MATEO SOL: “5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know”

If you have grown up as a male in our society you’ve been taught one very clear message: emotions are a weakness, big boys don’t cry.

Being “strong” means you have to be forceful, aggressive, competitive and largely unemotional. If for some reason you are born sensitive, cooperative and compassionate, you are perceived as “weak,” “effeminate” or “weird.”

Throughout history, men have gained their identity, peer respect and self-worth through status, sexual prowess and money all of which contributed to their sense of power. In a physically demanding hunter-gatherer and agricultural world, men had to be the warriors that shouldered the responsibility of providing for their families. But now as women have become more independent with our society shifting to value mental labor over physical labor, men are struggling to let go of their old warrior habits and role dynamics.

However, regardless of our external bodies and sexual orientations, we all carry differing degrees of masculine and feminine energy. Some people will carry equal amounts, others will carry more of one than of the other (which might oppose their physical bodies), as can be seen in females referred to as “tomboys” and sensitive men.

It saddens me to see so many fellow men who outright ignore their sensitivity, or are aware of it but choose to reject or hide it. Many people associate sensitivity with neuroticism or low self-esteem, and courage with “numbing the pain.”

Sensitivity and courage are not mutually exclusive. To be sensitive is to be aware of the feelings and perspectives of other people as well as your own. To be courageous means to be completely aware and to feel fear yet to still fight for what you feel is right or what you want.

In fact sensitivity and courage can compliment each other; the greater your sensitivity and fear is, the greater your courage has to be to fight through it.

In psychology, Carl Jung was aware of the differences between masculine and feminine energy, and divided them into his Anima and Animus Archetypes. Personally, I’ve found that by embracing my sensitivity as a male and using it alongside my logic and courage, I have become a much wholer human being. In the end, to be intelligent is useless unless you can combine it with sensitivity. When intelligence is filtered through sensitivity, it becomes wisdom.

5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know

Here are some vital lessons I’ve learned as a sensitive man that I want to pass on:

1. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Deeper Connections

When a man is capable of transforming his insecurity about being sensitive into something empowering, it can allow him to create deeper connections with others. For instance, I’ve found that when I go beyond simply sharing factual information and opinions with my male friends, I see a whole new side to them which is more meaningful and creates a deeper long-term bond.

2. Sensitivity Encourages Emotional Maturity

I feel that the evolution of men will be one towards a balance of strength and sensitivity. One of the biggest struggles for men in relationships is to openly express their emotions or show vulnerability. This emotional distancing is done to display “strength,” but quite often the more sensitive female lover perceives this as ambivalence, being “unavailable” or even a phobia towards commitment. To be able to give love, show love and receive love freely is incredibly attractive.

3. Sensitivity Makes You More Body-Conscious

Sensual awareness is not limited to sex (although it does make you a better lover), but rather, it extends to the body as well. The greater your sensitivity is to your body and its senses, the more you’ll learn about yourself, the better you’ll be able to take care of yourself, and the healthier you’ll feel. However, I’ve observed that often many sensitive male students of mine have tried to drown their emotions out with food as an unconscious buffer.

As a sensitive man, I’ve discovered a variety of foods that I can feel my body quickly rejects by making me feel subtly ill. I’ve also learned that having long hair not only allows me to express my Anima externally, but it also serves as an extension of my nervous system amplifying my empathic senses. It’s no surprise that the Incas, Mayas, the Samurai and the Native Americans were aware of this (the latter using their hair almost like “antennae.”)

4. Sensitivity Allows You to Become More Creative

Creativity is not the result of logical empirical deduction, it is the child of playfulness and sensitivity. Creativity is born in the right side of the brain instead of the left.

To be a painter, writer, musician, actor, photographer or anything creative requires a sensitivity towards beauty and emotion.

5. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Spiritually

A thirst for wisdom and truth can only come to those who possess a spiritual sensitivity. To strive toward a better society and the peace of man demands an immense amount of courage to stand up against the status quo and a great spiritual sensitivity to question it.

Jesus, Buddha, the Dalai Lama, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther King Jr. were all figures who possessed this quality to speak the truth and question cultural morality, virtue and justice. Many people who have embraced their sensitivity will know that they are often the ones whom their friends come to, to ask for counsel and advice.

How to Embrace Your Sensitivity

In our society men are rarely taught how to express their feelings, and so it can be very difficult to know where or how to begin. In fact, if you are like most men, you’ll find it difficult to even become aware of what you’re feeling in the first place, e.g. how the mood of your boss may be affecting you, or how the stress from your busy schedule is making you short-tempered. And when someone asks how you are, you are so disconnected from your emotions that you’ll resort to the habitual “I’m fine,” making it harder for anyone to provide any support.

Ignoring feelings won’t making them disappear though, in fact, the more we ignore our feelings the larger they’ll grow. I’ve often seen men who appear to be well and calm before they burst out in an explosion of anger or rage when something bad happens. It’s often these very same men who become isolated and depressed due to their tendency to avoid and limit their social contact to avoid emotional vulnerability.

How do we embrace our sensitivity? Recognizing and accepting ourselves as sensitive men is the first step. No matter what “macho” ideals you’ve been taught, sensitivity is a gift, not a weakness. To be more empathetic and to be able to appreciate art, music and beauty, is a blessing. While burying our feelings is certainly easier, acknowledging our feelings helps us to empower ourselves which requires much more courage, and is a lot more rewarding. Can you imagine how many wars and ecological forms of destruction could have been avoided if we all cultivated greater sensitivity?

The next step is to examine your feelings about sensitivity. Is it a “weakness” or some kind of illness to you? You’ll have to change the core beliefs you hold about masculine sensitivity in order to accept it. Only after this can you integrate aspects of your sensitivity into your daily life. You can do this by changing your old habits of ignoring or hiding your sensitivity and instead decide to slowly process through them, expressing them to yourself and your trusted loved ones.

It takes time and effort, but changing our personal paradigms is essential in order to embrace our own sense of personal power. It’s time to change this outdated male ideal of aggressiveness, thick-skin and emotional retardation. By empowering sensitive men with self-confidence, we’ll all contribute to a more peaceful, balanced and healthy planet.

Once you become aware of your feelings and have learned to express them, you’ll begin drawing loving people into your life, you’ll be able to help others through their own problems, and you’ll be able to feel as though every part of you is living life to the fullest.

 

 

~via LonerWolf.com

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CHRISTINA SARICH: ” 4 Super Powers Of The Highly Empathic”

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Many empathic or highly sensitive people feel that their ability to feel so many different emotional energies in their environments is a curse, but with recent research suggesting that empaths are actually highly psychic, you may want to hone your empathic skills instead of hiding them away, or bemoaning their existence.  Here are 4 super-powers of empathic people, that you too can develop:

1.) Read People’s Minds

Empaths have a form of psychic ability that is considered a rare gift.

Mind reading isn’t a parlor trick.  We all do it to some degree, taking cues from people’s body language, and verbal discourse.  A skilled non-verbal decoder can tell if someone is lying, someone is happy or sad (even if they claim to be the opposite), or if they are manipulating others with their speech and gestures.  We can all be ‘mentalists’ picking up on inconsistencies in someone’s words and body language, but empaths take it a step further.

Many empaths receive psychic images, statements, hues, or smells intuitively which indicate to them, a reality beyond which most are aware.  If you pick up on these energies unwillingly, you could instead focus on them, and see if you can create an even stronger psychic experience, turning your empathic skills into full-blown ESP.  Then you can literally walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, and know exactly what that would feel like. IMAGINE the possibilities.

How many wrong turns, missteps, or arguments could you avoid?  How much success could you experience learning from others’ mistakes?  Knowing when someone is lying, or telling the truth?  Priceless.  Instead of shunning your empathic ability to feel everything — use it to become a true mind reader.

2.) Become Your Own Emotion Superhero

If you have a crazy ability to empathize with others, why not turn this around, and use it to your own benefit?  So many people today are completely disconnected from their own emotions.  You aren’t.  This may seem like a tremendous burden — feeling what they ought to feel, AND feeling what you feel, but if you were able to develop some discernment, and focus on your own emotional growth, this gift can become your greatest super power.

The act of listening to your own feelings and thoughts is self-empathy — it’s compassion in action.  It could completely and utterly change how you communicate with people.

For instance, let’s say you are visiting family for the holidays or a long weekend and one of your uncles says, “Don’t you know this president is going to ruin the nation?”  Your internal dialogue as an empath might be something like, “Oh my God, he has no clue how every person is affecting this country, and this planet, and the people who are running the show aren’t presidents or politicians, they may not even be on this planet! What an idiot.”  This is what your emotional triggers might be around a simple statement that someone from your family makes.  But what if you honored those feelings and learned how to communicate them lovingly?

What if instead, you internally stated, “Wow, hearing what my uncle just said alarms me, to the point of even feeling panicked because that statement doesn’t agree with the world I see, or how I believe this Universe is formed, and I’m scared of being at odds with my family member.”  Super power indeed.

Empaths can trigger heart-based communication by honoring their emotions.

You could instead say to your Uncle from this emotionally aware place, “Yes, we all ruin the world a little or make it closer to a paradise every day by the thoughts, deeds, and actions we engage in.”  This statement might go over his head, or open up a whole different type of dialogue that is more in alignment with who you are.

3.) Transmute the Negative Only You Can Feel

So many people are affected by negative influences which are invisible in the world today.  Empaths are acutely aware of this.  An empath can even walk into a room where a negative conversation or act just transpired, and though it isn’t currently happening, they can sense the negative energy that lingers.

Flowers can change the energy of an environment.

Instead of being a victim of this sensitivity to energy —  look for positive energy first, and TRANSMUTE that negative energy.  Practice a quiet five-minute Tonglen meditation.  Bring high-energy plants or flowers to a place with low energy, or simply utter encouraging words and thoughts to people around you who were also affected by the negativity.  Even better?  Find the humor in the situation and share it.  Even the most vile circumstance has a funny side to it.  Use laughter to literally create intimacy and openness where there was none.

4.) Turn Your Sensitivity Into a Highly Coveted Skill

Do the wrong sheets make you break out in hives?  Are certain smells absolutely revolting to you?  Do non-organic foods cause you terrible gastrointestinal distress?  Do you need quiet in order to sleep, and alone time in order to off-load all the smells, sights, sounds, and emotions you’ve absorbed all day long?  Instead of looking at this trait as if it were a burden, use it to your advantage.

Need more beauty and peace as an empath?  Create it yourself.

You could become a perfumer, and advise companies on removing chemicals and adding natural scents to their products.  You could help others eat divinely prepared food by becoming an organic chef.  You could develop quiet spaces like gardens, libraries, or meditation rooms that not only you need, but that others would revel in, without even realizing that they were desperate for your gift.  Use those sensitivities to create a peaceful haven in the world, and your empathic skills are no longer a curse, but used to fulfill your life’s purpose.

There are many more ways you can put your empathic super-powers to good use.  Feel free to share your ideas in the comments section, or when you share this article to social media.

 

 

~via TheMindUnleashed.com

RAVEN FON: “16 Things You’ll Notice When You’re In The Presence Of An Empath”

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“Yes, we notice a lot of what goes on around us—

but you’ll notice some things about us too.”

~Raven Fon

 

Can you remember an instance when someone, a complete stranger, poured their heart out to you?  It probably happened without warning, and the emotions they were feeling were coursing through your heart as well.

There is something magnetic about an empath; they have a force that draws other’s towards them.  These people who open up to you, they don’t know why they do it— and it doesn’t matter.  We give them comfort and reassurance, and after riding the roller-coaster with them, we do our best to help them find peace.

I can’t count how many experiences I have had like that— what about you?

Author of Non-Violent Communication,  Marshall Rosenberg, gives us a concise definition of what empathy really is:

 

“In empathy, you don’t speak at all.  You speak with the eyes.  You speak with the body.  If you say any words at all, it’s because you are not sure you are with the person.  So you may say some words.  But the words are not empathy.  Empathy is when the other person feels the connection to with what’s alive in you.”

So, yes, we notice a lot of what goes on around us— but you’ll notice some things about us too.

 

16 SIGNS YOU’RE IN THE PRESENCE OF AN EMPATH

 

1.  We are often told we’re “too sensitive” or “too emotional.”

Empaths aren’t “too” this or that.  What others describe as “over-feeling” is really just being in-touch with emotions— theirs and yours.

2.  We really dislike being lied to.

It barely takes a glance in your direction and we know you’re lying.  The majority of people hate being lied to, but it really sucks for an empath.  It literally makes our skin feel gross and we feel that disgust every time we are around them.

3.  Negative images directly affect us.

Empaths find it nearly impossible to “unfeel” something.  The news?  Stories of violence and heartbreak on social media?  We avoid them like the plague.  We are well aware of the pain in the world, and we feel it daily.

4.  We feel overwhelmed by crowds.

Empaths encompass every personality type.  We are introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts.  Yet, even the most outgoing of us can become easily overwhelmed in crowds.  We absorb everyone’s feeling and energies… it’s exhausting, to say the least.

5.  We find happiness through healing.

Empaths are there to help; we try to guide you towards healing.  Just like with all of our advice, it only helps if you actually implement it in your life.

6.  We react differently to stimulants and medications.

Whether it is coffee or tea, soda or an energy drink, anything containing caffeine tends to make us feel more anxious or agitated than others.  Also, we do our best to avoid prescription medication as much as possible due to the numerous, and unpleasant, side effects we experience.

7.  We can’t be anyone except us.

If you’re looking for honesty and a true friendship, empaths are who you should be searching for (but we’ll likely find you first).  We have grown into who we are, and we embrace who we are becoming.  Usually, it is others who have an issue with our sensitivity and honest nature.

8.  We know what you are going through because we are going through it with you.

If you’re not feeling well, are feeling overwhelming sadness and depression, or if you’re agitated, we are going through all of those things with you.  We’re connected to those we care about, and we care about everyone.

9.  We have a special bond with animals.

Empaths don’t ‘own’ animals, and we don’t have pets.  We have family members.  Looking at animals in the wild, we see a perfect and pure soul… a love incapable of hate.  We have conversations with them as you would anyone else, and sometimes, we even get a response.

10.  We are usually tired, exhausted, and worn out.

We deal with more than just our personal emotions and mental drains, we deal with everyone else’s as well.  Every day we are around other people, we absorb, process, and release what those around us are experiencing.  And those are the lucky ones who have figured out how to process so they can release, instead of holding onto everything until they can no longer function.

11.  If you ask for our advice, please take it.

We listen to every word you say, we put ourselves in your shoes, and we deliver heartfelt advice.  Is it too much to ask for you to listen to it?  The thing is, we know what we are talking about— and you do too.  In fact, we are telling you the exact same thing that you know you should do.  We know it.  You know it.  So, and I mean this in the nicest way possible, either take the advice or stop asking because it wears on our patience.

12.  We become distracted rather easily.

Maybe it’s because of our heightened sensitivity to everyone and everything around us, but empaths tend to lose focus easily and become distracted.  There is a bright side to this: empaths notice and appreciate all the little things most people never take the time to notice.

13.  We genuinely detest narcissism.

Empaths can spot a narcissist a mile away, and that’s about as close as we like to get to one.

14.  We are hyper-sensitive to certain sounds.

A certain pitch, a slight buzz, and loud noises can really get to us.  However, it isn’t just sounds— we are also sensitive to textures, fabrics, and bright lights as well.  We experience the polar opposite too!  Gentle sounds, soft caresses, and delicate tastes are noticed just as intensely, but in a pleasing manner.

15.  We are excellent listeners.

Go on, tell us everything about your life from the seemingly insignificant, to the drastically transformative.  We will do more than listen— we will embark on that journey along side you, and experience every high and low found within.  On top of that, you never have to worry about any judgment on our part; we never want to hurt, only to help.

16.  Electronics act up around us.

I know this sounds strange to those who have not experienced it, but it happens.  We get shocked by touching the same things you normally do, and electronic equipment acts strange around us.  Computers glitch, cars stall, phones die— if it has a current or a charge, it is probably going to affect us or be affected by us.

 

For those of you who have read this article and telling yourself, “Finally! I have a word for all of this and it makes sense now!”  I am glad you have gained some insight into your gift.  And that is exactly what it is— a gift. It is something that we can learn from, and share with others.  Remember to make time for yourself, where your only focus is you.  Even just 5 minutes a day of silence and relaxed breathing can make a world of difference when it comes to handling emotional stress— and that’s good advice for everyone, not just empaths.

 

 

~via In5D.com

ANDREA SCHULMAN: “11 Intriguing Signs Of Intuition”

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Are you aware of the signs of intuition you receive?

Intuition is defined as:

“the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.”

Now, while it is true that some people are more intuitive than others, intuition is something all of us experience regularly. You are an intuitive being, whether you realize it or not!

With that being said, here are a few of my favorite signs of intuition. Have you experienced any of these lately?

1.  Knowing the car in front of you is going to merge or change lanes.

2.  Getting a brilliant idea out of the blue.

3.  Hearing or thinking the word someone is going to say before it comes out of his or her mouth.

4.  Hearing about or thinking about a song before it plays on the radio (sometimes you may hear the first bar of a song right before it starts).

5.  Just knowing what someone is thinking about while they are being quiet.

6.  Understanding the root of someone’s “problem” without them telling you what it is.

7.  Premonitions about accidents, illnesses or injuries.

8.  Getting a “vibe” about a particular situation. For example, walking into a room and just “feeling” that it isn’t a good place for you to be at the moment.

9.  Knowing you can trust someone you are just meeting for the first time, or feeling like you’ve known them already for a lifetime.

10.  Suddenly knowing how to fix a problem you’ve never solved before, without having to think it through.

11.  Knowing you are about to “win” and then winning. Maybe you get a premonition that you are about to get a strike at the bowling alley or your scratch off ticket will be a winner.

Do you have any other fun signs of intuition you’ve experienced? Drop a comment below and share!

XO, Andrea

 

About the author:
Andrea Schulman is a former high school psychology teacher and the creator of Raise Your Vibration Today, which provides free and easy Law of Attraction techniques. She will be available for group educational seminars and webinars starting in the summer of 2015.  ~via In5D.com

LJ VANIER: “11 Things Highly Intuitive People Do Differently”

PresenceofGaia_Josephine Wall_jpegHow many times have kicked yourself for not following your inner voice, your inner ear or just trusting your gut? How many times have you said to yourself “I knew I shouldn’t have done that!!”… and how many times have you paid for it later? If you’re anything like me, you could say a lot.And then there are those people who just seem to have it all figured out, well at least, for the most part. They seem to have that extra sense. They’re tuned in and locked on and life seems to flow more naturally for them.

7e49529664b7248c68e296a63bc36a85-e1466106361976-636x381Yes, they can be aggravating for those of us who don’t always see the world quite so clearly.

Or for those of us who know the path, but just can’t seem to put one foot in front of the other and follow it with what appears to be blind faith. Many of us are still so accustomed to more logical and rational (right brain) thinking that we block out our own intuitive knowing of what we should do, making the more safe play in many of life’s circumstances.

There is one major difference that separates highly intuitive people with everyone else, and the difference is trust. Highly intuitive people know how to trust themselves.

They have an internal knowing that they don’t need to muddy and meddle with things in life. In fact, they understand that the more they interfere, the more they become a hindrance in the natural unfolding of life’s journey. It’s the way of no way so to speak, and through it, we find that life will always align itself with the experiences we need to find fulfillment.

11. Their Partners

A highly intuitive person chooses their partner not by looks, physique, material possessions or any other ego driven persona. An intuitive person looks deeper. Equipped with a built-in radar that pierces beyond to find what rests in their potential mates heart.

Quite often you will hear a highly intuitive person say that they chose their partner above all else because he/she “has a good heart”.

10. Their Careers

shutterstock_203246677A highly intuitive person will not choose one career over another because of a larger salary.

When faced with career decisions, they will choose the place of work where they feel the most connected to those around them.

They seek vibrational alignment and mutual understanding with their coworkers.

They want to work and create with those that bring them happiness and fulfilment.

9. Their Passions

Highly intuitive people almost always have a passion or a calling. They can’t help but be creative as their intuition breeds creativity, building upon each other. Creativity is always beckoning for an outlet and the more in tune we are, the more we are need of one!

8. Where They Live

Highly intuitive people require solitude and lots of it in order to rebalance and recharge.

Alike to empaths, highly intuitive people are aware of the energy around them at all times and are very observant. In tight living quarters, they are able to feel the energy of others and will quite often scope out their surroundings before signing any kind of long-term deal. Intuitives prefer living along side bodies of water, or wide open green spaces and when they can’t get their fill of the forest, they will bring nature to them, literally.

7. Their Friends

shutterstock_12314449Intuitives know themselves very well and by this wisdom attained they understand others on a deeper level than most. Intuitives will keep their circles small but are known to be very likeable and approachable to others.

Highly intuitive people are often drawn to friendships that will encourage their own personal growth and seek those who can match their level emotionally by mirroring themselves in order to illuminate the hidden aspects of their shadow.

Highly intuitive people will have learned hard lessons in friendships and will have lost many along the journey, all the while knowing that each served as a stepping stone in their soul progression. Intuitives aren’t afraid of these relationships and are thankful for the lessons they bring.

6. Their Body

I eat what I want…. when I want!

Intuitives are known to be ‘snackers’ and they listen to what their body needs in order to function at an optimal level. They know that great energy flow begins with taking care of your body first and intuitives know how to listen.

5. Their Goals

“My goal is not to be better than anyone else, but better than I used to be” -Wayne Dyer

shutterstock_199696376Highly intuitive people are not usually highly competitive or in constant competition with others.

They tend to measure their success by looking back to see what they have learnedand how far they have come.

4. What They Value

“More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them” -Harold J Smith.

Above all else highly intuitive people value honesty. They understand that every single person on this entire earth is here to learn and evolve and they appreciate those who can own up to their own faults. They highly value wisdom attained and understand that wisdom can come from hard lessons.

3. Their Activities

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A highly intuitive person will naturally engage in activities that will balance their energy.

They will be automatically be drawn to what they feel is ‘out of sync’ and will seek to rebalance themselves as soon as possible.

This will typically occur without a conscious thought process as they find themselves sporadically participating in outdoor activity, a yoga class, gardening, clay moulding, painting, reading, writing, meditating, or simply listening to music.

2. Synchronicities

From an outsiders perspective, a highly intuitive person can be viewed as someone who is quick to draw conclusions or someone that is always looking for meaning even in the smallest of synchronicity. But to the perceptive one, a highly intuitive person understands that life is created by our own imaginations. Our thoughts create our reality, and our energy attracts our experience.

A highly intuitive person will quite often notice these meaningful coincidences through rapid thought manifestation and signs from the universe by way of symbolism.

1. Their Dreams

A highly intuitive person understands that dreams are the gateway to understanding themselves better. As it is only by knowing ourselves that we can truly become the masters of our reality.

dreamThrough our dream state we explore our own emotional depths, we work out problems to every-day life situations, and we connect to a higher level of consciousness where we gain insight on our own soul called journey, life purpose and collective evolution.

Highly intuitive people may regularly look to dream interpretation in order to decipher symbolism and may even keep a dream journal.

So how intuitive are you?

You may have noticed by this list, that the purpose of this article is to illustrate that we are all highly intuitive, but only if we choose to be. We all have an inner voice, and we can choose to listen to it or choose to ignore it. Each time you ignore it however, life becomes a little more difficult. The path becomes a little more steep and little less clear.

So choose to listen. Choose to trust yourself and choose to always follow your heart. May your journey always be guided.

by LJ Vanier, Team Spirit!

 

 

 

 

 

~via isoulscience.com