GUSTAVO CASTANER: “Should You Be With Your Twin-Flame?”

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“Unfortunately the great majority of people who know about twin flames believe that they have to be with their twin flame.  And because of the free will choices and/or the karma buildup this is near impossible.  But let me ask you this.  Would you rather be or try to be with your twin flame and end up in a dramatic, painful and non-functional relationship?  OR Would you rather be with someone who is not your twin flame and end up having the most fulfilling, higher loving and passionate relationship?”

~Gustavo Castañer

 

Today many are celebrating St. Valentines Day and you probably think that I’m going to tell you that being with your twin flame has to be the most romantic, passionate and spiritual thing you can experience…

Not really, let me explain.

If you do some research on twin flames on the internet you will find tons of dramatic and heartbreaking stories of people who have met their twin flames.

Instead of finding their true love many people find that a relationship with their twin flame most likely turns out to be like one of the following scenarios:

1)  They live on the other side of the world and being together is near impossible.

2)  The Runner-Chaser Karmic Loop — one person tries everything to make the relationship happen while the other one (usually the man) runs away.

3)  The Ultimate Karmic Mirror — both partners mirror each other’s karma like a magnifying glass and unbearable pain results from this.

And yes, there are the rare twin flame relationships stories that turn out to be the most higher loving and spiritually conscious, but these are extremely rare.

Why Are Twin-Flame Relationships Like This?

The first thing you need to understand is that when it comes to relationships, even twin flame relationships, each person has free-will.  Even though to one of them the twin flame connection is astronomically evident (pun intended) the other one might be oblivious.

People who are in twin flame relationships need to work on themselves 10 times more than people who are in any other type of relationship.  And usually there is one person that is very focused on clearing their own emotional baggage, transmuting their karma and growing spiritually while the other person is not (once again, usually the man).

Some will try desperately to rescue the other person but this only aggravates the problem.  It might not be easy but their free will must be honored.

The second thing you need to understand is that just because that person is your twin flame doesn’t mean that YOU HAVE TO be with them.  What many people are not aware of is that you are not supposed to be together in a relationship in ALL lifetimes.

Unfortunately the great majority of people who know about twin flames believe that they have to be with their twin flame.  And because of the free will choices and/or the karma buildup this is near impossible.

But let me ask you this.  Would you rather be or try to be with your twin flame and end up in a dramatic, painful and non-functional relationship?

OR

Would you rather be with someone who is not your twin flame and end up having the most fulfilling, higher loving and passionate relationship?

The answer is simple.  However, too many people get attached to the twin flame label.  Don’t get me wrong, I know there is a spiritual connection like no other but if it’s not meant to be then it’s not meant to be.  It takes two people to make it happen.

So if you find yourself in this twin flame predicament and you truly desire to be in a relationship then make yourself a priority and choose SELF-LOVE.

Don’t force the relationship with your twin flame or try to wait for them.  Continue to raise your frequency and focus your intent on attracting a partner that will want to be with you and work towards it as you do.

After all, you will meet your twin flame again. 😉  And at some point, sometimes during their life review, he/she will most likely realize what an incredible opportunity he/she missed to be with you.  Then on the next lifetime they will step up and do what it takes to find you and be with you.

In the meantime, make sure you enjoy this lifetime and cherish the wonderful experience that is being madly in love with someone who is madly in love with you.

Sincerely,

Gustavo Castañer

Founder of Ascended Relationships

 

 

~via AscendedRelationships.com

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GUSTAVO CASTANER: “Soul Mate, Twin Flame… Who Cares?”

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Imagine if you had never heard of labels like ‘soul mate’, ‘twin flame” or ‘spiritual’, what would you look for in a relationship?  What values, qualities, principles and characteristics would your ideal partner have?”

~Gustavo Castaner

Quite often I get emails from people asking me how to manifest or attract their soul mate or twin flame.  Students will have sessions with me so that I can assist them fulfill this intent.  And even though I believe in soul mates and twin flames, the reality is these are still labels.  Labels that will often work against people when it comes to manifesting the best relationship they could ever have.  So the first thing I tell people who desire to manifest their soul mate is to drop this label, because when it comes to the equation of manifesting the relationship that is for their highest good, the label soul mate or twin flame is not really that important.  Think about it, if you could be with a man or woman that loves you, adores you, respects you, supports you, makes you feel safe, inspires passion within you, you are attracted/magnetized to his/her presence, you share many interests and you are happy with… would it really matter if he/she was your soul mate or twin flame?

I resonate with the idea that we all have various soul mates but not all are the romantic relationship type.  But even those soul mates that belong to the romantic relationship category are not always the best relationship for you.  I have witnessed people stay in unhealthy, dramatic and co-dependent relationships only because they believe the other person is their soul mate. Imagine if you had never heard of labels like “soul mate”, “twin flame” or “spiritual”, what would you look for in a relationship?  What values, qualities, principles and characteristics would your ideal partner have?  Would it be easier to determine what person is best for you if you did not have to answer the question “is he/she my soul mate”?

I have seen people fall in love with soul mates who live on the other side of the world and they end up having a distant relationship that most of the time turns out not working at all.  Would you prefer to meet your soul mate who lives on the other side of the world or have a loving partner who is by your side?  Then there are a few people who believe that their soul mate or twin flame currently is stationed in another dimension (often the 5th) and they state this is the reason why they are single.  This could be very well true, yet why would you limit yourself to not have a relationship here and now in the 3D?  Relationships are one of the greatest blessings and gifts we have to love, grow, learn, share and evolve.  I am sure that if your soul mate or twin flame is indeed waiting for you in another dimension he or she wouldn’t mind if you enjoyed having a relationship here and now.

It is my belief that I have met and been in a relationship with two different soul mates whom I later realized were not the best relationships for me in terms of life partnership yet still necessary ones for my own learning, healing and evolutionary process.  Today I’m engaged to my beloved Jenniffer, is she my soul mate or twin flame?  Who cares… she is the woman I love with all my heart and she is my life partner, our commitment to each other is very strong, we are happy together and have absolute certainty that we will stay together.  That is all that really matters.

The term soul mate, twin flame or spiritual are not determining factors when we have an argument or face a life challenge, rather it is the love we have towards each other beyond any labels and the tools and resources we have and can apply to learn, grow, heal and evolve that really make a difference in our relationship.  So if you haven’t met your soul mate or you are not sure if the person you are in a relationship with right now is your soul mate, who cares?!  Focus on attracting and manifesting the relationship that will offer you the greatest opportunities to love, be happy, share life’s blessings, learn, grow, contribute, connect, feel safe, feel unique and evolve.

 

 

~via AscendedRelationships.com

GUSTAVO CASTANER: “22 Results From Embodying Your Higher Self”

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The Higher Self is the blissful superconscious higher mind part of ourselves that is the expression of Divine Love, spiritual wisdom, and creative power.

During spiritual awakening, our personal consciousness grows to become aware of the greater parts of ourselves.  We can also experience physical changes and effects that is coming over us in stages, such as ringing in our ears, blemishes in the skin, greasy hair, lower back pain, anger, flu-like symptoms, fatigue, and mode swings.  We can also experience that the time seems to move faster the biological clock is running faster due to activation of new strands of DNA.

We may feel energies, intuition increasing, and even psychic knowledge.  We are raising our energy vibration and spiritually purifying ourselves to embody more of our Higher Self  – the eternal Soul aspect of our being.  Full spiritual realization and enlightenment occurs when we attain the conscious experience of blissful union with the Source of Life and all of creation.  Everything is One and we are home!

Here are some results from embodying your Higher Self:

1.  Higher Sensory Perception

Your intuition is developing at a rapid rate.  Other higher senses like clairvoyance and clairaudience can also be turned on.  These higher senses allow you to access information and wisdom that otherwise would be unavailable through the use of your rational mind.  Harmonious lucid dreaming and out of body experiences are also ways to access higher dimensional information.

2. Knowing Your Soul Purpose

With your higher senses turned on, it has become crystal clear what your Soul’s Purpose is.  Not only do you know what your mission here on earth is but you are fulfilling this mission by taking action and walking your path.  You are fulfilling your basic human needs of self-growth and contribution by being on the path of eternal self-actualization and being at the service of others.

3. Meeting Your Soul Family

Your frequency has attracted you to people with whom you resonate at a soul level.  When you meet these individuals you felt a strong and undeniable connection with them, like if you had met them before (from a past life).  Even if they live on the other side of the world, the spiritual ties between you are so strong that years can go by and when you meet again is like no time has passed.

4. Meeting Your Twin Flame or Soul Mate

This is a relationship with a person that highlights and enhances your best qualities.  As well, this person will mirror back to you everything you need to work on yourself.  This relationship thrives on self-growth, contribution, higher giving love and fulfillment.  A necessary step for the manifestation of this relationship is cutting cords of attachments and karmic ties with previous relationships.

5. Synchronicities and Accelerated Manifestations

Your connection with the universe and life is evident.  Your questions are answered through synchronicities and hidden messages are easily revealed to you by the power of your higher senses.

You find messages and answers in books, nature and even random conversations.  As well, you become aware of how strong and powerful your intent has become.  Whatever you do focus on manifests at a much faster than ever before.

6. Taking Responsibility for your Happiness

As you embody your Higher Self you realize how powerful you are and how you co-create reality through your thoughts and emotions.

You take full responsibility for your own happiness and you stop blaming other people, the government, or any other outside sources.  Victimization is a thing of the past and you take full charge of your healing and evolutionary process.

7. Embracing All Emotions

You have finally transcended the spiritual bypass that some emotions are ‘bad’ or ‘negative’.  Instead you embrace all e-motions and instead of repressing them you allow them to flow through you.  You can use anger for passion or motivation.  You can easily empathize with others while maintaining the integrity of your field.

8. Holographic Nature of Reality

Like Rumi said, “You are not a drop of water in an ocean, you are the entire ocean in a drop of water.”  The holographic nature of reality is encoded within you and you can sense the interconnectedness of everything.  It is obvious to you that we live in a multidimensional matrix and that you have a multidimensional anatomy.  You also feel very attracted to sacred geometry.

9. Alchemical and Healing Powers

Whether its hands on healing, soul retrieval, or any other type of healing modality you have learned how to direct your intent and manipulate energy to remove energetic blockages.  You can easily connect to your Higher Self and disengage discordant energies that hinder your spiritual evolution.  Often you will assist others in their healing and ascension process with your siddhis.

10. Activating Your DNA

DNA activation is the process of accreting more light into your morphogenetic field by activating the dormant strands of DNA that correspond to your Higher Self.  You have at least a 12 strand DNA template that allows 12 dimensions of consciousness.  DNA activation is the key to spiritual ascension and the embodiment of your Higher Self.  It’s quite common for a person who goes through DNA activation to progressively experience all the other signs mentioned in this page.

11. Unconditional Self-Love

Your 4th strand of DNA corresponds to your heart chakra.  One of the main benefits of DNA activation is being able to access and embody a state of unconditional self-love.  No longer do you feel the need to extract love from other people, instead you see yourself as an infinite source of love.  A sense of wholeness begins to unfold as you love ALL aspects of yourself, including your shadow self.

12. Integrating and Transcending Your Shadow Self

Your shadow self is the part of you that is running in reverse. It is mainly made up of archetypes, personas and complexes.  Some examples are the Professional Victim Persona, the Rescuer Archetype, the Sorcerer, The Tyrant and the Absolute Perfectionist.  The shadow self is what causes self-sabotage and causes you to create chaos in your life.  The shadow self is created by making decisions that are not aligned with your Higher Self and manifest as reverse codes in your DNA.

13. Frequency Resonance

As you continue to raise your frequency you notice how some people begin to fall out of your holographic reality.  You understand that your frequencies no longer match.  The same can happen with your job or even your country of origin.  In turn your higher frequency attracts you to a new grid of people, places, times, things and events that are in line with your Higher Self.

14. Honest Yes and Honest No

You are not afraid of saying ‘no’ to other people when you inner guidance tells you not to do something or go somewhere.  You are not afraid of other people’s reactions and you are true to yourself.  Every time you are congruent with what you want and what you don’t want you feel more powerful.  As well you embrace the art of an honest ‘yes’ when the universe delivers what you desire.  You don’t try to appear ‘humble’ or ‘spiritual’ by rejecting what you truly desire in your life.

15. Harmonious Family Relationships

“If you think you are enlightened, go spend a weekend with your family.” (Ram Dass).  You have realized that enlightenment doesn’t happen in a cave.  You have cleared the cords of attachments and karmic ties with your family.  Gone are the days where you kept experiencing the same old family drama.  Your family members have shifted their approach to connect with you to higher ways and you accept/love them just how they are.

16. No Guilt, No Shame

Shame and guilt are the two lowest frequency energetic blockages in humanity.  In order to embody your Higher Self you have let go of the identification with shame and guilt.  You have cleared the guilt and shame you inherited from your parents through the DNA and you have released the shame and guilt that has been implanted by society and religions.  Instead you choose to embrace the states of joy and bliss.  You have become immune to guilt manipulating strategies often used by victims.

17. Making Decisions In Line With Your Higher Self

Instead of making decisions based on fear, righteousness, competition, or lack you are making decisions in line with your Higher Self and ultimately with Source-Will.  You are aware of Source’s intentions: the Law of One, Unconditional Love, Cooperation, Evolution, Perpetual Motion, Cause and Effect, Non-Judgment and Free-Will.  Even though we all have Free-Will and can ultimately go against Source-Will (you’re unconditionally loved), you’re aware that making such decisions will trigger the Law of Cause and Effect and create a karmic imprint to re-mind you must heal that karmic miasm at some point.

18. Inner and Outer Abundance

Lack and limitation are a thing of the past.  You have embodied a state of absolute inner abundance that is being reflected onto your holographic reality.  You no longer seek to extract love, approval and appreciation from other people as you realize that you are the source.  Happiness is within you.  As well you have transcended the spiritual bypass that money is ‘evil’ and you know that money is just energy, made up of consciousness just like everything else.  You enjoy financial abundance and use this abundance to create a more harmonious reality for yourself and others.

19. Your Mind Gets Unplugged From the Matrix

One sign that your mind has been unplugged from the matrix is that you can clearly see the hidden agenda of those who desire to control this planet.  You no longer resonate with the news and their ‘official story’.  Your inner truth detector can sense when someone is lying and you have become immune to the low frequency strategies and implants that constantly try to tell you ‘you are not enough’.  Mindless consumerism and the herd mentality seem absurd to you.

20. Bye-Bye Idolatry

As you awaken to your co-creative powers and God-like nature, you no longer put other people on a pedestal.  Your inner guru precedes any external guru and you see teachers as a reflection of your own unlimited potential.  The forces of your worthiness and deservedness drive you to achieve whatever you set your mind upon.  You have become the master of your own reality.

21. Overflowing with Gratitude

Gratitude is your attitude. Gratitude is your prayer.  The sense of lack has become foreign to you, instead you cannot stop counting your blessings.  The feeling of gratitude multiplies whatever you have and brings you even more positive experiences.  You are even grateful for the challenges and setbacks that are inevitable in life, and you can’t help but to see them as opportunities for growth.  You probably have a gratitude journal.

22. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

Life is meant to be fun, and you know that.  Being extremely rigid and disciplined sucks the fun out of everything.  Even though you are adamant when it comes to working on yourself and achieving self-mastery, you always allow yourself to make mistakes.  In fact making mistakes is part of the learning process.  You have a great sense of humor and you don’t take yourself too seriously.

We are increasing our 5 senses and we must be aware that we have to stay focused on our 3D life that we have manifested to live here and now!  It’s of most importance to stay focused and observant in this timeline as well.  Ascension is happening but not without and effort from you.  You are the creator and the one that manifests your transition in to the next dimension and reality.  Since she is going through the same process, connecting with mother earth is also necessary.  We are doing this as a collective but also as a singular being for your soul’s experience.

 

 

About The Author: Gustavo Castaner is the founder of Ascended Relationships and has been a leading authority in the fields of relationship mastery, energy medicine, distance healing and DNA Activation for over 8 years. Gustavo specializes in helping people change their frequency at the quantum level so they can attract a higher vibrational grid of people, places, times, things and events. His work is done mainly through the awareness of the Higher Self and the use of Sacred Geometry Codes. ~via In5D.com

GUSTAVO CASTANER: “Surrendering To The Divine Feminine”

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One of the greatest opportunities and challenges for men (and some women) in this day and age is surrendering to the Divine Feminine.  The current state of humanity as a civilization and the world we live in is a reflection of the collective consciousness that has been dominant for thousands of years.  One particular aspect of this collective consciousness has been the distorted and domineering aspect of the masculine energy within society.  The polar opposite effect of the dominant masculine energy has been the repression of the feminine energy both within ourselves and through the outer manifestations of reality.  Nothing has been more devastating towards the evolution and ascension of humanity to a higher state of consciousness based on love, cooperation and oneness than the Masculine-Feminine Rift.  And the only way to transcend and heal this evolutionary impediment is for humanity to experience the surrendering to the Divine Feminine.  This surrender can only occur within ourselves and requires more than a shift of belief systems and ways of thinking, it requires a re patterning of our DNA.

But what exactly does it mean for a man or a woman to surrender to the Divine Feminine and what can result from this?  In attempts to answer this momentous question and I will share with you my own journey and process of surrendering to the Divine Feminine within myself and the Divine Feminine manifested in my beloved, the Earth and other universal expressions of this energy.

Let’s first start by describing some of the energy signatures or qualities of masculine and feminine energies:

 

Masculine Energy                                   Feminine Energy

Action                                                        Presence

Control and Righteousness                   Surrender

Manifested Matter                                  Unmanifested Matter (Void/Source)

Competition                                             Cooperation/Support

Provider                                                    Nurture

Rational                                                     Intuition/Emotional Intelligence

 

Whether you are a man or a woman, you have ALL of these energies within you, yet your gender will greatly determine which energies will tend to be expressed more through your physiology (brain, hormones, body figure, voice tonality), emotions, mental constructions and soul vibration.  Despite having all these energies within, most of humanity has revolved for some time now around in what appears to be a masculine energy dominant world where outer success and worldly achievements are valued more than intuition, where emotional expression equals weakness, where the greatness of motherhood has been diminished and where competition, greed for power and the need for control have taken over the joy and grace of life/existence itself.

The first step to balance these inner masculine and feminine energies is to go directly to the Source of this rift which lies at the DNA level.  Your DNA template is the blueprint for your entire multidimensional anatomy and multiple levels of consciousness.  Whatever outer manifestation of distress, illness, disease or imbalance that you experience is encoded in your DNA.  When it comes to the imbalance of the masculine (yang) and feminine (ying) energies this is no different.  We all have a magnetic (feminine) helix or rail of our DNA that we get from our mothers and an electric (masculine) helix or rail of our DNA that we get from our fathers at the moment of conception.  As long as the masculine and feminine codes in our DNA are out of order and imbalanced this will be reflected in ALL levels of our consciousness including our holographic (external) reality.

Those who know about the works of David Wilcock and the science of epigenetics are aware that not only does the DNA contain the keys to our evolution but also that we can consciously program, activate dormant parts and re-0rder our DNA using our intent and other technologies like Sacred Geometry Codes.  This is exactly what I have been doing for over 6 years to assist people embody their Higher Self and heal the Male-Female Rift (this healing session is available to everyone and you can sign up here).  This is the most important and crucial step to take for any person who desire to balance their inner masculine and feminine energies and experience a re-birth in consciousness.  Once this step is taken the next step consists in expressing that inner balance through your outer reality.  I’ll give you an example of how I was able to deepen my surrender to the Divine Feminine.

In my own relationship my dominant masculine energies and the repressed feminine energies manifested mainly through the need to be right, the need to control and repressing my emotions.  Therefor my Higher Self guided me to make a conscious decisions and develop new ways of being where I:

  • Drop my sense of self-righteousness and the need to control everything
  • Honor her voice and opinions
  • Honor her emotions and hold a safe space for her to express them
  • Honor my own emotions and express them in functional and healthy ways

These conscious actions have resulted in greater intuition, enhanced emotional intelligence, greater sense of compassion, becoming more empathic, enhanced energy healing abilities, greater state of presence and deepening the states of allowing and no agenda.  The effects my own healing on my beloved resulted in her feeling a greater sense of safety and trust towards me plus surrendering to her inner masculine energies (maybe I’ll have her one day share her own experience with this).  Finally the healing of the Masculine-Feminine Rift had a strong positive impact on the level of intimacy, passion, trust, support, growth, contribution, love and connection in our relationship.

As you noticed, my surrender to the Divine Feminine became a catalyst for my beloved to surrender to the Divine Masculine within her.  When it comes to women, some have repressed their Divine Feminine energies in order to exalt their masculine energies in hopes to survive in this male dominated world.  The women who consciously, subconsciously or unconsciously choose to repress their feminine energies will often adopt the masculine traits of competition, control and the need for external power.  What do you think happens when a woman who has repressed her feminine energies and now has overactive masculine energies gets into a relationship with a man who has a dominant masculine energy?  Fights, arguments and power struggles will manifest constantly in the relationship.  So when the man is able to surrender to the Divine Feminine and the woman surrenders to the Divine Masculine, the woman can drop the need to control everything, including sex, and the male finally can relax and drop the whole facade to try to impress her with success, money and power.

The ultimate result is a relationship where both partners can hold and own their corresponding balanced ratio of masculine and feminine energies, creating a magnetic attraction and celebration of their own uniqueness and differences.

 

 

 

About the author:

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Gustavo Castaner has been a leading authority in the field of DNA Activation, ascension and distant healing for over 8 years.  He is a international speaker, seminar leader and relationship strategist. He is a leading expert in a variety of fields including twin flame and soulmate manifestation, energy medicine, Indigo children, emotional mastery and distant healing. He has done over 10,000 one-on-one sessions and he is known to draw thousands of people from around the world to his online workshops including How to Manifest a 5th Dimensional Relationship, Cutting Cords of Attachments, and Golden DNA Activation. No matter how large the audience is, he has the ability to connect to each person’s Higher Self and perform energy clearings and DNA Activations for everyone. His mission is to assist people clear themselves of energetic blockages that prevent them from embodying their Higher Self, manifesting higher frequency relationships and live a life imbued with joy, peace, abundance and a sense of fulfillment. Gustavo’s vision is to see humanity’s ascension become a reality.  

~via ascendedrelationships.com

GUSTAVO CASTANER: “Relationship Mastery — Parts I & II”

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Relationship Mastery Part I

Let’s begin by explaining what relationship mastery Is NOT.  Relationship mastery is not the absence of emotions and never experiencing any drama or challenges in a relationship.  The spiritual bypass of relationship “mastery” will have you believe that a conscious relationship is one where both individuals are “cool, calm and collected” all the time and there are no arguments between them.  This view of relationship mastery can only lead you to a numb relationship void of passion and individuated uniqueness.

Relationship mastery is really all about closing the gap between unconscious re-actions and being in a state of absolute presence.  What I mean by this is that often in relationships we will say or do things in an unconscious manner when something within us becomes triggered, usually an unresolved past analogical event (related to anger, sadness, fear, pain, etc.), and we project this onto the present moment.  Usually once we go unconscious and experience a re-action, after a period of time has passed we will go back to the event or experience and reflect upon it.  During this time of reflection we have the opportunity to become conscious of our own unconscious behaviors and can gain insight on how we were wrong, how we failed to take responsibility, how we projected our own beliefs or how poor was our choice of words for example.  Most important, during this state of reflection is where we gain insight on how different we can choose to act the next time a similar event occurs and therefore be able to change the outcome, hopefully into a more peaceful, joyful and loving one.

The gap between when we go unconscious and when we become conscious again will vary from person to person.  Some people in fact are “never” able to reflect upon their unconsciousness (ultimately we all do, even if it happens at the moment of our death), but most of us usually will reflect on a past unconscious re-action within months, weeks, days or a few hours.  The quicker you are able to snap out of unconsciousness and go back to a state of consciousness in order to gain full awareness of what really took place within you, the other person and the event as a whole, the more relationship mastery you will have.  The ultimate goal is to close the gap to such a degree where you can consciously see yourself going unconscious at any given moment.  This divine dichotomy of being in an unconscious state while at the same time being conscious of your own unconsciousness as the automatic reactions occur is what allows you to disengage from the past identities you have created and become fully present.  This state is what is known as the witness consciousness and it is through this state of awareness that your blind spots and the nature of your unresolved issues are revealed.

What then are the steps to close the gap between your unconsciousness and being in a state of presence?

1.  Tracking- keeping a journal and meditation
2.  Energetic clearings

Tracking is the art of monitoring your thoughts, feelings and choices.  A great way to track yourself is by having a journal where every day you go back, review your day and write down what happened, how you felt, what were your thoughts and how you acted or reacted.  Another great way I track myself is by sitting quietly in meditation and reflecting upon my day.  By changing my brainwaves to alpha and theta I can enter a state of whole brain thinking and meta-consciousness which allows me to see myself and events with greater clarity.  But sometimes tracking ourselves through meditation or keeping a journal is not enough, because even though we gain awareness of the destructive patterns which are no longer serving us, soon after we find ourselves having another similar or identical unconscious re-action.  This signals that we are in a karmic loop and that there is an energetic blockage from this or a previous lifetime that is causing the unconscious behavior.  This is why traditional psychology and other types of therapy fail to deliver permanent results, because even though awareness is a crucial step is only the beginning towards long lasting change.

By connecting to my Higher Self or the Higher Self of another person I am not only able to sense the unconscious patterns but energetically disengage the SOURCE of those unconscious re-actions: past analogical events, soul fragments, auric attachments, cords of attachments, karmic imprints, and layers of the emotional pain body or other energetic blockages.  I have found that energetic clearings are the fastest way to transcend any issue that is causing pain, suffering, stress, worry or fear and discover the pearls of wisdom contained within those issues.

Once you clear the source of the unconscious re-actions the next time a similar event occurs, if it occurs at all, you won’t become triggered (because you already transmuted the energetic blockages that were causing the re-action in the first place) it will be easier to remain in a state of presence and make more conscious and higher choices.  Another great thing about clearing these energetic blockages is that because the low frequency that was contained within them is no longer in your field, your frequency instantly rises and you attract a higher grid of people, places, times, things and events.

Track yourself every day and notice how long is the gap between the time you go unconscious and experience an automatic re-action and the time you regain full awareness of your-Self.  Of course depending on the issue you will be more conscious in certain areas of your life and relationships and more unconscious in others.

Relationship Mastery Part II

Is your relationship the same when you are feeling stressed, worried, drained or depressed as compared to when you are feeling joyful, grateful, ecstatic and energized?  Of course not!  That is why managing your state is a HUGE determining factor when it comes to the quality of your relationships.

So what determines your state at any give moment?

1.  Your physiology

2.  Your focus

3.  Your words (story you tell yourself and others)

4.  What you eat

PHYSIOLOGY

Let’s begin by explaining how your physiology has a direct effect on how you feel at any given moment.  Think about the times you have felt depressed and now ask yourself the following questions:  How was your overall posture?  Was your back straight, your head up and shoulders wide?  Or was your back curved, your face looking down and your breathing shallow?  The answer is obvious, right?  People who are depressed have a very distinct physiological patterns and non verbal cues that constantly send a message “I am depressed.” as they walk along dragging their feet and mumble to themselves.  You have probably seen a friend, co-worker or family member with this type of physiology and even before they tell you anything you asked them “Are you all right?  Is something going on?”  That is because people don’t get depressed, people PRACTICE depression.

Harvard researcher Amy Cuddy has studied the effect certain body postures have on the sense of personal power a person can feel at any given moment.  In her research she found that there are specific body postures that will almost instantly increase your confidence and sense of personal power.  Now think of what type of physiology do people that are happy, confident and energetic have?  How do they walk, breathe, move their arms and talk?  When was the last time you saw someone almost floating when walking, swinging their arms, singing out loud, with a huge smile on their face and you asked them “Did you fall in love or what?”  Most people think that how we feel emotionally will determine how we will behave physically and this is true, but its not a one way street.  Scientific research has proven that by changing your physiology you can change how you feel mentally and emotionally.  You can literally condition yourself to feel whatever you desire to feel by behaving as if you were already feeling like that.  What this means is that you can fall in love once again with your current partner by acting as if you were madly in love… indeed love is a verb.

FOCUS

The second factor that will determine your state at any given moment is your focus.  Where was your focus when you felt depressed, in the present, past or future?  People who are depressed tend to focus on the past, more specifically past painful, stressful and traumatic events.  This way they continue to re-live the past and project it onto the present moment.  What you focus on will immediately affect your physiology.  If you make a conscious effort to focus on and imagine a very fearful situation you would notice how your body gets tense.  Science has shown that our nervous system doesn’t know the difference between what we imagine or see in our minds eye and what actually happens in real life, the nervous system reacts the same way.  On the other side of the spectrum when you are completely focused on the present moment or imagining a brilliant future filled with positive outcomes this will change your state for the better.  Now, when it comes to relationships if you are constantly focusing on past painful events or something your partner did to you and you keep re-playing this over and over again, it will negatively affect your state.  The same goes with the relationship you have with yourself, are you focusing on your past mistakes or failures and feeling guilty or ashamed?  Or are you focusing on your strengths, your unlimited potential and how you can create the greatest version of yourself?

WORDS

Have you ever heard a group of people tell their own version of what happened during an event and heard 2, 3 or 4 different versions?  Let’s say that a group of people got lost during a wild safari in Africa, their Jeep broke down and they had to spend the night in the middle of nowhere.  The next day they all go back to camp and one person tells the story of how this was one of the most horrifying experiences of his life while another says it was the greatest adventure for him and that he had never felt so alive.  Same experience, two different stories.  In the same way the stories we tell ourselves and other people will have a great impact on our state.  Based on our past relationship experience do we tell the story of a victim who was abused, betrayed or rejected or do we tell a story filled with experiences of learning, growing and breakthrough.  What stories do we tell ourselves and other people about our partners?  And what tone of voice do we use to express ourselves and communicate with the ones we love?  Words should not be taken lightly, they are very powerful waves of energy that can shape our inner and outer reality.

Think before you speak:

T — Is it TRUE?

H — Is it HELPFUL?

I — Is it INSPIRING?

N — Is it NECESSARY?

K — Is it KIND?

YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT

Let’s face it, what you eat has a huge impact on how you feel at any give moment.  If your eating lifestyle is filled with nutrient deficient highly processed foods you are going to feel tired, sluggish, toxic and awful.  Do you think you can be as passionate and loving when you are feeling like this?  What you eat on a daily basis will affect how your brain and immune system function, how balanced are your hormones and you energy levels.  Scientists have confirmed that what you eat actually programs your DNA and your DNA is the form holding blueprint that expresses the totality of who you are.  Adding whole and unprocessed foods to your diet can not only enhance your physical state, but your emotional, mental and spiritual state as well. If you eat healthy you will feel healthy, it’s that simple.

Relationship mastery is all about managing your state.  Condition your physiology, direct your focus, choose your words, eat healthy and you will become a master of your state.

 

 

 

About the author:

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Gustavo Castaner has been a leading authority in the field of DNA Activation, ascension and distant healing for over 8 years.  He is a international speaker, seminar leader and relationship strategist. He is a leading expert in a variety of fields including twin flame and soulmate manifestation, energy medicine, Indigo children, emotional mastery and distant healing. He has done over 10,000 one-on-one sessions and he is known to draw thousands of people from around the world to his online workshops including How to Manifest a 5th Dimensional Relationship, Cutting Cords of Attachments, and Golden DNA Activation. No matter how large the audience is, he has the ability to connect to each person’s Higher Self and perform energy clearings and DNA Activations for everyone. His mission is to assist people clear themselves of energetic blockages that prevent them from embodying their Higher Self, manifesting higher frequency relationships and live a life imbued with joy, peace, abundance and a sense of fulfillment. Gustavo’s vision is to see humanity’s ascension become a reality.  

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