NEZEL PADAYHAG: “10 Ways To Strengthen The Love Within Your Family”

“The best ideal for unity is love.”

~Nezel Padayhag

 

Every family is a building block in the society we live in. In order to have a strong and loving society, we must ensure that it starts with the family.

Love is what keeps a family strong and intact. Without love, a family can’t stand the tests of time. No relationship can.

This doesn’t mean that because you have genuine love, conflicts would no longer arise. On the contrary, genuine love can be tough but is not conditioned.

Family love is a safe haven for unconditional love. Unconditional love means even if there are arguments and fighting at times, your love for each other stays the same.

The stronger the bond of love we can create within the family, the better and more loving society we can constitute. Here are some ways you can strengthen the love of your family.

10 Ways To Strengthen The Love Within Your Family

 

1. Include some form of spirituality.

Whatever you and your family believe in, include some form of spirituality within your home and your interactions. Have a mutual ideal that you all follow, so even if your beliefs are different, you can meet at this ideal. The best ideal for unity is love.

2. Eat together.

The dining table is the best place to share exciting experiences. Eating together can be hell if your relationships are difficult, if you can’t handle each other. However, that’s exactly why eating together is important, it highlights all the areas you need to work on.

3. Let others feel loved and accepted.

When you interact with your family, it’s much more important to let them feel loved and be kind, than be right, even if you really are right and they are wrong. The most important ingredient is love and your relationship is about love, not about who is right.

4. Go somewhere together.

Taking a trip together, even if it’s for just one day, can bring you much closer. Sometimes it’s the environment you always interact with that stimulates bad behavior and irritates old wounds. Changing the environment can give you a different perspective of who they are.

When you laugh with someone you are bonding with them on a deeper level. And laughing with your siblings can be more healing than you can even imagine.

5. Laugh together.

When you laugh with someone you are bonding with them on a deeper level. And laughing with your siblings can be more healing than you can even imagine.

6. Set strong boundaries for yourself.

In order to be open with our family and love them freely, without getting drained of our energy it’s important to have strong boundaries. You need to let your family know the importance of your boundaries. Show respect, trust and honesty so they can show it back.

7. Nurture the relationship with each other.

Have weekly hang outs with your family. If you can’t do it once per week do it once per two weeks. Spend an extra bonding time with each member in the family to make them feel special. Maintain your relationships.

8. Don’t gossip or keep secrets from each other.

Keeping secrets within your family and gossiping is going to rust your family apart. Secrets and gossip create bonding but in a form of triangulation, you are bonding with one member while using another member as the topic for the conversation, as a punching bag.

9. Talk about things that matter.

Instead of small talk, gossip and shallow conversations, or topics that lead you to argue with each other, speak about things that are real. Speak about your feelings, speak about what really matters to you, what you are passionate about. That’s what family is for.

10. Do not try to change anyone.

Nobody is perfect. And yeah, some family members might function with an old, really outdated operating system. But it’s not your job to change them, it’s not their job to change you either. Accept each other with all your flaws and try to love who you are.

A home that is full of love is felt not only by adults but also by babies.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

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ALEXANDER PAPAGEORGHIOU: “Family Values In 5D — Letting Go Of The Past And Your Loved Ones”

“Love is all that remains and truth is all that ever was. Incompatibility with that energy is destructive. We need to look into our hearts and ask ourselves honestly, about what will happen with this relationship in the future, can this person possibly accept to change and ascend or will they stay where they are?”

~Alexander Papageorghiou

 

Since birth, you have been surrounded by a group of people, your clan, your kin. You have grown to know them as your protectors, as the ultimate circle of love, a deeper belonging than you could understand at an early age. As you have progressed through your journey and gotten to know yourself, you developed your own circle of belonging within your heart. With time, and with your Ascension and awakening, you are increasingly becoming one with yourself and with your spiritual guidance.

For many of us, as we awakened, our spiritual development became enhanced, reaching new heights every year. With time, a gap was created between us and our former clan, a dissonance that has kept on separating and contradicting our new ideals and values, as our loved ones grew to represent our old selves. That side had stopped developing and become stagnant, while we morphed into completely new entities of light. This became more and more difficult for us to accept, that there may be an end to that chapter.

Our New Selves are free of karmic ties, cleansed of the past and the strings that attached us to our former pain and discord, the life we had in 3D. Our physical families had been bound to us by karma, built over many lifetimes, and often unresolved. Being that this is the last incarnation for many light beings, as we are finally ascending, the Karma accompanied us and took form to be released. This has created many difficult nuclear family situations that many of us have felt repeatedly. As we have grown into our new vessels, we have gotten accustomed to knowing ourselves and our new values, what we truly hold dear. We have finally become what we have always been. The layers of society and fear have been shed. We have learned to love ourselves and our truths, personal, and collective, more than ever before.

Those around us that we call family, have often not gone on the same path and have stayed in the old mindsets. The more we have ascended, the more we have felt the void created between the old and the new grow. They were compatible energetically with the old us, but the NEW US is something they can seldom comprehend and accept. Topics of discussion, values, and mores are now completely different. We see ourselves as part of something infinite and loving. It becomes more difficult daily to look at family with the same sanctity as we have in the past. The genetic lineage we share in this lifetime is but a very minute part of the equation. Our Karmic lineage is a story of millennia, of ties between souls, of the need to release and replace with love. All in all, as we look at ourselves now, the concept of family in 5D is completely new. We can meet total strangers through our guidance, and be connected in ways we have never been before, since we removed the blockages of the ego, and allowed ourselves to be nourished by love for the first time. This is not a material 3D love, but a completely new energy. It surpasses all genetic, karmic, and conscious lineage.

Most awakened light beings have been guided by the light in the guise of their spiritual guidance, whether physical or etheric. These beings have played a very important role in our development and taught us valuable lessons we had never learned before. We must accept that they play a paramount role in the definition of our new family values. They are part of our new family. We must also begin to break the mold of the nuclear family and, within our hearts, start to look at the collective on our planet as one entity, spending less time criticizing and differentiating, and more including and embracing. All divisive concepts of the Third Dimension have come to a halt. We can see all of that rising to the surface daily, in more blatant ways than we have seen before. These concepts are void and illusionary today. The longer we embrace them, the longer we delay the inevitable ascension of the collective as a whole.

What should our attitude towards our nuclear families be then, in this new time? We must look inside with total honesty and the absence of fear of letting go. We need to re-evaluate how these relationships make us feel, where there is love, and where lie emotions such as criticism, anger, fear, and control. We need to look at our new values, and how these family members are compatible with them. We need to measure their acceptance with love of what we have become. Some may be so entrenched in their 3D fears that they cannot support this new energy and the dissonance is so great that we feel toxicity when we are in the same room, and there is avoidance that we are not addressing. These are exactly the red flags that we need to discuss with ourselves. Love is all that remains and truth is all that ever was. Incompatibility with that energy is destructive. We need to look into our hearts and ask ourselves honestly, about what will happen with this relationship in the future, can this person possibly accept to change and ascend or will they stay where they are? What happens to our love when we are around that? The fear of letting go is completely normal. This is our family, the one that has raised us and an integral part of us, the thought of letting them go is unfathomable. This is the fear talking, the fear of trusting our intuition, our need to love and be loved unconditionally. This is a discussion all ascending beings need to have with themselves at this time.

What does letting go mean for our families? Energetically, they have been sensing our journey since the beginning, though they have been unaware of it. Their energy has become increasingly incompatible with ours, and we have often felt out of balance when we are with them and afterwards. There is so far a refusal, out of fear to change and let go on their part, and there is a part of us that suffers when trying to help them with their process, an anticipation, and a pain that results when that is met with the same attitude. The only way to help them is to let them ascend by themselves. Only confronted with the physical reality of this gap, this void that has been created, will they understand that there are unaddressed issues within themselves that can go no further. We often see in today’s world, in many extreme displays, the very obvious, sometimes ugly, wake-up calls that society is being given in order to deal with certain issues that are way overdue, and have been conveniently brushed off for decades, even centuries. The same process affects our personal lives and our families. There is a generational gap, which is a given, and an immense energetic gap that is approximately 15 to 20 years old. We feel it more and more, and they succumb to fear and frustration.

We must help them by loving ourselves as we should, trusting in the Universe and the Creator, and to let go of that does not serve love anymore. The scariest part of the process is the emptiness that follows and the fear that tries to fill it. This is the struggle for most of us. We need to embrace our faith and love in the Ascension and believe in the love at the end of the path. Our guidance loves and supports us and we need not be afraid of what may be as a result, but notice the difference in how we feel, when we replace these heavy emotions, these ties, with love, and the understanding that we have a family all around us, that supports our awakening and wants us to flourish. Family starts from your heart, that is where it lives and always has.

Much Love,

Alexander

 

 

~via IndigoLightLove.com

JESSIE KLASSEN: “6 Simple Ways To Keep You And Your Family Grounded”

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With so much of an energetic shift occurring within our Universe, upon our planet, and within the entire collective, it can be increasingly hard to stay grounded.  Throw in work, family, and everyday responsibilities, and it can be even harder to find time to think about how to stay grounded!

But the good news is that staying grounded is not something that takes up extra time or effort.  Simply being mindful is all that you need.

Why is it so important to be grounded?

Being grounded means that you are fully present in your being.  When you are present, you are able to fully integrate the positive energies of the Universe.  This means that you are able to experience what you came here to experience and learn the lessons that you came here to learn.  Which means that you are being fully “you”, which is why you are really here!

Also, you are helping Mother Earth by holding the light here and grounding it into her.

We all know what it means to not be fully present.  You know, those times when your temper flares suddenly or when you are dropping, breaking, or tripping over things?  When you don’t feel like you are really here?  When you feel like the world and your life is out of your control?

These are usually the times when it seems that everything that could go wrong, goes wrong.

This or it feels like we are going through life on autopilot.  Hearing but not really listening to our loved ones, continually focused on our future tasks or living in our regrets of our past.  Where we are distracted by a busy world and not engaged with our own life.  In this way, our lives flash by us in a series of duties without us really experiencing true joy and bliss.

And what is it to be fully present?

To show up and be engaged with our own lives.  To be aware of each moment of our day and our role within it.  To notice our children and our loved ones and the gift that they are within our lives.  To be aware of our surroundings and not oblivious to the beauty of nature.

Being grounded is when you have trust in your life and the unfoldment of it.  You are not easily shaken by outside circumstances.  You respond instead of react to the world.

This does not mean that we are not busy or that we stop working, it simply means that we are calm and peaceful within our lives.

So what are some easy ways to stay grounded?

1) Be aware of your body

We are here in a physical body for a reason.  But so many of us have lost contact with our own sacred body temples.

Sometimes just taking a moment to breathe in and feel your body will bring your awareness into your self and ground you.  Notice anything you feel.  Sensations, pain, these are all signals from your body.  Are you carrying any stress?  Where is it in your body?  Take note of it, and breathe in and out, inhaling pure, healing air on your in breath and exhaling the stress on your out breath.

You can ask your kids to do the same.  If they feel stressed or anxious about something, this is a practice that can be done while sitting in the car or lying in bed at night.

Let them know that we are not meant to feel stressed all the time and that our bodies are happy to let it go.  Our stress is just a warning signal and should not be a constant part of our existence.

Saying “I love myself”will also bring your awareness into your body, as well as, “I am fully present in my being.”

2) Engage your physical senses

No matter where we are throughout our day, or what we are doing, simply noticing all of our senses makes our lives here a richer experience.  We are pulled into the NOW moment and we find ourselves able to stay there for longer periods of time.

In line at the supermarket, notice your surroundings.  What do you see, hear, smell?  What food are you purchasing for supper?  As you choose your ingredients, smell them.  Hold them in your hands and feel their texture on your skin.

When making love, be aware of your body and of your partner’s body.  Focus on your pleasure, and on that of your partners’.  It makes for a deeper, more sensual, closer bond with your partner and it increases your own confidence.  A more satisfying sexual experience depends on us staying in the Now.

Throughout your day, just notice your body in your surroundings.  Appreciate the senses that you have and what they tell you.  You will start to notice the subtleties of life and your world will become richer.  You may also start to notice smells and sounds in your environment that you hadn’t minded before but now find offensive, and you will know it is your senses waking up to the world around you.  You will probably notice your sensitivity increase to perfumes, and this is a good thing, as most of them are quite toxic to our bodies.

Our perception of our world is quite limited for the most part, because most of the time we are not using all of our available senses.  As we open to them and use them, they become keener, much like a muscle that we are exercising.

Don’t be surprised if your perception of your world continues to change.  It will continue to change as you continue to see through the many layers that make up our experience.

The skies will become more vivid, nature more beautiful, and you will start to notice the subtle kindnesses and beauty amongst people as well.  You will also find these kindnesses extended out to you, as higher frequencies will be aligning with yours.

3) Cook and eat mindfully

Honoring our bodies with healthy food is one of the easiest ways to feel present.

When you are cooking supper, engage with the food that you are preparing.  Imagine where it was grown and how it will nourish your body.  Taste it with your eyes closed.  What is the texture like on your tongue?

Give thanks to the earth for her gifts, and if you are eating meat, to the animal that gave themselves to you.

As you eat your meal, mention to your children where their food was grown.  Discuss why it is good for them and what it is doing for their bodies.  Our bodies are a reflection of what we nourish them with, and they are our vehicle for this world.  Let your children know how important it is to be mindful of what they eat.

If you can, try to purchase food grown by responsible and ethical farmers and companies, such as fair trade and organic.

And if you can’t have this interaction with your food?  Chances are you shouldn’t be eating it.

As you become more mindful of the food that you eat, your body will become clearer and better able to communicate with you.  You will find yourself craving healthier foods and you will stop craving less healthy, over-processed foods.

4) Get physical/Get outside!

There is nothing like moving, working, stretching, pushing the limits of your body to bring your awareness into it.  With farming as my livelihood, I have no shortage of physical work that I can engage in throughout my day, and sometimes, it still doesn’t feel like it’s enough for me to stay grounded.

There are moments when I haven’t been outside yet because of housework that I am doing, and suddenly it will hit me, “I have to go outside.”And out the door I go.  My soul, body, and mind are all screaming at me to get out there.

Both of my parents are like this, and my husband knows this about me now as well and he understands.  I am not running from my household duties, but I simply need to be healed by nature and I need the open space around me as I move.  I need to feel the sun and the sky, and have the wind wash my worries away.

Sometimes all I need is a quick fix in my garden, or a walk around my farm, or to just go out to my chicken coop and pick eggs.  Or to throw a ball around with my kids or jump with them on their trampoline.

So I have blended getting physical with getting outside, which for me, is necessary.  But simply stretching in your home, or doing yoga would be great too.  Or going out for a walk or sitting on your balcony or on a bench in a park and observing your surroundings.

If you have potted plants, play in their dirt or gently touch their leaves.  Our hands are like grounding rods for us, and that is why our sense of touch is so important to engage.

Sitting beneath a tree is a great idea, and imagining yourself with roots like one as well.  Feel yourself held by Mother Earth.  Feel her unconditional love surround you.

Pick up a rock, feel it’s sturdiness, and allow it to ground you.

If being outside is an impossibility, observe nature from a window.  Nature is here to heal us, and her healing begins as soon as you notice her.

The other morning as I was doing chores with my eyes on the gorgeous pink sunrise that was lighting up the sky, I could hear a soft voice say, “As you begin to notice the life that is in nature, the nature of life is revealed to you.”

And of course, if you can, go barefoot.  Truly feel the earth upon your feet, holding you, supporting you.

5) Hold a loved one

I have felt the need for this necessary now more than ever.  Sometimes I still just couldn’t feel calm and safe no matter what I was doing.  And these were the times I would just hold one of my children or hug my husband.  My older children sometimes laugh at me at first, but then they sink into my embrace and relax there for a while.  You will soon discover that everyone needs an embrace.  They are incredibly powerful and can heal you in moments where you might spend days trying to achieve the same results otherwise.

If you don’t have a child or a partner, embrace your pet.  Stroke their fur, give them love, feel their love for you in return.  Hugging a tree is powerful as well, and I go so far as to kiss them these days as well!

6) De-schedule

Now more than ever it is important to be open to Spirit as it moves through us, and that means taking plenty of downtime for ourselves and as a family to just be in our own company and hear our souls speaking to us.

It’s good to get involved in activities and to be learning new things, but when we become rushed and stressed trying to make it to all of these extra-curricular activities, we are no longer in the moment of our lives.  Our lives start flying past us and before long we realize that we are missing it.

Not only that, it becomes more challenging to eat properly and mindfully when we are always on the go.

Make time to read books or articles that you are drawn to, as they hold the words that are already within you, waiting to be revealed.

Let your creativity flow, take time to draw or color with your children, and don’t worry about your skill level.  It is a wonderful way to relax and release stuck energy.

Get lost in yourself and in your family.  Look at yourself and your loved ones from a new perspective, as if you have never seen them before.  What do you see?

Embrace your body, honour yourself, and you will be showing up for your life.

Allow your soul to move through you.  Let your inner child out!  Be playful, be silly, and most of all, be you!

How do you stay grounded?  Do you have any questions?  I would love to hear from you!

My email is hello@jessieklassen.com or visit my website at jessieklassen.com

love,
Jessie

About the authorJessie Klassen is a farmer, author, and mother of 3 sensitive children.  An empath herself from a long line of nature lovers, Jessie has been inspired to help others reconnect with the magic of nature and the magic of their own inner nature child.  Her children’s book “The Sapling” will be released in the summer of 2017.  Honoring the lessons of the trees, a portion of proceeds will be donated to the TreeSisters and the Nature Conservancy of Canada for reforestation and the protection of our earth.  ~via In5D.com

ALEXA PELLEGRINI: “Forgiving Your Family and Finding Empowerment”

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If there’s one thing most of us are taught during our childhood years, it’s that family is important and should be a source of joy and security in our lives. But what if your family didn’t fit the paradigm we see in movies and on television? What if your family has become a dark, well-kept secret, or a source of shame or trauma in your life? Reconciling your expectations of what family should be and the reality of what family is can be incredibly challenging for those who have come from abusive homes. As an adult child of an alcoholic, I’ve struggled intimately with how the cracked foundations of a childhood home can bleed into adulthood and make loving yourself a tremendous feat. But even in your darkest hour, it’s important to recognize that there is always hope for you to heal, to step into your own power and leave the pain of your childhood behind. All it takes is three simple steps.

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Step 1: Be Kind and Forgiving to Yourself. 

Adult children of damaged parents tend to be hard on themselves. I know this firsthand: for years, I struggled with crippling perfectionism, an issue that stemmed from needing to impress my parents, particularly my father, in order to gain their love and attention. Making mistakes gave me terrible anxiety, and if anything went wrong in my home I automatically blamed myself. This behavior continued well into adulthood until I realized that the only person I needed to impress to be happy was me, and that I was never to blame for my parents’ faults. And even now, I’m still struggling to put these concepts into practice on a daily basis. 

If there’s one thing adult children of dysfunctional homes need to do, it’s give themselves a break. A devastating number of us are chronic perfectionists, workaholics and masochists. It can be difficult for us to take compliments, to believe that our partners love us. Practice mindfulness by monitoring your inner dialogue every day, paying careful attention to the way you react to any slip-ups you make. Support yourself with positive self-talk, not self-destructive speech. And don’t hesitate to compliment yourself for your achievements and for simply being the amazing person you are. Lose yourself to joy, to silliness, to feelings of hard earned success. Reward yourself. You deserve it.   

Step 2: Keep Moving Forward – Don’t Look Back. 

Breaking down a dysfunctional family is like peeling back the layers of an onion: it’s arduous, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s difficult not to be brought to tears while doing it. Especially when someone else is doing the peeling, and it’s your family! This is why I quit therapy. I became tired of having therapists deconstruct the defects of my parents, flaws I was already understood all too well. I discovered that the more you obsess over the past, the more you lose focus on the beauty of the present moment.

When I reflect on the past, I do so with a non-judgmental perspective. The past cannot be changed: it can only be accepted for what it is. This concept has allowed me to dislodge the resentment I had toward my parents for taking away the normalcy of my childhood. Looking back on the past with the intention of accepting someone for who they are and leaving your expectations behind allows you to move one step closer to finding freedom from the pain others have caused you.

Step 3: Break Off Harmful Relationship Patterns That Mirror the Past. 

Adults from dysfunctional families frequently encounter situations that eerily mirror the dynamics they had with their parents. Many of us become ‘rescuers’ for damaged partners and we like to have excessive control, which sabotages the healthy relationships in our lives. Why? Adult children of alcoholics, in particular, tend to have serious issues with control and self-worth. After all, we develop self-esteem from how our parents reacted to our feelings and needs. If our parent(s) were distant, critical or failed to be our mirror, developing healthy self-esteem as an adult can be challenging. Not to mention that living in a chaotic environment can quickly create a deeply insecure person who craves control and order to feel safe.

FamilyAs we discussed, the past can’t be changed. But what you can change is your attitude toward yourself. Your self-image is the one thing you can undoubtedly control. Although long held negative beliefs you’ve had about yourself – that you’re unworthy of love because your alcoholic mother did not love you, that you’re damaged beyond repair because your narcissistic father left you – may seem too powerful to control, they can only define you and affect you if you give them permission to do so. Who told you that you’re unlovable because you had a parent who struggled with their past and also felt unlovable themselves? As an adult who has made it this far, the definition of who you are begins within you. What your parents, siblings or relatives think of you has no meaning unless you believe it has meaning. And taking the shortcomings of your parents personally will always hold you back from healing.

As your self-awareness grows and you can confidently look yourself in the eye and tell yourself that you are lovable, you’ll encounter others who believe the same — and reaffirm that you’re worth it, and always have been.

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