MATEO SOL: “5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know”

If you have grown up as a male in our society you’ve been taught one very clear message: emotions are a weakness, big boys don’t cry.

Being “strong” means you have to be forceful, aggressive, competitive and largely unemotional. If for some reason you are born sensitive, cooperative and compassionate, you are perceived as “weak,” “effeminate” or “weird.”

Throughout history, men have gained their identity, peer respect and self-worth through status, sexual prowess and money all of which contributed to their sense of power. In a physically demanding hunter-gatherer and agricultural world, men had to be the warriors that shouldered the responsibility of providing for their families. But now as women have become more independent with our society shifting to value mental labor over physical labor, men are struggling to let go of their old warrior habits and role dynamics.

However, regardless of our external bodies and sexual orientations, we all carry differing degrees of masculine and feminine energy. Some people will carry equal amounts, others will carry more of one than of the other (which might oppose their physical bodies), as can be seen in females referred to as “tomboys” and sensitive men.

It saddens me to see so many fellow men who outright ignore their sensitivity, or are aware of it but choose to reject or hide it. Many people associate sensitivity with neuroticism or low self-esteem, and courage with “numbing the pain.”

Sensitivity and courage are not mutually exclusive. To be sensitive is to be aware of the feelings and perspectives of other people as well as your own. To be courageous means to be completely aware and to feel fear yet to still fight for what you feel is right or what you want.

In fact sensitivity and courage can compliment each other; the greater your sensitivity and fear is, the greater your courage has to be to fight through it.

In psychology, Carl Jung was aware of the differences between masculine and feminine energy, and divided them into his Anima and Animus Archetypes. Personally, I’ve found that by embracing my sensitivity as a male and using it alongside my logic and courage, I have become a much wholer human being. In the end, to be intelligent is useless unless you can combine it with sensitivity. When intelligence is filtered through sensitivity, it becomes wisdom.

5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know

Here are some vital lessons I’ve learned as a sensitive man that I want to pass on:

1. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Deeper Connections

When a man is capable of transforming his insecurity about being sensitive into something empowering, it can allow him to create deeper connections with others. For instance, I’ve found that when I go beyond simply sharing factual information and opinions with my male friends, I see a whole new side to them which is more meaningful and creates a deeper long-term bond.

2. Sensitivity Encourages Emotional Maturity

I feel that the evolution of men will be one towards a balance of strength and sensitivity. One of the biggest struggles for men in relationships is to openly express their emotions or show vulnerability. This emotional distancing is done to display “strength,” but quite often the more sensitive female lover perceives this as ambivalence, being “unavailable” or even a phobia towards commitment. To be able to give love, show love and receive love freely is incredibly attractive.

3. Sensitivity Makes You More Body-Conscious

Sensual awareness is not limited to sex (although it does make you a better lover), but rather, it extends to the body as well. The greater your sensitivity is to your body and its senses, the more you’ll learn about yourself, the better you’ll be able to take care of yourself, and the healthier you’ll feel. However, I’ve observed that often many sensitive male students of mine have tried to drown their emotions out with food as an unconscious buffer.

As a sensitive man, I’ve discovered a variety of foods that I can feel my body quickly rejects by making me feel subtly ill. I’ve also learned that having long hair not only allows me to express my Anima externally, but it also serves as an extension of my nervous system amplifying my empathic senses. It’s no surprise that the Incas, Mayas, the Samurai and the Native Americans were aware of this (the latter using their hair almost like “antennae.”)

4. Sensitivity Allows You to Become More Creative

Creativity is not the result of logical empirical deduction, it is the child of playfulness and sensitivity. Creativity is born in the right side of the brain instead of the left.

To be a painter, writer, musician, actor, photographer or anything creative requires a sensitivity towards beauty and emotion.

5. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Spiritually

A thirst for wisdom and truth can only come to those who possess a spiritual sensitivity. To strive toward a better society and the peace of man demands an immense amount of courage to stand up against the status quo and a great spiritual sensitivity to question it.

Jesus, Buddha, the Dalai Lama, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther King Jr. were all figures who possessed this quality to speak the truth and question cultural morality, virtue and justice. Many people who have embraced their sensitivity will know that they are often the ones whom their friends come to, to ask for counsel and advice.

How to Embrace Your Sensitivity

In our society men are rarely taught how to express their feelings, and so it can be very difficult to know where or how to begin. In fact, if you are like most men, you’ll find it difficult to even become aware of what you’re feeling in the first place, e.g. how the mood of your boss may be affecting you, or how the stress from your busy schedule is making you short-tempered. And when someone asks how you are, you are so disconnected from your emotions that you’ll resort to the habitual “I’m fine,” making it harder for anyone to provide any support.

Ignoring feelings won’t making them disappear though, in fact, the more we ignore our feelings the larger they’ll grow. I’ve often seen men who appear to be well and calm before they burst out in an explosion of anger or rage when something bad happens. It’s often these very same men who become isolated and depressed due to their tendency to avoid and limit their social contact to avoid emotional vulnerability.

How do we embrace our sensitivity? Recognizing and accepting ourselves as sensitive men is the first step. No matter what “macho” ideals you’ve been taught, sensitivity is a gift, not a weakness. To be more empathetic and to be able to appreciate art, music and beauty, is a blessing. While burying our feelings is certainly easier, acknowledging our feelings helps us to empower ourselves which requires much more courage, and is a lot more rewarding. Can you imagine how many wars and ecological forms of destruction could have been avoided if we all cultivated greater sensitivity?

The next step is to examine your feelings about sensitivity. Is it a “weakness” or some kind of illness to you? You’ll have to change the core beliefs you hold about masculine sensitivity in order to accept it. Only after this can you integrate aspects of your sensitivity into your daily life. You can do this by changing your old habits of ignoring or hiding your sensitivity and instead decide to slowly process through them, expressing them to yourself and your trusted loved ones.

It takes time and effort, but changing our personal paradigms is essential in order to embrace our own sense of personal power. It’s time to change this outdated male ideal of aggressiveness, thick-skin and emotional retardation. By empowering sensitive men with self-confidence, we’ll all contribute to a more peaceful, balanced and healthy planet.

Once you become aware of your feelings and have learned to express them, you’ll begin drawing loving people into your life, you’ll be able to help others through their own problems, and you’ll be able to feel as though every part of you is living life to the fullest.

 

 

~via LonerWolf.com

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ANDREA SCHULMAN: “11 Intriguing Signs Of Intuition”

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Are you aware of the signs of intuition you receive?

Intuition is defined as:

“the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.”

Now, while it is true that some people are more intuitive than others, intuition is something all of us experience regularly. You are an intuitive being, whether you realize it or not!

With that being said, here are a few of my favorite signs of intuition. Have you experienced any of these lately?

1.  Knowing the car in front of you is going to merge or change lanes.

2.  Getting a brilliant idea out of the blue.

3.  Hearing or thinking the word someone is going to say before it comes out of his or her mouth.

4.  Hearing about or thinking about a song before it plays on the radio (sometimes you may hear the first bar of a song right before it starts).

5.  Just knowing what someone is thinking about while they are being quiet.

6.  Understanding the root of someone’s “problem” without them telling you what it is.

7.  Premonitions about accidents, illnesses or injuries.

8.  Getting a “vibe” about a particular situation. For example, walking into a room and just “feeling” that it isn’t a good place for you to be at the moment.

9.  Knowing you can trust someone you are just meeting for the first time, or feeling like you’ve known them already for a lifetime.

10.  Suddenly knowing how to fix a problem you’ve never solved before, without having to think it through.

11.  Knowing you are about to “win” and then winning. Maybe you get a premonition that you are about to get a strike at the bowling alley or your scratch off ticket will be a winner.

Do you have any other fun signs of intuition you’ve experienced? Drop a comment below and share!

XO, Andrea

 

About the author:
Andrea Schulman is a former high school psychology teacher and the creator of Raise Your Vibration Today, which provides free and easy Law of Attraction techniques. She will be available for group educational seminars and webinars starting in the summer of 2015.  ~via In5D.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “Psychic Signs Revealed — Are You One With Intuition?”

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Have you ever wandered if there is a chance you might have psychic abilities because of some psychic signs you experience?  Well, you might have realized you shrug off Déjà Vu experiences and express uncommon incidences of intuition.  These unusual occurrences might be a clear sign that you have some sort of special ability and it’s believed most people have enhanced psychic abilities.

In the society, those with the unusual abilities are mostly considered evil simply because they are different from the rest of the world.  However, we all have different psychic abilities and its just that we don’t have the insight to understand them and recognize the symptoms.

Psychic Signs

1. Experiencing Déjà Vu several times

If you constantly have a feeling like you have been somewhere before yet you’ve actually never been there in real life, you might be having psychic abilities.  You will find yourself feeling a sense of familiarity to that place or to the people and things there and this is a sure sign of Déjà Vu.

2. Telepathy

One sure symptom of having psychic abilities is the feeling you that you can send messages through your mind, be able to study one’s thoughts and generally having a mind connection with someone.

3. Sensing trouble

This kind of feeling can’t be really explained but you will be able to feel when someone you love is in trouble. He/she might be sick or even in danger; it will hit you directly and in most cases impact fear in you too.

4. Intuition

Have you ever received a phone call or text message from someone just when you were thinking of them?  It will happen as if you can predict activities that haven’t really taken place and this is one of the psychic signs that you might have a special gift within you.

5. Hearing sounds

Have you ever been in a position you hear sounds that others don’t seem to hear?  Well, the sounds may not be actually there that is why they cant get them.  Such beeps, rings and chimes may be a way of the future presenting itself to you.  It may be a sign of some coming event in your life.

6. Having visions

Visions are the most exact signs of psychic abilities as its quite rare.  But rare as it is, you will find yourself having visions of things that will happen hours or even a few days after; mostly in the form of dreams or within your day to day awake life.

7. Predicting the future

The other exact sign of you having psychic abilities is the power to predict something that will happen in the future and it really comes to be true.

8. A sort of ‘accurate gut feeling’

If you happen to just know things and be able to sense certain occurrences of things that are actually happening and also those that are yet to happen then it can be an indication that you have some special abilities within you.

9. Psychometry

The ability to experience the history of something or someone just by touching or simply being there is also one sure sign that you have psychic abilities.  The touch enables you see one’s past including the sounds, smells and tastes at the point of time you have visualized.

10. Ability to heal

If you have ever laid your hands on someone ill or suffering from something then after some time an unusual positive change happens to them; it might just be a lucky coincidence or you might be having psychic abilities.

Which of these psychic signs are you resonating with?  Maybe you have them all and you are a person with special ability, there is no need to fear what society might think of you, you are truly a gift to the world.

 

 

 

~via spiritualunite.com