ALETHEIA LUNA: “12 Signs It’s Time to Move On and Burn All Bridges”

“It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.”

~Aletheia Luna

 

There often comes a point where we outgrow the people in our lives, develop different interests, and even in the best circumstances, lose people due to the natural cycle of life and death.

But when is the right time to move on from a relationship that feels doomed? Should we wait it out … should we try to pick up the broken pieces, and if so, for how long? At what point is it acceptable to walk away and never look back?

Burning bridges is a tough and serious decision to make. When we “burn bridges” we are essentially cutting off all contact with a person and making it impossible to return. If you’re struggling with this decision, there are a few things you might like to know first.

When Burning Bridges is the Wrong Choice

Cutting people off is not always the right decision. As much as we would like to quickly dispose of a person who is causing us trouble, sometimes the problem originates more within us than them.

For instance, burning bridges might be the wrong choice if you’re wanting to dispose of a person due to fear of intimacy and the unwillingness to be vulnerable. Both of these problems will not be solved by cutting a person off, and in fact, making such a decision will exacerbate and deepen your insecurities. If you’re uncomfortable with sharing your entire self with another person in a friendship or relationship, the problem obviously isn’t the other person, but your own internal fears and traumas. In order to work through this problem, be honest with yourself and the person in your life. Explain how you feel. If they truly love you, they will understand and will stop trying to make you open up.

Another example of a wrong time to move on would be in the heat of anger (or another strong emotional reaction). When we are consumed by emotions our logic is overridden and we cannot think or see clearly. So many poor and even fatal decisions are made when our amygdala has gone haywire (bring to mind all the crimes of passion you hear on the news). In order to prevent yourself from making a rash decision, force yourself to breathe in and out for a couple of minutes. Removing yourself from the person or situation also helps your mind and body to settle down.

The final example of a wrong time to move on is when a relationship changes and stops being fun and exciting all the time. So many people tend to mistakenly believe that there’s something “wrong” with their relationship as it matures and grows because it’s no longer filled with the same ecstasy experienced at the beginning. But the reality is that every relationship changes: you will not experience the same dizzy euphoria as you did when you first fell in love. But there will be new emotions to experience as you grow and change with your partner. It is normal to feel a bit of boredom every now and then, but this does not necessarily mean that you need to burn bridges and move on. Obviously, if you’re feeling constantly bored and unfulfilled then you should seriously reconsider your relationship. But don’t make the mistake of hopping from partner to partner in an attempt to find that one person who makes you feel euphoric 100% of the time. It just won’t happen.

If you need more guidance on how to improve your relationship, read my article How to Save a Relationship or Marriage. You might also like to read more about how to create a deep spiritual connection with your partner.

12 Signs It’s Time to Move On

So when is it the right time to move on?

At some point in our lives, we all need to make the heart-wrenching choice to sever contact with certain people. For some of us, that might mean burning bridges with our ex-partners or friends, and for others, this might mean cutting off contact with our parents, siblings or even our own children.

It is unrealistic — and even dangerous — to believe that all relationships can be repaired, no matter what has happened. We cannot change other people, no matter how hard we try. Yes, we might be able to influence them, but the choice to change comes from them, not us. We cannot force others to change. Therefore, sometimes we need to accept that it’s time to move on, let go, and open a new chapter of our lives because no matter what we do, a person will only change if they are interested in changing.

Letting go can even seem cruel to some people, especially if a strong emotional bond is present. But the reality is that we have to take care of ourselves as well. If a person is not a source of comfort or support in your life, then they hang around you like dead weight holding you back from self-fulfillment. It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.

Here are some major signs that it’s time to move on:

1. They don’t show interest in your thoughts, opinions or needs

Your relationship is very lopsided. Even when you try to express your thoughts and needs, you are met with a blank, uninterested wall. Life seems to revolve around the other person, and whenever you try to draw a conversation towards yourself, this person will immediately try to hog attention. In the past, you may have drawn attention to the fact that this person doesn’t show interest in your needs, but nothing changed and they made no effort to pay attention to you. This person has an “ME first, you second” attitude.

2. They emanate constant negativity

No matter what you do or say, the other person is always unhappy. This person might nitpick, whine, criticize, judge, and moan about you or other people all the time. Not only that, but you always seem to go away feeling miserable after spending time with this person. They are like a damp heavy blanket suffocating your soul.

3. They don’t encourage your freedom

A major red flag: if the other person is controlling and authoritative, back away slowly! If you feel trapped and unable to be your true self, it’s most definitely time to move on. Feeling trapped can also be subtle and passive, for example, a partner or parent who tries to keep you dependent on them so that they have power over you.

4. They twist the truth

You struggle to trust this person because they have lied to you so much in the past. Lying is not always active, it can also be passive, for example, withholding information or details that you needed to know. This person has repeatedly broken your trust and is not transparent with you.

5. They don’t prioritize your relationship

The other person doesn’t seem to value your relationship/friendship as much as you do. While you put in so much work to improve your relationship with them, the other person doesn’t seem to care at all. Even when you have asked them to uphold their side of the relationship, they still ended up prioritizing other things over you. For example, they might spend long nights out with their friends at the pub and return at 3am. Or they might forget dates, meetups or agreements and put work or other commitments above you. While busyness is a normal part of life, this person doesn’t seem to have time on their schedule for you at all.

6. They create constant drama

You feel exhausted having to deal with all of the problems and dramas surrounding this person. Even when something goes well for your friend/partner/family member, they quickly find something else to be unhappy about. You have a sense that this person thrives on drama and is empty without it. You’re tired of hearing detailed accounts of their fights, work dramas, relationship tragedies, righteous opinions, ad infinitum.

7. They feed off your energy

This person seems to be fuelled by your attention and emotional reactions. They might enjoy provoking you to elicit a response that makes them feel like they have power over you. You also feel very tired around them, and almost sucked into their gravitational pull. If you feel this way, you’ve likely got an energy vampire on your hands. While I don’t particularly like this term, it accurately describes people who enjoy leeching off our energy.

8. They’re relentlessly needy

You feel smothered by this other person and like you’re bound to them with a ball and chain. Not only do you have to take care of your needs, but you feel as though you have to take care of their needs as well. This person seems to constantly demand attention, pampering, affection, and favors from you. You’ve tried encouraging this person to stand on their own two feet, but they seem intent on clinging off you. This person seems to be incapable of being self-assured and constantly seeks approval from you.

9. They have physically hurt you

In moments of rage, your friend/partner/family member may have hit you or physically hurt you in some way. While they may have apologized, your trust and confidence around them have been broken. Physical abuse is a crystal clear sign that it’s time to move on and burn bridges, forever.

10. They make you want to hide your true self

You’ve tried being relaxed and open around this person, but you’ve been met with coldness, criticism or judgment. As a result, you may have resorted to hiding your true self and wearing a mask instead. Gradually, you may have even started to forget who you truly are, having become a shell of your former self instead. You feel sick of changing who you are for the other person.

11. They manipulate you

You chronically feel emotionally blackmailed or gaslighted by this person. Sometimes you even feel like you’re the abuser, when in fact, the other is just playing mind games with you.

12. They intentionally hold you back

On the surface it may appear that your friend, partner or family member has “the best intentions for you,” but really, they don’t. They are scared. They don’t want you to change. They don’t want you to reach your full potential, for that will make them feel left behind. They don’t want to see you happy, for that will reflect how unhappy they are. They don’t want you to take risks, for that will force them to reconsider their own life choices. As the old truism goes, “misery loves company.” Unhappy people want to be surrounded by other unhappy people because it gives them some sense of consolation. As a result, you might feel like you have to dim down your lights, blend in, and become a wallflower.

After reading this list:

After reading this list, please know that you don’t have to say “yes” to every sign. Even if you’re experiencing just one or two of these signs, you should seriously consider the possibility that it’s time to move on. While you don’t have to necessarily burn bridges, you might like to create space and distance and see how you feel.

Hopefully these signs can gently awaken you to the possibility that it’s time to open a new chapter of your life. And please know that feeling things like stress, shame, and grief are all normal reactions. Personally, when it was time for me to burn bridges I felt intense emotional and psychological turmoil for many months. In my case, I had to cut ties with my entire family in order to escape their oppressive fundamentalist religion. But to my surprise, I felt so free and liberated that all of the pain of going through separation was worth it.

I hope you can find the same kind of freedom. Your heart and soul are stronger than you may think.

 

About the author: Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a psychospiritual counselor, tarot reader, and professional writer, Luna’s mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance.

 

~via LonerWolf.com

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MITCH GANNON: “Top 3 Ways To Tune And Change Your Frequency To Alter Your Reality”

Want to change your reality? You must tune into a different frequency to experience a new one. You can change it within seconds and by continuing to hold the frequency of what you desire your reality begins physically shift.

1. Imagination

Use your imagination to tune into the exact frequency of your desire. Imagination is a gift from God. Use it wisely. Most people are sloppy and unfocused in what they are thinking about. By becoming aware of what you are thinking you can then deliberately and purposely hold in your mind (imagination) exactly what you want to bring into your experience. By imagining any person, place, thing, experience, reality, etc., you have the unlimited freedom to undertake and assume the emotions, feelings, and vibrations of what you want your reality to be and contain. Keep returning and staying in the perceived imagined place to continue building up and increasing the strength of the frequency to change your reality.

2. Emotions and Feelings

Emotional states greatly impact vibration which in turn influences frequency. Bring about, through thoughts or your external observations, the feelings of the desired reality. Thoughts create your emotions and feelings. That is why forced effort and action are not required to elicit specific frequency bandwidths. You could sit and do nothing except think your way through thoughts to tune to your desired reality and experience it instantly. Frequencies are vibrational in nature which are translated and interpreted through our emotions, thoughts, and senses. That is why what you think about and imagine appears as though you are actually experiencing it now based on the feelings and emotions elicited. As a result, you are then automatically tuning to the frequency of the wanted reality because emotions and feelings impact frequency.

3. Meditation

Observing thoughts through an unattached way can be helpful in allowing you to tune to a precise frequency. By focusing on the breath or simply watching thoughts come and go you can release tension and focus on things undesired, which then allows for a cleared mind for refocusing in the direction of the desired frequency.

Enjoy creating your own reality. Afterall, planet Earth is just a hologram anyway. Meant for a sandbox of creation. What frequency are you choosing?

 

About the author: Mitch is a gifted intuitive, psychic, and energy reader. He has been helping clients for over 10 years in all areas of their lives. If interested in an intuitive session with Mitch please visit mitchintuitive.com.

 

~via In5D.com

KIM SEMETIS: “Our Reality is Our CHOICE”

As we have entered the phase of the collective oversoul/ collective consciousness we have reached the critical mass to shift the entire collective on a universal level to the highest consciousness that there is, the christed consciousness.

This is the highest that we can go, just when we thought that we couldn’t get much higher. Living as a multi dimensional being of the light is the highest honor attainable to all. Some will choose to stay and some will choose to leave, preferring to ascend in another form. Those that choose to stay will continue to ascend in the here and now, in the physical, to achieve energy mastery here. It is all a choice in preference to each soul. Those that choose to stay will learn how to transcend 3D consciousness/duality and come to feel the expansive love that is our very essence. For those that are still deep in slumber this may seem like a bumpy ride, filled with the darkest of days UNTIL they choose to OPEN UP to a NEW WAY, a way that they may have never considered before, as they learn to “see” and “feel” what is truly aligned with their soul. We all must learn to not only see ALL of the programs still held within but also to clear them until all is gone. This means “UNLEARNING” absolutely everything that we thought to be true as a 3D human. This is exciting and can be fun, IF we do not fight the GREAT AWAKENING that is happening in each moment. Those still deep in slumber, as they begin to wake up, will seek out the early wakers, the wayshowers of the light that chose to go through this before the masses. These beings WILL begin to make sense, as all awaken at the perfect moment. Those that they did not understand and actually thought were “CRAZY”, will begin to make sense, as we speak to the soul, as opposed to the human mind.

This is a pivotal time for all, as some are already living in the fifth dimension and higher, and some are still living in 3D/4D hell. Those in the realm of “hell” cannot “see” or understand/comprehend what it is to be living HEAVEN ON EARTH. Those that choose to still see duality and living in victim energy can stay as long as they wish but…..they are watching, and they are seeing those that are happy and joyful, just because. They may judge those and think that we are simple minded, not seeing all the injustices that abound, yet they are curious, and this curiosity is what opens the door for them. Tiny portals will open for them in the beginning, giving them a glimpse of what others already know.

Life is to be MAGICAL, MYSTICAL, filled with JOY at every turn, where LOVE and KINDNESS is always the answer.

This is a place where ego is a thing of the past and if we see it in ourselves and others, we correct it immediately (within our self) or walk away, as it is no longer a part of our experience here on the earth plane. There is no room for this in the higher realms, the frequencies do not support this.

So let us ask you this “Why would you want to stay in hell when there are wondrous other options available?” You may not yet be able to see these other options, but you will, you will notice lives filled with ease, joy and abundance and you will want to know how to get there. There are many out there that have the answers to that and if you seek, you will find those that you resonate with.

Even those that consider themselves “Spiritual” do not see the magnitude of who they are, still playing in dualistic games of the ego. Still holding onto old beliefs, old teachings/ old paradigms, turning a blind eye to opening up and moving forward. Some have hearts that are only partially open, some have open hearts but close them back up if things do not go their way. They are like an ostrich with its head in the sand, unwilling to take a peek at what is really possible, wanting to stay in the fight of “what is mine” and “who is right”….. Nobody cares in the higher realms. This is because we have achieved unity consciousness and all are one commUNITY at all times, not only when it is convenient.

WE LOVE and HONOR EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING at all times. We not only see the whole picture, we are the picture, we are the creators in each moment, creating our own reality/universe. We love everyone enough to mind our own business, allowing others the space to create whatever they wish. This is not for us to interfere anymore as we have learned (sometimes the hard way) how to step back and give presence and honor to those that we used to hover over. This is full HONOR and RESPECT on the highest level, to give each its own power back. It truly is the greatest gift, for we are all sovereign beings in the higher realms, coming together to create in UNITY/commUNITY with purity only, with no hidden agendas. “Relationships” are a thing of the past. There is no more relying on others, there is only assisting out of the purity of our heart. Those that have already been ascending for years can “feel” and “know” the difference. It quite simply does not feel good when intentions are other than pure and we will simply walk away if and when we even have these experiences at all anymore.

Heaven on Earth, simply put, means that if and when we have an experience that is less than pleasant, we may simply wait until this energy dissipates (quite quickly) and we will also not wish to be around that energy and will make sure that we walk away from it once and for all. This may mean walking away from friends/family/jobs/homes/ people and places we have always known and replacing them with our solidarity as we walk in peace/happiness and love. We begin to be very okay with this as we make room for all NEW REALITIES with souls that are in alignment with our frequency/our mission. Those that radiate out light at all times, refusing to go back to old patterns and games. Those that seek the highest in all that they do and those that they choose to create with. The human cannot comprehend this, but the soul not only knows that this is possible but it is the true way, the key (keycode) to unlocking doors that they never even knew that they were there. This light encoded writing is offering you the keys to open the doors/portals/gateways/stargates that are just for you, for they are YOUR DOORWAYS. Take a step, turn the key and unlock/open the door to the passageway into the unknown, for this is where all the MAGIC and BLISS resides!!

We LOVE you more than you can ever imagine!

Kim

http://www.divinewarriorgoddess.com

 

~via In5D.com