ASCENDING HEARTS: “6 Traits of Emotionally Immature People”

“Emotional immaturity can be defined as a condition where people have not renounced their childhood desires or fantasies, and consequently, their behaviors. They still believe that the people and the world revolve around them and is there to satisfy their wishes and whims, or that reality must conform to what they desire.”

 

What characterizes the emotionally immature people? The issues of maturity and immaturity are raised with them many myths. People do not admit to being labeled or analyzed by only one aspect. Each of us is a chalice in which different forms of consciousness are mixed: we are ignorant and wise, children and old, mature and immature. We are a mixture, although depending on the moment some characteristics stand out more than others.

Emotional immaturity can be defined as a condition where people have not renounced their childhood desires or fantasies, and consequently, their behaviors. They still believe that the people and the world revolve around them and is there to satisfy their wishes and whims, or that reality must conform to what they desire. Likewise, emotional maturity can be defined as a state of strength and temperance that leads us to realistic and balanced behaviors.

Maturity begins to manifest when we feel that we care more about others than about ourselves.

~Albert Einstein

 

More than an abstract definition, maturity or immaturity is shown through characteristics of behavior. Here are six traits that are characteristic of emotionally immature people.

 

6 Traits of Emotionally Immature People

 

1. They are self-centered people

To realize that the world does not revolve around you is a big step in the process of maturity. The baby does not know that. So he asks to feed at 2 in the morning and does not care if it affects his parents’ sleep. As you grow older, you learn to recognize that you can not always get everything you want, that other people and your world also have their needs.

Ripening involves getting out of the prison of oneself and losing the illusion that surrounds the life of a baby: just ask for a need or desire to be satisfied. While we are gradually losing this fantasy, we are also becoming aware of a beautiful possibility: the adventure of exploring the universe of others. If all goes well, we will learn to preserve self, and we will come to you.

2. The difficulty of making commitments

A clear sign of immaturity in people is the difficulty of making pledges and keeping promises. For a child, it is tough to give up what you want at that time to achieve a long-term goal. If we give him a treat and tell him that if he does not eat it at that moment, he will gain one more, the desire to eat the delicacy he has in his hand will prevail.

Through the process of maturity, we understand that sacrifices and restraints are necessary to achieve success. Committing oneself to a goal or a person is not a limitation of freedom, but a condition for projecting yourself better in the long run.

3. The tendency to play the blame game

Children are directed to much of their lives by other people and do not act according to their will. However, they are in the process of formation and insertion into a culture. While they are small, they believe that error carries a punishment. They do not care much about the damages they have caused, but with the penalty or sanctions, they may receive.

To grow is to abandon this sweet state of irresponsibility. To mature is to understand that we are the only ones responsible for what we do or do not do. Recognize your mistakes and learn from them. Learn to repair the damage you caused and learn to ask for forgiveness.

4. They establish dependency bonds

For immature persons, others are a means and not an end in themselves. They do not need others because they love them, but they love them because they need them. In this way, they often build bonds through dependence.

To establish connections based on freedom, we are obliged to have autonomy. However, emotionally immature people do not have a clear sense of independence. Often, they believe that meeting their wants is an autonomous behavior, but to take the consequences of their actions, they need others to cushion, hide or alleviate their responsibility.

5. Irresponsibility in money management

Impulsiveness is one of the most striking features of immature people. Impulsiveness that is often expressed in the way they manage their resources, such as money. So, to satisfy your desires immediately, buy what you do not need the money you do not have.

Sometimes they embark on bizarre financial adventures: they do not objectively analyze investments and fail to assess the consequences in the medium and long-term. Therefore, they always live indebted, only to satisfy all their whims.

6. They are control freaks

The Immature person has difficulties in letting the things be as they are, and frequently feel the need to be in control of everything and everyone. Their Comfort Zone is variable in direct proportion to the acceptance of their ideas, words and general behavior. They have their own Ideas of perfection and Order.

The person does not decide to be immature. All these characteristics of immaturity do not arise or remain with the conscious decision of individuals. They almost always result from gaps or gaps suffered in childhood or may be the result of unhappy experiences that have prevented it from evolving and letting these experiences go. If you are like this or know someone like that, do not judge him. In fact, the important thing is to realize that boosting their own emotional growth, it can lead them to a better life.

 

 

~via OMTimes.com

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GREGG PRESCOTT: “The Psychology Of Control Freaks”

The Psychology Of Control Freaks

by Gregg Prescott, M.S.
Editor, In5D.com

Why do people feel the need to control others and what lessons can we learn from both sides of this dilemma?

Controlling people generally fall into the Type A personality classification. These people are controlling, very competitive, self-critical, experience a constant sense of urgency, can be easily aroused to the point of anger, thrive on attention, and are generally extroverts.

Type B personalities are generally laid back, relaxed, easy going, reclusive, and are generally introverts.

We’ve all known that Type A controlling personality at some point in our lives. For me, my mother fits into this category. Despite her controlling ways, I love her with all of my heart. I know that ultimately, she only wants the best for her children. At a young age, my mother lost her mother to cancer, so she really didn’t have a role model to guide her. She became “the woman of the house” for my grandfather, who expected my mother to cook, clean, and do all of the household chores. My grandfather’s expectations of my mother are most likely the reason why she’s a Type A personality.

In just about every relationship I’ve had in my life, women were mostly controlling.

Enter, the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction constantly brings us what we need in our lives so we can spiritually evolve. For me, it was controlling women. In my last marriage, the Universe played a funny trick on me. Not only did it send me a Type A controlling woman, she was born on the same exact day as my mother (which is why I shy away from Virgos!).

My ex-wife is a Registered Nurse and has psychic abilities. When she was little, she would get visions and sometimes, they weren’t so nice. She was raised in a Southern Christian family, so these visions were most likely not accepted or were an embarrassment to her and her family. Additionally, they scared her and she ended up suppressing her ability only to find solace within the box of conformity and has remained there ever since. I can’t help but think about how many people she could be helping (or saving) by using her psychic abilities as an RN.

So, here I am married to (basically) my mother!

What the Law of Attraction was ultimately trying to tell me was to confront my mother.

One time, my sisters and I all met at my parent’s house. My mother, who my sisters and I loving call, “The Agenda Queen,” had mapped out every minute we were there. My sisters and I just wanted to relax and make plans on the fly, but my mother already had everything planned out. That’s when I finally confronted her. I told her that we just wanted to enjoy each other’s company without any time restrictions, plans, schedules, etc.. and if we end up doing anything, WE will decide what we do. Surprisingly, my mother backed down as it was the first time any of her children stood up to her controlling tendencies.

When people try to control others, it generally shows a projection of some sort of insecurity within themselves. In other words, some part of their life is out of control. It’s very similar to when someone calls you a derogatory name. When they do this, it’s generally that which they fear within themselves. For example, if someone calls you an “idiot”, being called an idiot is probably their greatest fear, so they deflect the attention away from them, and project it onto others. Similarly, control freaks are projecting some sort of insecurities within their own lives.

Despite their need for control, control freaks have some positive attributes in a strange way. For example, we are always being led and guided to life lessons that end up being for our highest good. Sometimes, these lessons are given by control freaks. When this happens to you, try to look at the lesson from the standpoint of an observer and SEE what Universe is trying to show you because chances are, there’s a lesson in there that will help your spiritual progression.

Try to see the reason why someone is controlling you. Take an honest look at yourself and see if there’s any part og you that’s being mirrored back at you through controlling behaviors.

For example, (and we’re all guilty of this at some point in our lives) have you ever told someone, “You really need to watch this movie (or video)?” I have, and I bet you have too. No one likes being told what to do, even if it’s in our highest good and comes from a loving heart. As for myself, I rebel from anyone who tries to control me.

Let’s take the same scenario. What if someone said, “I just saw a really great movie that I thought you might enjoy.”

No demands. No control. The ball is in your court.

If someone is controlling you, there may be controlling aspects about yourself that are being projected, so if you catch yourself saying, “You need to ______” to anyone, you can thank the control freak for mirroring something that can help you in your spiritual progression.

If you are a controlling person, try using tact and/or give options instead of demanding or controlling others. Also, try to find the areas in your life that are out of control and address them with love and without fear.

The fear of SOMETHING is why some people control other people. Once you can eliminate the fear, you can eliminate the control.

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Gregg Prescott <a href=Gregg Prescott, M.S. is the founder and editor of In5D and BodyMindSoulSpirit. You can find his In5D Radio shows on the In5D Youtube channel. He is also a transformational speaker and promotes spiritual, metaphysical and esoteric conferences in the United States through In5dEvents. His love and faith for humanity motivates him to work in humanity’s best interests 12-15+ hours a day, 365 days a year. Please like and follow In5D on Facebook as well as BodyMindSoulSpirit on Facebook!