JEAN M. TWENGE, PhD: “Is Donald Trump Actually Insecure Underneath?”

I’m often asked how you can spot a narcissist. Here’s my standard list:

  • Brag or show off
  • Name-dropping
  • Name brands or flashy possessions
  • Look at themselves in the mirror a lot
  • Turn the conversation back to him/herself
  • Insults others
  • Declarations about being the “best” or “great” without details
  • Emphasizes his/her status

I wrote that list two years ago — long before Donald Trump started running for president. Yet it could have been written just for him. As others have pointed out, the Donald is a textbook case of narcissistic personality. He is clearly functioning well and thus can’t be classified as having narcissistic personality disorder, the clinical-level form, which by definition only describes someone whose traits are causing them difficulty. Trump, instead, displays narcissism as a personality trait — the type we focus on in The Narcissism Epidemic.

Here’s the question: Is Trump’s narcissism a cover for insecurity? This is known as the “mask model” — the idea that grandiose narcissism is a show to distract people from the deep psychic pain underneath. A recent piece in Time made this claim, arguing that Trump is trying to cover for a “profound insecurity and lack of self-esteem.”

Here’s the problem: At least for grandiose narcissism like Trump’s, there’s no evidence that the mask model is true. Narcissists have high self-esteem on average, not low, and the most aggressive people are those with both high narcissism and high self-esteem. Children who become narcissistic are not those shamed by their parents, but those told they are special.

Perhaps the best evidence comes from studies measuring self-esteem in a subtle way, such as with an implicit self-esteem measure recording people’s reaction time in pairing words like “I” and “me” with words like “bad” and “good.” People who score high on grandiose narcissism also score high on implicit self-esteem. In other words, deep down inside, narcissists think they are awesome.

This is also just plain common sense: Does Trump really seem like he is insecure underneath? Does he seem to be in a state of psychic pain, or even covering for one? No — he’s having the time of his life. So why does he seem to crave all of the attention and adulation? The Time article argues that Trump is trying to fill a deep “psychic hole.”

I have a more straightforward explanation: He likes all of the attention because he thinks he deserves it. It’s never enough not because of psychic pain, but because he thinks everyone should pay attention to him. Attention is fun and gratifying; it has nothing to do with insecurity.

Why the Mask Model of Narcissism Is Dangerous

I will go further: I think it’s dangerous to believe that narcissists are insecure underneath. Not only is it not supported by empirical evidence, but it promotes the idea that the way to deal with narcissists is to boost their self-esteem and heal their “wounds” through more love and affection. This is like suggesting that the way to cure obesity is by giving everyone more doughnuts. The narcissistic person who ruins relationships through his self-centeredness does not need more love or attention — he needs to get kicked to the curb. The young adult who takes advantage of everyone around her does not need her self-esteem boosted — she needs to learn responsibility.

Narcissism is known as the “disease that hurts other people,” and the cure for it is real life — losing a relationship because of selfishness, losing a job because you’ve alienated people. Yes, we should try to understand narcissists and realize that their behavior is explained by this personality trait. But that does not mean we should believe that they are actually insecure — that myth undermines our understanding of narcissism because it presumes that it’s only skin-deep.

Many, many people have been hurt in relationships with narcissists by believing that they can change the person with more love. If only that were true — but sadly, most of the time, it’s not. We can have empathy for people with narcissistic traits, but that does not mean we have to believe they are suffering underneath. Most of the time, they are making other people suffer. They won’t suffer themselves until bad things start happening to them, often as a consequence of their narcissism. It is sad, but it is not due to insecurity.

Trump is not insecure. We should not be looking for the source of his “psychic pain” or expect that someday he will break down and show his true, doubting self. He really does think that he’s that great, and that his ideas are that great. If we believe otherwise — about him or anyone else with these traits — we risk underestimating the true power of the narcissist.

 

~via PsychologyToday.com

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LISA RENEE: “Krystal Waters”

“The Krystal Waters are the eternal living waters sprung forth in the first eternal creation, and to be called upon, to soothe and heal the Soul and Crystal Heart and Diamond Sun body. The beloved Aurora flows are very clearly helping to build the earth’s dark matter body layers, with flickering and glittering opalescent rainbow pearl energies being observed as they are weaving through the layers, in a beautiful tapestry of flowing currents.”

~Lisa Renee

 

The Krystal Waters are the eternal living waters sprung forth in the first eternal creation, and are to be called upon to soothe and heal the soul and crystal heart and Diamond Sun Body. Additionally through these waters, the spiritualized blood of Christos flows from the Fountain of Eternal Life and Youth. Krystal waters is to support the Aurora project to elemental re-encryption of bodies, blood chemistry, and to heal the damage of blood toxicity and miasma recorded as reversals in the bloodlines. Seeing your bloodstream merge with the Krystal Waters and carry its life force throughout your venous system, is to protect, heal and spiritualize Christ blood and its living light blood chemistry. Spiritualizing your blood is to heal the tainted blood and Spleen of its inherited genetic karmic records and wounds (Resonant Tone).

Krystal Water, Amrita or Spiritual Oil

Krystal Waters also known in the eastern philosophy as Amrita is a fluid that can flow from the Pineal Gland and Pituitary Gland correct relationship in the brain and move down the throat in deep states of activated kundalani or meditation. In Tibetan Buddhism, this is the source of the ‘White Drop’ that descends to the heart center, where it mixes with the ascending ‘Red Drop’ attain an enlightened body and mind. All this activity is seen as a cosmic sex act in the head. The phallic-shaped pineal gland releases a pure white liquid light that impregnates the nearby bi-lobed pituitary gland, which then releases hormones in the blood that inaugurate a Second (Spiritual) Puberty in the body. [1]

Krystal Palace

The Krystal Waters or brain Amrita is the Universal Medicine. It is the Anointed One’s Spiritual Oil or Elixir of Equilibrium with which to master love and build the solar body. The brain amrita produced in the Krystal Palace of the pineal-pituitary area travels with lymph and blood and down into the right side of the heart creating perfect entrainment between head and heart brains, and the constant deep peace and bliss of spiritual embodiment. The right side is more palpable with the fingers as electrical energy or bliss sensation, because the right side of the heart has the most neurological tissue. [2]

Rasha and Eukachristic Body

The process of building the Rasha Body also spiritualizes the blood, through what is called the Krystal Waters, through which the Krystal blood prepares to animate the creation of the Eukachristic Body.

The Krystal Waters are the eternal living waters sprung forth in the first eternal creation, and are to be called upon to soothe and heal the soul and crystal heart and Diamond Sun Body. [3]

The Dark Matter Template is the Blueprint on which the eternal source particle atoms and molecules are built, in order to generate the layers of eternal light. This is actually a type of matter body that is fully merged with eternal spirit substance. The dark matter body undergoes a process that appears like full resurrection into light matter, at which point the elemental matter or atomic matter of the body has been resurrected into an eternal light substance body. The state of resurrection that exists as the dark matter body alchemically transforms itself through the intense heat of spiritual fire and bursts into pure light matter, is what defines the building of the eternal Eukachristic spiritual body.

The beloved Aurora flows are very clearly helping to build the earth’s dark matter body layers, with flickering and glittering opalescent rainbow pearl energies being observed as they are weaving through the layers, in a beautiful tapestry of flowing currents. As the planetary body is able to hold these activated dark matter bodies, it is the same for each of us on the earth to have the direct potential to interact with these same Krystal forces. This is a major development for the Guardian Ascension support team that is helping us to build the human dark matter body, that exists as the extension of our lightbody. The dark matter template holds a cell that has the instruction set for the new elemental body, the elemental body that is specific to the matter substance that is connected to the harmonic universe we are evolving towards. [4]

Also:

As an Amplifier (Talisman) used in a HGS Session – Fountain of Eternal Liquid Light, Blood of the Christos

 

References:

  1. Circulation of Light
  2. Amrita
  3. Geomagnetism
  4. Eukachristic Body

See Also:

Spleen

Pituitary Gland

Pineal Gland

 

~via AscensionGlossary.com

LISA RENEE: “Krystal Palace”

“It’s said that when the Krystal Palace is activated it becomes illuminated like a thousand suns.”

 

The center of the brain which is activated through later stages of spiritual Kundalini awakening is the anointing of Krystal Waters, which is located between the pineal and the pituitary and is called the Krystal Palace. The Krystal Palace is the alchemical brain wedded chamber which activates Krystal Waters or anoints the Crown and brain with amrita oil. The amrita oil is activated through the sacred marriage between the Mother principle of the Pituitary Gland and the Father principle of the Pineal Gland. It is this oil that lights the Consciousness Lamp inside the brain. It’s between the old brain at the back and the new brain at the front of the head, between the left and right hemispheres, sitting above the two Wings of the mysterious ventricles. It rests between the two large cerebrums at the anterior end of the cerebellum. The cerebellum is one of the oldest features of the brain, involved in coordinating muscular activity in the body. It’s said that when the Krystal Palace is activated it becomes illuminated like a thousand suns.

During spiritual initiation of the Krystal Palace hormones including oxytocin and vasopressin are released from the Pituitary Gland into the blood stream to facilitate the metamorphic birth and spiritualize the blood with Krystal Waters. The fact that the nerves and blood vessels that feed the eyes and middle ear pass through the cavernous sinus either side of the sphenoid sinus leads us to speculate on the mechanisms behind both Celestial Music that is heard when the Krystal Palace is lit up, and changes in the eyes such as light emerging from them, changes of Consciousness seen in the eyes and faculty of transcendental vision itself. When the Krystal Palace is lit transcendental vision occurs.

Transcendental vision probably occurs due to increased kundalini flow raising dopamine and phenylethylamine and other brain neurotransmitters. All kind of changes happen in the retinas, optic nerve, Optic Chiasm and occipital lobes, including increased ATP production acting as a neurotransmitter and histamine increasing blood flow in the brain, and increase in nitric oxide metabolism. The end result being that one has an increase in visual acuity, inner visions, inner lights, seeing auras and vivid dreams. [1]

Pineal Gland

The main function of the Pineal Gland is its role in mediating circadian rhythms of the body through the production of the hormone melatonin, from its precursor amino acid tryptophan. The Pineal Gland is most active in early morning hours, hence meditation is often undergone at this time. The pineal gland is the only singular organ in the brain and is located near the upper end of the spinal cord, which ends or terminates in the oldest anatomical region in the brain. The Pineal Gland when it is activated in the Crown begins Kundalini awakening and connects the Silver Cord.

Pituitary Gland

The Pituitary Gland is located inside a round bony cavity that is separated from the sphenoid sinus by a thin bone that forms the roof of the sphenoid sinus. The sphenoid sinus is the most posterior sinus. The drainage from the sphenoid is almost directly down the throat from an ostium (hole) that opens into the posterosuperior part of the nasal cavity. The sphenoid sinus is adjacent to the main nerve that is responsible for vision, the optic nerve. The main artery that goes to the brain, the carotid artery, travels along the wall of this sinus.

Optic Chiasm

The Optic Chiasm is located at the bottom of the brain immediately below the hypothalamus. One of the most important functions of the hypothalamus is to link the nervous system to the endocrine system via the Pituitary Gland. The Optic Chiasm allows the images from either side of the field from both eyes to be transmitted to the appropriate side of the brain, combining the sides together. This allows for parts of both eyes that attend to the right visual field to be processed in the left visual system in the brain, and vice versa. This is linked to skin sensation. [2]

Krystal Water, Amrita or Spiritual Oil

Krystal Waters also known in the eastern philosophy as Amrita is a fluid that can flow from the Pineal Gland and Pituitary Gland correct relationship in the brain and move down the throat in deep states of activated kundalini or meditation. In Tibetan Buddhism, this is the source of the ‘White Drop’ that descends to the heart center, where it mixes with the ascending ‘Red Drop’ to attain an enlightened body and mind. All this activity is seen as a cosmic sex act in the head. The phallic-shaped pineal gland releases a pure white liquid light that impregnates the nearby bi-lobed pituitary gland, which then releases hormones in the blood that inaugurate a Second (Spiritual) Puberty in the body. [3]

Krystal Palace

The Krystal Waters or brain Amrita Oil is the Universal Healing Elixir of the Spirits of Christ. It is the Christos Anointed One’s Spiritual Oil or the Elixir of Equilibrium with which to master love, and to synthesize all polarities to build the solar body or Diamond Sun body. The brain amrita produced in the Krystal Palace between the pineal-pituitary area travels with lymph and blood and down into the right side of the heart creating perfect entrainment between head and heart brains, the constant deep peace and bliss of spiritual embodiment. This is the process of spiritualizing the blood chemistry through the hormones secreted by the unified combination of the Pineal Gland and Pituitary Gland. The right side is more palpable with the fingers as electrical energy or bliss sensation, because the right side of the heart has the most neurological tissue. [4]

Magnum Opus

The Krystal Waters or amrita is connected with the alchemist’s Philosopher’s stone in the Magnum Opus of spiritual Ascension to birth the Cosmic Christos Consciousness. Krystal Waters and amrita oil are produced when the Negative Ego is offline and has undergone Ego Death, and continues to dissolve the myopia of the Ego/Personality thoughts by radically restructuring the brain and body with the liquid hydroplamic spiritual light of the Avatar Christos. It is none other than amrita oil produced by the glands in the Krystal Palace of the brain (circumventricular organs) that is the alchemical process which turns solid matter into a liquid, and back into the first emanation of raw material or prima material. This is the Magnum Opus in spiritual alchemy to dissolve the current limited sense of oneself and completely rebirth and re-form the Expanding Consciousness into knowing the eternal nature of the self.

 

References:

Crystal Palace

Optic Chiasm

Circulation of Light

Amrita

See Also:

Pineal Gland

Sphenoid Bone

 

~via AscensionGlossary.com

NIKKI SAPP: “How To Be Confident While Remaining Humble”

“There’s a thin line between confidence and arrogance… it’s called humility. Confidence smiles, arrogance smirks.”

~Unknown

 

Somewhere along the line what we recognized as confidence may have been misconstrued a little. We started associating traits like aggressive, loud, opinionated and arrogant with being a confident person. You’ve probably seen the type, or maybe you are the type.

They know FOR SURE that what they believe is the unequivocal truth. Therefore they need to tell everyone about it… constantly.

When they aren’t able to convince someone to believe exactly as they believe they may be caught calling others, “asleep” or a “sheep” or any other plethora of derogatory names that I probably can’t mention here. We also may have misconstrued what it means to be humble a little bit too. Being Humble is associated with weak, shy, meek, and someone who cowers to others.

Someone who is so unsure of themselves or their beliefs that they keep them to themselves and are too insecure to tell everyone they meet their opinion on everything. Is there a way to be both? Can a confident person also be a humble person? In order to answer that question we must dissect what it means to be truly confident, and how does “artificial confidence” come about.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself the whole world accepts him or her”

~Lao Tzu

 

There are many reasons a person may develop artificial/arrogant confidence. One may be cognitive dissonance, which means they may be holding on to a belief so tightly that when evidence is presented that contradicts this belief they may be completely unwilling to look at the new evidence. They may have become so attached to this belief that it has become a part of their sense of self.

Since they are completely attached to who they think they are it may be a painful experience for them to open their mind up and see things from a different perspective. The actual energy behind holding on to a belief so tightly that you are unwilling to let it go is fear.

The human ego is always afraid to be found out, so to speak, therefore, any threat of someone or something coming along and debunking one of its belief attachments may bring about a negative emotional reaction such as anger. Anytime anger is involved we can be assured that fear is the culprit behind it.

Genuine confidence doesn’t need to get angry because there is no part that fears being wrong or that others aren’t believing them. Another reason a person may develop artificial confidence is because they are insecure.

An insecure person may not truly believe in their theory or themselves so they feel if they can convince others that they are absolutely the right one they can at the same time convince themselves.

This is often done in an aggressive manner, because they are attached to the outcome of people believing them. Again, the fear behind not achieving the outcome they desire is causing them to act in a rude or aggressive manner. Genuine confidence can remain quiet, kind and humble because there is no underlying fear that needs other people to believe exactly what they are saying.

Genuine confidence is humble. It kind of realizes that most people are operating from their own level of understanding and trying to convince them that they are “stupid” or “wrong” usually won’t work anyway. The humble part of them realizes that LIVING and BEING their truth is always more effective than incessant talking or convincing ever will be.

Also, humble confidence isn’t attached to being right. In fact, it happily welcomes new ideas and beliefs because it knows that only when it opens itself up to seeing things from all perspectives is it able to perhaps learn something new.

“The time which people spend in convincing others, even half of this time if they spend on themselves, they can achieve a lot in life.”

~Arvind Katoch

 

In order to maintain humble confidence about our beliefs we must do two things. One is question ourselves….constantly. You may ask yourself, “Do I know absolutely without a doubt that this belief is true?” Meaning, “Did I see it with my own eyes”- normally the answer to this will be no.

So not to say that you won’t have some beliefs about things that involve situations that you weren’t physically there, but it just means that you always maintain a healthy sense of doubt about your beliefs.

This doesn’t mean that you’re unsure of yourself, it means you are wise, because it means you are open to hearing new evidence. Or you can ask yourself, “Is it possible that I am so attached to this belief that it has become a part of who I think I am?” Or even, “Does it matter if the person I am telling about my belief believes me or not? In this present moment does the fact that they are convinced or not convinced change anything in this exact moment in time?”

“Confidence is silent.

Insecurity is loud.”

~Unknown

 

You may find that most of the time, the answer to that is “no.” The other thing a person can do in order to remain humbly confident in their beliefs is to realize that every person they come in contact with can only understand things from their own level of understanding. Which means they are only operating from their own personal programming which may or may not be completely different than yours.

So yes, there may be times when you tell someone something and you enlighten them to something that they hadn’t thought of before but there will also be times where any effort to convince will fall on deaf ears.

When you are unattached to the outcome, you will be fine with either without getting frustrated or angered. Once we realize that our “truth” may not be someone else’s “truth” we can completely relax into interpersonal relationships and take every interaction with a human being as a potential learning experience, which will allow us to always be learning and growing as a person.

 

~via FractalEnlightenment.com

THE MINDS JOURNAL: “10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness”

One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.

Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.

Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.

10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness

 

1. You are not a priority.

Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.

2. They’re always blaming you for their mistakes.

The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.

3. They have serious double principles and standards.

These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.

4. They don’t like your loved ones.

Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.

5. They disrespect your boundaries.

Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.

6. They always make you feel sad.

They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.

7. They tend to lie to you a lot.

So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.

8. They won’t give you a space for yourself.

Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.

9. They attempt to control you.

These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.

10. They don’t care about your necessities.

These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.

 

~via TheMindsJournal.com