JESSICA KLASSEN: “Allowing Nature To Be The Example For Our Children’s Bright Future”

“If we look at Nature, we see that absolutely everything within it is important and there for a reason. As we are all a part of Nature, this means that we are important and here for a reason as well.”

This is one of the key lessons that I teach, not only to my own 3 children, but to all of the children that I meet when I am touring with my book, “The Sapling.”

There is nothing within Nature that happens by accident. It is all planned and perfection. We are the same. There are no accidental or extra people on this Earth.

We all arrive with a gift to share, which is why it is so important that we grow into who we truly are, just like a tree, for example. Because if a tree did not grow into their full potential, we would all be denied their gifts, and look at how many of us would suffer. The rest of the world actually depends on us being true to ourselves.

And what about those people of the world who don’t seem to be contributing?

They are simply not in touch with who they really are and the true desires of their heart. When we turn to Nature and truly connect with the Earth, we become centered, grounded, and compassionate human beings. It is hard to deny our Soul’s longing within the authenticity of Nature.

“The Sapling” follows the journey of a little tree who feels small in a big world and becomes afraid to grow. With the encouragement of her friend, the Big Tree, she realizes there is nothing to fear and becomes the Tree she is meant to be.

As I’ve been touring schools, libraries, and daycares, I have been sharing this story as well as the lessons in energy and Nature communication. I absolutely love connecting with children and feel that I am learning more than I am teaching. I am happy to say that I have been pleasantly surprised at most places. I can see that the parents and teachers have been making Nature a priority within these children’s lives. These children are open and happy.

In others, unfortunately, even the children have become jaded and cynical, convinced that all that exists is what they can see, and even this is with a negative slant. This, of course, is no fault of their own. When I tell them that trees can talk to us, or that it was the trees who shared the idea for my book with me, they blurt out “that’s impossible!”

Such a sad statement from a little mouth. This is the time of their life when they should be reinforced with the knowledge that all things are possible.

Many schools and daycare centers are taking regular Nature walks and implementing gardens. I truly appreciate these wonderful teachers who are making the basic life skills and birthright of growing our own food a priority. Especially for the children who are not fortunate enough to learn these skills at home.

I have actually had some children ask me, “why would you grow it yourself when you can just go buy it?” When I reply that the veggies from the garden, either theirs or a local grower, are not only tastier but are more nutritious because they are fresh and grown in kinder conditions, they look at me as though I am some sort of alien.

I have been left questioning the motives of some teachers who are discouraging having gardens for the students because they “don’t have time” or “can’t be bothered.” Is the role of a teacher not to teach? Learning how to connect with the Earth and grow your own food, literally reap what you sow and see the rewards of your efforts, should be the basis of all curriculum. Where would any of us be without nutritous food?

I was speaking with a group of students recently, aged 12-14, and teaching them about Energy and how important healthy food is to maintain a harmonious and balanced life.

Their teacher, a morbidly obese woman, was sitting at her desk during this lesson, sucking on a can of Coca-Cola, proudly declaring that she was diabetic.

Thankfully, her students looked as disgusted as I was.

In my opinion, she should not be allowed to have this kind of toxic influence upon children. Not only that, I feel that if you know what is bad for you and you still refuse to clean up your lifestyle, you should be denied healthcare in regards to the health issue that you yourself are denying taking action towards reversing. If you want to willingly poison yourself and destroy the vessel you were granted, go for it. But I shouldn’t have to pay for it. I haven’t visited a doctor in years, and it is not just because I was blessed with good health. I have made a conscious, daily lifestyle choice to honor and respect my body.

In Canada we have free health care, which is a wonderful thing for some, but has also allowed others to be irresponsible. When you are hurt in an automobile accident and take disability because you are unable to work, you are watched quite closely to ensure that you are not “cheating the system.” Perhaps the same should happen to those with diagnosed health issues. They should be monitored to ensure they are following a plan of exercise and healthy diet, rather than happily taking the prescriptions and not changing anything else.

Needless to say, it is obvious that many of our teachers need to be de-programmed from our dysfunctional society.

I often ask Nature what needs to be shared, or what we need to know. The most recent message I was given was in regards to communicating with Nature, as well as with our own Souls. I was told, “The clearer your energy, the easier it will be. Think about it. How well can you communicate with someone who is drunk or stoned? This is how many of you appear.”

I take it that Nature sees many of us in a stupor, either from unhealthy food with additives and preservatives, drugs, both prescription and recreational, as well as our environment and unhealthy habits, be it smoking, gossip, or attachments to drama.

I absolutely love the way in which Nature speaks; straightforward and no-nonsense.

And this leads to Nature’s next message;

“Life’s only requests are that we show up and give our best.”

So how do we show up and give our best?

Bringing awareness to our Energy has become the basis of my teachings now, both with children and Nature Communication workshops.

Basically, we need to clean ourselves up first. This is how we will rise to our greatest potential. The Trees shared with me the importance of humanity understanding their Energy, and to become aware of what they were putting out into the world, and what they were taking in.

 

Some basics that I share to help others notice their Energy and bring it into/maintain balance:

 

Earthing:

Getting outside and noticing the natural world around us does wonders for our Energy bodies, and especially if we can do so in barefeet. As we are natural conductors, being that we are mostly made of water, we need to ground this energy out, and unless we are barefoot on the Earth, it is very hard to do.

When I make my visits, most kids LOVE to be barefoot, but many reply that their mothers do not allow it. Sometimes it is because they once happened to step on a bee or got a sliver. These random occurrences should not keep us from connecting with the Earth and absorbing her healing energies. Earthing has been proven to release inflammation from our bodies and reduce the risk of many common diseases, such as cancer.

In cold climates, such as Canada, going barefoot year round is not an option, but we have other ways we can ground our energy. Simply placing our hands upon a tree or a rock and asking them to ground us will do the trick as well. Grounding also helps us to release the energy of others that we have picked up as well.

Eating Healthy:

As mentioned earlier, eating healthy, living food, especially if it was grown yourself, is the greatest gift you can give to your body. Also, do yourself a favour and toss the microwave. They really do just scramble the Energy of our food and kill it. What is left is a toxic “filler” that will not nourish you, but instead slowly poison you.

Love Yourself:

As love is the most powerful energy of all, self-love keeps our energy bright and strong, fending off illness and revealing the true purpose of our hearts. It allows us to overcome all fears and obstacles. I would have never followed through with publishing my book if it was not for the daily practice of repeating “I love myself”, as well as looking myself in the eyes in front of a mirror while saying it. It truly moves mountains. Just as Nature has self-love and total confidence in her abilities, so should we.

Clean Environment:

Whether this is your home, your habits, or the people in your life, your environment should reflect the inner work that you are doing. Also, turn off wi-fi when you can, and limit time spent on all gadgets. When I place my hand near a device with wi-fi, it literally hurts. Our children are far more sensitve than we are, so even if they don’t realize it, it’s hurting them.

Understanding Energy:

Understanding the basics of Energy, such as, what we put out we attract back to ourselves. When the Trees shared this importance with me, they showed me how we all have these many pathways extending out from ourselves, much like the branches of a tree. As many of us are unaware of what we are putting out there, or “feeding” we often attract and create more situations that are unfavorable without even realizing it. These pathways of Energy are similar to a stream of water. We can stop feeding them and dry them up, or we can feed them and make them like a raging river. It is truly our choice what kind of pathways we wish to feed.

It is also important that we understand that Energy never dies, it only transforms.

I recently once again learned this lesson. It was in regards to a stand of Oak trees that I tried desperately to save from being bulldozed. Sadly, I didn’t succeed. Not long ago I drove by where they used to stand and I felt that same pain in my heart for them. I felt that I had failed them. Then I was suddenly flooded with the awareness that all of my fighting and tears that I cried was not in vain. That Energy was not lost. It is now fueling and supporting the work I am doing with “The Sapling.” It is strengthening my reach and the message of the trees.

Change the Way You Look at Nature and Yourself:

When we learn to observe without judgement and with appreciation for what we see, Nature quickly reveals that what you look at will change for the better. Wildlife will be attracted to you, people will surprise you in the greatest of ways, and you will do the same when you start to look at yourself this way.

We know when someone looks at us in a special way, and we naturally respond. I remember how my grandparents used to look at me with such wonder and gratitude. And I feel that I was often the brightest version of myself in their presence. Nature will do the same. It is as though she says, “Well if you think that is beautiful, then check this out!”

As I spend more and more time with more and more children, I realize that they know all of this but simply need the permission to feel it. To be reassured that magic is real and is found in the natural world all around us, and therefore within us as well. This is why I will have them feel their energy body within their hands. In this way they can feel something without seeing it.

I love watching their faces light up as they exclaim, “I can feel it!” They will share how their hands are either tingling, pulling, throbbing, being pulled together or throwing off sparks. I let them know that there is no wrong way to feel it, as everyone is different and unique. And even if they don’t feel it in their hands, it’s likely that they feel their energy flowing in their scalp, their feet, or in their chest.

It is fun to know that Nature can feel our Energy, either within our touch, our thoughts, our words, or even when we look at it. And the most comforting thing that I have learned is that Nature longs to feel us, our touch, and to absorb our Light. We are truly meant for one another, and living in harmony is possible once again for humanity to achieve, so long as our our children, the next caretakers, understand that this is not only possible, but necessary for our happiness and continued life upon this Earth.

I love teaching children that they have an impact on the world-as everything they think, say, feel, and do is Energy, and therefore affects the world around them.

I like to ask, “what kind of impact would you like to have on the world?”

As Nature keeps us in true, uninterrupted contact with our Highest potential, I find it no surprise that in all legends and many stories from our ancestry, that the “wise ones, wizards, and healers” almost always lived in seclusion in the woods. In this way, they stayed true to what was important, away from the programming and trappings of society.

They were able to commune with Nature and hear her wisdom, and in this way, help others.

The time for change is now. Nature is here to assist and help us through this window if we are willing.

She wants us to succeed and rise to our greatest potential, as she can see us, the true us that is Divine. She hurts for what we have become just as any parent would hurt for their children.

It is my hopes that all children never lose their sense of wonder and the knowing that this world is a magical place to be, so long as they keep their eyes, ears, and heart open to the truth.

I hope that you have found this helpful! I would love to hear from you via my website http://www.jessieklassen.com. While there, feel free to sign up for my free weeklyish newsletter where I share my lessons and experiences from living a life close to Nature.

Much love,
Jessie

 

About the author: Learn how to communicate with Nature while enjoying fun activities and energy exercises that will encourage spiritual growth, self-confidence, and awareness in you and your child while developing a close relationship with Nature in Jessie’s children’s book, “The Sapling.” An inspiring story from the Trees for the children of Earth, “The Sapling” has vivid, full color Nature illustrations that will appeal to younger children and powerful Life lessons that will grow with your child, just like a Tree! Full color demonstrations easily display dozens of activities and exercises for you and your child to enjoy. “The Sapling” is the first book in Jessie’s Nature Child Children’s Book Series, committed to helping children grow into who they truly are meant to be through a close relationship with Nature. It is available worldwide on Amazon, smashwords, and Barnes and Noble. A portion of proceeds will be donated to the Nature Conservancy of Canada and to the Treesisters for reforestation and the conservation of our Earth. Jessie is also a farmer, Reiki Master, and mother of 3 sensitive children. Deeply connected to Nature, she has been inspired to “share the words that Nature wants to have heard.”

 

 

~via BodyMindSoulSpirit.com

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NEZEL PADAYHAG: “Learning Your Chakra Type Is The First Step To Achieving Energetic Balance”

We are living between two worlds. The Outer World from where you recharge and exercise your energy and the Inner World from where you find connection and direction of energy. You need to have balance between these two worlds to balance your energies.

Real balance means having a roof over your head, food to eat, clothes to keep you warm, a place to call your home, a deep connection with yourself, good relationships, and a strong connectedness with the Source and the world. It’s not one or the other, it’s both!

Real balance us difficult to achieve when your chakras or energy centers aren’t balanced. If some of your chakras are overactive, and other are underactive you will live in a reality created mainly by the overactive chakras and you’ll be out of balance.

The truth is your energy is specific only to you. Thus, the first thing you need to do is know what chakra dominant type are you.

When you identify with your chakra dominant type you will know what you need to work on. When you achieve real energetic balance you will unlock your true energetic potential.

What’s Your Chakra Type?

1. Upper Chakra Dominant Type

If you’re the upper chakra dominant type, then you don’t have problems connecting with your spiritual and Higher Self.

You may have satisfying relationships and you are probably in the best of your health, but your problem lies in keeping yourself grounded.

This means you have struggles providing for your physical needs. Your higher chakras are overflowing with energies but your lower chakras are barely making it.

Working with your lower chakras is the first step to balancing your energies and achieving real abundance.

You need to meet your basic physical needs, connect with yourself and other people on a deeper emotional level and take more action to know yourself better.

2. Lower Chakra Dominant Type

The lower chakra dominant types are the wealthy people who have all the luxuries in life but are miserable, unhappy, and aren’t at peace.

The energies in their lower chakras are so high but they get stuck in the middle, thus an imbalance exists.

Physically and materially they are abundant but spiritually they are in poverty. And in order for them to achieve their true potential they need to reach spirituality.

What you need is, to work on your higher chakras to achieve balance and unlock your true energetic potential.

You need to express yourself, listen to your intuition and open your mind.

3. The Split

You are a split type if you can go back and forth from having high energy levels in the upper chakras to high energy levels in the lower chakras.

The problem lies in having a weak middle, the part that keeps the flow and the balance.

You often gravitate and go forth between the opposites.

What you need to work on is your middle chakras, the heart, throat or the solar plexus.

You need to open your heart, express yourself better and know yourself more.

The Chakras Work Best When They Work Together:

Whatever chakras are dominant in yourself, you need to know that all of them work the best when they work together.

Nurture your balanced chakras and work on the ones you are neglecting because their inactivity blocks your way of achieving energetic balance..

You also need to take note that you can be a mix of the three types.

Knowing yourself better is the key to knowing the energies that you lack.

When you are being balanced you are empowered from within.

 

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

ALETHEIA LUNA: “9 Ways to Awaken the Divine Masculine Within You”

If any human being is to reach full maturity both the masculine and feminine sides of the personality must be brought up into consciousness.

—M. Esther Harding

 

We hear a lot these days about wild women, female spiritual ascension, and the awakening of the sacred feminine. Go on any form of social media and you’re bound to find discussion surrounding sisterhood, female mysticism, womb magic, and contacting/worshiping the goddess within.

While it is important that we honor the divine feminine, we must not forget that the divine masculine is alive within each and every one of us as well.

The only way we can truly become awakened and spiritually mature beings is to integrate both sides of our nature as men and women — not simply one above the other.

Why Has the Divine Masculine Been Ignored?

How often have you seen the divine masculine discussed or revered (as opposed to the divine feminine)? Be honest: not much. Maybe a few people here and there have touched on the matter… but overall people aren’t paying that much attention to the topic.

Let’s face it. There’s not an overwhelmingly large number of positive role models out there of the divine masculine. In fact, to come across a truly mature and integrated male is rather like stumbling upon a rare delicacy or mythical unicorn.

Why is this the case?

The unfortunate reality is that up until this point in history, we have mostly been presented with the shadow side of the masculine. We have seen how bloodthirsty, arrogant, domineering, and destructive masculine energy can be. Therefore, most of us have lost our interest, and dare I say respect, for this fundamental aspect of existence.

The tragic truth is that most of the large-scale suffering in history has been instigated, inflicted, and/or carried out by men. And until this day “The Man” (a phrase that refers to governments/authorities) continues to inflict oppression and spread greed, prejudice, and corruption.

The crusades and witch hunts, two major world wars, genocides, tribal race wars, dictators, terrorist groups, fundamentalist religions/cults, and the mass rape and murder committed across the world… I could go on and on about the atrocities committed largely by men. It’s no wonder that many people have a bad taste in their mouth and the divine masculine is being ignored.

Benefits of Awakening the Divine Masculine

Here’s what you can expect to experience once you begin this type of work:

  • More self-confidence
  • Enhanced ability to be objective
  • Improved critical thinking/analytical skills
  • Emotional balance
  • Connection to the Warrior within
  • Increased ability to set strong boundaries
  • More self-assertiveness
  • Enhanced will-power
  • Improved self-discipline
  • Mental clarity

9 Ways to Awaken the Divine Masculine Within You

As I said previously, spiritual maturity is about nurturing, honoring, and balancing both sides of your nature. And ALL men, women, and non-binaries/trans, possess both the masculine and feminine aspect inside.

Ignoring, suppressing, demonizing, or treating one type of energy as “less than” another is immature and ultimately creates suffering. Don’t give fuel to your shadow self. Don’t perpetuate more division within this world. Learn how to awaken both types of energy within yourself in a healthy way. Here’s how:

1. Examine your wounds surrounding the Masculine

As a male or female (or non-binary), what has your experience been like with men? Have you had supportive male figures in your life (e.g. your father and/or brothers)? Have you experienced mostly abusive relationships/connections with men? Or have you experienced a little bit of both?

Examining your wounds will help you to examine any unconscious beliefs, biases, or prejudice you have towards men. These mental and emotional blockages are very revealing and will help you to develop and strengthen a healthy bond with your inner divine masculine. Write down your experiences and reflect on the themes that arise such as abandonment, friendship, alienation, love/hate, emotional connection/distance etc.

2. Take self-responsibility

Look after yourself. Own your actions. Take responsibility for your happiness. Don’t permit yourself to become a victim who needs to be “rescued.” To awaken the divine masculine, you need to be accountable for your thoughts, feelings, and choices. Don’t blame other people when things go wrong; this is pointless and a waste of energy. Respect yourself, be mature, and reclaim your warrior energy.

3. Contact your inner Father

We all possess many sides of our nature. Psychologist Carl Jung called the different faces of our psyches “archetypes.” The Father is a universal archetype that we all carry inside, regardless of whether we’re male or female. One powerful way of awakening your divine masculine is to contact this inner Father and develop a relationship with it. I recommend practices such as journalling, various forms of artistic expression such as painting, automatic writing, and even using tarot as a way of contacting your inner Father. Explore what he wants to share with you. Remember that your inner Father is kind and benevolent. In what ways can you father yourself better or be the father that you never really had?

4. Deconstruct your conditioning

What have you been conditioned to believe about “what it means to be a man”? We collectively and individually carry so much baggage when it comes to defining masculinity. Common forms of conditioning that many of us have received regarding men include, for example:

  • Men shouldn’t cry (because it makes you a “wimp/sissy”)
  • Men must be stoic and not express their emotions
  • Men must have a successful career
  • Men must be the head of the household
  • Men are primarily logical and left-brain oriented
  • Men have to be interested in sport
  • Men are the protectors of women and children
  • Men must “dominate” women physically, sexually, and career-wise
  • Men are expected to be aggressively self-confident
  • Men must look strong and have muscles

Can you think of any other forms of conditioning that I have left out?

Once you have discovered what your culture has taught you about men, you will be more capable of consciously redefining what masculinity means to you. This will allow you to develop a healthy relationship with your inner divine masculine. Ask yourself, “what does mature and balanced masculinity look like to me?”

5. Find a masculine teacher/guide/figure you admire

Thankfully there are some wonderful examples of embodied divine masculine energy out there. These men may be among your inner circle of friends or family members (and if so, feel blessed!). If you don’t know anyone who reflects the divine masculine in your life, don’t worry. You aren’t short of options out there!

There are many teachers alive today who embody the divine masculine. There are also deceased teachers from the past who express masculine energy in a mature way. Don’t be afraid to use fictional heroes or mythical gods as your guides either. Just ensure that you don’t idealize or worship these figures — simply admire, respect, and learn from them. Ultimately, what is important is that you learn from these role models and embody + express your own inner divine masculine.

6. Connect with your inner Warrior

The inner Warrior is another face or expression of the divine masculine. But please don’t mistake what I’m saying for the way warriors are portrayed in modern times. Your inner Warrior isn’t interested in dominating, killing others, or “fighting for peace.” Your inner Warrior supports and protects you. He takes no bullshit. He will defend your rights peacefully but assertively. He will cut through the lies and see with clarity. He values truth, courage, and inner strength.

When you bring more of the Warrior energy into your life, you are awakening the divine masculine. You are reconnecting to the Wholeness deep within yourself. To build a strong connection with this energy, you might like to explore the look and feel of your inner Warrior. What is his personality like? What does he enjoy doing? When does he already appear in your life? And in what areas could you benefit more from his presence? Examples of ways to connect with your inner Warrior include practicing martial arts, boxing, vigorous exercise, guided visualizations, becoming an activist, yang yoga, artistic self-expression… and the list goes on.

7. Be assertive and stick up for yourself

Being assertive isn’t about being angry or confrontational, nor is it about throwing yourself in another person’s face. To be assertive is to respect yourself and your needs. If you’re a quiet person or introvert, it’s likely that you struggle with assertiveness (I’ve explored how to overcome that passivity in my book Quiet Strength).

One of the best ways to start with being assertive is to define your needs. What need is not being met? How do you feel when your boundaries are being overstepped? Assertiveness requires courage, so it is important to take little steps. Above all, always remember that your needs and opinions are just as valid as anyone else’s.

8. Stand in a confident way

Our body language has a powerful impact on how we feel (and vice versa). Try this experiment for a moment: let your shoulders drop forward, hunch over, and cross your arms so you’re in a “C” shape. How do you feel? Now straighten your back and shoulders and let your chest be exposed so you’re in an “l” shape. How do you feel?

Although it might be uncomfortable and foreign at first, improving your posture will help to send the unconscious signal that you are confident, calm, and secure in yourself. This is an amazingly simple way to get in touch with your divine masculine side.

9. Stop being passive, start being active

Be the instigator, initiator, and giver within your relationships (and life in general). Take the initiative to go out of your way to set goals, make plans, and work towards what you dream about. Don’t let passivity make you apathetic and lazy. Feed your inner fire and do something with it.

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If you work with essential oils or herbs, you may like explore herbs such as licorice root, damiana, ashwagandha, and essential oils such as cypress, cedarwood, sandalwood, and vetiver to supplement the advice in this article.

If you work with crystals, you may like to incorporate the following stones into your rituals: shiva lingam, red jasper, green tourmaline, tiger eye, pyrite, malachite, and labradorite.

Ultimately, there is no division in life — it is the human mind that likes to label and separate things. The masculine and feminine are therefore two sides of the same coin. I hope this article has inspired you to create more balance and wholeness in your life.

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~via LonerWolf.com

SUSAN VIVYAN: “The Still Point Creates Balance Within You”

Amidst the chatter (inner or outer) remember the still point within you.  You can find your still point via meditation, yoga or any activity connecting you to your flow.  The still point is when you touch the Oneness of All dissolving any worries, fears or concerns and you are immersed in the present moment.

Even for a moment in your conventional time when you find your still point balance is created within your total being.  This still point has nothing to do with time as you know it.  You can be at the still point for a moment and it will extend to other areas of your life unbeknownst to you.  Of course being at the still point every moment of your waking life would allow a clearer perspective.  However, the balance is achieved when the still point and your groundedness to the earth balance one another.

As you become a more integrated multidimensional being the ability to integrate the still point and the groundingness of being on Earth is easier in your time (as you know it).

Being in the flow is different for everyone whether it be meditation, yoga, art, dance, being in nature, or work allowing the inner core full expression.  One activity is no better than the other.  One has to find the activity which activates the flow, the still point where you find your eternal limitless self.

You language is limited, your perspective expanding.  There will come to be a point in time when time is limitless, matters less and there will be other meant to communicate other than verbal exchange.  It is happening NOW.  The still point takes you to the place where words, time, self disappears and your Soul Essence connects to the Oneness of All.  Work that is expansive enhances the Still point that balances the higher dimensions with the earthly reality, aligns the chakras, balancing the masculine and feminine energies.

Find, discover, and explore ways to find your still point.  No pressure.  Play and have fun!

 

 

~via In5D.com

MATEO SOL: “5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know”

If you have grown up as a male in our society you’ve been taught one very clear message: emotions are a weakness, big boys don’t cry.

Being “strong” means you have to be forceful, aggressive, competitive and largely unemotional. If for some reason you are born sensitive, cooperative and compassionate, you are perceived as “weak,” “effeminate” or “weird.”

Throughout history, men have gained their identity, peer respect and self-worth through status, sexual prowess and money all of which contributed to their sense of power. In a physically demanding hunter-gatherer and agricultural world, men had to be the warriors that shouldered the responsibility of providing for their families. But now as women have become more independent with our society shifting to value mental labor over physical labor, men are struggling to let go of their old warrior habits and role dynamics.

However, regardless of our external bodies and sexual orientations, we all carry differing degrees of masculine and feminine energy. Some people will carry equal amounts, others will carry more of one than of the other (which might oppose their physical bodies), as can be seen in females referred to as “tomboys” and sensitive men.

It saddens me to see so many fellow men who outright ignore their sensitivity, or are aware of it but choose to reject or hide it. Many people associate sensitivity with neuroticism or low self-esteem, and courage with “numbing the pain.”

Sensitivity and courage are not mutually exclusive. To be sensitive is to be aware of the feelings and perspectives of other people as well as your own. To be courageous means to be completely aware and to feel fear yet to still fight for what you feel is right or what you want.

In fact sensitivity and courage can compliment each other; the greater your sensitivity and fear is, the greater your courage has to be to fight through it.

In psychology, Carl Jung was aware of the differences between masculine and feminine energy, and divided them into his Anima and Animus Archetypes. Personally, I’ve found that by embracing my sensitivity as a male and using it alongside my logic and courage, I have become a much wholer human being. In the end, to be intelligent is useless unless you can combine it with sensitivity. When intelligence is filtered through sensitivity, it becomes wisdom.

5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know

Here are some vital lessons I’ve learned as a sensitive man that I want to pass on:

1. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Deeper Connections

When a man is capable of transforming his insecurity about being sensitive into something empowering, it can allow him to create deeper connections with others. For instance, I’ve found that when I go beyond simply sharing factual information and opinions with my male friends, I see a whole new side to them which is more meaningful and creates a deeper long-term bond.

2. Sensitivity Encourages Emotional Maturity

I feel that the evolution of men will be one towards a balance of strength and sensitivity. One of the biggest struggles for men in relationships is to openly express their emotions or show vulnerability. This emotional distancing is done to display “strength,” but quite often the more sensitive female lover perceives this as ambivalence, being “unavailable” or even a phobia towards commitment. To be able to give love, show love and receive love freely is incredibly attractive.

3. Sensitivity Makes You More Body-Conscious

Sensual awareness is not limited to sex (although it does make you a better lover), but rather, it extends to the body as well. The greater your sensitivity is to your body and its senses, the more you’ll learn about yourself, the better you’ll be able to take care of yourself, and the healthier you’ll feel. However, I’ve observed that often many sensitive male students of mine have tried to drown their emotions out with food as an unconscious buffer.

As a sensitive man, I’ve discovered a variety of foods that I can feel my body quickly rejects by making me feel subtly ill. I’ve also learned that having long hair not only allows me to express my Anima externally, but it also serves as an extension of my nervous system amplifying my empathic senses. It’s no surprise that the Incas, Mayas, the Samurai and the Native Americans were aware of this (the latter using their hair almost like “antennae.”)

4. Sensitivity Allows You to Become More Creative

Creativity is not the result of logical empirical deduction, it is the child of playfulness and sensitivity. Creativity is born in the right side of the brain instead of the left.

To be a painter, writer, musician, actor, photographer or anything creative requires a sensitivity towards beauty and emotion.

5. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Spiritually

A thirst for wisdom and truth can only come to those who possess a spiritual sensitivity. To strive toward a better society and the peace of man demands an immense amount of courage to stand up against the status quo and a great spiritual sensitivity to question it.

Jesus, Buddha, the Dalai Lama, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther King Jr. were all figures who possessed this quality to speak the truth and question cultural morality, virtue and justice. Many people who have embraced their sensitivity will know that they are often the ones whom their friends come to, to ask for counsel and advice.

How to Embrace Your Sensitivity

In our society men are rarely taught how to express their feelings, and so it can be very difficult to know where or how to begin. In fact, if you are like most men, you’ll find it difficult to even become aware of what you’re feeling in the first place, e.g. how the mood of your boss may be affecting you, or how the stress from your busy schedule is making you short-tempered. And when someone asks how you are, you are so disconnected from your emotions that you’ll resort to the habitual “I’m fine,” making it harder for anyone to provide any support.

Ignoring feelings won’t making them disappear though, in fact, the more we ignore our feelings the larger they’ll grow. I’ve often seen men who appear to be well and calm before they burst out in an explosion of anger or rage when something bad happens. It’s often these very same men who become isolated and depressed due to their tendency to avoid and limit their social contact to avoid emotional vulnerability.

How do we embrace our sensitivity? Recognizing and accepting ourselves as sensitive men is the first step. No matter what “macho” ideals you’ve been taught, sensitivity is a gift, not a weakness. To be more empathetic and to be able to appreciate art, music and beauty, is a blessing. While burying our feelings is certainly easier, acknowledging our feelings helps us to empower ourselves which requires much more courage, and is a lot more rewarding. Can you imagine how many wars and ecological forms of destruction could have been avoided if we all cultivated greater sensitivity?

The next step is to examine your feelings about sensitivity. Is it a “weakness” or some kind of illness to you? You’ll have to change the core beliefs you hold about masculine sensitivity in order to accept it. Only after this can you integrate aspects of your sensitivity into your daily life. You can do this by changing your old habits of ignoring or hiding your sensitivity and instead decide to slowly process through them, expressing them to yourself and your trusted loved ones.

It takes time and effort, but changing our personal paradigms is essential in order to embrace our own sense of personal power. It’s time to change this outdated male ideal of aggressiveness, thick-skin and emotional retardation. By empowering sensitive men with self-confidence, we’ll all contribute to a more peaceful, balanced and healthy planet.

Once you become aware of your feelings and have learned to express them, you’ll begin drawing loving people into your life, you’ll be able to help others through their own problems, and you’ll be able to feel as though every part of you is living life to the fullest.

 

 

~via LonerWolf.com