“Imagine if you had never heard of labels like ‘soul mate’, ‘twin flame” or ‘spiritual’, what would you look for in a relationship? What values, qualities, principles and characteristics would your ideal partner have?”
Quite often I get emails from people asking me how to manifest or attract their soul mate or twin flame. Students will have sessions with me so that I can assist them fulfill this intent. And even though I believe in soul mates and twin flames, the reality is these are still labels. Labels that will often work against people when it comes to manifesting the best relationship they could ever have. So the first thing I tell people who desire to manifest their soul mate is to drop this label, because when it comes to the equation of manifesting the relationship that is for their highest good, the label soul mate or twin flame is not really that important. Think about it, if you could be with a man or woman that loves you, adores you, respects you, supports you, makes you feel safe, inspires passion within you, you are attracted/magnetized to his/her presence, you share many interests and you are happy with… would it really matter if he/she was your soul mate or twin flame?
I resonate with the idea that we all have various soul mates but not all are the romantic relationship type. But even those soul mates that belong to the romantic relationship category are not always the best relationship for you. I have witnessed people stay in unhealthy, dramatic and co-dependent relationships only because they believe the other person is their soul mate. Imagine if you had never heard of labels like “soul mate”, “twin flame” or “spiritual”, what would you look for in a relationship? What values, qualities, principles and characteristics would your ideal partner have? Would it be easier to determine what person is best for you if you did not have to answer the question “is he/she my soul mate”?
I have seen people fall in love with soul mates who live on the other side of the world and they end up having a distant relationship that most of the time turns out not working at all. Would you prefer to meet your soul mate who lives on the other side of the world or have a loving partner who is by your side? Then there are a few people who believe that their soul mate or twin flame currently is stationed in another dimension (often the 5th) and they state this is the reason why they are single. This could be very well true, yet why would you limit yourself to not have a relationship here and now in the 3D? Relationships are one of the greatest blessings and gifts we have to love, grow, learn, share and evolve. I am sure that if your soul mate or twin flame is indeed waiting for you in another dimension he or she wouldn’t mind if you enjoyed having a relationship here and now.
It is my belief that I have met and been in a relationship with two different soul mates whom I later realized were not the best relationships for me in terms of life partnership yet still necessary ones for my own learning, healing and evolutionary process. Today I’m engaged to my beloved Jenniffer, is she my soul mate or twin flame? Who cares… she is the woman I love with all my heart and she is my life partner, our commitment to each other is very strong, we are happy together and have absolute certainty that we will stay together. That is all that really matters.
The term soul mate, twin flame or spiritual are not determining factors when we have an argument or face a life challenge, rather it is the love we have towards each other beyond any labels and the tools and resources we have and can apply to learn, grow, heal and evolve that really make a difference in our relationship. So if you haven’t met your soul mate or you are not sure if the person you are in a relationship with right now is your soul mate, who cares?! Focus on attracting and manifesting the relationship that will offer you the greatest opportunities to love, be happy, share life’s blessings, learn, grow, contribute, connect, feel safe, feel unique and evolve.