ALETHEIA LUNA: “12 Signs It’s Time to Move On and Burn All Bridges”

“It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.”

~Aletheia Luna

 

There often comes a point where we outgrow the people in our lives, develop different interests, and even in the best circumstances, lose people due to the natural cycle of life and death.

But when is the right time to move on from a relationship that feels doomed? Should we wait it out … should we try to pick up the broken pieces, and if so, for how long? At what point is it acceptable to walk away and never look back?

Burning bridges is a tough and serious decision to make. When we “burn bridges” we are essentially cutting off all contact with a person and making it impossible to return. If you’re struggling with this decision, there are a few things you might like to know first.

When Burning Bridges is the Wrong Choice

Cutting people off is not always the right decision. As much as we would like to quickly dispose of a person who is causing us trouble, sometimes the problem originates more within us than them.

For instance, burning bridges might be the wrong choice if you’re wanting to dispose of a person due to fear of intimacy and the unwillingness to be vulnerable. Both of these problems will not be solved by cutting a person off, and in fact, making such a decision will exacerbate and deepen your insecurities. If you’re uncomfortable with sharing your entire self with another person in a friendship or relationship, the problem obviously isn’t the other person, but your own internal fears and traumas. In order to work through this problem, be honest with yourself and the person in your life. Explain how you feel. If they truly love you, they will understand and will stop trying to make you open up.

Another example of a wrong time to move on would be in the heat of anger (or another strong emotional reaction). When we are consumed by emotions our logic is overridden and we cannot think or see clearly. So many poor and even fatal decisions are made when our amygdala has gone haywire (bring to mind all the crimes of passion you hear on the news). In order to prevent yourself from making a rash decision, force yourself to breathe in and out for a couple of minutes. Removing yourself from the person or situation also helps your mind and body to settle down.

The final example of a wrong time to move on is when a relationship changes and stops being fun and exciting all the time. So many people tend to mistakenly believe that there’s something “wrong” with their relationship as it matures and grows because it’s no longer filled with the same ecstasy experienced at the beginning. But the reality is that every relationship changes: you will not experience the same dizzy euphoria as you did when you first fell in love. But there will be new emotions to experience as you grow and change with your partner. It is normal to feel a bit of boredom every now and then, but this does not necessarily mean that you need to burn bridges and move on. Obviously, if you’re feeling constantly bored and unfulfilled then you should seriously reconsider your relationship. But don’t make the mistake of hopping from partner to partner in an attempt to find that one person who makes you feel euphoric 100% of the time. It just won’t happen.

If you need more guidance on how to improve your relationship, read my article How to Save a Relationship or Marriage. You might also like to read more about how to create a deep spiritual connection with your partner.

12 Signs It’s Time to Move On

So when is it the right time to move on?

At some point in our lives, we all need to make the heart-wrenching choice to sever contact with certain people. For some of us, that might mean burning bridges with our ex-partners or friends, and for others, this might mean cutting off contact with our parents, siblings or even our own children.

It is unrealistic — and even dangerous — to believe that all relationships can be repaired, no matter what has happened. We cannot change other people, no matter how hard we try. Yes, we might be able to influence them, but the choice to change comes from them, not us. We cannot force others to change. Therefore, sometimes we need to accept that it’s time to move on, let go, and open a new chapter of our lives because no matter what we do, a person will only change if they are interested in changing.

Letting go can even seem cruel to some people, especially if a strong emotional bond is present. But the reality is that we have to take care of ourselves as well. If a person is not a source of comfort or support in your life, then they hang around you like dead weight holding you back from self-fulfillment. It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.

Here are some major signs that it’s time to move on:

1. They don’t show interest in your thoughts, opinions or needs

Your relationship is very lopsided. Even when you try to express your thoughts and needs, you are met with a blank, uninterested wall. Life seems to revolve around the other person, and whenever you try to draw a conversation towards yourself, this person will immediately try to hog attention. In the past, you may have drawn attention to the fact that this person doesn’t show interest in your needs, but nothing changed and they made no effort to pay attention to you. This person has an “ME first, you second” attitude.

2. They emanate constant negativity

No matter what you do or say, the other person is always unhappy. This person might nitpick, whine, criticize, judge, and moan about you or other people all the time. Not only that, but you always seem to go away feeling miserable after spending time with this person. They are like a damp heavy blanket suffocating your soul.

3. They don’t encourage your freedom

A major red flag: if the other person is controlling and authoritative, back away slowly! If you feel trapped and unable to be your true self, it’s most definitely time to move on. Feeling trapped can also be subtle and passive, for example, a partner or parent who tries to keep you dependent on them so that they have power over you.

4. They twist the truth

You struggle to trust this person because they have lied to you so much in the past. Lying is not always active, it can also be passive, for example, withholding information or details that you needed to know. This person has repeatedly broken your trust and is not transparent with you.

5. They don’t prioritize your relationship

The other person doesn’t seem to value your relationship/friendship as much as you do. While you put in so much work to improve your relationship with them, the other person doesn’t seem to care at all. Even when you have asked them to uphold their side of the relationship, they still ended up prioritizing other things over you. For example, they might spend long nights out with their friends at the pub and return at 3am. Or they might forget dates, meetups or agreements and put work or other commitments above you. While busyness is a normal part of life, this person doesn’t seem to have time on their schedule for you at all.

6. They create constant drama

You feel exhausted having to deal with all of the problems and dramas surrounding this person. Even when something goes well for your friend/partner/family member, they quickly find something else to be unhappy about. You have a sense that this person thrives on drama and is empty without it. You’re tired of hearing detailed accounts of their fights, work dramas, relationship tragedies, righteous opinions, ad infinitum.

7. They feed off your energy

This person seems to be fuelled by your attention and emotional reactions. They might enjoy provoking you to elicit a response that makes them feel like they have power over you. You also feel very tired around them, and almost sucked into their gravitational pull. If you feel this way, you’ve likely got an energy vampire on your hands. While I don’t particularly like this term, it accurately describes people who enjoy leeching off our energy.

8. They’re relentlessly needy

You feel smothered by this other person and like you’re bound to them with a ball and chain. Not only do you have to take care of your needs, but you feel as though you have to take care of their needs as well. This person seems to constantly demand attention, pampering, affection, and favors from you. You’ve tried encouraging this person to stand on their own two feet, but they seem intent on clinging off you. This person seems to be incapable of being self-assured and constantly seeks approval from you.

9. They have physically hurt you

In moments of rage, your friend/partner/family member may have hit you or physically hurt you in some way. While they may have apologized, your trust and confidence around them have been broken. Physical abuse is a crystal clear sign that it’s time to move on and burn bridges, forever.

10. They make you want to hide your true self

You’ve tried being relaxed and open around this person, but you’ve been met with coldness, criticism or judgment. As a result, you may have resorted to hiding your true self and wearing a mask instead. Gradually, you may have even started to forget who you truly are, having become a shell of your former self instead. You feel sick of changing who you are for the other person.

11. They manipulate you

You chronically feel emotionally blackmailed or gaslighted by this person. Sometimes you even feel like you’re the abuser, when in fact, the other is just playing mind games with you.

12. They intentionally hold you back

On the surface it may appear that your friend, partner or family member has “the best intentions for you,” but really, they don’t. They are scared. They don’t want you to change. They don’t want you to reach your full potential, for that will make them feel left behind. They don’t want to see you happy, for that will reflect how unhappy they are. They don’t want you to take risks, for that will force them to reconsider their own life choices. As the old truism goes, “misery loves company.” Unhappy people want to be surrounded by other unhappy people because it gives them some sense of consolation. As a result, you might feel like you have to dim down your lights, blend in, and become a wallflower.

After reading this list:

After reading this list, please know that you don’t have to say “yes” to every sign. Even if you’re experiencing just one or two of these signs, you should seriously consider the possibility that it’s time to move on. While you don’t have to necessarily burn bridges, you might like to create space and distance and see how you feel.

Hopefully these signs can gently awaken you to the possibility that it’s time to open a new chapter of your life. And please know that feeling things like stress, shame, and grief are all normal reactions. Personally, when it was time for me to burn bridges I felt intense emotional and psychological turmoil for many months. In my case, I had to cut ties with my entire family in order to escape their oppressive fundamentalist religion. But to my surprise, I felt so free and liberated that all of the pain of going through separation was worth it.

I hope you can find the same kind of freedom. Your heart and soul are stronger than you may think.

 

About the author: Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a psychospiritual counselor, tarot reader, and professional writer, Luna’s mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance.

 

~via LonerWolf.com

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KIM SEMETIS: “Our Reality is Our CHOICE”

As we have entered the phase of the collective oversoul/ collective consciousness we have reached the critical mass to shift the entire collective on a universal level to the highest consciousness that there is, the christed consciousness.

This is the highest that we can go, just when we thought that we couldn’t get much higher. Living as a multi dimensional being of the light is the highest honor attainable to all. Some will choose to stay and some will choose to leave, preferring to ascend in another form. Those that choose to stay will continue to ascend in the here and now, in the physical, to achieve energy mastery here. It is all a choice in preference to each soul. Those that choose to stay will learn how to transcend 3D consciousness/duality and come to feel the expansive love that is our very essence. For those that are still deep in slumber this may seem like a bumpy ride, filled with the darkest of days UNTIL they choose to OPEN UP to a NEW WAY, a way that they may have never considered before, as they learn to “see” and “feel” what is truly aligned with their soul. We all must learn to not only see ALL of the programs still held within but also to clear them until all is gone. This means “UNLEARNING” absolutely everything that we thought to be true as a 3D human. This is exciting and can be fun, IF we do not fight the GREAT AWAKENING that is happening in each moment. Those still deep in slumber, as they begin to wake up, will seek out the early wakers, the wayshowers of the light that chose to go through this before the masses. These beings WILL begin to make sense, as all awaken at the perfect moment. Those that they did not understand and actually thought were “CRAZY”, will begin to make sense, as we speak to the soul, as opposed to the human mind.

This is a pivotal time for all, as some are already living in the fifth dimension and higher, and some are still living in 3D/4D hell. Those in the realm of “hell” cannot “see” or understand/comprehend what it is to be living HEAVEN ON EARTH. Those that choose to still see duality and living in victim energy can stay as long as they wish but…..they are watching, and they are seeing those that are happy and joyful, just because. They may judge those and think that we are simple minded, not seeing all the injustices that abound, yet they are curious, and this curiosity is what opens the door for them. Tiny portals will open for them in the beginning, giving them a glimpse of what others already know.

Life is to be MAGICAL, MYSTICAL, filled with JOY at every turn, where LOVE and KINDNESS is always the answer.

This is a place where ego is a thing of the past and if we see it in ourselves and others, we correct it immediately (within our self) or walk away, as it is no longer a part of our experience here on the earth plane. There is no room for this in the higher realms, the frequencies do not support this.

So let us ask you this “Why would you want to stay in hell when there are wondrous other options available?” You may not yet be able to see these other options, but you will, you will notice lives filled with ease, joy and abundance and you will want to know how to get there. There are many out there that have the answers to that and if you seek, you will find those that you resonate with.

Even those that consider themselves “Spiritual” do not see the magnitude of who they are, still playing in dualistic games of the ego. Still holding onto old beliefs, old teachings/ old paradigms, turning a blind eye to opening up and moving forward. Some have hearts that are only partially open, some have open hearts but close them back up if things do not go their way. They are like an ostrich with its head in the sand, unwilling to take a peek at what is really possible, wanting to stay in the fight of “what is mine” and “who is right”….. Nobody cares in the higher realms. This is because we have achieved unity consciousness and all are one commUNITY at all times, not only when it is convenient.

WE LOVE and HONOR EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING at all times. We not only see the whole picture, we are the picture, we are the creators in each moment, creating our own reality/universe. We love everyone enough to mind our own business, allowing others the space to create whatever they wish. This is not for us to interfere anymore as we have learned (sometimes the hard way) how to step back and give presence and honor to those that we used to hover over. This is full HONOR and RESPECT on the highest level, to give each its own power back. It truly is the greatest gift, for we are all sovereign beings in the higher realms, coming together to create in UNITY/commUNITY with purity only, with no hidden agendas. “Relationships” are a thing of the past. There is no more relying on others, there is only assisting out of the purity of our heart. Those that have already been ascending for years can “feel” and “know” the difference. It quite simply does not feel good when intentions are other than pure and we will simply walk away if and when we even have these experiences at all anymore.

Heaven on Earth, simply put, means that if and when we have an experience that is less than pleasant, we may simply wait until this energy dissipates (quite quickly) and we will also not wish to be around that energy and will make sure that we walk away from it once and for all. This may mean walking away from friends/family/jobs/homes/ people and places we have always known and replacing them with our solidarity as we walk in peace/happiness and love. We begin to be very okay with this as we make room for all NEW REALITIES with souls that are in alignment with our frequency/our mission. Those that radiate out light at all times, refusing to go back to old patterns and games. Those that seek the highest in all that they do and those that they choose to create with. The human cannot comprehend this, but the soul not only knows that this is possible but it is the true way, the key (keycode) to unlocking doors that they never even knew that they were there. This light encoded writing is offering you the keys to open the doors/portals/gateways/stargates that are just for you, for they are YOUR DOORWAYS. Take a step, turn the key and unlock/open the door to the passageway into the unknown, for this is where all the MAGIC and BLISS resides!!

We LOVE you more than you can ever imagine!

Kim

http://www.divinewarriorgoddess.com

 

~via In5D.com

LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Personal Value System”

In the face of the current challenges we are navigating in this bifurcating world, it is increasingly important now to examine our personal beliefs and value system. To get to the deeper clarity on what reveals itself to be the guideline to your truest nature. In our context this would be consciously participating with spiritually beneficial behaviors that help to define an improved value system and guidelines, for building improved character and personal integrity. Our personal values provide an internal reference point for what is discerned as beneficial, important, useful, beautiful, productive behaviors and actions, which we commit to for the purpose of developing ourselves and guiding our life. Our personal values are what motivate and generate our behavior and actions, it is what influences the choices we make in everyday life. Understanding ourselves enough to have clarity on what we give value to in our personal value system, is critical for building personal integrity and discerning what actions we take that are aligned with those values or not.

Every person has to choose the kind of person they want to be in this world, whether you decide to wear the mask others provided for you, or act independently to discover what you really value and how to think and feel for yourself.

Consciously making the choice in determining what is important to you by choosing a personal value system, puts focus upon these qualities so that you can align the choices you make to reflect what’s important to you. A person that has clarity on their personal values that guide their life decisions will make much better decisions for themselves. When we make many decisions over a period of time, if we remain clear and authentic to align with our personal values, all of those combined decisions will be coherent and form a network of purposeful and aligned choices that ultimately serve our best interest. With this level of self-awareness and clarity, looking back over time we will see that we were always being guided to be authentic, by aligning our personal values with our actions, which form into the deep inspiration that reflects the kind of person that we really want to be.

When a person is unaware of their actions and how to connect them into their personal values they are unable to develop a strong internal compass when navigating the world. This impairs decision making as when our compass is not being inner directed we make poor choices. Without self-awareness derived from choosing our own personal values, we cannot make informed decisions that enable strong discernment. When we act out of alignment with our deepest values and core self, we fall out of integrity with ourselves and lose our directional compass. We cannot see what direction we are moving in and become increasingly lost and confused, losing discernment in which path we are supposed to follow.

The crisis we are facing in ourselves is the crisis of consciousness, it is a lack of self-awareness of what deeply motivates our behaviors. When we can observe what we give consent to, this reflects what we give value to.

The lack of self-awareness combined with the utter lack of consciousness, results in an inability to directly experience our true essential nature as spiritual beings. Now is the time to dedicate effort to the self-inquiry process, in order to clearly define personal truth in regard to your value system, ethics and the standard of behavior, that which you are committed to follow to be authentic. As you gain deeper clarity on your own personal truth then it is critical to take conscious steps to behave in ways that are consistent and coherent with your personal value system. This is how you build personal integrity, which gives you more strength to remain strong, stable and clear, especially when you are faced with decisions that you must make while enduring adversity or challenges.

To maintain core stability when exposed to the chaotic forces of bi-wave and reversal energies that are producing potent collisions in the surface field, we must know how to be true to ourselves and to maintain personal integrity when dealing with the challenges that may come our way. Our personal integrity, ethics and virtues are powerful forces, which stabilize us and keep us firmly grounded within our spiritual center. This is what keeps us strong, protected and transparent when facing intense oppositional forces.

The Breaking Point that Shatters Integrity

The planetary body is shifting into the higher frequency band that is located in the next Harmonic Universe. It is very important to understand that planet earth and her inhabitants are moving through a very turbulent time of collective consciousness transformation that directly impacts the global brain and individual mental body. We are undergoing another stage of core magnetic field shifting that radically elevates the magnetic tone resonance that emanates from the inner core of the planet.

The impact to the geomagnetic field generates massive surfacing of black forces that produces intense energetic pressure upon people’s bodies, especially their mental body. It is becoming clear that more of the masses are not faring well physically, psychologically or emotionally from the massive impact of magnetic shifts, which are shifting the global brain resonance. This particular theme of mental body fracturing, incoherent thoughts and emotional instability, as well as possible possession, are disturbing and many of us will need to gather strength from the fact that this is happening in greater numbers on the planet. People that are heavily dependent on their intellectual capacity, extremely mentally rigid, severely traumatized or fractured, are having a really difficult time maintaining personal stability and coherence during this time. Additionally, many fractured and traumatized people are prescribed a cocktail of psychoactive pharmaceutical drugs that further alter brain function, leading to unknown consequences.

When a person remains very internally conflicted about themselves, lost and confused in life, holding memories of extreme trauma in their body that remain unhealed, they are internally disconnected from their core self. This type of person lives within perpetual cognitive dissonance and this generates a lot of stress and pressure on that person’s body and energies, especially the mental and physical body. Every person has a pressure point or breaking point when there is too much pressure being exerted upon the body and nervous system, where extreme deviations in brain chemistry and behavior can occur. When people are internally conflicted and fractured they reach a point where they will explode, as a bodily mechanism for releasing cumulative energetic pressure that these emotional and mental conflicts create. This breaking point is occurring in some of the fragile minds of fractured or traumatized people around us, and is what we are witnessing in larger numbers. Mind control in all the various forms it is being used in the media to assault the public with fear based propaganda, is extremely destructive to the human body. Artificial intelligence mind control technologies are especially damaging to the functions of the brain and neurological system, impairing coherent thinking and producing extremist ideologies. This is one component of what is currently manufacturing a greater number of lunatics in society.

A lunatic is an informal term describing a person whose behaviors and actions are considered mentally ill, dangerous, unstable and unpredictable. This type of unstable person, that sometimes exhibits insanely destructive behavior, is something that we should be able to discern in the environment and do our best to remain neutral around, yet set the necessary boundaries while in their midst. This is the saddening result of the extreme methods of mind control and mixtures of chemical substances that have been used in this reality to enslave human consciousness.

Roots of Dishonesty that Split Reality

Being dishonest and intentionally lying to others produces a split reality. This is where you are personally aware of the one reality that is the truth and the other reality that is the lie, and they co-exist simultaneously. The roots of dishonesty that split apart energies produce a negative effect on the personal timeline, it is the energetic content of what you have created when you made the choice to be dishonest. This negative content becomes a black energy that is generated within your mind and body, and can impact other layers by producing fracturing, which is the disintegration in the perception of external reality. When there is a buildup of accumulated content from repeated lying, the consequence over time is memory loss, losing the ability to tell what events really did happen, was it the lie or the truth? People lose memory of events that happened in time and cannot keep their facts straight, because they have told too many lies to too many people. This is a pathological liar that eventually over time, can’t remember what they have said to whom. The more lies that have been told the more split realities they generate, which drains their energy, leading to inner disconnection and a complete loss of integrity. People that have this profile are commonly the most voracious emotional and psychic vampires.

Most people may perceive themselves as mostly positive, wanting to do the right thing in life, and yet they are perpetually dishonest and lie quite frequently. Generally the need to assert control over other people or to gain advantage in circumstances leads to levels of perpetuating forms of manipulation, which produce false impressions. The need to manipulate others leads to varying degrees of spinning deceptions that misinform others through giving false impressions that create split realities.

Lying is the seed of satanic forces, and thus when a person intentionally lies no matter how small the lie is, it opens a back door of vulnerability to dark attachment to the situation. Being dishonest and lying destroys personal integrity and eventually destroys your lightbody. It is imperative that this severe character defect be corrected in order to become free of dark force manipulation, and begin the path to build personal integrity as well as accumulate inner light. People that are pathological liars or perpetual liars in many cases have possession problems; it is a very serious consequence to your consciousness when you choose to intentionally lie.

If there are dark spirit attachments or dark attacks that are aggressive and extreme, and you are unable to rid yourself of these recurring attacks, it is critical to truly evaluate how honest you are being with yourself and others.

The root of dishonesty, deception and lying in all of its forms is the seed of Satanism, which attracts dark entities.

Therefore it is critical to start building integrity through being as truthful and honest as possible in all interactions, examining your motivations in order to commit to speak and act honestly. Make the necessary adjustments in your language to more accurately reflect that you are telling the truth that you know in that moment. Start building relationships with people that want the truth from you and that you can be honest and authentic with.

(Source: ES News – Personal Integrity)

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – August 28, 2018

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “The Best Version Of Yourself”

Every time you get comfortable in life, it will throw a bunch of hardships at you like as if it was waiting to do so.

Life isn’t the same for everybody. No matter how similar two situations look, they are always different and different people have their own ways of handling it.

Things that can be easy for you might be a nightmare for someone else.

Things that you absolutely love might not mean the same to others. What you need to remember at all times is that five fingers aren’t alike.

Different people have different struggles and their ways of solving their issues might not be similar to yours.

That doesn’t make them weak or wrong. That just makes them different from you and it’s OK.

Kindness wins every time. And if there are times when you think you can’t bring anything positive to the table then make sure you don’t open your mouth to say something mean and hurtful.

We all have our battles to fight. Adding on to others’ misery will never make you a winner, irrespective of how many odds you have conquered in life.

If you aren’t a good person then your accomplishments don’t really mean anything.

Now, this is for someone who doesn’t have anyone. You have to know that the best you’ll ever have is yourself. You are your biggest strength and nobody can love you and support you like you can support yourself.

What you think about yourself matters more than what others think of you. How you treat yourself is how you teach others to treat you.

Always remember that love begins at home, so stop being cruel on yourself. Don’t believe the negative things you tell yourself when you’re upset.

All of us should remember that it needs to rain before we can see a rainbow. Don’t let things like thunderstorms break you. Instead, use them to become the best version of yourself.

 

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

THOMAS ALEXANDER: “Are Rapidly Shifting Energies Driving You Mad?”

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Sometimes, being yourself means being a bit mad. It’s okay to be a bit mad. All the best people are. Some of the worst may at times appear to be. However, there is a subtle, but distinct difference in being mad, from being insane. The insane person lives (if you can call it that) their entire existence, in abject fear and loathing of it. The slightest thing can send them into a fit of rage. Violent, ‘insane’ behavior, that is repellant to ‘sane’ people. The worst most mad people can be accused of, is being violently happy. Some people find even this, to be a bit too much. That’s okay. The mad person finds the company of ‘sane’ individuals to be a bit of a drag. Doldrums. ‘Keeping it real’. The struggle is real, you know… Bollocks!

The mad person’s behavior is typically repugnant to sane individuals, due to the fact that the sane individual is far too busy worrying about the trivial concerns of daily existence, to engage in such a frivolous and silly emotion as ‘joy’.

The sane person thinks, “Silly mad person… don’t you know there are real things, that must be worried about! Like, where’s the car parked; Where might I have to go next and how to get there, how much is the petrol going to cost, where is the money to pay for it going to come from.”

The ‘sane’ person entertains many such trains of thought simultaneously; Concerning sustenance, shelter, companionship etc… Worry, worry, worry. While it is natural to be occasionally concerned about these important items, it is unnatural to be overly concerned about them. This is, what drives good, hardworking, ordinarily ‘sane’ people; To insanity. Deluged under an inundation of out of control worry trains, roaring and thundering into the mental station of consciousness at a rate beyond which, they cannot continue to cope. And so they don’t; And yet, they do. The affected individual is rendered incapable of action – By caring so much – that they can’t even.

By allowing the equilibrium of your mental state to be overrun with too many thought trains, insanity is likely to ensue. This leads to congestion, angry passengers, lost parcels, and mental breakdown. On the other hand, what good is an empty train station? Find the balance that is right for you. Keep positive thought trains going! Send them forth from your station, full of happy passengers, brimming with valuable cargo. Thought trains, that others will be pleased to entertain in their own mental stations. Stop negative trains at the border, and turn them around. Those trains will go in search of other, more accommodating stations. After all, misery does love company. Joy loves company too. People that are ‘too happy’ for ‘no reason’ are weird. It’s okay to be weird. Existence is reason enough to be happy.

Does a flower question its existence? Does it worry if rain will fall, or if there are enough nutrients in the soil for it to grow? No. It exerts only the very slightest of efforts, growing towards light, water and food. It sends out tendrils, seeking for the right way. If something is found, the plant ceases to exert effort in that direction and begins to absorb the available nutrient. As the nutrient is absorbed, the plant pushes further until it meets resistance. Resistance is not the universe telling you, ‘you cannot’ only that there is perhaps an easier way. Sometimes, there is no easy way. Plants are grown from small vulnerable seeds, easily crushed under foot. But yet, a single blade of grass can crack pavement, which a million trodding feet could not crush. Pursue those things that make you feel strongly; Like a plant in search of sun, and you will achieve what you seek. There will be no resistance.

Resistance can be thought of as ‘negative energy’. Do you wake up in the morning, to some clamorous noise, wishing only to stay abed, hating the very thought of putting your feet on the floor? Wishing, that for once, the cares of the day would just care about themselves, and leave you out of it? Did you know, you can do that? The world, will indeed go on. If the Pope can quit, so can you. Sometimes, ‘doing’ just gets to be too much. Resistance. Perhaps, it is time to be instead of do. It’s hard for a reason. Maybe it’s the universe trying to tell you, you’re cutout for something else. Not a pre-punched cardboard cutout; A special snowflake, made by the hand of a child; That child is you. You shaped yourself by participating in a shared reality, full of other individuals shaping, and being shaped. Your snowflake is unique, there is no other quite as unique as yours. Some people will think it’s weird, misshapen, or tatty. That is okay. If you wanted your snowflake to fit in a mold, you’d have used a die cutter.

Die cut snowflakes are perfect, perfectly uniform; Perfectly the same. Like the ticky-tacky cookie-cutter houses, in a large development conglomerate. There, you must participate in a home owners association, and mustn’t to anything to upset the perfect uniformity of the neighborhood. You’re likely to be brought up on charges, if your front grass is half an inch too long, or… Your undisciplined and irresponsible child left their bicycle in front of the garage door. Some people find such outward displays of conformity to be comforting, and pleasing. I do not. I find places where everything and everyone are nearly identical, a bit like the Twilight Zone. As if, the matrix in an effort to conserve memory, has rendered at the lowest possible complexity. Recycling, and reusing a many textures, and interaction scenarios as possible. Woe betide unto you if your khakis are the wrong shade of tan, in these bastions of uniformity. Or, heaven help you, your skin! If you look closely enough, even at things that appear on the surface to be identical, you will find an infinite number of minute differences; Determined by the resolution at which you are viewing a thing at a given time. Do to the fractal nature of ‘reality’ you can zoom in, or out indefinitely. By zooming in, you can observe the minutest detail. Or by zooming out, have an epiphany about the ‘big picture’; Perhaps, coming to realize that things are the same on every level (more or less). It’s the contrasting minutia that highlights the differences between the very large, and the very small. Only when you cease struggling long enough to observe these details without resistance, do they come in to focus.

When you achieve focus, everything becomes clear. You will face no resistance in making choices. You can enjoy your journey fully, and if faced with a crossroads, the signs will be clear and you will instinctively select the correct path. If you arrive at a crossroad, and none of the signs seem to be pointing to something you feel strongly about, maybe you aren’t on the correct path. Meandering is okay. It’s an important part of finding the correct path. Like a plant, putting forth many tendrils in all directions, growing more where it finds the good. But, you aren’t a plant. Your place in life is not static. You don’t have to grow where you are planted. If the place in which you are planted, is devoid of joy; If it feels like you’d just be better off not living… By all means, pick yourself up by the roots, and plant yourself somewhere else. Fleeing in the face of adversity isn’t always the best course of action. Just as there is a fine line between bald faced cowardice, and fleeing an over-matched foe – ‘living to fight another day’. There is a difference between a dry spell, and the Sahara desert. It’s up to you to discern that difference.

Polite society is built upon the repression of the self, for the good of the whole. i.e. Don’t be too weird, or other people won’t like you. Don’t be an individual; Be individualistic. It’s quite easy to be driven mad by an inundation of mixed messages. It’s like being a giant centipede of people sewn together arse to mouth, defecating into each other’s faces. Come to think of it, that’s a rather fitting analogy for a certain social media site… Look at me, Look at my FACE. Look at my fodder. Look at my cool stuff. Look at what an ‘amazing’ time I’m having! Look at the other people, who have looked at my stuff. They said it was cool, ’cause I said their stuff was cool too. Look at it… LOOK AT IT! Tell me how much you like it. LIKE IT NOW! It’s a bit silly really. Why?

Because at the end of the day, the only person who has to listen to the voice in your head;  Possibly taunting you with the success of others, or sniggering at their failures, being overly concerned with how many people liked what you said; Or, the things that you have, the things that you do; Or… Only said that you did or have, because you thought other people would think it was cool… That voice is still you. Ergo, the opinions of others are in fact, self-inflicted. Why are you hitting yourself? Why are you hitting yourself? Stop hitting yourself! Except, the proverbial big brother on the other end of your arm, is still you.

A mad person couldn’t care less about societal norms. A mad person is truly themselves, for the sake of being so. The opinions of others are utterly irrelevant to the mad person; Just as irrelevant as if they were instead, insane. The circumstances under which someone may become mad, or insane are quite similar. However, the reaction to the circumstance is what makes the difference. At some point in your life, you will be presented with a very clear choice. Do you choose to be oppressed, or do you choose to be free. Do you choose to love your life, or to hate it. Is your life worth dying for; Is your death worth living for? ‘Till the sheer joy of existence, drives you mad. Perhaps, you choose to hate your very existence, ’till its repugnance drives you insane… Or maybe, you choose to constantly float someplace in the middle; Ever fluctuating between madness, and insanity. Dwelling in a special little place between the two, lovingly called by the poor frightened sheeple who live there, sanity. Dutifully taking care of the worries as they come, and enjoying some occasional joy while floating above the doldrums.

I choose joy. I choose a bit of madness. You may choose as you like, which is why it is called a choice. A choice you get to make a hundred times a day. Will you do what is expected, or will you do what you want to do. Will you say what is customary, or will you say what is really on your mind?

Life is a series of choices, doing or not doing – To be or not to be – Be a round peg in a square hole, fit in… But don’t fit in. A circle has no corners in which shadows may hide. Don’t be a square, don’t fit into a box. When you are ‘square’, aspects of your true self, you hide in the corners. In shadows, that others may not know your true self, because of fear. Fear nothing; Do not fear nothing. A void is but an empty canvas, and a fully laden palette awaiting the artist’s stroke. That artist, is you. Be yourself, and encourage others to do likewise! If everyone spent more time being themselves, there would be a good deal fewer busy bodies.

 

 

 

by Thomas Alexander
Guest writer, In5D.com

About the author:  After many fruitless years of cubicle farm doldrums, I found a way out of the Matrix. The invisible ‘mind prison’, that keeps many firmly ensconced in their cubicles; Dutifully carrying out the bidding of their bovine overlords. I can show you the door, only you can open it.

-Thomas Alexander

Website: http://www.howtolarawith.me