~via Surviving Narcissism
~via Surviving Narcissism
Traumatic physical and emotional events can cause shards or pieces of our soul’s energy to fragment away. Soul loss is a mechanism which serves to protect us from unbearable suffering. These soul shards usually return back after a few hours or even days, but in some extreme cases these shards can stay fragmented. Soul shards can also be caused by a psychic attack from someone practicing black magic on us.
When we have an emotional trauma happen to us, we actually may leave a part of our energy “frozen” in that time or moment. This keeps us from actually being able to feel better and move on. If we do not “heal” or retrieve our energy several things can happen to these soul shards, but mostly they fall into these categories:
—A shard can become an entity of its own, a copy of you. This entity could wander off into the astral realms and eventually forget where it came from. This entity could eventually need an energy source, which could cause it to use the original soul and physical body to get energy in many ways.
—A shard can be captured in the etheric realms by Artificial Intelligence and used to siphon energies from other humans or to create new realities.
—A shard can just sit outside of the original body, perhaps on the shoulder or back. It can remotely influence the person’s thoughts but cannot fully return. One of these Shards can actually get so used to being the puppeteer that it does not want to integrate back at all.
I would say that almost everyone on Earth has had a traumatic event happen to them. Their ability to process emotions and to feel supported depends on how whether they can process and integrate the energy back. I would also say that this hi-jacked reality causes trauma to occur that tried to keeps us fragmented for the purpose of energy vampirism.
1. You feel a bit spaced out or don’t feel fully present all the time.
2. You have lost your creative spark.
3. You have addictions and/or self destructive behaviors.
4. You have become a recluse and you prefer to be alone, but your physical body/ego/human self yearns for love. You cannot feel love or have never “fallen in love”.
5. You have borderline or full on psychopathy or narcissism. Most of the time someone will have tried to point this out to you.
6. You feel that your soul is not connected to your physical body. You also have difficulties connecting with your higher self.
7. People tell you that you say things but you do not remember saying them.
8. You think you might have multiple personalities.
9. You have relationship and communication issues.
10. You feel powerless.
11. You have a negative psychological habit you just can’t seem to break.
First let me say that the positive aspect of this interactive matrix is the ability to have opportunities for healing as you live every scenario out that unfolds in your daily reality. Also, even extreme cases of fragmentation can be handled by experienced shamans, but eventually we will have technology that will be able to help us heal very quickly. Soul fragmentation has been happening for aeons and there is no one way to do this type of healing. I would say that this is one of the most important things we can work on for ourselves.
To start the healing process, the intention by speaking a prayer or mantra to begin to call any split shards you think you might have home to you. Call out to your higher self, guides, and Source connection for assistance. In your mantra, magnetize any splintered shards of your soul back to you, intend that they be cleansed, and imagine integrating them into your heart space. Ask Source that this be accomplished with ease and grace. This will create the energy in motion for you to begin to recognize what needs attention.
Many people need further assistance with soul shard retrieval through hypnosis. This, of course, requires that the hypnotized subject’s higher self guides them to that trauma so that it can be healed.
Personally, I created my own life review where I spent a few days in reflective meditation and re-visited the many traumatic things that had happened to me in this lifetime. I felt the emotion of the event and I also saw the event from the other person’s perspective. I then felt love and forgiveness for the person, realizing that it was only their wounded selves lashing out at me and not their true soul essence. Some of the things occurred as lessons for my soul growth yet my ego was lashing out as a victim, which caused unnecessary arguments and trauma. A lot of tears were shed in this process but in the end I felt more healed. This process was suggested by my higher self after asking for help. This is often the ” shadow work” that people find the hardest to do. Recognizing the shadow or darkness as a part of ourselves and healing through love and acceptance of experience, forgiveness, and soul growth magically reverses the polarity of the trauma’s energy and magnetizes it back to you.
Advanced soul shard retrievals can be assisted by experienced “seers” or tracker shamans who will be able to identify the status and location of the lost shard. If it is being held prisoner, it will need to be rescued and sometimes a fight literally ensues. If it has become its own personality or entity, it will need to understand that it is not whole and needs to be healed and integrated.
All energy will need to be cleansed before being integrated back to the whole of the person. Love and golden Source light works really well. Once all soul shards have been retrieved, one begins to become more “whole” and re-gains their connection to their “oneness” or Source.
Ancient tradition shamans use sacred plants to induce the person to “face their demons” so to speak. In my opinion this is a harsh way, but I can’t disregard it because it’s better than ignoring the issues. However, ejecting yourself into the astral can be a very daunting and dangerous task, especially if you haven’t changed a lot of your polarity from fear to love. You also are out there trudging around with other people’s shadow selves and wounded self creations! With a really good shaman and with a more advanced conscious awareness of the process, many people have reported good results with healings with The Mother.
The more awareness we have about soul shard retrieval, the more experienced healers are surfacing to help humanity heal themselves with more current methods.
I have focused on current lifetime healing rather than previous lifetimes because time does not actually exist. Anything from a past lifetime can be accessed in the now and probably only occurred in this lifetime because it already occurred in a past lifetime. On top of that, new fractures probably occurred in this lifetime. However, past life regression and healing can also heal maladies that are manifesting in the present lifetime. It seems easier to me to look at this current reality unfold and to see that things happen concurrently with the “past”, but many people are able to remember their past lifetimes. If that is the case then it can be accessed there. Also, much of what is set up for us in this lifetime actually leads to opportunity for soul shard retrieval even if we do not recognize it as such!
Furthermore, there may be soul retrieval occurring on solar, galactic, and universal levels as well. Rather than get too caught up in the expanse of this, you can focus on starting with your intentions to heal, ask for guidance, and do your basic mantras and then identify what is left from there based on how you are feeling and how your reality is unfolding. I would say that this is a gradual and ongoing process rather than a quick overnight fix.
This article in intended to be an introduction to this topic. If you feel a resonance to this material, please do your own research and ask your inner guidance what the best method of action is to retrieve your energy. The more we work on ourselves to become whole, the more we can help the collective. We are getting more help now than ever in doing the “work” necessary to become our true multidimensional selves once again.
Our “self-esteem” is a very delicate illusion. We are so off-centered when it comes to locating the origin of our self-worth, that the smallest realization of an imperfection in ourselves can bring up all kinds of insecurities.
When a person begins working with their soul, they will start through self-exploration to gain energy, vitality, and clarity. They will also, however, notice the ‘shock’ of beginning to see their own unconscious selves and their deep inner fragmentation (e.g: all your sub-personalities).
These contradictions within ourselves that speak of who we truly are beyond the social and cultural conditioning in our lives, are humbling, but more importantly, they can also be disturbing. If we were to discover and consciously become aware of all these contradictions at once, the shock would be so great we would most likely go insane.
Our brains have a limited capacity to process all the intellectual and sensory information that we encounter at any given moment, and because of this the unconscious mind exists. In essence, the unconscious mind is a psychological “buffer” which is a part of the brain that stores all the unprocessed information the conscious mind can’t handle.
The unconscious mind works as a shock-absorber, and in psychology this is known as a “defense mechanism”. There are an infinity of defense mechanisms going on within us at any given moment, but these are some of the most common I’ve observed in our practices:
One of the greatest hindrances in anybody’s journey of self-growth is to fool themselves into thinking they haven’t done anything wrong. This may be why the recovering addict’s first step is to acknowledge they have a problem. Most people live in denial or avoidance of exploring themselves because it keeps them from properly recognizing their more unsavory traits and capacities.
“The world is screwed up but I’m completely guilt free” is their basic outlook on life. They refuse to see the interconnection between their actions and lifestyle with the external world around them.
This defense mechanism is very similar to the Innocent Bystander, only this one avoids guilt by actively criticizing the world and people around them. Criticizing is our way of rebelling against society and wanting to find a way out, of wanting to be outside of the ‘herd’ while still feeling a sense of false participation.
Critical thought is a necessary instrument in any persons self-growth. But often these “critics” use critical thinking as way of boosting their ego, to feel smarter than the ‘herd’ who haven’t realized what the critic has. Unfortunately, noticing what’s wrong with the state of affairs of the world isn’t enough unless you actively apply a solution to the problem. It’s the essential difference between the paths of self-discovery and self-understanding.
Unquestionably, a major obstacle in living a fulfilling life to the maximum of your potential is your inability to be authentic to yourself (it’s the key element in Self-Love). All too often we live with an inner tension of controlling desires that we fear will be socially unacceptable. Let’s say you like a movie or a song that you know your friends don’t like, or maybe you are attracted to someone you know everyone will disapprove of, so you suppress that feeling.
The suppression won’t make the feeling go away, in fact, what happens is that you might be so good at suppressing the feelings that your unconscious mind learns to switch between your authentic self (“I like this person or thing”) to your false sub-personality (“I don’t like the person or thing anymore”).
In the end, the unconscious defense mechanism of “suppression” is protecting you from experiencing confusion as to whether you like something or not by jumping from one extreme to the other. Not only does suppression hinder your self-growth, but it can also contribute towards emotional, psychological and physical repression resulting in a host of sicknesses.
Repression differentiates from suppression in one important way. While suppression is initially a conscious process of having a desire and learning to avoid or ignore is, repression is an entirely unconscious process.
For example, you might have had a traumatizing experience as a child that unconsciously affected your feelings towards whatever the experience involved. This unconscious defense mechanism basically serves to protect you from feeling pain or other difficult emotions connected to the memories of what is being repressed.
Sometimes, religious beliefs or social conditioning can be so strong that desires that would normally be consciously suppressed (such as sexuality for instance), become automatically unconsciously repressed. You don’t even become aware of what exactly were the desires of your original authentic self, and this makes you completely out of touch with your true self. This self-denying defense mechanism makes it very difficult to learn and cultivate Self-Love.
In psychology the technical term is “reactive formation”, and this is something you’ll observe everywhere. The nature of the unconscious mind is that it requires absolute certainties — it needs to see the world in black or white. There is no grey, or “in between”.
Many people who had a very strict religious upbringing for example, grow older and become disillusioned with the dogmatic ideas they’ve been taught. These people unconsciously find atheism a very attractive option, and become fanatical anti-God advocates, almost dogmatically. Another example of a reactive extreme is the person who finds it difficult to deal with, or understand, other people, and as a reaction decides to become a hermit and go live in the mountains.
Going to reactive extremes can also be illustrated in the case of sour grapes (or the false pretense that we don’t care for something we really do care for, which can be illustrated in the Fox and the Grapes fable). In this situation, our unconscious mind realizes that we are fixated on a certain topic so it protects us by going from one extreme to the other, e.g. from love to hatred.
I’m sure we’ve all come across an angry victim of life, someone who blames other people or the world for their difficulties. But everyone uses blame as a defense mechanism to some extent. In truth, what we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.
To indulge in blame is to give up personal responsibility and mentally delegate it to someone else, convincing ourselves that we are not responsible for the state of our lives, instead blaming it on some “outside force”. The blameless victim mechanism blocks us from seeing clearly just how we are contributing to our own suffering.
Essentially, the blameless victim is one of the fiercest protectors of our ego. It causes us to feel that we’re never failing ourselves, or that we lack the maturity or strength to come to terms with the reality of the situations we’re confronted with. Whatever happened is not evidence of our own inadequacy, but of someone else’s.
Have you observed any defense mechanisms in yourselves or in others? Let me know in the comments below!