Personality Traits

November 13, 2020

LISA RENEE: “Narcissistic Wound”

“The narcissist actively solicits Narcissistic Supply — adulation, compliments, admiration, subservience, attention, being feared — from others in order to sustain his fragile and dysfunctional Negative Ego. Thus, he constantly courts possible rejection, criticism, disagreement, and even mockery. The narcissist is, therefore, dependent on other people. He is aware of the risks associated with such all-pervasive and essential dependence. He resents his weakness and dreads possible disruptions in the flow of his drug: Narcissistic Supply. He is caught between the rock of his habit and the hard place of his frustration. No wonder he is prone to raging, lashing and acting out, and to pathological, all-consuming envy (all expressions of pent-up aggression). Narcissistic injury occurs when a narcissist feels that their hidden, ‘true self’ has been revealed. This may be the case when the narcissist experiences a ‘fall from grace’, such as when their hidden behaviors or motivations are revealed, or when their importance is brought into question. Narcissistic Injury is a cause of distress and can lead to dysregulation of behaviors as in narcissistic rage. Any threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist’s grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack thereof). The narcissist has a false sense of self. Underlying this false sense of self are feelings that he is not loveable for who he is or what he offers in relationships. When a lover or partner begins to feel doubts about the narcissist, that is when the narcissistic rage surfaces.”

~Lisa Renee

 

A repeated or recurrent identical or similar threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist’s grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Identity) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack thereof). Narcissistic rage is a reaction to narcissistic injury, which is a perceived threat to a narcissist’s self-esteem or self-worth.

Narcissistic injury occurs when a narcissist feels that their hidden, ‘true self’ has been revealed. This may be the case when the narcissist experiences a “fall from grace”, such as when their hidden behaviors or motivations are revealed, or when their importance is brought into question. Narcissistic Injury is a cause of distress and can lead to dysregulation of behaviors as in narcissistic rage.

Narcissistic rage occurs on a continuum, which may range from instances of aloofness and expressions of mild irritation or annoyance to serious outbursts, including violent attacks and murder. [1]

Narcissistic Scar

A repeated or recurrent psychological defense against a narcissistic wound. Such a narcissistic defense is intended to sustain and preserve the narcissist’s grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack thereof).

Narcissists invariably react with narcissistic rage to narcissistic injury.

Narcissistic Injury

Any threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist’s grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack thereof).

The narcissist actively solicits Narcissistic Supply — adulation, compliments, admiration, subservience, attention, being feared — from others in order to sustain his fragile and dysfunctional Negative Ego. Thus, he constantly courts possible rejection, criticism, disagreement, and even mockery.

The narcissist is, therefore, dependent on other people. He is aware of the risks associated with such all-pervasive and essential dependence. He resents his weakness and dreads possible disruptions in the flow of his drug: Narcissistic Supply. He is caught between the rock of his habit and the hard place of his frustration. No wonder he is prone to raging, lashing and acting out, and to pathological, all-consuming envy (all expressions of pent-up aggression).

Four dimensions of narcissism as a personality variable have been delineated:

  1. Leadership / Authority
  2. Superiority / Arrogance
  3. Self-Absorption / Self-Admiration
  4. Exploitativeness / Entitlement

Causes of Narcissistic Rage

Challenge to their Confidence: People with narcissism often place unrealistic demands on their partner or children. These demands are frequently challenged by the person in the relationship. When challenged, the narcissists’ brittle egos are unable to accept the idea that they were wrong or seen as imperfect. They turn this into a personal attack and respond with rage toward that person to regain their sense of superiority.

Injury to Self-Esteem: When a narcissist’s shortcomings are pointed out by someone, they feel an overwhelming sense of shame. The narcissist then lashes out toward the person who pointed out the shortcomings. The rage is executed to seek revenge upon the accuser. The need for revenge results in explosive rage and does not die down until the narcissist feels the person was dealt appropriate punishment.

False Sense of Self: The narcissist has a false sense of self. Underlying this false sense of self are feelings that he is not loveable for who he is or what he offers in relationships. When a lover or partner begins to feel doubts about the narcissist, that is when the narcissistic rage surfaces. [2]

 

References:

  1. Narcissistic Rage and Injury
  2. Narcissistic Wound

See Also:

Narcissistic Rage

Doublespeak

Denial

Confirmation Bias

 

~via Ascension Glossary

August 27, 2019

JEAN M. TWENGE, PhD: “Is Donald Trump Actually Insecure Underneath?”

I’m often asked how you can spot a narcissist. Here’s my standard list:

  • Brag or show off
  • Name-dropping
  • Name brands or flashy possessions
  • Look at themselves in the mirror a lot
  • Turn the conversation back to him/herself
  • Insults others
  • Declarations about being the “best” or “great” without details
  • Emphasizes his/her status

I wrote that list two years ago — long before Donald Trump started running for president. Yet it could have been written just for him. As others have pointed out, the Donald is a textbook case of narcissistic personality. He is clearly functioning well and thus can’t be classified as having narcissistic personality disorder, the clinical-level form, which by definition only describes someone whose traits are causing them difficulty. Trump, instead, displays narcissism as a personality trait — the type we focus on in The Narcissism Epidemic.

Here’s the question: Is Trump’s narcissism a cover for insecurity? This is known as the “mask model” — the idea that grandiose narcissism is a show to distract people from the deep psychic pain underneath. A recent piece in Time made this claim, arguing that Trump is trying to cover for a “profound insecurity and lack of self-esteem.”

Here’s the problem: At least for grandiose narcissism like Trump’s, there’s no evidence that the mask model is true. Narcissists have high self-esteem on average, not low, and the most aggressive people are those with both high narcissism and high self-esteem. Children who become narcissistic are not those shamed by their parents, but those told they are special.

Perhaps the best evidence comes from studies measuring self-esteem in a subtle way, such as with an implicit self-esteem measure recording people’s reaction time in pairing words like “I” and “me” with words like “bad” and “good.” People who score high on grandiose narcissism also score high on implicit self-esteem. In other words, deep down inside, narcissists think they are awesome.

This is also just plain common sense: Does Trump really seem like he is insecure underneath? Does he seem to be in a state of psychic pain, or even covering for one? No — he’s having the time of his life. So why does he seem to crave all of the attention and adulation? The Time article argues that Trump is trying to fill a deep “psychic hole.”

I have a more straightforward explanation: He likes all of the attention because he thinks he deserves it. It’s never enough not because of psychic pain, but because he thinks everyone should pay attention to him. Attention is fun and gratifying; it has nothing to do with insecurity.

Why the Mask Model of Narcissism Is Dangerous

I will go further: I think it’s dangerous to believe that narcissists are insecure underneath. Not only is it not supported by empirical evidence, but it promotes the idea that the way to deal with narcissists is to boost their self-esteem and heal their “wounds” through more love and affection. This is like suggesting that the way to cure obesity is by giving everyone more doughnuts. The narcissistic person who ruins relationships through his self-centeredness does not need more love or attention — he needs to get kicked to the curb. The young adult who takes advantage of everyone around her does not need her self-esteem boosted — she needs to learn responsibility.

Narcissism is known as the “disease that hurts other people,” and the cure for it is real life — losing a relationship because of selfishness, losing a job because you’ve alienated people. Yes, we should try to understand narcissists and realize that their behavior is explained by this personality trait. But that does not mean we should believe that they are actually insecure — that myth undermines our understanding of narcissism because it presumes that it’s only skin-deep.

Many, many people have been hurt in relationships with narcissists by believing that they can change the person with more love. If only that were true — but sadly, most of the time, it’s not. We can have empathy for people with narcissistic traits, but that does not mean we have to believe they are suffering underneath. Most of the time, they are making other people suffer. They won’t suffer themselves until bad things start happening to them, often as a consequence of their narcissism. It is sad, but it is not due to insecurity.

Trump is not insecure. We should not be looking for the source of his “psychic pain” or expect that someday he will break down and show his true, doubting self. He really does think that he’s that great, and that his ideas are that great. If we believe otherwise — about him or anyone else with these traits — we risk underestimating the true power of the narcissist.

 

~via PsychologyToday.com

July 28, 2019

“THE ART OF THE ORDEAL” ~ Tony Schwartz on ‘Sociopath’ President Donald Trump

“Trump is not only willing to lie, but he doesn’t get bothered by it, doesn’t feel guilty about it, isn’t preoccupied by it. There’s an emptiness inside Trump. There’s an absence of a soul. There’s an absence of a heart. Because he has no conscience, he has no guilt. All he wants to do is make the case that he would like to be true. And while I do think he is probably aware that more walls are closing around him than ever before, he does not experience the world in the way an ordinary human being would.”

~Tony Schwartz – Ghostwriter who penned Donald Trump’s 1987 book, “The Art of the Deal”

 

~via ‘Blood Money’: Donald Trump’s ‘Art of the Deal’ Ghostwriter Says He Wants to Atone for Helping President’s Rise

April 23, 2019

LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex”

“Currently, the term “messiah complex” is not addressed formally in the psychology field in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), as it is not a clinical term nor diagnosable disorder. However, the symptoms of the disorder closely resemble those found in individuals suffering from delusions of grandeur, an inability to see the actual reality as it is. Recorded accounts specifically identified messiah complex in the category of religious delusion, which pertains to strong fixed beliefs that cause emotional distress or disability. This form of delusional belief is most often reported in patients that are suffering from bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. In spiritual context, these mental disorders are closely related to soul fragmentation and attachments which cause disordered and incoherent thinking. When a messiah complex is manifested within a religious individual after a visit to Jerusalem, it may be identified as a psychosis known as Jerusalem syndrome.”

~Lisa Renee

 

Controller Programs is a term used to describe multiple layers of Victimizer Mind Control that is used psychologically and emotionally to program humanity to think in polarizing thoughts of division, violence and hatred in order to believe in the fear based control systems that shape the death culture. The death culture is backed by the Archontic Deception Strategies used by the NAA forces to divide and conquer humanity. The enforcement of these Controller Programs is accomplished by forcing false egoic identities and related thought patterns into the minds of the people that are called Victimizer Archetypes. When we understand these Victimizer Archetypes are being targeted into the collective consciousness of the human race, we can learn how they work to drain our energy and feed Consumptive Modeling, and Parasitism. Thus, we can stop playing into these harmful archetypes, as well as feeding into the dramas they generate, by not letting other people project these archetypes onto us. Essentially, we refuse to take the bait of emotional manipulation in those attempting to draw us into playing out these destructive archetypes, many times for the purpose of dividing and polarizing issues into more destructive conflicts that exist between groups of people. Through the intentional Psycho-Spiritual Warfare made against the minds of the human population, the masses are made pliable and subservient to follow the NAA masking themselves as the False King of Tyranny archetype. This is in the attempt to find absolute rule and control by the Power Elite, by manipulating the False Parent archetypes to gain a False Father authority over the masses.

As an unconscious reaction to the ongoing spiritual oppression and persecution complex rampant on the planet, some awakening people fall prey to the victimizer archetype that is used to intentionally generate the destructive sides of the hero-savior or messiah complex. A messiah complex (also known as the Christ complex or savior complex) is a state of mind in which an individual holds a belief that they are destined to become a savior. The term can also refer to a state of mind in which an individual believes that he or she is responsible for saving or assisting others from achieving certain doom on a grand scale.

Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex is a Victim-Victimizer software mind control archetype that is used to target Starseeds and spiritually developing people in so to derail them, and to ultimately mentally and emotionally fracture them. Many guru types are targeted with this archetypal programming in so they will fall into more mental and emotional body distortions, to the point they lose coherence and all semblance of clear discernment in their own actions. Over time, when a person in leadership is not taking responsibility for their actions because they believe they are a hero-savior or messiah and thus, above all reproach, this is a blaring blind spot for dark manipulation, gaslighting and even possession to take hold. This is one of the Controller Programs that is a sub program of the Victim-Victimizer software program and is a collective miasm on the earth, that has been accumulated through many traumatic and tragic events in our history taking place over many generations.

The Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex is double sided, showing an outer persona that is much different than the hidden or inner persona. On the surface, the general belief system is that the people around them need saving and are helpless and powerless, and therefore they need a savior or messiah. In the subconscious mind and in the hidden aspects of the personality, the negative ego may actually desire to steal another’s resources and energy to accomplish their own selfish goals. They are looking to cull groups of people in order to get the energy or prestige they are looking for in order to fill the inner void. This is so that they can feel or be more powerful than the people they say that they are saving. It’s a deeply buried subconscious complex, usually driven by mind control tactics, to feel more powerful than others by gaining fame or status, and to make up for feeling powerless and insignificant deep down inside.

Currently, the term “messiah complex” is not addressed formally in the psychology field in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), as it is not a clinical term nor diagnosable disorder. However, the symptoms of the disorder closely resemble those found in individuals suffering from delusions of grandeur, an inability to see the actual reality as it is. Recorded accounts specifically identified messiah complex in the category of religious delusion, which pertains to strong fixed beliefs that cause emotional distress or disability. This form of delusional belief is most often reported in patients that are suffering from bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. In spiritual context, these mental disorders are closely related to soul fragmentation and attachments which cause disordered and incoherent thinking. When a messiah complex is manifested within a religious individual after a visit to Jerusalem, it may be identified as a psychosis known as Jerusalem syndrome.

In mainstream psychology, Adolf Hitler is considered to have had an acute case of the messiah complex. This was evident in his preoccupation with himself as a political actor, his meticulous concern for his self-presentation, and his negative ego identification with himself as the hero- savior of the German people. Hitler believed that he was fated by higher powers to lead Germany to a thousand-year-long period of European domination and that he was chosen to rid Europe of undesirable people. This example shows how the messiah complex in such rare individuals can cause unimaginable destruction when combined with narcissistic and paranoid traits. In the Guardian context, Hitler was groomed and aided by the Black Sun Orion Groups. Thus, his mental and emotional weaknesses were exploited to intentionally murder many people for blood sacrifice, and essentially an egoic monster and demonic presence was co-created within him in order to carry out his brutal crimes against humanity.

According to the website People Skills Decoded, “The savior complex is a psychological construct which makes a person feel the need to save other people. This person has a strong tendency to seek people who desperately need help and to assist them, often sacrificing their own needs for these people.”

Emotionally codependent people, often live in denial and self-deception. When emotionally codependent people begin to awaken into spiritual experiences and shift into new age thoughtforms, this can be a toxic combination if that person is unwilling to face their own shadow selves, and take responsibility to do the inner emotional work to regain more emotionally healthy patterns. Thus, they may refer back to similar patterns and characteristics that may describe Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex such as:

  • They may believe that other people are incapable of taking care of themselves, that they are powerless or helpless and need them to be a messiah.
  • Believing that they are a savior, messiah or guru, specially chosen by God above others. That they alone are responsible for miraculous acts of healing, this is a part of Spiritual Ego or Messiah Complex.
  • They may attempt to convince or manipulate others in what to think, do, or feel because they believe they have the answers or know better. Some want to be famous under the guise of spreading their message.
  • They freely offer advice and direction without being asked, and may even get mad if you don’t take their advice.
  • Many have to feel needed by others, a sense of belonging or in authority, in order to have a relationship with others.
  • Project or transfer their own hidden negative traits onto other people or situations around them. A common retort is, “You must not be conscious enough to see how evolved I am… etc.”
  • Perceive themselves as completely selfless and dedicated to the welfare and wellbeing of others around them, many times when they are actually psychic vampires and emotionally draining to be with.
  • Have difficulty admitting mistakes, not able to address conflicts, change negative behaviors or apologize when it’s appropriate to do so.

Awakening Starseeds are commonly targeted from lower energetic discernment levels to put themselves in dangerous or destructive scenarios because they believe “God or their Guides told them to do that”. Newly awakening people generally have to heal the Hero-Savior complex as if not corrected, this error in thinking will form into spiritual ambition that is based in unhealthy Negative Ego attitudes. Usually, this means the person becomes an endangerment to themselves, because they put themselves in the hero position thinking they are needed to save others, but really they are getting caught in the crossfire of spiritual battle. They misinterpret their personal awakening experiences that may form into hero-savior complex. That they are here to save the world, because the people around them do not have the level of intelligence or Consciousness awareness that they may feel they are accessing. As usual, kernels of truth are manipulated in order to create great confusion and chaos, in so that the awakening person is not effective or successful in their mission, but taken off course through a series of delusions.

Generally, in spiritual community, it is common that the person with unhealed Hero-Savior complex will attempt to save people around them from some imagined threat or vision fed to them by the NAA in Holographic Inserts in order to divide and conquer the group effort or disrupt group projects. Thus, the person in the hero or messiah complex is used skillfully by the NAA and becomes a dark portal used to destroy group unity by feeding dramas, malicious gossip, divided competition and making assumptions without having the facts. Usually, these are garden variety negative ego power games and emotional dramas that are carried out in the guise of needing to save others from some imagined wrong doing or person that is evil.

When we are empathic to the pain of others, we can be easily manipulated by the pain we feel, in that we may not understand its actual causal source or where the pain is really coming from. The Victimizer Collective Archetypes that contain empathic feelings are designed to instigate the Hero-Savior or messiah complex in order to trap that person into sacrificing themselves for others, or being led into destructive situations, thereby they are set up to be easily persecuted and victimized. On planet earth, many awakening people, especially Starseed people, have been implanted with false memories or cloned memories of famous religious or spiritual personalities recorded throughout planetary history. Multiple thousands have been implanted with holographic inserts that feed false memories of the Guardian Christos Mission, such as Yeshua and Mary, Akhenaten and Nefertiti, as well as many other significant people and timelines that are given as the standard curriculum about human history. Obviously, this was a tactic to confuse the origins of our real history and hide the identity of significant people, Jesus and Archangel Michael being some of the most cloned images used by the imposter forces to manipulate the human race.

The dark is fantastic at finding weaknesses inside us and then exploiting and manipulating them on the external. We can use these opportunities as spiritual lessons. As when we can see our weaknesses, locate our vulnerability and participate consciously with it by surrendering, and calling out imposter spirits, we gain immense inner clarity. May you devote your life to serve God or your highest spiritual expression.

 

(Ascension Glossary: Messiah Complex, Dark Force Manipulation Methods, Victimizer Archetypes)

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – posted April 23, 2019

February 19, 2019

LIVE BOLD & BLOOM: “What Is Your Personality Type?”

It was no surprise to see I’m an ‘Idealist’… 🐬

“Knowing your personality type helps you understand yourself, your interests, your motivations, and your relationships. Although your personality type doesn’t completely define who you are, it helps you have much more awareness about yourself and gives you tools for making important decisions in your life.”

~Barrie Davenport @ Live Bold & Bloom

 

Take the quiz here:

https://liveboldandbloom.com/01/self-improvement/quiz-what-is-your-personality-type

 

~via LiveBoldAndBloom.com