MATEO SOL: “11 Traps That Sabotage Spiritual Growth”

“No matter what the practice or teaching, ego loves to wait in ambush to appropriate spirituality for its own survival and gain.”

~Chögyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

 

Spiritual growth is an experience we all go through once we have experienced the spiritual awakening process. As we begin to awaken to the truth of who we are, we develop a connection to our authentic essence, higher nature or Soul.

As we progressively advance on our paths, our spiritual essence begins to blossom like a luminous flower deep in our heart. And the more we clear away the dead, gnarled and overgrown beliefs, perspectives, and emotional baggage within us, the more clearly we feel our divine essence. When we maintain our inner garden, we feel more and more love, wisdom, peace, and wholeness as our True Nature is revealed slowly to us.

Yet, like any garden, our metaphorical inner landscapes can be consumed by weeds, plagues, and forms of pollution that strangle anything beautiful we have been nurturing. Sometimes, we even sabotage the growth occurring within us ourselves, without knowing it.

What is Spiritual Growth?

 

“This isn’t a journey about becoming something.  This is about unbecoming who we are not.”

~Adyashanti, The End of Your World

 

Spiritual growth is the process of awakening to your true nature, purpose, and potential. When you undergo spiritual growth you experience an expansion in awareness and insight, also known as higher consciousness. All spiritual growth has one objective: to help you embody your Soul, Higher Self or Atman. Once you are able to unite with your Soul, you will experience what is understood as enlightenment, “heaven,” Oneness or moksha.

The problem with the spiritual journey is that it is often laden with traps of many kinds. These traps are not physical, but they are instead mental and are often referred to as anti-awakening forces.

As we process life primarily through the mind, we also tend to approach spirituality with the mind. The issue with this is that spirituality cannot be contained by the limitations of thought. Once spirituality is captured within a thought, it ceases to maintain its true essence and instead becomes a constricting belief or dogma. In other words, spirituality loses its alive, ever-flowing essence once it is compartmentalized within the mind.

Think about it this way: have you ever felt immense awe and wonder in the presence of something beautiful and enchanting like a sunrise? The moment you stop immersing yourself in the feeling of the sunrise, and start taking a photo of it or describing it in a text message, is the moment you are no longer truly present with the sunrise. Instead, you are filtering it through your thoughts or through a lens of some kind. The same can be said with spirituality.

The more we use the mind to approach our Soul, the further our Soul feels. But the moment we drop our thoughts and allow ourselves to purely feel our Soul, suddenly we feel at home once again. Think of it like this: when you chase the sun on the horizon thinking you will reach it, you never will, because it is an illusion. But when you stop and feel the sun’s presence shining on your skin already, you will no longer chase anything.

It is difficult for us, as mind-oriented beings, to become conscious of our thoughts, as we have been conditioned to identify with them since a young age. But once we can observe our thoughts and how they tend to sabotage our happiness, we will experience true spiritual growth.

11 Traps that Sabotage Spiritual Growth

Below I want to share with you eleven of the most common traps that we fall into on the spiritual path. I have personally experienced these pitfalls many times, and they have resulted in a lot of pain and struggle. See how many of these traps you can identify with:

1. The trap of spiritual bypassing

Spiritual bypassing is the practice of using spirituality to avoid, suppress or escape from certain emotions or situations in life. Common types of spiritual bypassing include:

  • numbing one’s emotions through “spiritualized” repression and avoidance
  • unhealthy obsession and attachment to the positive (e.g. positive thinking) and adopting a passive-aggressive “nice” mask
  • debilitating judgment about one’s negativity or shadow self
  • anger-phobia
  • weak personal boundaries
  • blind or excessively tolerant compassion (to the detriment of oneself and the other)
  • forcefully trying to “kill” the ego and condemning it as “bad/evil”
  • exaggerated detachment
  • getting stuck in theoretical spirituality and dogmatic beliefs about “truth”
  • denial of self-responsibility by placing it on another higher being (e.g. spirit guide, angel)
  • delusions of having arrived at a higher level of being
  • using spiritual practices to escape unpleasant emotions; for example,
  • using meditation to dissociate from emotions, rather than transmute them

2. The trap of superiority

This manifests as the tendency to “look down” upon others who are not as “consciously advanced” or “awakened.” The trap of superiority can be seen as a subtle feeling of “being better” than others who aren’t “spiritual.” In more extreme cases, this trap can appear as the tendency to lash out at people who are still “asleep,” “blind” or “sheep” of society. This kind of reactive behavior can often be seen in people who have just “woken up” to the state of the world, yet have undergone minimal spiritual growth. We need to remember that everyone is doing the best they can at their level of consciousness. When the time comes, they will awaken too.

3. The trap of forcefully trying to wake others up

Once we have awoken out of the “matrix” it is common for us to desperately want our loved ones and fellow peers to awaken. We can see how much pain and delusion other people are in, and that riles up in us the intense desire to “show them the truth.” However, often our attempt to forcefully awaken people misfires quickly. Even though we have good intentions, our desire to “save” others causes them to backlash in ways that infuriate both them and us. The less responsive they are to our pushy attempts to “wake them up,” the more frustrated and alienated we become. Eventually, trying to force others to wake up ends up harming both ourselves and others. Not only that, but this trap generates a lot of anger and misunderstanding, which results in further ego ensnarement, sabotaging our spiritual growth. Let people wake up when they are ready.

4. The trap of wanting to help others

This trap is closely entwined with the previous trap except it is more geared towards giving others advice. There is nothing wrong with wanting to help others, as long as you respect their boundaries. But sometimes developing an expanded spiritual perspective gives the ego an opportunity to feel more “knowledgeable” than others still trapped in illusion. When unsolicited advice is given to others, the results can be disastrous (think anger, upset, offense etc.).

Wanting to help others can also be used as a way of escaping our need to help ourselves. Under the guise of being “spiritual” and compassionate, helping others can be just another form of spiritual bypassing.

5. The trap of wanting to revolutionize the world

Once we wake up to the lies and corruption present in our current societal structure, many of us want to desperately change society. We fall into the trap of thinking that freedom, honesty, and justice can be created by changing the external system. As a result, we buy into the “us versus them” and “divide and conquer” mentality that is a product of the ego’s tunnel vision. We don’t realize that we’re actually fuelling the corrupt system which depends on anger and chaos to thrive and survive. Instead of understanding that all true change comes from an internal revolution, we get caught up in the pursuit of external revolution which is fragile and transient.

6. The trap of meaninglessness

Once we experience divine and transcendent states of being in which we become One with all, we can fall into the trap of spiritual nihilism after the experience passes. In other words, once we realize, from the perspective of the Universe, that nothing we do ultimately matters because all is passing, we can fall into a depressive mindset. Using truths such as “All is an illusion,” the person who falls for this trap tends to filter life through the mind. By mentally clinging to these truths, they become beliefs that the ego uses as an excuse to paradoxically feel separate from existence.

7. The trap of avoiding everyday responsibilities

Some people get so infatuated with the spiritual path that they avoid dealing with ordinary, everyday affairs. This form of escapism can lead to leeching off others, not paying bills, evading taxes, obsessing with “living off the grid,” etc. When avoiding everyday responsibilities is worn as a badge of being consciously elevated or “more spiritual” this too is a form of egotism in disguise. Avoiding ordinary responsibilities which are not perceived as being “spiritual enough” can also be a form of distraction that the ego uses to limit spiritual growth. The more concerned and obsessed you are with living an outwardly “spiritual” looking life, the more distanced from your inner work you become. Sometimes we need to feed the sharks to keep the calm and live balanced lives.

Remember the old Zen saying: “Before Enlightenment: chop wood, carry water; after Enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.” We need to be humble and recognize that ordinary daily life is the perfect place to spiritually grow and mature.

8. The trap of self-victimization

Soon after we experience a spiritual awakening and wake up to the insanity of the world, it is common for us to get stuck in self-victimization. We may start to perceive the world as a “prison” and other people as the “captives” or even “capturers.” The shock of awakening may send us spiraling into anxiety and paranoia. Inevitably, we may start feeling like victims resulting in us blaming other people and the higher powers for how we feel. The spiritual trap of self-victimization can be seen a lot on social media which often tends to become a pity party for spiritual fledglings. At the end of the day, we need to see that it is actually our thoughts that cause us to suffer, not other people or situations. Once we can take self-responsibility for our perspectives and beliefs, we can become empowered once again.

9. The trap of the Savior Complex

This trap is related to the previously mentioned trap of wanting to help others. The Savior Complex is adopted by people who feel a sense of superiority to the rest of humanity. Their sense of being “different” and more “spiritually elevated” can make them feel as though they are destined to fix the world. The Savior Complex can most often be seen within the “lightworker/Starseed/healer” circles who tend to put themselves up on pedestals, believing it is their cosmic duty to “save the planet.” This perception aligns with the belief that there is something “wrong” with reality and that other people are “broken” and need to be fixed (which is an ego perspective). This perception also reinforces the ego’s sense of “specialness” and self-importance.

The Savior Complex can go one step further and evolve into a Martyr Complex. Martyrs believe they must “bear the burdens” of others. Obviously, this is an extremely unhealthy way of living which is based on Christian conditioning (think of the story of Jesus). By “carrying” other people’s pain, Martyrs bypass taking responsibility for their own happiness and enable other people’s immature behavior. Read more about the Martyr Complex.

10. The trap of attachment

After experiencing profound and expansive mystical experiences which often come after significant spiritual growth, it is common for us to attach to the experience. It can be painful to come down from these experiences and return back to usual, unenlightened reality. We can also attach to our “stories” and beliefs about spirituality. Because the mind tries to make sense of this transcendent experience, it will often latch onto various ideas as a form of control. But the more we attach to our beliefs, stories, desires, and mental interpretations, the more we suffer. We forget that everything passes, even transcendent experiences. Enlightenment isn’t a destination, it is a complete surrender; a fundamental shift in the way we approach life.

Attachment is perhaps the most common trap that sabotages our spiritual growth. On one hand, attachment to ideas helps us to grow, but ultimately, those ideas that we are unwilling to let go of end up stagnating our growth. When ideas become protection blankets rather than catalysts for our growth, there is a big problem. We need to realize that freedom cannot be experienced through the mind. Freedom is felt when we can be liberated from attachment to our thoughts.

11. The trap of relying on external answers

As we progress through our spiritual paths it is normal, and beneficial, for us to seek out external support. Reading books, attending workshops and seminars, going to retreats, practicing holistic techniques, and getting a personal guru all help us experience spiritual growth. However, after a while, it is common for us to become too dependent on external answers for our freedom and happiness. This pitfall can be seen in many spiritual seeker’s obsession and glorification of their gurus (in other words, projecting and disowning their divinity onto another).

Eventually, as we become accustomed to constantly searching outside of ourselves for answers, we forget the presence of our own Souls. We forget that our ultimate source of guidance and wisdom comes from within us, and instead, we keep chasing things outside of ourselves that we believe will “enlighten” us.

We need to stop, pause, and reflect on our spiritual journeys. Are we seeking out first-hand experience or second-hand experience given to us by others? Don’t forget to look within for your answers as well because it is by connecting with your Soul that you will ultimately experience freedom.

Final Thoughts

In order to see through and extricate ourselves from these traps, we need to be radically honest with ourselves. We need to be willing to see that we have indeed gone astray and have fed into the ego. We will also immensely benefit from exploring our Shadow Selves and exploring our mistaken beliefs.

Don’t worry if you have fallen into any of these traps. We all become ensnared by the ego. It can be particularly difficult for us to see clearly when the ego “spiritualizes” certain beliefs and ideas. The more open, humble, and honest you are, the more you will be able to see through these tricks and liberate yourself.

Finally, don’t be afraid of the dark. Don’t be afraid of being wrong. Everything, no matter how painful, is a learning opportunity. At the end of the day, your Soul is everything you have been searching for.

If you have any extra thoughts or insights about traps that sabotage spiritual growth, please share below. I would also love to hear your own journey.

 

~via WakeUp-World.com

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ARNO PIENAAR: “Identify Your Agent Smith In The Matrix”

Ascension Avatar note: While I don’t resonate with this 100%… perhaps it will ‘hit the target’ for many readers. 🎯

 

The time has come to identify the force that works through the unconsciousness infiltrating the consciousness of everyone involved. Agent Smith is everywhere!

People on Earth hold the greatest power; it is this power that has been manipulated by an unseen force that survives through the unconsciousness.

Understanding Agent Smith

Agent Smith is a character from the Matrix trilogy that always tries to stop the efforts of the ones fighting with the illusion of the false veil, which was cloaked to blind everyone from the truth.

The title of this article might sound like a cliché but it is the greatest example I have for getting the message across. Agent Smith can also manifest spontaneously, anywhere and out of anyone!

I am not saying that there are people manifesting out of every corner trying to kill you; what I am saying is that within every new person you meet there may be a hidden hand at play serving to press your buttons.

You must remember that most people at the moment still fall in the predominantly unconscious criteria, meaning that they are under dominion of many divided beings (thought-forms) that live through them.

These entities are light-based, or thought-based, meaning that they serve the Luciferian lightbringer agenda which gave birth to their illusory power from within the ultimate ignorance, arising from mankind’s trance state.

Do you think these entities that possess most of humanity care for consciousness? In the face of consciousness they fight, and do everything in their books of tricks to convince and deceive their host in the opposite direction of consciousness.

Remember that within consciousness there is no thought, which spells death to a thought-based entity!

The host, on the other hand, under the spell and vindication that he/she is the thinking entity/thought-form, does what he/she is told to, just like a minion. There is no perception of the division in the ignorant state.

What these entities that survive on the thoughts of others are going to do is try and do everything in their deceitful power to spread their virus — i.e. to get others to start thinking, and if they can get you to think negatively, then that is even better.

You see, thinking is the matrix-conjurer that serves to create matter from light, and thinking only serves the side that wants more thinking — the side that needs to uphold the third dimensional illusion that keeps its very existence alive through our imagination.

Using multiple reflections as virus scans

Random unconscious people, and especially those that are termed “loved ones,” do and say things to conscious individuals that are targeted at the most sensitive of areas, as if there is an intelligence at play that knows exactly where any weak sensitive spots are still open for attack, causing a reaction and outpouring of energy.

I have even encountered individuals I do not know at all, that would say something in particular related to myself which, in turn, would resonate with a thought-form within me that I was trying to defeat.

This only caused it to become awake and rampant which disturbed me and caused me to become unconscious in a battle, which is exactly where we are wanted by these entities.

On the bright side, a battle is good! It means that you have identified the virus and that you are working at taking back your power as the rightful ruler of your crown.

Other individuals may serve us greatly when we are unaware of what lurks within. They may help us as mirrors, but only to a certain extent.

I will not advice seeking a perfect reflection of yourself in a room full of scums, repeatedly. You will naturally, purposely, start giving them a clear picture of themselves so that they may see what they truly are.

Darkness does not understand light, and vice versa.

The major stream of thought

The Luciferian mindset spreads like a virus everywhere and is indeed globally an epidemic already, such as portrayed through the zombie movies we are seeing so much that are just subliminally showing us the plague of that we are really facing.

The reality is that if you are predominantly run by thoughts concerning all sorts of mundane pettiness, then you are a zombie in the apocalypse.

Everyone is tapped into this major stream. When you go into a big shopping mall with thousands of people inside, all with the same idea, of buying things, how long does it take until you start thinking that you want to buy something? This is the current that flows with the majority.

I do not care who you say you are, but you will start picking up on the direction the stream is flowing in, and swimming against the current is exhausting indeed. This is why I try to keep out of crowded places if I can.

The same counts for anyone doing anything outside of the norm.

At first it is exhausting, as you are not going in the same direction as the major current of energy. But once you get a hang of it, everything you find on this path is beautiful and speechlessly unique. You become the truth within the majority, although in a minority. So long as you can ride the wave.

Embracing your diametric opposition

There is no such thing as a light shining bright and illuminating everything that is dark, and in doing so, making everything conscious.

This is what I call new age spiritualism, which serves the agenda for consciousness just as bad as science and religion.

You must realize that darkness and light are only negations of each other, meaning that one only exists within the total absence of the other, or denies the existence of the other completely, yet they exist due to the existence of each other — duality.

From this viewpoint, one can come to understand that light does not understand the dark and vice versa. This is the ultimate division caused by duality!

For example, a good person simply cannot understand how a bad person can rape someone and then torture that someone to death. The bad person also, has no idea of what good is…

These two opposing poles generate energy that energize a matrix that thrives on the opposite poles of duality. Any thoughts that resists against a diametric opposition serve to build upon the matrix construct that corners and limits your infinity.

The opposition that you have within your consciousness is something that deviously controls you and limits your experience to only one illusory pole: that which you falsely believe is good for you, and freezes your experience in stagnancy.

As far as I know, the only way to liberate yourself from a reality that is polarized against something, is to embrace the experience of what you were against in a previous existence. This serves to eliminate the resistance against an illusory opposition.

A previous existence is not lifetimes ago; it can be only one year ago!

Love is blind

Once a person starts gaining consciousness of what is truly going on, then something peculiar in the reality will start occurring. People and situations will suddenly start to manifest like crabs in a bucket, grabbing at your ankles as you are trying to exit the matrix.

I call these people the “Agent Smiths.” They manifest through anyone, even those you love. Please detach yourself emotionally to what I am about to expose you to.

Your closest loved ones may simply be pawns for the Luciferian mindset that uses persons close to you to chain and lock you into a cage (matrix), where you fit into the picture of other realities instead of the one that you so direly wish to manifest.

People project their personal realities everywhere they go and you are just a small part of their entire realities. Everyone is expected to fulfill a specific role within their reality, corresponding to the expectation of the program.

The vibe that you can sense from those you do not know is just the mass conjured up into a thought-form that they are projecting into a reality. So-called empaths pick this up and “feel” how it is to be someone else.

If you have accepted a role that you play in the lightshow of a loved one, then you make yourself subject to the projections emanating from them into your very own reality.

Subservience can be very devious and goes much deeper than you may have ever thought.

We often try find the origins of our troubles and fears within ourselves. Realize now that a problem in the psyche may be fueled from a connecting thread from one reality into another.

Have you ever heard that close relatives or lovers can telepathically sense if something bad is happening in the reality of the other? This phenomenon occurs due to shared intertwined realities and is much more common than only between blood relatives and lovers.

A man who is insecure and fears that his girlfriend will cheat on him, projects all this fear into the reality of his partner whom, in turn, also becomes insecure from all the psychic dirt, making the nightmare manifest.

“What I have feared has come upon me!”

A parent who fears her son is not fit for the adult world and is attached to the child/parent relationship, will continuously bombard and torment the child’s reality with all sorts of psychic mess.

The child will experience a major fear of failure, which shall come to fruition to materialize the thoughts that manifest the reality of the mother and son together.

Unplugging all the projections

The Agent Smiths do not work in direct ways, rather sinisterly they operate through the unseen world, or spiritual worlds as they call it.

Always remember that people unconsciously project their shadow selves onto others, i.e. aspects of themselves they are unwilling to forgive out of guilt.

So they impose these swords onto others rather than facing them themselves. They unconsciously gather people in their lives so that the poison within them may be trans-shared, using others as scapegoats.

To remove yourself from a negative projection in a relationship, is to remove yourself from the role you are attached to.

Playing a part in any kind of relationship, especially out of guilt, keeps you on the receiving end of projections that distort the clear potential of your own reality.

You should choose your friends and lovers carefully.

If the attachment is too great, a physical removal may be the catalyst that would enable you to break free from the chains that hold you prisoner into the worlds of those that do not serve your limitless potential.

There is no need to start warring with your loved ones. The mere intention of changing the relational dynamic will put in motion a resetting of the fiber optics, creating new unfamiliar pathways for light or thought to go through.

First, simply target the source of the negative projection and see the influence and distortion it is causing. Then, you can turn it in on itself and back to its rightful owner, taking no responsibility for what is not yours.

Before you can step into a new world, you will first need to erase this reality, including yourself and everyone else in it. Only then you can come back and truly help, from a space that is not of this world.

 

~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com

ZOE DAVENPORT: “Are You Loving Your Shadow Self?”

Shadow Self

 

Why looking at our shadow is integral to our spiritual awakening.

All shadow is is the lack of light and many spiritual practices shy away from our opposites – our shadow selves; this feeds the dark. This manifests into form to mirror back.  Now is the time to embrace all our parts with an open heart and a willingness to look deep within, to understand, to embrace and to let go.

This takes courage for when we truly step into our shadow it is about accepting this is also a part of us and as the yin and yang of life there is no light without dark for we would never have the contrast to relate.

It is ok to face that which we have hidden, for in facing our shadow we accept its presence, and in acceptance we are loving all parts of who we are.  The process is not to dwell on our shadow past for self-love will forgive and let this energy go.  However it is making recognition that the shadow energy is there within us, when we shine light on our shadow it is lit up, it is recognized and the need to be in the energy of shadow is released for we have accepted.

When we accept shadow we take responsibility for our lives, we are no longer in denial of this part of us.  We recognize that everything in our external world is a direct mirror of what is being shown to us from within.

Our souls wanted the most diverse learning experiences for our physical lives, but over time our manifestations had tipped over into the negatives, our energy became too yang, too masculine, too overpowering and we were left for years in the dark as to our true essence which is light.  We fought for life times in shadow, coming from the energy of reaction and not one of balance. We were taught to be strong, to always be pushing forward and to take what is ours for there is shortage.

It is then in this completion and surrender of ourselves, that we may collectively evolve as a species and as a planet, for we will now embrace and nurture ourselves in complete love which was all shadow ever needed.

When we are back in balance with self, each other and the planet – the sacred union of energies is restored once more.  Our lives become free from ALL ties to the past, for we understand it was our energy form that wanted to experience the shadow in order to fully integrate the light.  When we become conscious of our existence we expand back into all our awareness and understanding for life.  We understand we are here to learn unconditional love in physical form and to enjoy the experience of being human. The more we heal, learn and let go the more we expand back into who we are.

This shapes and changes our lives in so many ways from our health, our relationships, to our experiences. We hold more light and become complete and grounded into each present moment.  Everyone we meet is showing us something we need to learn about ourselves.  This understanding  will get us out of each other’s business and into our own, for the time spent in drama of another is really a deflection of what we are ignoring within ourselves.

So love your shadow, own your shadow and set it free.

(Excerpt from the new book Love is the answer – a guide to awakening the heart and stepping into true authenticity)

 

 

 

by Zoe Davenport,
Guest writer, In5D.com

About the author: Zoe Davenport is an Author and Intuitive Soul Coach, guiding people through spiritual awakenings she offers 1:1 sessions via Skype.  Her new book Love is the answer is out soon, to find out more please sign up at www.zoedavenport.co.uk or email hello@zoedavenport.co.uk,  connect on facebook