MATEO SOL: “6 Ways You Hinder Your Self-Growth Without Knowing It”

Our “self-esteem” is a very delicate illusion. We are so off-centered when it comes to locating the origin of our self-worth, that the smallest realization of an imperfection in ourselves can bring up all kinds of insecurities.

When a person begins working with their soul, they will start through self-exploration to gain energy, vitality, and clarity. They will also, however, notice the ‘shock’ of beginning to see their own unconscious selves and their deep inner fragmentation (e.g: all your sub-personalities).

These contradictions within ourselves that speak of who we truly are beyond the social and cultural conditioning in our lives, are humbling, but more importantly, they can also be disturbing. If we were to discover and consciously become aware of all these contradictions at once, the shock would be so great we would most likely go insane.

Our brains have a limited capacity to process all the intellectual and sensory information that we encounter at any given moment, and because of this the unconscious mind exists. In essence, the unconscious mind is a psychological “buffer” which is a part of the brain that stores all the unprocessed information the conscious mind can’t handle.

The unconscious mind works as a shock-absorber, and in psychology this is known as a “defense mechanism”. There are an infinity of defense mechanisms going on within us at any given moment, but these are some of the most common I’ve observed in our practices:

Innocent Bystander

One of the greatest hindrances in anybody’s journey of self-growth is to fool themselves into thinking they haven’t done anything wrong. This may be why the recovering addict’s first step is to acknowledge they have a problem. Most people live in denial or avoidance of exploring themselves because it keeps them from properly recognizing their more unsavory traits and capacities.

“The world is screwed up but I’m completely guilt free” is their basic outlook on life. They refuse to see the interconnection between their actions and lifestyle with the external world around them.

Innocent Critic

This defense mechanism is very similar to the Innocent Bystander, only this one avoids guilt by actively criticizing the world and people around them. Criticizing is our way of rebelling against society and wanting to find a way out, of wanting to be outside of the ‘herd’ while still feeling a sense of false participation.

Critical thought is a necessary instrument in any persons self-growth. But often these “critics” use critical thinking as way of boosting their ego, to feel smarter than the ‘herd’ who haven’t realized what the critic has. Unfortunately, noticing what’s wrong with the state of affairs of the world isn’t enough unless you actively apply a solution to the problem. It’s the essential difference between the paths of self-discovery and self-understanding.

Suppression

Unquestionably, a major obstacle in living a fulfilling life to the maximum of your potential is your inability to be authentic to yourself (it’s the key element in Self-Love). All too often we live with an inner tension of controlling desires that we fear will be socially unacceptable. Let’s say you like a movie or a song that you know your friends don’t like, or maybe you are attracted to someone you know everyone will disapprove of, so you suppress that feeling.

The suppression won’t make the feeling go away, in fact, what happens is that you might be so good at suppressing the feelings that your unconscious mind learns to switch between your authentic self (“I like this person or thing”) to your false sub-personality (“I don’t like the person or thing anymore”).

In the end, the unconscious defense mechanism of “suppression” is protecting you from experiencing confusion as to whether you like something or not by jumping from one extreme to the other. Not only does suppression hinder your self-growth, but it can also contribute towards emotional, psychological and physical repression resulting in a host of sicknesses.

Repression

Repression differentiates from suppression in one important way. While suppression is initially a conscious process of having a desire and learning to avoid or ignore is, repression is an entirely unconscious process.

For example, you might have had a traumatizing experience as a child that unconsciously affected your feelings towards whatever the experience involved. This unconscious defense mechanism basically serves to protect you from feeling pain or other difficult emotions connected to the memories of what is being repressed.

Sometimes, religious beliefs or social conditioning can be so strong that desires that would normally be consciously suppressed (such as sexuality for instance), become automatically unconsciously repressed. You don’t even become aware of what exactly were the desires of your original authentic self, and this makes you completely out of touch with your true self. This self-denying defense mechanism makes it very difficult to learn and cultivate Self-Love.

Reactive Extremes

In psychology the technical term is “reactive formation”, and this is something you’ll observe everywhere. The nature of the unconscious mind is that it requires absolute certainties — it needs to see the world in black or white. There is no grey, or “in between”.

Many people who had a very strict religious upbringing for example, grow older and become disillusioned with the dogmatic ideas they’ve been taught. These people unconsciously find atheism a very attractive option, and become fanatical anti-God advocates, almost dogmatically. Another example of a reactive extreme is the person who finds it difficult to deal with, or understand, other people, and as a reaction decides to become a hermit and go live in the mountains.

Going to reactive extremes can also be illustrated in the case of sour grapes (or the false pretense that we don’t care for something we really do care for, which can be illustrated in the Fox and the Grapes fable). In this situation, our unconscious mind realizes that we are fixated on a certain topic so it protects us by going from one extreme to the other, e.g. from love to hatred.

Blameless Victim

I’m sure we’ve all come across an angry victim of life, someone who blames other people or the world for their difficulties. But everyone uses blame as a defense mechanism to some extent. In truth, what we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.

To indulge in blame is to give up personal responsibility and mentally delegate it to someone else, convincing ourselves that we are not responsible for the state of our lives, instead blaming it on some “outside force”. The blameless victim mechanism blocks us from seeing clearly just how we are contributing to our own suffering.

Essentially, the blameless victim is one of the fiercest protectors of our ego. It causes us to feel that we’re never failing ourselves, or that we lack the maturity or strength to come to terms with the reality of the situations we’re confronted with. Whatever happened is not evidence of our own inadequacy, but of someone else’s.

Have you observed any defense mechanisms in yourselves or in others? Let me know in the comments below!

 

~via Wake-UpWorld.com

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INSPIRATION FOR THE DAY ~ Nickolas Patrick Joseph Schoff: “Quieting The Mind”

It’s time to quiet yourself

Not physically and not externally, but rather quieting yourself internally. Quiet the voice you identify as you. That voice; it is not you. It is only an aspect of you. An aspect of you that resides here in the third dimension. That same voice and the two lower voices come together to create what you think of as “your” voice. Its the same voices that analyze, criticize, hate, and doubt. Its time to finally shut those people up. You do not need it anymore. Simply let it wash away and silence it. Once you quiet that specific voice and let go of control within your head, you will be able to hear a myriad of other voices. Other voices that still sound like you but have distinct differences in the kind of messages they send. These higher voices or your “Higher Selves” can only be heard when all the chatter stops from the lower three.

It’s time to start looking inward

…instead of looking towards the external to tell us what we already know deep inside. I know we’ve all heard that “the answers you seek are inside of you”, but how many of us truly understand what that means? These higher voices I speak of are the “inner knower”. They reside at a higher vibration or dimension if you will. Dimensions being frequency bands or spectrum’s. And because these voices reside at such a high base frequency, they have access to the dimension of infinite knowing. Dimensions where all data exists. So if your questions or problems seemingly don’t have a solution in the 3D, then you look inward using meditation, extreme focus and thought control. Listen for the answer from within and make sure it resonates. You don’t want to be taking any answers from the voices that doubt and hate. Don’t hate these lower voices or reject them. Simply understand that these are their answers from their perspective.

Remember that when you look inward, right and wrong no longer apply nor need to be labels anymore. Everything has its purpose. Arguing over right and wrong is the same as arguing over left or right. They’re both the right direction; depending on your point of view. They’ll both lead to the same location but the real question is how fast will this direction take to get there? How many dead ends or accidents are involved in this route. Is it worth running out of gas and doubling back to the best route? Or do you just start on the best route because it’s what’s best for YOU? Everyone else benefits too but mostly importantly YOU. It’s important to look at this data from a non biased perspective. I like to use visualizations of floating above and out of my body when I’m making important decisions. It puts you in the shoes of no one, yet everyone. A very important, neutral position where human judgment and hate are hard to reach.

I wish I could say awakening is easy and I really wish I could give you all the answers, but you didn’t come here for that. You didn’t come here to just be told the answers. You came here to find them for yourself. To EXPERIENCE it yourself. You chose to come to challenge yourself and what you know as your reality. And no, no one ever promised you that this would be easy. Nothing good or worth it comes easily.

I’d like to share with you the “keys” that got me where I am today.

1. Never live in fear

I repeat, NEVER think or make your decisions based on fear. Fear of being alone, broke, or even death. A decision made out of fear results in greed, lust, gluttony, adultery, murder, etc. Sound familiar? Replace fear with love and gratitude. Fear needs an illusion to survive, remember that. Understand fear and anxiety for what they truly are, a simple illusion because you forgot you are infinite in life and love.

2. The Middle Ground:

Within the middle ground is the new direction. The trinity of two extremes. When in doubt, the middle ground or neutrality is usually the safe bet. But in order to find the middle ground, an understanding of both extremes is necessary. Moderation is different for everything which requires caution and observation to find. You do not need to always make mistakes to figure things out. The quiet observation of the world around you reveals everything.

3. The answer’s always right in front of your face:

So many times the revelation I sought was staring me in the face the entire time I was searching for it. What I realized is that the universe not only just works through the voices in your head, but also through the eternal. Events, conversations, Internet, music, numbers are all different ways the Universe can communicate to you. Stop and listen.

4. As above, so below; As below, so above

 

5. Stay calm in Chaos.

 

6. You can do ANYTHING. Literally.

Don’t limit yourself. Don’t try, just do. The biggest thing that prevents people from being able to control your body, feelings, emotions, and thoughts is that we’ve been bred and trained to believe that we can’t. So stop using the term I can’t all together. We are gods, not metaphorically but literally. We are in control of the most power piece of technology known to man. OUR BODY. It is but a tool for our consciousness. Removing this old programming is one of the hardest things you will have to do when ascending. But it’s so worth it once you develop that control. Self control is but a muscle.

7. Don’t be upset when things don’t happen the way you want.

Yes, this is contradictory to number 6, and thus is the nature of the universe. You can do anything but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you at this moment in time. If a door is closed, that just means that’s not the door for you. That’s closed door is not the path you have chosen. Though maybe you could’ve beat down the door and pry it open, but you’ll find everything you didn’t want behind it. Remember to see the big picture when bad things happen. If something bad happened, maybe if it didn’t, something even worse may have happened.

These are some of the things I wish I was told about Awakening.

Remember to stay in Love and Light. Be kind, be generous. Help those around you in need. Guide and provide wisdom when asked. And remember to still have fun and don’t take yourself or your past too seriously.

Meditation is simply listening to these voices.

Victory of the Light!

Nickolas Patrick Joseph Schoff

 

 

~via In5D.com