a “show piece,” so be careful that it represents your values and doesn’t become a vacuous “show home.” Living here can teach you lessons about personal power, endurance, management, and organization.

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for a relaxed and low-key environment, this is not the place for you. The 8 home fosters and focuses on financial achievement and authority in the material world. If your priority at this time in your life is to contemplate the more spiritual or intangible side of yourself, you’ll find the energy of the 8 home challenging. This home supports abundance in all areas of your life. The 8 is the “money” number and this home is power central. This home usually has a certain degree of elegance or “reserve” about it. The energy of the 8 is all about appearances, yet make sure that there’s a heart to the home or it’ll feel superficial.

Upside: If you want a supportive environment for advancing your interests in the realms of money and achievement, this is the perfect environment to do it. This home usually feels as though there’s a lot going on behind the scenes. Perfect for impressing business associates and it’s also a great place for running a business if it’s a home-based business.

Downside: The number 8 is all about money and abundance, yet it’s also a risk taking energy and usually attracts losses as well as gains. You need to understand that resilience is part of the package. You might find that you have a tendency to become a “hoarder” in this house — always getting more and more “stuff.” If you’re constantly upgrading the home for “show” purposes, it can become a money pit. People who live here can become workaholics. Make sure to balance work and play. Also understand that the challenge to the energy of the 8 is the opposite of power and abundance — therefore an 8 house might be a place that isn’t particularly opulent. Yet even if it’s a “regular” home, it usually exudes a sense of pride and refinement.

9 HOME

The 9 home is a place of humanitarianism.

It’s all about charitable giving and its energy promotes creativity, spirituality, selflessness, and forgiveness. The personality of this house supports you in changing the world to make it a better place. People living in this home will tend to feel as though they want to give back to the world in a substantial way. The energy of the 9 is all about the letting go — so this is a place where you can heal yourself and others. This home welcomes everyone and people who live here often are (or become) spiritually evolved. Living here can teach you lessons about giving wise counsel, universal truth, charitable giving, and letting go of the past.

Glitches & Potential Challenges: If you’re looking for a place where your focus is more self-centered, this is not the place for you. The 9 home fosters and focuses on love, compassion, and acceptance of everyone. If your priority at this time in your life is to forge ahead in the world on your own terms, you’ll find the energy of the 9 home challenging. Your intuition will become highly developed here. It’s likely that you’ll find yourself being contacted by people seeking your advice. People are drawn to your home because of the loving and giving energy. The number 9 is an “international” number, so you might find yourself traveling frequently or hosting visitors from other parts of the world. This is also a refuge for healing past wounds — you can count on having opportunities to forgive yourself and others for past indiscretions. The expression of feelings and creativity of all kinds is a must.

Upside: This is a wonderful home for supporting you if you’re on a humanitarian mission in life. This can be anything you feel strongly about sharing and giving to the world — as a teacher, artist, counselor, business person, musician, philanthropist. This is a magnetic home that supports spiritual growth.

Downside: This home is good for people who’re ready and willing to tap into their compassion, spirituality, and giving. Sometimes this home can be a home where “loss” occurs. The 9 is the energy of completions, letting go, and transformation. This is a place where you’ll experience personal and spiritual evolution — and that isn’t always smooth or easy.

 

~via MysticalRaven.com

MATEO SOL: “12 Signs You’ve Lost Your Authenticity and Are ‘Selling Out'”

Authenticity is a big buzzword these days.

“Be more authentic,” “honor your authenticity,” “find your authentic self” — we hear these phrases scattered all over the internet and spoken about everywhere.

But what does being authentic mean? And most importantly, how can we tell when we’re being inauthentic — also known as “selling out”?

What is Authenticity?

Authenticity is the state of simply being yourself, listening to who you really are, and making decisions that align with your beliefs and values. Authenticity at its core is about deeply accepting all that is ‘you’ and honoring it above ALL else.

What is Inauthenticity (i.e. Selling Out)?

Inauthenticity, on the other hand, is about placing external things above your genuine values, needs, dreams, and artistic vision. When we ‘sell ourselves out’ we are essentially placing all of the most important parts of ourselves up for auction. Instead of making decisions based on our genuine beliefs, values, and personal style, we make decisions based on how much money, attention, fame, or acceptance we will gain from other people.

Examples of Authenticity vs. Inauthenticity

Sometimes reading examples helps to flesh out abstract concepts like authenticity. Here are a few examples taken from real life:

An artist has been contacted by a large publishing agency. They would like to mass produce her art but on the one condition that she change the titles and descriptions. Deep down, the artist knows that the titles and descriptions of her art are intrinsic to her work. She refuses the publishing agencies offer. She has made an authentic choice.

A father sees how gifted at writing his teenage son is. But instead of encouraging his son to pursue a career in writing, the father pressures his son to study business and accounting because it is the “safe” choice. The son then dutifully studies business and accounting in university. Both father and son have made inauthentic decisions.

A life coach who specializes in online mentoring wants to grow her business. In order to get more clients, she focuses solely on what is trendy and popular and writes/talks about those topics. She begins to lose touch with her original vision. She has become inauthentic.

A company is pressured by investors and shareholders to change its philosophy in order to be more “hip,” appeal to the new generation and make more profit. The company refuses to compromise their philosophy. They have made an authentic decision.

12 Signs You’ve Lost Your Authenticity and Are Selling Out

We are not perfect people. Perfection is an illusion. Therefore, it is guaranteed that at some point in your life, you will make an inauthentic decision that compromises your values, vision, or beliefs. It’s just part of being human!

Although we can’t be perfect, we can strive to be more conscious. Self-awareness and honesty are the two key qualities we need to prevent ourselves from slipping into bad choices.

If you’re concerned that you might be “selling out,” read the signs below. They will help to either confirm or challenge your feelings:

  • Your top priority is making bucket loads of money

  • You’re obsessed with getting new followers, fans or subscribers (e.g. on social media)

  • You let others make decisions for you

  • You let others dictate who you are + who you ‘should’ be

  • You follow the crowd and do what everyone else is doing

  • You always follow trends even if they don’t make sense to you

  • You reveal only what makes you look good

  • You copy other people and their style/lifestyle

  • You ignore your gut feelings and intuition

  • You wear a mask around others
    You’re scared to be vulnerable and express your true feelings, thoughts, or values (which may be unpopular)

  • You make decisions based on how much attention, fame, money or acceptance you’ll receive rather than your genuine beliefs, values, or vision

Take a few thoughtful moments to make a serious assessment of the list above. Evaluate each point with an honest heart.

How many can you relate to?

How to Stop Selling Out

 

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”

~B. Brown

 

I want to make a clear distinction here. There is a difference between selling yourself and selling out.

Selling yourself, in business and career fields, is about highlighting your genuine strengths and gifts, and offering those to the world. Selling out, on the other hand, is about compromising your personal integrity and letting external things drive you instead of internal qualities.

Also, not everyone has the liberty of making authentic decisions — but I want to emphasize that these situations are literally survival situations. For example, if a small business owner from an impoverished country was approached by a wealthy businessman who wanted to invest in and change his company, do you think it would be smart to decline? In certain environments and situations, making choices that go against our creative vision is essential in order to survive. But if you’re blessed to live in more fortunate circumstances where you’re not literally faced with starvation or anything else equally serious, then making authentic decisions is an intelligent way to live life.

Why is being authentic intelligent? Because you are listening to your heart and nurturing your soul. Money, fame, adoration, and approval from others will quench your ego’s need for safety and control — but that only lasts for so long. Soon, you will be left with a big, empty, gaping hole inside. The true joy, inner peace, and fulfillment come when you are living your truth and putting your essence out into the world.

So how do you let your essence — your passions, perspectives, and values — guide you? Here are some ideas; many of which I have discovered across my own authenticity journey:

1. Pay attention to how the decisions you make feel physically. Do you feel uncomfortable, heavy or dark sensations? Or does your body feel light and energized? Unlike the mind, the body cannot lie. Your body is the best lie detector out there. If you are about to make a decision that does not align with your values, your body will immediately feel and express that. Pay attention to warning signs such as heaviness in the heart area, tensed muscles, lightheadedness, cold shivers, and even physical cringing. Your physical warning signs will be unique to you (and can’t all be listed here), so search for them diligently.

2. Get your priorities straight. At the end of the day, what will TRULY fulfill you? Think about this question very carefully. Will you ultimately be happy with truckloads of followers, clients, money, or a lavish lifestyle, without feeling like you’ve stayed true to yourself? Money is important, don’t get me wrong. But how much money do you actually need in order to be happy and feel fulfilled? You might also like to explore what your main driving forces are: are you driven by power, success, fame, wealth or your individual and unique style, talents, passions, visions, and desires to make an impact? Focus on nailing down your main motivating force and ask yourself, “Is this healthy? Is this aligned with who I truly am?”

3. Explore inauthentic areas in your life. Intentionally carve out time and space to assess your life – that might even mean just sitting here as you’re reading this article and doing a bit of quiet reflecting. Think about areas in your life that you’re unhappy with. Have you lost your authentic voice in that area … or is the issue something else altogether? This process takes honesty. Write down every choice, commitment, and behavior that feels out of alignment with your deepest passions, perspectives, and values.

4. Make the hard choices. Once you’ve identified the inauthentic areas of your life, it’s time to act. You will need to carve out a plan — possibly multiple plans — to regain a sense of personal integrity. Ask yourself questions such as, “What must absolutely go and what can stay?” “What is true to me and what is false?” “What options do I have?” “What is the potential loss and gain in this situation?” “What is the best scenario and worst scenario?” “What is my plan A and plan B?” “What am I clinging to for dear life?” Use a tool like journaling to help you get out your thoughts, feelings, and plans in a coherent, organized, and structured way.

5. Integrate the experience with self-compassion. Once you have made the necessary change, it’s time for reflection. How did it feel to make such big (or small) changes? What parts of you felt threatened? What did you find it easy to let go of and difficult to surrender? How does it feel to walk your own genuine path? How can you avoid making inauthentic decisions in the future? These are all the kind of vital questions you’ll benefit from asking and exploring. Most importantly, integration is about accepting our humanness and all the frailty that comes along with it. Embrace your mistakes, forgive yourself, and let your hard-earned lessons make you stronger and wiser.

In this loud, confusing, and overwhelming world, it can be easy to slip into the role of selling out your integrity and authenticity to gain power, fame, or money. We are bombarded with messages from the media, social media, our colleagues, and even our friends and family members to be anything other than what we are. But in order to live fulfilled and soul-driven lives, we need to put a firm foot down. We need to learn when to say “no” and forcefully draw the line and protect our integrity.

I hope this article has inspired you to preserve your artistic vision, inner values, or deeply held passions. What makes life beautiful is how unique and varied it is. I hope you share your own unique flavor of authenticity with the world!

What is your experience with selling out? Do you have any tips to share surrounding integrity and authenticity?

Finally, I’ll leave you with a final quote. Tell me in the comments, do you agree or disagree with this statement below?

“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”

~Andre Gide

 

~via WakeUp-World.com

JEREMIAH STEPHEN (HeartSphere): “Voices”

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

― Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Life teems with choice and decision. Some are difficult, while others are easy. Some test the loom upon which the very fabric of our lives is woven. And upon the precipice of choice we may also find resounding voices–those that are not our own.

We all come to these critical points as we dwell within the many spheres that visit our lives.

All decisions affect not only our life, but the lives of others as well. The choice of food that we nourish our bodies with has consequences that can be witnessed in minutes, and others that may not be seen for many years. Our choice of words can immediately defeat or uplift a stranger, a loved one or a friend. And our choice of actions may alter the course of world history, or at the very least, our own personal history.

But many of these choices are made almost involuntarily, influenced by thoughts that do not belong to our hearts.

I used to be worried about every move that I ever made, about every word that I would utter and every action that I took. I wasn’t worried about the causal outcome of my words or actions, but of the response from those around me. In doing this, I placed myself into a protective shell that grew dense over many years. And many of us are familiar with this.

I was called shy, withdrawn, reserved, introverted and anti-social. But this was never who I truly was. I felt comfortable being quiet, so I stayed where I found comfort.

But the day came when I no longer visited those thoughts that brought me worry. I found strength in my own hands, through creative pleasure and my own God-given gifts. I realized that I only worried over my perception of another person’s perception. It was my own thoughts that worried me, and nothing else.

Then I realized one beautiful truth…

Don’t believe everything that you think.

Today, I embrace who I am. I speak my deepest thoughts, and am not afraid to share my life with anyone. Of course I’m still full of cynicism, sarcasm and a host of other idiosyncrasies, but who isn’t?

I’ve made countless choices that have taught me great truth, and if anyone asked me to correct anything in my past, I can honestly say the thought itself is impossible.

Because everything that I’ve done has brought me here, to this moment.

Had I not decided to move to a new place instead of staying home, I may not have a daughter. Had I chosen to stay just one day longer in Colorado, I may not have a son. So revisiting my perceived past “what-if’s” or otherwise “difficult” choices brings me to knowing that my options were on my path for a reason.

As is everything… And everyone.

We should be wise to not give our choices up to the resounding doubt that speaks to us from the dark corners of the mind. We should never step out of our own light to appease the shadows of a crowd, or to play it safe and stay comfortable in a hardened shell made of our own mind’s treachery.

These are lessons that I’ve learned, and though I am where I am in life because of choices I’ve made from these metrics, I’ve come far from the mist that once covered the hidden garden. I now choose wisely, and listen to my heart as it softly speaks.

I wish all to hear their true voice, and to be sound and content in speaking their own truth as it should be done by one’s own accord.

Life is full of Choices…

And full of Voices…

So, choose wisely.

And Speak your Own.

 

~via TheHeartSphere.com