FRACTAL ENLIGHTENMENT: “5 Signs You are Complicating Your Life”

Life is complicated. Relationships are complicated. Friendships are complicated. Life choices are complicated. Or are they? Is it possible that our excessive need to complicate life is just merely giving us something to do?

In our utter and complete fear of being bored are we perhaps overcomplicating every single thing in our life for the mere fact that it just gives us something to think about incessantly, or to complain about to our friends, or to distract ourselves from ourselves?

Could it be that our fragile little egos claim they want happiness, and inner peace, and simplicity from life situations but deep down are deathly afraid of this because in order to have true happiness and simple joy and uncomplicated relationships with others would mean the death of a majority of the jibber-jabber mind chatter that our ego spews out all day long?

Without over-thinking, worrying, complaining, and complicating everything to the point that we overanalyze every single situation the ego would lose 90% of its hold on us.

Our true self thrives in simplicity, in fact it is simplicity. It knows that anything outside of simplicity is merely our ego or false self begging for our attention.

As long as it has our attention we won’t pay attention to what is real and true… which is that we don’t need to spend so much time thinking about how we can go about achieving happiness. We already are happiness. We don’t need to spend all our time trying to get love from another person, we already are love.

As long as the ego can overcomplicate every situation to the point that we don’t see that all is well and perfect, it has already won. But the reality of the situation is, it doesn’t have to be this way.

As Confucius said, “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”

Here are five ways you may be making your life more complicated than it needs to be:

1) You live in your head too much

Our minds are constantly trying to make sense of everything. They are going over every single “what if?”, “why did they do that?”, “what does this all mean?” so much so that they forget that all of life is happening in the present moment.

Literally only this present moment exists. So mulling over past conversations, or stressing about future events literally just drives us mad. We spend hours playing out scenarios in our head that have never happened and may or may not ever happen. We overthink everything that we are completely disconnected from what is real and the beauty of experiencing the present moment when it actually happens… in the present moment.

2) You want to make everyone happy all the time

Trying to please everyone might work every once in a while, but most of the time it will be an impossible feat. In order to please one person, it is inevitable that you will upset another person to some extent.

There will be times when everyone in your life is going to have their own opinion on how you should live yours, so trying to satisfy them all would be undoable. How about you just do what makes you happy?

Yes some people will have something to say, or may be disappointed, but this is your life right? Once people in your life catch on that you have made yourself your first priority, they will be less inclined to ask you to go out of your way just to please them.

Also, they won’t be so shocked when you tell them “no” instead of desperately trying to prevent them from being upset by just doing exactly what they tell you to.

3) You believe your perception of life is the absolute truth

Here’s a secret: Your perception does not equal truth, it only means just that… YOUR perception. So the cashier at the store isn’t necessarily a rude witch, just because you perceived her that way. Did it occur to you that maybe she is dealing with a problem in her personal life? And the girl/guy you went on a date with isn’t necessarily an insensitive jerk.

Maybe they’ve had a really difficult childhood and they don’t know how to open up to people very easily. Regardless of the situation, we must realize that there are always two sides to every coin.

When we stop convincing ourselves and others that we know exactly what is going on in other people’s heads and why they act the way they do, we stop wasting so much time judging, complaining and criticizing others.

We simply see things and people as they are, without imposing our own little story on them which may or may not be anywhere near the actual truth.

4) You don’t trust that there is a higher intelligence at work

Whether you call it the universe, or God, or Source, or the all that is, there is a force that is working behind the scenes in every single aspect of our lives. There is never a moment that we are separate from its presence because in all actuality we come from it, meaning we ARE it, just a tiny little slice of it.

Our feeble little minds can’t comprehend this, so because of that we try to make our own plans and agendas on how things in our life will go. News flash: things rarely go the way we thought they would, right?

This is because the higher intelligence knows what’s best for us, even though we are convinced we know. The higher intelligence sees a bigger picture, it knows the reason your car wouldn’t start today was because there was going to be huge collision on the highway right when you would have been driving on it.

Accept and surrender to whatever it brings to you or brings you to. It is always giving you exactly what you need in any given moment, your only assignment is to: TRUST

5) You’re not honest with yourself

This is a big one and actually a lot harder than it seems mainly because so many of us hide ourselves from ourselves so much that we don’t even know what the truth is anymore. Believe it or not a lot of people are comfortable in their misery. They have become so accustomed to it that the mere thought of not having something to be miserable about sounds like the scariest thing ever. So they fool themselves.
admire the simple beauty in life
They rationalize, justify, and make excuses of why they still need to work at the job that they feel sucks the soul out of them, or they need to continue to cling on to an addiction of whatever the object of their desire is.

As long as they can evade actually being honest with themselves, which 9 times out of 10 is that they are afraid, they can stay comfortably unhappy. This for some reason sounds better than simply admitting that whoever or whatever or wherever is never going to bring them any closer to the happiness they claim they want.

Life really doesn’t need to be hard. In fact, when we start to simplify it we realize that the simple life is where true joy and happiness actually lives. We take things and people at face value. We trust the process of life and don’t overanalyze everyone and everything. So, if you do anything, do this… keep it simple.

 

~via FractalEnlightenment.com

BRENDA HOFFMAN: “Giggles Without Boundaries”

Ascension Avatar note: I’ve had ‘the giggles’ all morning to the point of stern self-chastisement (“What is wrong with you today?!”). Apparently I haven’t lost my ‘inner child’… 😊

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Dear Ones,

You continue to be more task-oriented than child-centered. Yet your most direct action path is a child-like belief, innocence, and play. All of which most of you push to the sidelines as you complete one should task after another.

Even though you might enjoy those tasks, enjoying them does not necessarily preclude child-like fun and innocence.

Do you not feel some sparkles of joy and innocence when you observe a small child in Santa’s lap? Reviewing memories of how you used to believe in magic and joy without boundaries.

Likely, your flashes of joy or child-like fun are pierced by thoughts of what you should be doing — and enjoying it as you do. For you have shifted your joy from special occasions to everyday tasks — as we requested. Yet, most of you have not yet shifted your joy to child-like fun.

Child-like fun is created when you have no objective other than play. It does not matter if the floor is dirty or tomorrow’s presentation is complete, you merely drop personal shoulds to play and giggle.

You counter that you must finish the report or you might not have a job or clean the floor for a visitor — again giving your power to others.

You continue to push play to the end of your day or other smaller segments instead of awakening each day to plot giggles instead of daily shoulds. It is likely that if you fully allowed yourself to follow your giggles instead of shoulds, you would discover more efficient preparation or cleaning skills.

Relax and play more and your seemingly endless list of shoulds will melt away. Continue to focus on shoulds and play will falter, then fade into nothingness.

You cannot be new you if shoulds dominate your being.

Trusting new you will occur when you allow yourself the freedom to be in all your child-like sparkle.

Perhaps you cannot understand what we are speaking of for you have always established a to-do list that must be completed before playtime. When in truth, playtime will greatly decrease your to-do lists in ways you cannot yet imagine.

When work of any sort becomes part of your playtime, that work will dissolve easily and quickly.

Of course, you do not believe this concept is possible for you were trained to believe hard work produced results and play merely postponed the drudgery you faced after playtime.

Let us give you another thought that might help you switch activities from work-time to playtime. You are a new being in a new physical body so that which used to be required is no longer. You have different skills and interests than was true in 3D.

Your current difficulty is trusting those new skills for you remain convinced that hard work is required for all forward action. The opposite is now true. Hard work only creates more hard work as you focus on the diligent efforts to complete the task.

Your new approach is asking yourself if a task will be fun and if not, do not complete that task until you determine within yourself a more fun approach or no approach at all.

You are no longer of 3D. Yet you continue to approach “life is difficult, you’ll never get this done,” etc.

Trust your new self, enough to complete the task in fun instead of drudgery or not at all. Perhaps that task is not needed, or you will discover someone who enjoys doing this for you as you enjoy doing that for them.

You already know you do not have the same interests and skills as others. Yet you expect to enjoy all of the skills you found necessary in 3D as you trudge through those areas you really do not enjoy.

Your future is to play with what you enjoy and expect that someone will complete those tasks you do not, or you will create an easier way of completing them.

You are a new being in a new body with new skills and interests. Even though you have perhaps shifted your perceptions of those tasks you feel are drudgery, it is time to shift those tasks from shoulds to playtime or no time.

You are free.

Your new focus is child-like play. Any task that does not feel as such can be negated, shifted or created anew. All are within your new skillset. You are no longer one of the crowd. You are a special being with a special task not the least of which is claiming yourself through child-like innocence.

As a child, you expect to be cared for and fed. The same is true now. Expect those uncomfortable or abhorrent pieces to be completed in ways you cannot now imagine. It is time to open your child-like expectations that your reward for a job well-done is the freedom to create different methods of completing tasks.

You do not have the interest nor the energy to focus on unpleasant tasks. It is time for play. Play as you create your life of ease and giggles. So be it. Amen.

 

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SARAH CARVALHO: “The Sun Walks With You”

The Sun of the awakening consciousness is the Light in your walking. It lights your inner universe, your sight, your body, your life, your thoughts, your feelings. In its essence it is the pure expression of the Light.

Beyond the night, the Sun is always rising somewhere. Walk with it, It is always day — clear and awaken.

The shadow feeds from discord, from judgment and from every sensation of separation. The more it finds out that the sunlight is about to dawn its brightness within you, more it agitates to prolong the nocturnal period in your interior. In a direct or indirect way you begin to be surrounded by unbalanced thoughts that go through winding ways, and why not say liar ways, to arrive to conclusions also unbalanced and unfavorable to harmony that more look like sentences that your ego and the limits of your mind impose to yourself, prolonging the wait of your soul for the Light and freedom that it so much yearns to experience.

Take care of your thoughts, watch yourself in your impetus of judging instantaneously people and situations, distributing shallow and limited conclusions of eternal stories that deserve your respect and admiration.

You talk about your brother with the easiness of someone who talks about trivial subjects of the daily, of a common life. You forget that before you stands an infinite being with its potentialities who has already lived and seen what you have no idea about, who has its fights and limits, but above all is the son of a same Universal Father, as you are also. This brother needs first a positive evaluation from your part, thoughts favorable to fraternal union and your lovely comprehension and, when you are able, your generous aid, in that you offer what you have already trailed and the best you have conquered in yourself. Share.

Share instead of removing the chances of success and happiness in the Light.

Comprehend instead of finding past and present mistakes and praise the chances of success at each new day.

Welcome instead of separating, the distance can — and sometimes needs — to exist in times and spaces, but not in the heart.

Discern until where you manage to be close to the other without allowing yourself to entangle through vicious circles that compromise your balance and your conquests. By mixing yourself with such energies know that you will need a great amount of energy and strength to free yourself and assume again your way.

Love and cultivate what is best — this Love that believes and persists in faith is the divine substance to the rise of the Sun inside yourself and in the whole world.

 

~via In5D.com

MELISA WANDREI: “The Art of Pain — Why the Dark Times Make Life Beautiful”

“But fullness — that is deep in our soul. When we have that, it never leaves. Fullness encompasses everything. It’s what allows us to be fully human in all the raw, real ways.”

~Melisa Wandrei

 

Happiness, and the quest for it, is not all it’s cracked up to be. What I mean is that I think we’re making a mistake in reaching only for happiness, lightness, good days, and good moods.

I think that we’re restricting ourselves.

We’re fishing in an ocean of emotions, looking to only reel in one or two kinds, throwing back the ones we don’t want without even noticing how shockingly beautiful they can be in their strange, confusing way, much like the fascinatingly mysterious fish of the deep sea.

There was a long time in my life when I wanted happiness, so I avoided pain. I wanted to call myself brave, so I didn’t admit I was afraid.

In my search for joy, I pushed away the other emotions I didn’t like, thinking I’d be left with only happiness.

But something was still wrong. I wasn’t full. By denying myself the plethora of emotions and feelings we, as human beings, are supposed to experience, I was only connecting with myself on a surface level.

I spent many of my days trying to achieve a persistent state of peace and happiness, and I wasn’t being honest with myself.

How could I just be happy when my heart was broken in two? When my own dad wouldn’t talk to me anymore? When I was uncertain and afraid of the future and the path I decided to take.

Yet all I wanted was happiness, and I kept pushing away anything else I felt that wasn’t “good.”

It took me a while to realize that I didn’t feel like myself anymore. And that was because I wasn’t. I was pretending to be a flat placard of peace and joy, which isn’t very real, is it?

I realized I was robbing my soul of all the emotions and feelings and desires it should have.

Every feeling and all the changes we go through become precious when we realize they are all necessary, and they create contrasting beauty in our lives.

Would you rather be happy, or would you rather be full inside?

Happiness is fleeting. It flits in and out of our days like a bird, singing a beautiful song that we want to revel in all our life, for one moment while the sky is blue, not to be found on the days with dark clouds on the horizon, heavy winds, and gray skies.

But fullness — that is deep in our soul. When we have that, it never leaves. Fullness encompasses everything. It’s what allows us to be fully human in all the raw, real ways.

We need the contrasts that fullness, not just happiness, provides us. How else can we know true joy if we have never known sorrow? How can we feel and trust the deepest kind of love if we have never felt heartbreak?

In art, this is called chiaroscuro. It’s the play of light and dark within a picture, the idea that you need dark shading on one side in order to notice where the light is supposed to hit on the other.

I believe that art reflects life.

I think that by suppressing emotions we don’t like, such as fear and uncertainty and pain, we are taking away the shading of our own image. We’re denying ourselves the beautiful picture that needs the contrasts and shadows in order to be complete.

Sometimes, two seemingly conflicting emotions can fit together and coexist. Have you ever felt that? Maybe you have pain inside you that you suppressed, and suddenly another person finds a way to gently bring it to the surface.

That person and their kind eyes bring warmth to your heart, even while the pain is being laid bare.

Happiness can fill your chest and sadness can well in your eyes until they are entwined in a beautifully poignant harmony. This is chiaroscuro in its most desired form — the shadow contrasting with the brilliant light, creating a depth and fullness that couldn’t be reached any other way.

Don’t ever think that being so paralyzed by fear you don’t know how to take a step, or feeling angry and betrayed, or sobbing while your heart is in shreds, or feeling lonely or confused or uncertain or whatever you feel, is wrong or not good.

It’s your shading, your shadows, making up the complete, beautifully exquisite image of your soul and your life.

 

 

~via TinyBuddha.com

AMINA RODRIGUEZ: “The Treasure Within You”

Treasure On The Shore

“True joy comes with knowing who we truly are.  True peace comes with knowing who you truly are.  All answers lie in knowing thyself, and then the ego wants to identify with that knowing as well.  It’s like a little game you play, catching it and reprogramming it.”  

~Amina Rodriguez

 

The treasure you seek lies within you.  You just have to dig a little, patiently brushing the dust off some things within yourself and then all of a sudden there it is.  The genuine gem of what you actually are suddenly becomes clear to you and then that is when all the treasures within you truly begin to manifest outwardly into your life.  And that was just the beginning; you are infinite potential only limited by your own mind.  This is the purpose of meditation and what it means to find yourself and your own truth.  There is no judgement for not having some particular formal method of meditation in your life.  You do what you can and when you can, whatever leads you within in any way that brings you joy and peace.

We are all our own best gurus.  We can always use the guidance of teachers.  But throughout our lives we are all both students and teachers and we eventually become our own greatest teachers.  Our hearts and our minds in balance generate a genuine wisdom in our lives.  Knowledge of who we are and following our inner guidance system which is linked to all of nature will help us evolve.  Our bodies are already quite wise and if we take good care of them and give them the love, acceptance and care they need they will serve us well and assist with our inner development.  The human vehicle is highly intelligent and is highly obedient to the mind.  Which is why when we become conscious of our thoughts by being in the present always, so that our minds give the body and the universe the correct orders, everything changes.  This is why we go within, it’s not always easy but it is so worth it.

True joy comes with knowing who we truly are.  True peace comes with knowing who you truly are.  All answers lie in knowing thyself, and then the ego wants to identify with that knowing as well.  It’s like a little game you play, catching it and reprogramming it.  Teaching your ego not to hold on to ideas and conclusions of truth to give itself importance because eventually it becomes to you only just a tool you use like a computer.  But there is no need for self-judgement because this is simply part of being human and it is how we learn.  True intelligence comes from within you from our Source, not the brain or the ego; those are only tools assisting in the process of evolution.  Very useful but they are not who or what we are.  We are the Source that created them.  When you realize what you truly are you can barely contain your happiness.

Of course we will forget and remember and forget and remember once again until it finally sinks in and then we will forget less often and for shorter periods of time.  So we do whatever works in whatever way comes naturally.  This is my own experience and this writing is my own reminder.  Once you know deep within your cells as you spend time within yourself, it becomes easier to remember who and what you are regardless of surrounding circumstances.  This is the natural process of our human evolution, finding the treasure within us that will lead us to freedom.

 

 

~via In5D.com