CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Everything You Resist, Persists!”

Ascension Avatar note: In other words, be aware, view everything squarely in the eye for what it is (‘inner’ and ‘outer’ but primarily ‘inner’), don’t hesitate to improve what’s there and remember ‘shielding-up’ is simply, not resisting your own energetic resilience.

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Every time we want to avoid something, it looks like it bumps to us constantly. Being like that, it is actually not some conspiracy, but it is the simple consequences of the universal laws operating: it is the Law of Resistance.

Everything we resist, it persists, no matter what it is.

For example, if we take a look at our past life, we are going to have a lot of memories which will prove the reality of the law in only a couple of moments. No matter what we resisted, it persisted.

For instance, when resisting some negative situation and we force the outside circumstances to be in our own favor as of our wishes, it will only create more sufferance and negativity. Enduring things looks like it squeezes out the energy and transfers it to that thing of resistance. So, we continue resisting, as well as draining the energy inside us.

However, the hardest challenge would be how we actually tolerate a person that is filled with a lot of negativity and attitudinal regularly creates chaos in the family. Also, at our workplace were a lot of individuals that have some negativity in attitude exist, for example, our boss, who always claims to be right, even though he is not.

So, at such times, we should know the way in which we should respond. We will also have to be brave and have the bravery to support ourselves, or some individuals will simply walk over us. However, the goal that we have is to create an inside suspension organization gradually, such as the one of some vehicle which drives on the roads.

Gradually, through some practice of observing our thoughts and breaths quietly, we can permit the distilling of the standard inside mechanism of resistance something which will be unpleasant, so later on, we will have the ability to confront situations like that and become awake and alert about not surrendering to the sudden urge to do the same. Instead, we should attempt being more empathetic and understanding, and fill that individual with some optimistic energy.

This will not be easy, but as the time passes, it will be, if it is practiced. If we can actually do it once, we can also do it twice, and step by step, we are going to come into a condition in which provocations from outside will not make us be out of our balance.

This is a real spiritual growing — remaining unharmed in the middle of the outside challenges and threats. A person that can do that will know that each of those negative individuals who came into his life did not happen by accident, but it occurred as a result of karmic relation.

We can actually win this if we play the correct card and we can also reach not reaction and state of response, so there will be peace without and within.

We have to learn a lot more from nature. When keeping company with it, we are going to learn something from the air, as it has different smells within it, but does not have its own. Our planet is the incarnation of patience. For example, when we look at trees, they are going to teach us everything about the art of not judging, unconditionally.

We are not supposed to not remember that we are not simply a part of this nature, but we are the nature itself, in its totality. The simple difference is that we are actually not aware that we are inseparable from it, and it is the main reason why we become unnatural.

When we are living a non-violent life, trying not to cause pain or hurt people with deeds or words, or when we want to see the wonders of the planet, we are going to grow in real humans that follow the order of the Universe, the principal of cosmic order. Then, the necessity for resistance is going to dissolve forever.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

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MATEO SOL: “6 Ways You Hinder Your Self-Growth Without Knowing It”

Our “self-esteem” is a very delicate illusion. We are so off-centered when it comes to locating the origin of our self-worth, that the smallest realization of an imperfection in ourselves can bring up all kinds of insecurities.

When a person begins working with their soul, they will start through self-exploration to gain energy, vitality, and clarity. They will also, however, notice the ‘shock’ of beginning to see their own unconscious selves and their deep inner fragmentation (e.g: all your sub-personalities).

These contradictions within ourselves that speak of who we truly are beyond the social and cultural conditioning in our lives, are humbling, but more importantly, they can also be disturbing. If we were to discover and consciously become aware of all these contradictions at once, the shock would be so great we would most likely go insane.

Our brains have a limited capacity to process all the intellectual and sensory information that we encounter at any given moment, and because of this the unconscious mind exists. In essence, the unconscious mind is a psychological “buffer” which is a part of the brain that stores all the unprocessed information the conscious mind can’t handle.

The unconscious mind works as a shock-absorber, and in psychology this is known as a “defense mechanism”. There are an infinity of defense mechanisms going on within us at any given moment, but these are some of the most common I’ve observed in our practices:

Innocent Bystander

One of the greatest hindrances in anybody’s journey of self-growth is to fool themselves into thinking they haven’t done anything wrong. This may be why the recovering addict’s first step is to acknowledge they have a problem. Most people live in denial or avoidance of exploring themselves because it keeps them from properly recognizing their more unsavory traits and capacities.

“The world is screwed up but I’m completely guilt free” is their basic outlook on life. They refuse to see the interconnection between their actions and lifestyle with the external world around them.

Innocent Critic

This defense mechanism is very similar to the Innocent Bystander, only this one avoids guilt by actively criticizing the world and people around them. Criticizing is our way of rebelling against society and wanting to find a way out, of wanting to be outside of the ‘herd’ while still feeling a sense of false participation.

Critical thought is a necessary instrument in any persons self-growth. But often these “critics” use critical thinking as way of boosting their ego, to feel smarter than the ‘herd’ who haven’t realized what the critic has. Unfortunately, noticing what’s wrong with the state of affairs of the world isn’t enough unless you actively apply a solution to the problem. It’s the essential difference between the paths of self-discovery and self-understanding.

Suppression

Unquestionably, a major obstacle in living a fulfilling life to the maximum of your potential is your inability to be authentic to yourself (it’s the key element in Self-Love). All too often we live with an inner tension of controlling desires that we fear will be socially unacceptable. Let’s say you like a movie or a song that you know your friends don’t like, or maybe you are attracted to someone you know everyone will disapprove of, so you suppress that feeling.

The suppression won’t make the feeling go away, in fact, what happens is that you might be so good at suppressing the feelings that your unconscious mind learns to switch between your authentic self (“I like this person or thing”) to your false sub-personality (“I don’t like the person or thing anymore”).

In the end, the unconscious defense mechanism of “suppression” is protecting you from experiencing confusion as to whether you like something or not by jumping from one extreme to the other. Not only does suppression hinder your self-growth, but it can also contribute towards emotional, psychological and physical repression resulting in a host of sicknesses.

Repression

Repression differentiates from suppression in one important way. While suppression is initially a conscious process of having a desire and learning to avoid or ignore is, repression is an entirely unconscious process.

For example, you might have had a traumatizing experience as a child that unconsciously affected your feelings towards whatever the experience involved. This unconscious defense mechanism basically serves to protect you from feeling pain or other difficult emotions connected to the memories of what is being repressed.

Sometimes, religious beliefs or social conditioning can be so strong that desires that would normally be consciously suppressed (such as sexuality for instance), become automatically unconsciously repressed. You don’t even become aware of what exactly were the desires of your original authentic self, and this makes you completely out of touch with your true self. This self-denying defense mechanism makes it very difficult to learn and cultivate Self-Love.

Reactive Extremes

In psychology the technical term is “reactive formation”, and this is something you’ll observe everywhere. The nature of the unconscious mind is that it requires absolute certainties — it needs to see the world in black or white. There is no grey, or “in between”.

Many people who had a very strict religious upbringing for example, grow older and become disillusioned with the dogmatic ideas they’ve been taught. These people unconsciously find atheism a very attractive option, and become fanatical anti-God advocates, almost dogmatically. Another example of a reactive extreme is the person who finds it difficult to deal with, or understand, other people, and as a reaction decides to become a hermit and go live in the mountains.

Going to reactive extremes can also be illustrated in the case of sour grapes (or the false pretense that we don’t care for something we really do care for, which can be illustrated in the Fox and the Grapes fable). In this situation, our unconscious mind realizes that we are fixated on a certain topic so it protects us by going from one extreme to the other, e.g. from love to hatred.

Blameless Victim

I’m sure we’ve all come across an angry victim of life, someone who blames other people or the world for their difficulties. But everyone uses blame as a defense mechanism to some extent. In truth, what we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.

To indulge in blame is to give up personal responsibility and mentally delegate it to someone else, convincing ourselves that we are not responsible for the state of our lives, instead blaming it on some “outside force”. The blameless victim mechanism blocks us from seeing clearly just how we are contributing to our own suffering.

Essentially, the blameless victim is one of the fiercest protectors of our ego. It causes us to feel that we’re never failing ourselves, or that we lack the maturity or strength to come to terms with the reality of the situations we’re confronted with. Whatever happened is not evidence of our own inadequacy, but of someone else’s.

Have you observed any defense mechanisms in yourselves or in others? Let me know in the comments below!

 

~via Wake-UpWorld.com