MATEO SOL: “5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know”

If you have grown up as a male in our society you’ve been taught one very clear message: emotions are a weakness, big boys don’t cry.

Being “strong” means you have to be forceful, aggressive, competitive and largely unemotional. If for some reason you are born sensitive, cooperative and compassionate, you are perceived as “weak,” “effeminate” or “weird.”

Throughout history, men have gained their identity, peer respect and self-worth through status, sexual prowess and money all of which contributed to their sense of power. In a physically demanding hunter-gatherer and agricultural world, men had to be the warriors that shouldered the responsibility of providing for their families. But now as women have become more independent with our society shifting to value mental labor over physical labor, men are struggling to let go of their old warrior habits and role dynamics.

However, regardless of our external bodies and sexual orientations, we all carry differing degrees of masculine and feminine energy. Some people will carry equal amounts, others will carry more of one than of the other (which might oppose their physical bodies), as can be seen in females referred to as “tomboys” and sensitive men.

It saddens me to see so many fellow men who outright ignore their sensitivity, or are aware of it but choose to reject or hide it. Many people associate sensitivity with neuroticism or low self-esteem, and courage with “numbing the pain.”

Sensitivity and courage are not mutually exclusive. To be sensitive is to be aware of the feelings and perspectives of other people as well as your own. To be courageous means to be completely aware and to feel fear yet to still fight for what you feel is right or what you want.

In fact sensitivity and courage can compliment each other; the greater your sensitivity and fear is, the greater your courage has to be to fight through it.

In psychology, Carl Jung was aware of the differences between masculine and feminine energy, and divided them into his Anima and Animus Archetypes. Personally, I’ve found that by embracing my sensitivity as a male and using it alongside my logic and courage, I have become a much wholer human being. In the end, to be intelligent is useless unless you can combine it with sensitivity. When intelligence is filtered through sensitivity, it becomes wisdom.

5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know

Here are some vital lessons I’ve learned as a sensitive man that I want to pass on:

1. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Deeper Connections

When a man is capable of transforming his insecurity about being sensitive into something empowering, it can allow him to create deeper connections with others. For instance, I’ve found that when I go beyond simply sharing factual information and opinions with my male friends, I see a whole new side to them which is more meaningful and creates a deeper long-term bond.

2. Sensitivity Encourages Emotional Maturity

I feel that the evolution of men will be one towards a balance of strength and sensitivity. One of the biggest struggles for men in relationships is to openly express their emotions or show vulnerability. This emotional distancing is done to display “strength,” but quite often the more sensitive female lover perceives this as ambivalence, being “unavailable” or even a phobia towards commitment. To be able to give love, show love and receive love freely is incredibly attractive.

3. Sensitivity Makes You More Body-Conscious

Sensual awareness is not limited to sex (although it does make you a better lover), but rather, it extends to the body as well. The greater your sensitivity is to your body and its senses, the more you’ll learn about yourself, the better you’ll be able to take care of yourself, and the healthier you’ll feel. However, I’ve observed that often many sensitive male students of mine have tried to drown their emotions out with food as an unconscious buffer.

As a sensitive man, I’ve discovered a variety of foods that I can feel my body quickly rejects by making me feel subtly ill. I’ve also learned that having long hair not only allows me to express my Anima externally, but it also serves as an extension of my nervous system amplifying my empathic senses. It’s no surprise that the Incas, Mayas, the Samurai and the Native Americans were aware of this (the latter using their hair almost like “antennae.”)

4. Sensitivity Allows You to Become More Creative

Creativity is not the result of logical empirical deduction, it is the child of playfulness and sensitivity. Creativity is born in the right side of the brain instead of the left.

To be a painter, writer, musician, actor, photographer or anything creative requires a sensitivity towards beauty and emotion.

5. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Spiritually

A thirst for wisdom and truth can only come to those who possess a spiritual sensitivity. To strive toward a better society and the peace of man demands an immense amount of courage to stand up against the status quo and a great spiritual sensitivity to question it.

Jesus, Buddha, the Dalai Lama, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther King Jr. were all figures who possessed this quality to speak the truth and question cultural morality, virtue and justice. Many people who have embraced their sensitivity will know that they are often the ones whom their friends come to, to ask for counsel and advice.

How to Embrace Your Sensitivity

In our society men are rarely taught how to express their feelings, and so it can be very difficult to know where or how to begin. In fact, if you are like most men, you’ll find it difficult to even become aware of what you’re feeling in the first place, e.g. how the mood of your boss may be affecting you, or how the stress from your busy schedule is making you short-tempered. And when someone asks how you are, you are so disconnected from your emotions that you’ll resort to the habitual “I’m fine,” making it harder for anyone to provide any support.

Ignoring feelings won’t making them disappear though, in fact, the more we ignore our feelings the larger they’ll grow. I’ve often seen men who appear to be well and calm before they burst out in an explosion of anger or rage when something bad happens. It’s often these very same men who become isolated and depressed due to their tendency to avoid and limit their social contact to avoid emotional vulnerability.

How do we embrace our sensitivity? Recognizing and accepting ourselves as sensitive men is the first step. No matter what “macho” ideals you’ve been taught, sensitivity is a gift, not a weakness. To be more empathetic and to be able to appreciate art, music and beauty, is a blessing. While burying our feelings is certainly easier, acknowledging our feelings helps us to empower ourselves which requires much more courage, and is a lot more rewarding. Can you imagine how many wars and ecological forms of destruction could have been avoided if we all cultivated greater sensitivity?

The next step is to examine your feelings about sensitivity. Is it a “weakness” or some kind of illness to you? You’ll have to change the core beliefs you hold about masculine sensitivity in order to accept it. Only after this can you integrate aspects of your sensitivity into your daily life. You can do this by changing your old habits of ignoring or hiding your sensitivity and instead decide to slowly process through them, expressing them to yourself and your trusted loved ones.

It takes time and effort, but changing our personal paradigms is essential in order to embrace our own sense of personal power. It’s time to change this outdated male ideal of aggressiveness, thick-skin and emotional retardation. By empowering sensitive men with self-confidence, we’ll all contribute to a more peaceful, balanced and healthy planet.

Once you become aware of your feelings and have learned to express them, you’ll begin drawing loving people into your life, you’ll be able to help others through their own problems, and you’ll be able to feel as though every part of you is living life to the fullest.

 

 

~via LonerWolf.com

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DAILY VIBES: “10 Unexpected Traits You Will Only Find In Extremely Intelligent People”

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Intelligence or smarts can manifest in many different ways.  Sometimes it shows itself in seemingly totally spontaneous manners, things we don’t even connote with someone who is bright.  Often those who are very proficient in one area of intelligence are a little lacking in others.  A brilliant mathematician may lack an understanding of poetry or abstract art, while a leading physicist may be extremely socially challenged in a similar sense.

There are those lucky few however, that seem to somehow have tapped into many or all of the nuanced forms of intelligence and can function at a uniquely high level of ability in numerous opposing realms.  These people tend to share common traits which others might not even consider connected to their intellectual talents.  Listed below are 10 of these traits most commonly found among the subtly brilliant.

1. Fluidity of thought and opinion.

These people know that to take a staunch position on something is to limit yourself to that position.  While they are perfectly capable of forming strong opinions or beliefs, they prefer to stay away from rigid absolutes because they know that one must keep their mind open to new possibilities at all times.

2. They’re never hasty.

They will always take as much time and energy as they need to deeply and genuinely consider what they want to say before they say it.  They will take into account whether it is kind or socially acceptable, whether it is necessary or will add anything to the conversation, and whether or not they feel ready to confront the possible reactions to it.  It may seem like a lot of work, but this is usually a momentary process in the head that takes only a few extra seconds of thought.

3. Never contributing unless it will benefit the group.

Intelligent people don’t tend to be interested in small talk.  They don’t speak or do things just for the attention or to fill the awkward silence and spaces.  They will only become involved in a situation if they think they have something to bring to the table, something that will help or assist in a positive or necessary way.  Otherwise they simply won’t interject.

4. They march to their own drummer.

They aren’t worried about fitting in with the crowd because they know sometimes the crowd is boring or even downright wrong.  They base their thoughts and opinions on information and fact because they are acutely aware of the great potential human beings have for making mistakes.

This doesn’t mean they won’t consider other people’s feelings on things, but they will always want to form their own individual ideas about it once they’ve obtained as much information as they can.

5. They know that everyone is capable of being wrong. Including themselves.

Only the fool believes that men are infallible.  The truly intelligent person will always admit when they’re wrong or they’ve made a mistake.  You don’t grow to be wise or well-educated if you can’t accept being incorrect.  This also goes for those you might consider personal heroes.  You can respect someone greatly for many things and still believe it when they screw up.

6. They always strive to be objective.

Instead of being emotional about it and telling a person they’re just wrong, someone who is very intelligent will instead offer a different perspective.  It’s not about winning or losing the argument, it’s about helping the other person to understand things in a different, perhaps better or clearer way.  The smart man/woman would rather help someone else come to their own conclusion than force personal opinions on them.

7. They don’t let emotion get the best of them.

They will always do whatever they can to stay calm and clear-headed.  When you allow your emotions and personal bias to inform your speech and behavior, people suffer.  Communication just doesn’t happen the way it should and everyone ends up angry or upset.  Staying relaxed, trying not to take anything personally and relying on facts and logic are the best way to find a good solution or compromise to any difficult situation.

8. They often rely on intuition.

It may sound cliche, but sometimes the best thing you can do is trust your instincts.  Intelligent people know that human beings once relied entirely on their gut for survival, and though we’ve long since evolved past that, our physical feelings can still give us some useful hints for life now.  Never deny your instincts, they exist for a good reason.

9. They are people of action, not just words.

Too many of us will react to a troublesome issue by sitting around and trying to think our way out of it.  While I’m not suggesting that we remove thought from the equation entirely, I am telling you that the truly intelligent know better than to get paralyzed in thought.

At some point you’ve got to take the risk and act, or you’ll be immobilized permanently.  No good can come of sitting there and obsessing over your problem, you have to make a plan of action and follow through with it in order to have any hope of progressing.

10. They don’t need your validation.

Most of the time when someone is judging you harshly, what they’re really doing is revealing what type of person they are. Intelligent people don’t worry about judgment or what others are saying about them.  They do what feels right and important to them and they don’t bother letting others shame them for it.

They will take into consideration the thoughts of those they greatly admire and respect, and if they think they’re being called out on something they deserve to be called out on, they won’t deny it, but overall their validation comes from within.  They simply have more productive things to do than chase the approval of their peers.

 

 

~via DailyVibes.org

 

KOTY NEELIS: “14 Signs Of An Emotionally Intelligent Person”

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Emotional intelligence is one of the essential soft skills in life that’s incredibly important to personal and professional success but often goes overlooked and undiscussed.

In his new book Promote Yourself: The New Rules for Career Success, author Dan Schawbel talks about emotional intelligence and why it’s so critical to thriving in life.  It’s probably one of the best books I’ve read this spring and it made me think about what emotional intelligence means to me and how I see this portrayed in everyday life.  Are you an emotionally intelligent person?  Here’s how to tell.

1.  You’re constantly striving to understand the human condition.

You notice everything — the way someone hesitates before they speak, the way their eyes light up when they see someone they love.  You often notice all the things other people seem to miss and you seek understanding for the logic and motivation behind how people behave.  You want to understand the human condition from every angle because it helps give you insight and perspective on your own life.

2.  You’re inherently curious about the way other people live.

You love talking to people from varying cultures and backgrounds because you love learning about how other people live and what makes them tick.  You enjoy seemingly random interactions with strangers because that’s where you can often learn the most about other people.

3.  You’re self-aware about your shortcomings and strengths.

You know the things about yourself that make you not such an ideal person and you’re also aware of the things that make you really great.  You know you have a bad habit of procrastinating on projects until the last minute or maybe you know you can be a bad communicator at times, but because you’re aware of these things you actively try to work on them when they come up.  You also know what makes you excel in life and you’re always looking for ways to improve on those traits.

4.  You place an emphasis on living in the moment rather than in the past or in the future.

You don’t believe living in the past or hoping for the future has any value here, in the now.  You would rather experience what’s currently happening as deeply and fully as you can instead of reliving the memories of yesterday or the stories of promise for tomorrow.  You have accepted your past for what it is and know you can no longer go back, just as you understand your future is merely a dream you like to live in to give you hope but have yet to actually experience.

5.  You actively try to understand your moods and change them when they go bad.

When you get angry, sad or jealous about something you have a self-awareness about it.  You experience your emotions as they’re happening with the perspective of trying to understand why exactly you’re feeling this way.  You understand emotions are the way your body processes your thoughts and because of this, you attempt to alter your thoughts before spiraling emotionally out of control.

6.  You confront people as issues arise instead of letting them fester within.

When an issue comes up between you and another person you would rather deal with it right away than not saying anything at all and letting it create residual problems between you.

7.  Your motivations come from within yourself, not from outside influences.

You live for yourself and the motivations within.  You listen to what people say — your peers, friends, parents, people in your industry — but ultimately, you’re going to seek out a life and achievements based on what drives you deep within yourself.

8.  You’re always working on personal development.

You feel restless when life becomes stagnant so when you’ve hit a lull you begin to think about how to get out of it.  You start considering your interests, job, friends, relationships, and how you could do things differently to improve upon these areas.

9.  You genuinely enjoy listening to other people and helping them with their problems.

You have an ability to make other people feel calm and accepted in your presence.  When they’re around you they feel like they can say anything and you aren’t going to judge them for what they’ve done but instead, you’ll actually listen and give constructive feedback.  It’s not just one way for you though.  You genuinely enjoy connecting with people, whether it’s your friends or family, or random people that talk to you, and listening to what’s going on in their life.

10.  You have an empathetic nature for everyone.

When people talk to you about the struggles they’re currently experiencing, you can often feel and understand their pain, even if it’s something you haven’t personally experienced.  You can imagine what it must be like for them and how this obstacle is affecting the rest of their life.

11. You’re somewhat of a social chameleon.

You change your behavior based on who you’re with.  This doesn’t mean that you aren’t genuine in your personality but that you’re aware of other people’s moods and you try to match their energy level so you’re on the same wave length.

12. You listen to your intuition and let it guide you when making tough decisions.

As soon as you get that subtle hit of your intuition telling you something isn’t right you know you should listen to what your body is telling you and look a bit deeper into the situation before proceeding further.

13. You don’t have a problem saying “no thanks” if you need to.

As much as you understand other people’s desires and you want to help them out, you also understand what’s best for you and your situation.  You’re not afraid of other people’s feelings and telling them no when you have to.

14. You can read people well.

You have an inherent sense about people and understand what they want or what they’re thinking without them having to say anything directly about it.  Through social cues and behaviors you just get a feeling about things and know when someone is telling you something, even when they’re not saying anything at all.

 

~via ThoughtCatalog.com

LISA RENEE (Energetic Synthesis): “Crisis in Consciousness” (Audio Version)

Here is an ‘automated’ audio version of Lisa Renee’s latest post, via “Higher Self” @ YouTube. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

LISA RENEE (Energetic Synthesis): “Crisis in Consciousness”

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“The circus side show, that had become the USA election and the results, has deeply disturbed many people.  People that have short emotional fuses, and big pain bodies, may be ready to lash out with anger or cast blame.  Many may be feeling offended and upset because deep down they are sick and tired of feeling unheard, marginalized, abused and victimized.  The issue is we have to see who and what is behind that enslavement system really, because it’s not Washington, DC politicians that are really calling the shots, that run the larger system of control.  Please look to the bigger perspective of social engineering, to controlled dehumanization because it leads off-planet, and it’s not the humans we see in the media or on TV that are the ones in control.”   ~Lisa Renee

 

Recent events have proved to be very painful, very confusing and very hurtful for so many people that it seems fitting to bring this up, even though I don’t really want to.  It seems that any word that I may say or write can easily be taken out of context or misunderstood, as when tempers flare and emotions are triggered, mind slides tend to operate and dominate in the landscape.  I speak to the larger controller agendas that are behind influencing the collective consciousness movement in order to feed into larger systems of mind control programming, as my role is to identify these schisms.  Sometimes people do not hear what I’m saying from the overview perspective of the collective consciousness on our planet because they do not perceive the existence of the collective fields.  As a result, sometimes a person may take an observation of the field as my personal opinion and then they are easily offended if the perspective differs from their own.  I want to remind us all that there’s always room for all of our own experiences and in my view, there is nothing to be offended about in having a difference of opinion or range of experiences.  As a person, it is the right to have our own experiences and perceptions, and to express our experience is a basic human right.  However, what I hope to express is of importance in speaking in terms that create unity, and to not take offence at other’s opinions because they are different from your own.  What I’ve tried to convey is that the larger system is broken and corrupt and until the control system is revealed along with disclosure of off-planet control mechanisms, it really doesn’t matter who becomes the face puppet for the masses.  The strings are on everyone that take on that role and they’re put there on purpose to fulfil a larger agenda.  I’m sorry that is the reality on earth, and I report the unpopular perspective of current energetic observations.

We, as a collective have to change the system by changing how we think and changing how we treat people in our own small microcosm.  It starts in our own personal life, in our own personal relationships and in our relationship to group consciousness,  like in our community and that is where change needs to happen.  Change will not occur if we are blaming others, hostile, and emotionally triggered or we’re feeling personally insulted and divided from each other.  In order to be effective, we have to see the larger game in play.

The game is Divide and Conquer of humanity.  The goal is to create division amongst us all and that is what the controllers really want.  So, my question is:  If you know what they want, why give it to them?  Why become an agent of anger, hostility or feeling offended by letting them get you emotionally triggered and upset towards committing aggressive or destructive actions?  It is critical to understand that this is the reaction they want from you.  That’s what they’re betting on, they can press a button and the majority of uninformed people will jump in the direction that they have been mostly influenced by, the broadcast of the mainstream media promoting division with an hostile diatribe.  That’s what they want, kneejerk automaton behavior that the masses will follow, in order to stay in the underpinnings of the controller program of Divide and Conquer.  And they’re culling the harvest of those emotional energies in the collective consciousness right now with alien machinery.  Please don’t feed them, as they will only hurt you and others around you.

The circus side show, that had become the USA election and the results, has deeply disturbed many people.  People that have short emotional fuses, and big pain bodies, may be ready to lash out with anger or cast blame.  Many may be feeling offended and upset because deep down they are sick and tired of feeling unheard, marginalized, abused and victimized.  The issue is we have to see who and what is behind that enslavement system really, because it’s not Washington, DC politicians that are really calling the shots, that run the larger system of control.  Please look to the bigger perspective of social engineering, to controlled dehumanization because it leads off-planet,  and it’s not the humans we see in the media or on TV that are the ones in control.

We’re entering a time of great uncertainty and instability.  When people are fearful the system is collapsing, it’s a normal response to want to blame a person, to blame a face, an identity to label them as an enemy, to find someone to blame, as if we can identify the enemy to blame that is going to bring us a sense of normalcy.  We have left normalcy.  We do not need to create even more scapegoats and social pariahs in the box of the 3D mainstream culture, we need more loving kindness and greater acceptance for all kinds of people.  We are now in the surreal reality of bifurcation and this is what it looks like.  We need to find calm and inner peace when travelling in these chaotic waves, for if we do not find our inner sanctum, these collective consciousness forces will carry us into even greater depths of anger or suffering.

When people are confused they lash out with anger or blame, in order to make sense out of something that is incomprehensible and bewildering to their context for reality.  This time is the dismantling of the 3D, the breakdown of the old order, and it has to happen for people to wake up and realize who has been behind the control agenda the whole time.  So, this is the time to feel empathy for the fear that people have because they do not understand the dismantling of social and governmental structures, and that this is needed to reveal the truth of who is given power on this planet.

As spiritual warriors, as galactic light warriors, we must stop consenting to the thoughts of hatred, thoughts of division, thoughts that we are personally offended, because this only hurts and divides us.  We must stop acting out hate and violence in every way we can gain control over our personal impulses.  People tend to hate what they are deeply scared of.  People may hold hatred for their unresolved emotional conflicts and fears, as most people do not like to change or evolve.  Many people hold disdain and hatred for what they do not understand.  This leads us to the necessity of cleaning out personal fear and fear programs which means, clearing out the negative ego.  When we are in fear, we are not dealing with our own personal pain because the anger, the blame and the hatred is what disguises the pain we have.  It’s disguising the pain that we are feeling deep down inside.  We must be brave and courageous at this time, to be willing to see the pain, to face our own pain, and to face others pain.  This is the only way we can get beyond the fears we have and beyond the anger that covers it up.  This hurts us inside and it runs very deep in the collective consciousness of humanity.

Can you feel the pain in the collective inside yourself?  Find empathy for that pain because you are not alone!  Find the common links that bond us to every human being that is in pain on this earth, and they too, are desperately looking for relief and searching for answers.  It is very hard to speak unpleasant and brutal truths while holding unconditional love and compassion for others, and I commit to do the best I can.  We must unify our common human bond and find unconditional love, compassion and empathy for everyone in these situations, and realize our elected leaders,  are a reflection of the consciousness work we all must do.

This is not about spiritual elitism.  It is about doing the right thing in alignment to the ways we can be productive to connect with higher consciousness, as the starting point to find resolution of the many problems that plague our world.  We cannot solve these issues with ego fears and divide and conquer strategy.  These issues can only be addressed with principles of loving kindness, compassion and empathy.  Looking to what’s happening in our world today – we are in a crisis over consciousness.  The primary crisis in our world is not the political framework.  It is not the cultural framework, or the religious framework, that is used to enforce mass spiritual oppression.  The crisis we’re facing is inside of ourselves, and inside all of humanity, and it extends to the entire planet.  This is a crisis of consciousness.  The lack of self-awareness combined with the utter lack of consciousness, results in an inability to directly experience our true essential nature as spiritual beings.  As long as we cannot recognize the true essential divine nature that exists inside of ourselves, we are unable to recognize the same essential nature inside everyone around us and that is inherent in all living things.

May our community find empathy for all of our members, and friends, to extend that compassion to those around us who are suffering and feeling the collective pain.  Let’s hold a silent space for loving/kindness and empathy for all of us here now, extending it to the entire community and then to the entire world.  May loving kindness and peace be with your heart in these unstable and uncertain times.

Practicing Loving Kindness Meditations activate and strengthen areas of the brain and nervous system that are responsible for empathy and increased emotional intelligence.  The practice always begins with developing a loving acceptance of yourself.  If resistance is experienced then it indicates that feelings of unworthiness are present.  The practice of loving kindness is designed to overcome any feelings of self-doubt or negativity.  Once you have developed this loving kindness for yourself, then you are ready to systematically develop loving-kindness towards others.

Visualization – Bring to mind a mental picture that exudes loving kindness and brings warmth to your heart. Visualize yourself or the person the feeling is directed towards, returning the loving feeling to you or just the shared feeling of being joyous.

Through Reflection – Reflect on the highest and most positive qualities of a person you know and the acts of kindness you are aware of. Make an affirmation towards generating more of these positive qualities in yourself, more goodness and strong virtues. Reflect upon making positive statements of kindness directed to yourself, using your own words.

Verbally – When we speak inspiring words or phrases which contain meaning of loving kindness, they are the most effective because the subconscious mind hears your voice. Focus on an internalized mantra or meaningful phrase such as loving-kindness and God-Sovereign-Free.

When the positive feelings arise, switch from the mental focus of the exercise onto the actual emotional feeling, as it is the emotional feeling that is the primary goal.  If you lose the sensation of the loving kindness, the feeling and warmth opening in your heart, return to the exercise, to bring back or strengthen the emotional feeling.  When you have the loving kindness feeling in your heart, you can project that quality of frequency in all directions, north, south, east and west and 360 degrees.  Connecting that emotional feeling of loving kindness into loved ones, spiritual communities, towns and countries around the world.

 

 

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – November 22, 2016