STEPHANIE LUCAS: “Coping With Grief: Finding Solace in the Light of Death”

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Having lost both parents, two uncles, a dozen friends and a stable of pets in recent years to the guise of physical death, I am no stranger to the power of grief. When unaddressed, the emotions associated with mourning can take hold of your life and drag you to the depths of darkness as the process unfolds. While the reasoning side of my brain said, “It is what it is, just get over it and move on,” my intuitive brain demanded a period of grief. As the logical side finally embraced the need for my soul to express these emotions, the heart began to understand and accept that death of the physical form is merely an illusion and that we truly are immortal, eternal beings as the soul is always present. With the help of healing stones, essential oils, and few rituals honoring my loved ones, the healing energy started flowing. Here’s how I alleviated my grief, felt closure, and found the light in spite of death.

Light a Candle

Burning candles in honor of a loved one is a symbolic form of love’s light continuing, and this can be rather comforting as you feel their presence in the flickering of the wick. I light one and set it aside a picture of a loved on their birth and death dates, relevant holidays, and times when I want to feel their presence or meditate upon their memory.

Capture Memories in Prose, Pictures, or Song

Storytelling over dinner, sharing photo albums, and even singing or playing a favorite song can create an ambiance awash with love and joy. Dispelling grief, lifting the spirits, and remembering ‘the good times’ is essential to moving past the pain. You’ll likely actually feel the spirit of your loved one resonating around you, through you, and comforting you to ease the mourning process as you uplift these positive energies in song, stories, and photos.

Create Tokens of Comfort and Remembrance

Tokens created in honor of the departed seem to resonate with their energy, particularly those hand-crafted with love such as rosary bead strands, jewelry laden with healing stones, or creating a crystal grid with soothing vibrations. Even a simple pocket stone can be remarkably comforting as you can hold and touch it when you’re ‘missing’ your beloved.

Connect to Gaia and Source

One of the best ways to achieve both of these healing endeavors is to head outdoors and meditate to commune with nature and your Higher Self. Sitting in the grass, taking a walk, or a period of stillness in the midst of your favorite scenery has a knack for easing grief. Feel the breeze, the cool air, or the hot sun shine upon your face, knowing these energetic forces of nature are all connecting you with your loved one’s eternal energy. Come to terms with the irrational fear of death in this time. Bring along some of healing crystals and take the opportunity to try the meditation for grief below.

Essential Oils and Healing Crystals to Calm the Spirit

Five of my preferred and most effective healing stones and crystals to ease grief are rose quartz, amethyst, apache tear, ruby, and moonstone. Exquisite essential oils I use for assistance include Angelica, Bergamot, and Frankincense, often in combination with stones.

1. Rose Quartz & Bergamot: By activating the heart chakra, rose quartz helps release buried and unexpressed emotions, making it ideal for those who resist the grieving experience. Bergamot also opens the heart and helps restore one’s sense of peace and self-compassion.

2. Amethyst: As a stone that assists in guiding one through the realms of life and death, it can be comforting and soothing to those left behind. Its effects upon the third eye and crown centers help clarify the immortality of the soul, bringing one a sense of closeness with loved ones in place of grief.

3. Apache Tear: This obsidian is known as ‘the grieving stone’ and it opens emotional barriers, releases grief, and shields one from psychic attacks while in a weakened psychological state such as grieving.

4. Ruby & Frankincense: This blazon beauty soothes and strengthens both the heart and base chakras to give one the impetus to move forward and remain centered in times of sorrow. Frankincense helps free ties to the past, further promoting progression of the grieving cycle.

5. Moonstone & Angelica: While angelica creates a deeper connection with departed loved ones and angels, moonstone purifies and diffuses negative energies that can keep one in a state of grief. This lovely combination promotes greater joy and optimism — two essentials in troubled times.

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Meditation for Grief

Choose a stone to enhance your meditation and get comfortable in a quiet spot. You may want to take a moment to express your gratitude to your higher power and proclaim your openness to their guidance. Find your breath and focus your attention on each inhalation and exhalation until you feel completely relaxed.

Visualize the spiritual being that has passed on…With that vision in your head, consider what a blessing they were to you in this realm and all the times you shared together.  Do this with the knowledge and consideration that their soul and spirit lives on and surrounds you eternally.

Focus on the color of the healing stone you are working with and allow that color’s frequency to flow from your feet up through the front of you body as you inhale. Allow it to flow down through the back of your body with each exhalation and exit through your feet.

As you inhale and allow the color’s frequency to flow through you, imagine your departed one and remember the beautiful times you shared with the knowledge that those memories and their essence will continue to exist eternally.

As you exhale, allow yourself to consider and unresolved issues in your relations with you loved one. Any misunderstandings or unspoken words, allow them to flow out of you as the color frequency flows out through your feet. You may choose to speak these words aloud for greater resonance.

If at any point, you feel the urge to shed tears just allow them to flow, as this is part of the grieving process and each tear frees  you a bit more of your internal struggle. Simply refocus on your breath and continue this mediation process until you are ready return to full attention.

When closing your meditation, offer gratitude again to your higher power, express your eternal love for yourself and others, and allow yourself a few moments in silence to ‘process’ this experience.

Take Your Time…Have Patience and Self-Compassion

As you work through the mourning process, avoid the presence of those who mock your grief or lack compassion towards your feelings. Don’t judge for yourself or allow others to determine ‘how long’ your grieving process should be. Let it flow, and let it go at your own pace knowing that death is merely an illusion and that their spirit will always be ‘with’ you in spirit. Blessed be, And So It Is!

 

 

 

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GREGG PRESCOTT: “Facing The Death Of A Loved One”

Facing The Death Of A Loved One

by Gregg Prescott, M.S.
Editor, In5D.com

In loving memory of my beloved sister Lola, July 12, 1958-December 30, 2011

Some cultures celebrate the death of a loved one instead of mourning for them which makes a lot more sense than the grieving process, but it is easier said than done when it involves the loss of a family member or someone close to you.

As evidenced by many near death experiences, crossing over to the other side is painless and often occurs before the body is officially deceased, which alleviates any fear while promoting a sense of warmth, comfort and love.

Most people who have a near death experience are often greeted by deceased family members after they follow the tunnel toward the light, although it is not time for them to be officially reunited with their loved ones.  These are the people who bring back the eternal message of love for us.

There is no more pain for our loved ones as they join their family and soul groups on the other side.  Most people who have a near death experience truly wish for us not to grieve for them because they are safe and loved.   If anything, they would want us to be happy for them, knowing that in time, we will all be reunited.

In the meanwhile, the process is much more difficult on this side of the veil.  For this incarnation, we will no longer be able to hug or talk to our loved ones, which creates a void of emptiness that is irreplaceable.

What many of us fail to realize is that we are all on a time schedule that we agreed upon in our soul contracts.  When we were on the other side, it didn’t really seem to matter when we passed because we knew that we would return to Source, our soul groups and the unconditional love that we were feeling when we made our contracts.  Besides, time is non-existent on the other side, so there is very little difference between 23 years or 5,000 years, it’s just a number.

I recently wrote an article after having an amazing psychic consultation with Shawn Cohen.  I didn’t write everything I was told in that particular article, but close friends know the rest of the story.  Shawn mentioned she saw the number 3 in regard to my sister, Lola, meaning she wasn’t sure if Lola had 3 days, weeks or months to live.  As it turned out, Lola passed exactly 3 months after my sister Tara first visited Lola when she became seriously ill.

My Message to YOU from my Psychic Reading by Shawn Cohen

My Message to YOU from my Psychic Reading by Shawn Cohen

Additionally in this reading, my paternal grandfather mentioned that my sisters and I should not only follow the light when we pass, but also the smell of my grandmother’s pirogues.  That statement was specifically directed for Lola, but I couldn’t write it that way in the article. (I made pirogues for dinner on the evening of her death)

I also received a message from Lola’s boyfriend who died in a car accident.  He said, “Tell Lola there is no reason to mourn.” He added a lot more, but this is how people view death on the other side.  They don’t want us to be sad because sadness isn’t part of their loving existence on the other side.

For example, even when a near death experience involves having a spouse and children on this side of the veil, people still do not want to return to this lifestyle after experiencing the unconditional love on the other side. Those who have experienced a near death are constantly reminding us that “I’m okay on the other side, please don’t worry about me!”

One of my friends on Facebook used Shawn’s services and stated the following:

“And when the time comes, you have a friend in Shawn Cohen, who can tell you that your sister is doing wonderful now…. Thank you, Gregg, for posting about Shawn, on your website. She helped me connect with my mom, dad, and brother.”

Shawn helped to provide the needed closure for my sister in regard to her relationship with her deceased boyfriend.  Lola had me retell this reading to her time and time again.

I was assured by my grandfather that Lola would hold on until January 9th, 2012 for me to be able to fly out to visit her, but free will always takes precedence.  Every night before I went to sleep, I connected with Lola’s higher self and told her not to hang on for me, and that it was alright to pass on to the other side whenever she was ready.  More than my own selfish needs, I wanted her to be without pain and in the arms of loved ones on the other side.

While the sands of time may seem to erase some of the experiences we have created with our loved ones, they are all recorded in the Akashic Records to be relived during our life review when we pass over to the other side.  In this scenario, we view our life in regard to how we made a difference to the people who we encountered throughout our journey.  Then, we view our life through THEIR eyes.

Santos Bonacci said something that will always stay with me.  He stated (and I’m paraphrasing) “From the second the sperm fertilizes the egg, we begin dying.  We were alive before that moment”.

In the end, there is no separation. We truly are spiritual beings having a human experience.

Lola Helen Prescott was a loving soul whose heart was as big as her smile.  As an amazing artist, Lola’s style reflected her own creative perspective which was absolutely unique. Her love for animals and nature equally matched her love for humanity. She has made a huge, positive difference in the lives of many people and is dearly missed by all. 

See you on the other side, sis.❤

ASCENSION AVATAR: “Hello, Sweetness”…

Recorded August 16, 2014

This was recorded the same day I had to put one of my cats down… Arriving home from the euthanist… my eyes literal swollen slits from crying… Higher Self guided me to go to the pet store, pronto… as this new little gem awaited me to take her home… : D