LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Mental Rackets and Payoffs”

The intensity continues as we move forward into July, we are continuing to be repositioned and shifted so that our energy bodies and our consciousness is congruently aligned with the new timeline architecture, as well as with the new energy foundation. As we continually undergo micro-adjustments in just about every area of our inner person and outward lifestyle, we are witnessing more of the mental patterns and archetypes from our past lives. As cellular memories are surfacing, they can reveal themselves as powerful and intense emotions, images or sensations that arise from within suddenly, as feeling associations are being reconnected.

These cellular memories are from both the ancient human galactic histories, other lifetimes as well as patterns we may have lived out in our current lifetime that may have contributed to fixed patterns of behavior. Many unresolved trauma patterns continue to cross over into multiple stations of identity, these are generally deep patterns of emotional trauma or negative behaviors that surface so that we may resolve them. They may be stemming from our multiple lifetimes, and the many human incarnation experiences where those same patterns were repeated many times without finding energetic balance or conflict resolution. The collective consciousness patterns which have defined who we are in order to accept the belief systems that have been imposed upon us, have been deeply disturbing to our core spiritual being. It is reflected to us daily throughout the macrocosm how isolated and divided we feel as a species, that the human race has evolved completely and utterly alone on this rock, disconnected and without contact from other species, as well as not knowing the existence of our spiritual families. As a species we have been handed many false concepts and negative archetypes that we have believed to be true about ourselves that define our sense of self in our human identity.

As a result, many people on the earth have been negatively conditioned to feel deeply alone, feeling unwanted, feeling they do not belong, feeling burdened by uncertainty and insecurity and believing that there is something wrong with them. When we feel deeply disconnected and alone, all kinds of disempowering thoughts and painful feelings can show up in our lives. When we can shift our awareness from purely focusing on ourselves and looking to the larger picture, it may occur to us that we are not alone, and that this thought form has only surfaced for us to see. An incredible amount of people, nearly all people have directly experienced these exact same thoughts, also experiencing these exact same painful feelings of isolation and disconnection from others. How many people on this earth are feeling this way right now?

When we realize that the pain of disconnection and isolation is the misery within human existence that stems from the negative mind control inflicted upon us by the NAA, we can begin to realize that we are no less than anyone else on this planet. Feeling deep grief, experiencing great loss and sorrow, the state of suffering, this is intrinsic to the general human experience in the current reality of which we all share and are a part. When we can actually see and feel into the collective consciousness that holds this overall collective mindset of disconnection, we can know that we really are not our thoughts and feelings. Did you choose these certain thoughts that surface into your mind? When these negative thoughts pop up in your mind without warning, suddenly surfacing from out of nowhere, observe them and look deeper. You will notice that some of these thoughts and feelings trigger you when they surface while others do not, there are thoughts that show up and they disappear just as quickly. All thoughts and feelings fade away from memory over time, whether you want them to or not. The mind control programming on this earth teaches us that we are supposed to be the content of all of our thoughts and feelings, and when these random thoughts suddenly show up, that they actually belong to us and constitute an essential part of our human identity.

Thus, all of these patterns are being refined during this time to give us the opportunity to see what we need to change or heal inside ourselves that we inherited from the collective consciousness mind control. This is a time where we must learn to create our new reality from an entirely new palette of color, creating new thoughtforms about ourselves, feeling deeply into the new emotional spectrums that ignite cross collaboration, co-creation and manifestation. The infusion of these new color frequencies are from the unity code harmonics, the trinity wave formats that create a base for the new energy platform, and this architecture is available to us now to help us build something entirely different.

As you study these old and painful patterns from the past you will begin to see them embedded as distortions that have great influence upon human consciousness, the 3D belief systems that have profoundly impacted the way human beings function in the world at so many different levels. The mental games and reptilian mind control programs that are running covertly within our unconscious self, those larger behavioral patterns that are set up by the death culture that has been accepted by mass society. All of the subterranean distortions of the upside down world are coming into blaring review for us to more deeply analyze in order to comprehend what is behind it and how it has influenced our lives.  We have to see who and what is running a mental racket into the mental body of our unconscious and conscious mind, in order to become free of its negative triggers. A racket is a corrupt mental program running in our conscious or unconscious self that justifies itself into being, to protect the psyche from discovering its deepest and darkest fears. When the unconscious mind is running rackets it is very tricky and manipulative, trying to cover up the truth in order to continue to feed the ego programs for an emotional payoff. However, we are being pushed to clearly see these mental rackets running within our psyche, as the new energy foundation will not tolerate or support them. Running mental rackets is the antithesis to embodying personal integrity and authenticity. In order to be congruent with the core essence and the nature of our true self, we have to see the rackets that are bargaining with our ego in order to receive a mental or emotional payoff. Then take steps to remove faulty thinking and clear these mental rackets from taking control over our emotional state that influence the spiritual house of our inner being. When we are running mental rackets, we become the cause of our own mental and emotional suffering. When we can recognize that we are contributing to our own suffering by running negative mental rackets we can choose in every moment to give it up instantly.

Suffering is generated from focusing on what we want something to be, seeing the difference between what we want and what is actually the reality in this moment. The expectations of wants, needs and desires put projections onto something or someone that you want to be different from what they actually are, and this generates pain. When we want to force change upon another who is not living up to our expectations or desires, we may be feeding into blockages that make the situation of our own suffering become even worse. When we project our desires and needs onto others, when those expectations are not being met then people feel deeply hurt. And yet this hurt was produced from one’s own internal suffering by placing expectations upon another to relieve it, instead of finding deeper acceptance that allows each person to be who they are in this moment. When we find the generosity to hold total unconditional acceptance and love for others, we naturally find the same unconditional love and acceptance for ourselves.

If we want to be emotionally freed from feeling hurt and abandoned by other people, we must give up all expectations we have of other people, and find acceptance for them and the situation we may find ourselves in the moment.

Are you running mental rackets that are making you suffer? Mental rackets are fixed ways of thinking, being and behaviors that you refuse to change even if they are unhealthy or destructive to you and others. Fixed ways of being can be a mental program playing out certain archetypes or negative patterns, such as feeling victimized by something and looping into the victim-victimizer thoughts that generate repeated grievances and recurring complaints. If we have the same pattern of behaviors that generates recurring complaints about something or someone, then we have to take responsibility to change that mental pattern in order to begin to change the results that we make in our lives. Many people that constantly complain about the same issues and constantly feel hurt and betrayed by others, may not realize that deeply hidden in the unconscious mind, is a mental program running for an emotional payoff.  There is a payoff for every emotionally driven behavior and thought, whether positive or negative, that can be used to manipulate types of responses that you want to get out of other people. We can choose to let them go once we have honestly identified the negative emotions that are repeating patterns, and then digging deeper for the emotional payoff that is received from that behavior.

When we are not self-aware and we continually feed into the same negative behaviors without making an effort to change them, we are continuing to feed into duplicity at the expense of being totally honest with others, with upfront and open communication. Sometimes these negative behaviors happen in our more intimate and emotionally connected relationships. Many people may not be aware they are emotionally duplicitous with others, and that is a seed of deceit that will generate a return of more of the same.

To go deeper and commit to let go of running mental rackets in order to receive an emotional payoff from them, we can spend some time to untie the knot between the negative behavior and the emotional payoff habit. Spend some time alone honestly assessing the negative patterns you may have running mental rackets that are tied to emotional payoffs. What’s important to recognize is that undesirable or negative behaviors are often associated with a mixture of wanted and unwanted consequences. One of the most important payoffs that is often associated with undesirable behavior is the reduction of anxiety and tension. There are many different types of undesirable and negative behavior that are used as coping mechanisms, that actually help people temporarily reduce their feelings of mental or emotional anxiety.

Once you have more clarity on the deeper reasons why this undesirable pattern has emerged, then find the vulnerability to share honestly with that person when you have noticed this dynamic occurs in that relationship. First, share the negative thought and behavior that has become a habit, once you have identified this happens between you and another person. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and reveal to this person the emotional payoff that you receive for using this negative behavior between you. Then commit to this person and yourself that you will not run this negative behavior and emotional behavior racket anymore to the best of your ability. Then declare to the person what is the most essential parts of your relationship that you value, as well as discovering the ways to build deeper trust together.

This is a time of Reality Check so that we can see what damage has been done that has left coping mechanisms and mental rackets, taking stock of what we have left to mentally and emotionally process, so we can live and speak in the deepest truth and integrity that we are capable of. Blind spots in our awareness or the perception that we hold of others that keep us in denial and living inside the deceptive psychological defense programs, or running mental rackets cannot continue. We are being rid of layers of drama, trauma and defense mechanisms that we have been operating unconsciously and consciously as the result of being a 3D human. Many of us on the ascension path may find ourselves deeply enmeshed in clearing these emotional and archetypal patterns now. It may show up as a part of healing the larger macrocosm mental rackets or healing something in your personal life, however the process of revelation is the same. All of humanity is subject to running these mental rackets and programs. This process can be painful as it requires that you give it all up at the Altar of inner spirit, nothing is held back, nothing is sugar coated, nothing is veiled from your ability to see or live by the truth as you know it. All we need to do is drop any resistance and let the circumstance self-correct as we participate by compassionately witnessing the pattern as it is being shifted or completely dissolved and removed. It is also dissolving the membranes that create energetic walls of separation that exist inside of us, so that we can be more whole within and therefore also be more whole in our interactions with others.  This can be an intense time of spiritual awakening and expansion, so taking the necessary time out and being gentle and forgiving in these circumstances, is the practice of building energetic self-mastery.

(Source Adapted from ES Newsletter – The Reality Check, October 2010)

 

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – June 27, 2017

MICHELLE WALLING, CHLC: “How To Move Through Vibrational Roadblocks”

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Congratulations on learning how to raise your vibrational frequency! You may be wondering what to do next, and you also may have had some unexpected challenges that have left you wondering if you are doing the right thing. What is the next step beyond raising your vibration and when do the challenges end?

As a part of spiritual awakening, we learned that the world has existed in a lower vibrational frequency which has kept us lulled into complacency in a walking sleep state. You may have read many articles on raising your vibration such as this one- How To Raise Your Personal Vibration, and may have listened to videos such as this one from Gregg Prescott of In5d that explains how this frequency has been all around us and why:

As you transmuted low vibrational frequencies, your DNA has slowly shifted to allow our cells to vibrate faster. This has allowed your cells to begin to ignite with light or plasma, and the DNA within your cells has begun to transform.

Through meditation, you slowed time down, turned off the outside world, went within to raise your frequency. You worked on transmuting energies of fear (thick, sticky, dark energy), and are learning to operate from the heart rather than the head or ego. Your consciousness has expanded along with your cells and you are working on detoxing and purifying your body, which also raises your vibrational frequency.

A couple of things may have happened since you began your work. For one, you may have figured out that at some point you will need to stop raising your frequency or your spirit may pop out of your body. This isn’t a bad thing as people have out of body (OBE) experiences a lot. However, for the purpose of holding a frequency that will help Earth to ascend in her vibrational frequency and consciousness, we need to stay in the body and be grounded. The importance of grounding is imperative because it keeps us in tune with the Earth and Source, and is one of the most important things we do on a daily basis.

Another thing that may have happened to you as you hit a high point of vibration is that negative entities were attracted to you like moths to a flame. This is because the beings that feed off of our energy are beginning to starve as a collective because of the number of people waking up and cutting them out of their lives. When they notice a glowing light bulb on their plane of existence, they think that they will be getting a buffet dinner. They gather around and wait for the dinner bell. If you are not always on your toes, you may slip back into an old habit such as arguing, jealousy, alcohol, or drug use. These behaviors and actions create a fissure in the auric field just big enough to allow one of these entities to plug the socket in to start feeding.

Slowly you begin to be drained again of your energy and your cells begin to vibrate a bit slower. If this happened to you, the good news is that your consciousness was raised enough to understand what had happened, and many of you pulled out of this situation and went right back into a high vibrational state. You also realized that the reason this happened to you is that you were vibrating so high that you were noticed. Don’t have any fear about getting back to that state, because the higher you go, at one point you will become invisible to them. This is a game of one step forward and two steps beck, but eventually you will get to the top of the stairs. Don’t be too hard on yourself for that backward step, it is a very normal part of learning and experience through a veiled illusion.

Another possibility is that while clearing out what is not of a high vibrational frequency, some hidden things of the past surfaced and you struggled with major changes on your life. Upheaval brought a bit of chaos until you were able to figure things out. This was almost another dark night of the soul, but since you had already been there before you recognized that you simply needed to pay attention to what was coming up and deal with it like the warrior that you are. Most of the times this upheaval can be interpreted as a vibrational roadblock, keeping you in a seemingly never ending “groundhog day”.

Then you may have had the rinse and repeat pattern. Some people who suffer form this have been labeled as “bipolar”. This is when individuals have fluctuations from negative to positive and back, and whose vibrations fluctuate from low to high to low. These individuals are highly receptive to influences from outside electromagnetic, UV and audio frequencies.

You may have realized that you needed to move away from the person or situation that triggered you or the city that was bombarding you with low frequencies through towers and radio waves. The important thing to realize is that running away will not keep the pattern from repeating. The energies need to be felt through the emotional body and let out in a way that does not harm others. Figuring out how to do this is simply a trial and error creation.

The “what to do next?” question can be answered by determining where you are in the stages of flux right now. The mastery of this incarnation is to learn how to balance the fluctuations of vibrations so that you do not have such extreme polarities. You don’t want to pop out of your body unless you are trying to, and you don’t want another dark night of the soul. Now is the time to master learning how to control your reactions and thoughts much better each time you are triggered. It’s also time to face your fears and stop running away from situation and people, but instead recognizing where the energy came from and transmuting it into a balanced state.

It is time now to harness the power of the earth, and the cosmos. The mind, body, and soul are keys to unlocking potential and finding the vibration and energy that is in tune with who you really are. The secret to life isn’t about continuing to “raising your vibe”. That gets you to a place where you can discover your unique soul frequency and tune into it. Doing this will strengthen your connection with your higher self, your oversoul, and Source (all the same thing on the highest level). This is the advanced work that is to be done as you raise your vibrational frequency. Everyone’s spirit rings a particular tone. Go within to hear or feel your tone and intend to bring more of that tone into your body. When you feel like you are singing your own song of love and harmony, share your tone with everyone and everything in your reality, and see how happy that makes you feel.

Finally, if you find yourself becoming bored and unhappy and have cut off everything that you used to do that was fun, it’s time to re-evaluate your life from a higher perspective.

I recently had a life coaching session with a 67 year old man whose life consisted of baseball, hunting, and hanging out in the woods. He found himself sitting alone, cut off from the world, wondering “what’s next”?

After asking him a few questions, I sensed that he had a really good handle on identifying what was harmful to him and he had worked very hard to eliminate these things. We decided together that is was o.k. for him to re-introduce some of the things that he used to love to do, with a higher consciousness, awareness, and understanding. For example, he really missed baseball and he got really excited when I told him to turn the TV on to watch a few games! He knows how to shield himself with crystals and will turn the volume down during commercials. He also will go back to sitting in his deer stand with his bow and arrow, which is when he was most happy in life. Before he shoots a deer, he will telepathically commune with it and the Earth and ask for permission to take the deer’s life. He will also use all of the deer in one way or another that is not wasteful. While this may be controversial for animal rights activists and vegetarians, this man had done nothing his whole life but spend time in the woods, hunt, and watch baseball, and when he quit doing these things he lost his friends and became a hermit and was on the verge of severe depression.

This man’s case is a lesson in tailoring your spiritual practice to your lifestyle. It shows that it is important to do what makes you happy in life while we shift from 3d through 4d and into 5d. Of course we will eliminate a lot of things when we shift out of this reality. But for now, take a good look at what you have stripped away from your life and think about whether if it has left you barren. If you quit your banking job and you cannot keep food in the refrigerator, it may be time to take on a similar job until the banking system collapses. An understanding of how to emotionally detach from the system will allow you to do this knowing that you will be happier with income for now. Some people just simply cannot work in the very industries that are corrupting our lives, while some may need to be infiltrators from the inside out. Learn how to have balance in your life, and learn how to turn a negative situation into a positive one.  If you need to, do some things in moderation that may have been labeled as spiritual “no no’s” based on your intuition, soul path, and lifetime history.

The challenges may not end until we have returned to Source to sign up for another assignment. However, by integrating our higher self’s wisdom from our soul, we can learn how to play the game with a better understanding of how to be in this world but not of it. Your intention to remove yourself from this reality will be the strong force to push like minded individuals over the edge into a new reality where these struggles will vanish. For now, do the best you can and take the load of bricks off of your shoulders. Your going to get there one way or another, and right now you have to do what makes life easiest for you while you continue to climb the steps. Your soul song frequency will get more and more refined for every brick you drop.

 

 

About the author:
Michelle WallingMichelle Walling, CHLC is a Holistic Life Coach, international public speaker, writer, webmaster, and radio show host. In 2013, Michelle started her public career as a spiritual, metaphysical, and esoteric contributing writer for In5d.com and bodymindsoulspirit.com. Michelle is the webmaster for MichelleWalling.com, cosmicstarseeds.com, thestarchildren.net, and howtoexitthematrix.com, and is the co-creator of WooWooMedia.com. Michelle is the host of In5d’s Cosmic Awakening Show.
Her personal Facebook page can be found here~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com

LISA RENEE (Energetic Synthesis): “Anger is Dangerous”

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During the transition of moving from the Ophiuchus constellation, the wound healer, and moving into the fiery element of the Sagittarian influences, this phase of exposure to these cosmic forces that are transmitting from the Galactic Zodiac include various stages and intensities of healing crisis for many people.  This time may include the rapid incineration of longstanding patterns of identity and the burning up of the old, painful and decrepit energies of the past.  This is similar to the inner spiritual bonfire that can dissolve the constructs of the lower self and clear the attachments to negative beliefs and  behaviors that result in energy parasites and thought form possession.  As many people on the planet endure forms of psychological, emotional and spiritual healing crisis, many may be feeling confused about the roller coaster of emotions they may be feeling.  One of the most common forms that healing crisis can play out in groups of people, especially those without impulse control or self-awareness, is to get really frustrated and angry from not knowing how to express pent up emotions.  We have a lot of people on this earth who do not know how to handle or diffuse the intensity of pent up emotional anger that they feel bubbling up from deep inside themselves and sourcing from the collective consciousness.  Our culture is not taught about the forms of anger, how to diffuse anger, how to gain control over personal impulses of anger, and how to get to the source of anger before it starts to take complete control over that person’s mind, emotions and body.  It is important to recognize, now more than ever, expressing uncontrolled anger and violent outbursts without self-control is dangerous to you and dangerous to others.  Expressing anger with violence only breeds more anger around you, and will infuse destructive energies into your life.

There are many misconceptions about anger and aggression and how to best cope with it. The most destructive misconception is that it is healthy or effective to display anger in hostile, aggressive or violent ways in order to allow that person to vent their anger impulses.  When people act out their anger impulses in the heat of the moment, the results of that persons rage, hostility and violence, even if its momentary, is often destructive and tragic.  People cannot make a clear and positive choice when they are stuck in feelings that cycle into rage or anger.  Because they allow base negative emotions to take control over them, they are not trustworthy people, as one never knows what may set them off into a seething rage or outburst.   In the current terrain, most people that burst out into hostile anger are enduring short term thought form possession or dark entity possession.  When a person loses control over their faculties, and allow hostile anger to take them over, they are used as a vessel to produce and direct energetic harm to themselves and to others.  This is called a dark portal, which can be defined by observing a person’s negative behavior that is connected to forms of anger.  There are many forms of anger like: annoyance, irritation, aggravation, agitation, frustration, peeved, annoyed, miffed, sulking, offended, bitter, indignation, exasperation, incensed, pissed, outrage, hostile, spite, vengefulness, resentment, wrath, rage, fury, ferocity, and livid.  All of these negative emotional states are risky if they are excessively indulged, and all people should be aware when they are feeling forms of anger, in order to maintain control over their faculties.  Hate is also form of anger because when a person chooses to blame the other for their personal difficulties, that is the moment that person has decided to hate them.  If hatred or anger is not resolved, the result of accumulated anger is bitterness and resentment, which are some of the most poisonous emotions for the body, mind, and spirit.

Many times people near that person that is expressing forms of anger can get hurt, and even get slimed by the intense bursts of negative energies, like aggression or seething rage.  When a person loses control over their anger impulses, they are easily manipulated and they perceive the reality around them much differently, than a person who is calm.  Think about this, who has better discernment of events happening in the moment, a person on a rage fest of angry spew or a person who is completely calm and observing the situation and can see the overview?  Does the person who is spewing a rage filled blast of negativity into the environment and directing that destructive energy at other people, have any true clarity in that moment while he/she is on the middle of an angry tantrum?  No, this is how tragic mistakes occur and people get hurt.

When we get into cycles of expressing uncontrollable rage or anger, our mind and eyes will see through a filter of rage, and that person becomes highly susceptible to delusions, and fabricating a false narrative in order to justify their negative behavior.  A delusion is a belief that is held with strong conviction despite superior evidence to the contrary.  When we lose control over our faculties from uncontrolled anger or rigid and inflexible thinking, we can only access very limited perceptions, such as false or incomplete information, confabulation, dogma, illusion, or other distortions of perception.  Obviously, if we are making life decisions based on false or incomplete information that is primarily based upon our undisciplined impulses, we are not making informed or aware choices, and this will propel us onto a path of creating more confusion and deception about our correct direction.  When people allow themselves to discharge aggression, violence and anger, they put on a filter of anger that skews their vision and perception.  Most of the time, people that have consistent outbursts of uncontrolled anger are easily used as dark portals, and whatever they perceive happening is not actually the accurate assessment of what is happening.  When a person allows themselves to be consumed by anger, they lose all control over their reasoning faculties, and they have little to no discernment about the true and accurate version of events.  People that let themselves be carried away by forms of aggression or angry outbursts may defend the false ego narrative that led them to the conclusion that the anger outburst was necessary.  Because they need to justify their anger, they will easily be led to fabricate a complete delusion about the actual events, because the truth is too unpleasant for them to actually deal with. Many times the truth is that they are unwilling to look at the real cause of the episodes of outbursts of anger, and are unwilling to take responsibility for the problems they have. It’s easier for their mind to make up stories, to fabricate an enemy that can be the object of all their projections and problems, thus rejecting any accountability for their personal actions.

A person unwilling to take responsibility for their angry outbursts are usually high stress controller types or manipulators, and in order to make themselves feel justified for their angry outburst, they will blame someone or something as the cause of their rage.  This unwillingness to be accountable to personal actions can result in forms of projection or transference, which is a way to blame someone else for your own negative behaviors and aggressive displays.  Thus, as more people feel a lot of inner anger, much of which they do not know how to cope with, they start to find people or things to blame as the direct cause of their anger and rage.  We are going to drill this down further, in order to be able to see how anger is generated by improper thinking, the need to place blame on others, real or imagined, which leads to producing more pain, confusion and unhappiness in our life.  Wrong actions formed by improper thinking generate more pain, anger and destruction. Right actions formed by right thinking, generate more happiness, love and harmony in our life.

Self-Justification

Unfortunately, people often are confused by what is perceived incorrectly through their own need to be okay through self-justification of their negative behaviors, like displays of anger.  Some people formulate these distortions as Ego Defense Mechanisms because they have not learned how to free their mind through the use of Negative Ego tools for deeper self-inquiry and to clear out pent up emotions that can lead to angry outbursts and destructive impulses.  As we learn to free our mind and love ourselves unconditionally, we know that we are okay without needing to self-justify or defend who we really are that is related to ideas of self-worth.  When we are free of our own need for self-justification, (by increasing our inner self-approval and self-love, no matter where we find ourselves) then we do not need to justify others or justify ourselves, as well as resort to the blame game.  We are then freed to be capable of unconditionally loving others no matter what they may be choosing to do in that moment.  It is what it is in this moment.  One has no control over others nor what others may think about them, based on whatever perceptions or beliefs that have been formed, whether its truth or lies.  The quality of our thinking shapes our belief systems and attitudes and is the result of accumulated life memories and the personality filter which form perception, judgment, bias and skills or proficiencies.  The mind may distort information when the ego feels threatened, and that person will fabricate a storyline that fits into the reality they want it to be, rather than what it really is, in order to find a coping mechanism through the feelings of discomfort.  When people are using a coping mechanism to self-justify, they present a one-sided argument that is incomplete and based on the faulty thinking of an selfish egoic perception.  If we focus on the Spirit of Humility it reduces our need for self-justification and blaming others, which allows us to admit to and learn from our mistakes or negative ego behaviors.  Humility is the key to help us overcome many of these thought form distortions which evolve into a host of ego defense mechanisms and delusional thinking.  During times of stress, overload, or threat, people often resort to a simplistic form of thinking, called primal survival thinking. 

Primal Survival Thinking

Primal thinking when it is repetitive and left unchecked, accumulates factors in people that they may start to believe are true when they are really deceptions they believe about themselves.  When we are overstressed or overwhelmed we may go back to the “root” fears or the most primitive layers of the unconscious mind.  It is only when we have arrived at a level of trust that we are secure and safe in this world, safe in our relationship with God spirit, that we can fully clear survival root fears and eliminate primal thinking.  Whenever we feel unsafe or threatened, we go back to the root of our survival fears, which trigger ego defenses into base negative thoughts like fear.  This is why building the relationship to the core self and building the spiritual practice to deeply connect with our higher power is the most important practice all of us can do.  This is the way ego discipline is formed and strength in the energetic foundation of one’s spiritual-energetic core is built.  For an accurate assessment of reality and challenging circumstances, it is important to reexamine the situation using purposeful, valid, thoughtful, and accurate analysis that properly allows for the many complexities that we face on the planet today.  We can blend a synthesis of the mental analysis of the evidence or facts, mixed with intuitive levels of Higher Sensory Perception in order to have better assessment ability and to understand, the accurate assessment of events of which we are involved.

Mental Triggers

When we identify these types of mental triggers that take us into distorted thought patterns, through noticing our tension, anxiety or frustration levels, we can switch back into the balance inside ourselves to find a way to release our stress.  Immediately we can shift tension through refocusing our mind into breath, or refocusing into the current moment sensory-feeling awareness, or finding a nonviolent way to express the tensions we are feeling.  By refocusing oneself at the moment tension or stress is being experienced, it prevents impulsive reactions such as blurting out negative words or expressing angry behaviors at others.  When we express angry behavior impulsively, it is not a pleasant or positive situation for ourselves or others around us.  When we have allowed anger to make us impulsive it means we have embodied that angry state, which is not a healthy practice for anyone.  Acting out impulsive anger can be very intimidating and bullying to others.  This is very emotionally damaging in all people and it breaks trust in creating healthy and safe relationships with others.  In most social situations, it is preferable to recognize anger and learn to observe that anger as it builds without allowing the angry state to overwhelm and take over one’s body, mind and emotions.   It is possible to witness and feel anger instantaneously and to refocus that anger immediately, in so to refuse anger, hostility or violence to become your identity as a person.  This is also demonstrated by having respect for others around you, in so that your angry spew is not vomited onto other people that are around or in the environment.

Impulse Control by Refocusing

As one learns how to refocus one’s thoughts in the moment, one prevents overwhelming states of emotion from triggering impulsive behaviors and angry reactions.  As one develops strong impulse control they are learning a form of ego discipline through applied patience.  If we check in and find that we do not like what we may be feeling, we can learn better the reasons for that by further shifting into the observer mode.  In our community, we call that process of observing as shifting from identifying with a thought or feeling by moving ourselves into the compassionate witness.  As a Compassionate Witness we have no judgment of thoughts or feelings, we hold no judgment of what we are observing in the external, we only observe those thoughts and feelings in our self and others.  When we can fully observe through our own Compassionate Witness, we then become neutral and centered and we have no need to exert control, direct harm or get angry.  Then, we can immediately find relief from our inner anxiety, fears and a host of other negative thought distortions.  This process is key to shifting ego defense mechanisms, clearing the thought addiction tendency and releasing the mental anxiety or fear of feeling emotional depth or pain.  By continually using an ego defense mechanism to avoid facing the source causation of the anxiety or deeply rooted fear, (which is unresolved pain or trauma) we are only perpetuating the mental looping which uses denial of the truth in order to avoid feeling pain or discomfort.  Denial of the truth is the seed of all deceptions and delusional fantasies that are generated from an unclear and undisciplined mind, which only leads to generating more frustration and anger.

Splitting

Splitting is a very common Ego Defense Mechanism that occurs when a person is unwilling to know the truth, or take responsibility for their actions and behaviors.  If the truth is unpleasant for them, they fabricate a story that is more acceptable to them to justify their belief system.  This kind of person would rather listen to pleasant manipulations and deceptions in order to feel better, rather than actually know the truth if its unpleasant for them.  Splitting can be defined as the division or polarization of beliefs, actions, objects, or persons into good and bad labels, by focusing selectively on a narrow and incomplete version of perceiving their positive or negative attributes.  Splitting diffuses the mental anxiety that arises from a person’s inability to grasp the nuances and complexities of a given situation or state of affairs by simplifying and schematizing the situation and thereby making it easier to think about and categorize.  It also reinforces the sense of self as being labeled as good and virtuous, by effectively demonizing all those who do not share in the same opinions, perceptions and values.  On the other hand, such a compartmentalization leaves people with a distinctly distorted picture of reality that creates self-delusions, and a restricted range of thoughts and emotions; it also affects our ability to attract and maintain healthy relationships.  People with splitting tendencies are not mentally or emotionally stable, they flip flop between many sporadic impulsive states or outbursts of emotion.  Perceptions can easily flip, with friends and lovers being thought of as personified virtue at one time and then as personified evil at another time (and back and forth).  Splitting also arises in groups, when members of the in-group are seen to have mostly positive attributes, whereas members of out-groups are seen to have mostly negative attributes – a phenomenon that contributes to group think and, indeed, inflexible attitudes  and lack of acceptance for other people.

Exercise:  Analyzing our anger can provide valuable insights into knowing yourself and to increase self-awareness. To analyze the anger you are feeling, begin by examining the perceived loss. Ask yourself:

  • What have I lost? Is the loss real?
  • What is its value to me?
  • Why do I perceive this as important?
  • Was this my loss or was it someone else’s? What are their views regarding this loss? How do you know? Why do you care?
  • Do I feel insulted? Why? Has my ego been attacked? Have I lost some dignity? Was I ridiculed or humiliated? Has my reputation been damaged? Do I feel less competent? Was I denied fair recognition or reward? Is the insult groundless or is it an accurate interpretation of my behavior? What is the asymmetry that bothers me so much?
  • Do I feel powerless? Have I lost autonomy? Do I feel cheated? Was I taken for a sucker? Was a trust betrayed? Was privacy breached?
  • Was I coerced into submission or obedience?
  • Have I been threatened, injured, struck, abused, attacked, or intimidated?
  • Has anyone trespassed on my territory?
  • Have my goals been thwarted? Have my freedoms been abridged? Is my safety or security reduced? Is my legacy diminished?
  • Have I lost power? Have I lost stature? Have I lost strength? Have I lost influence? Have I lost access? Has a relationship been damaged?
  • From a rational point of view, how big is this loss? What impact will it have? How can I recover? Can I just ignore the issue?

Your answers to these questions will provide valuable insights into gaining clarity about your values, beliefs, goals, and needs.  Based on what you learn by asking these questions, complete the following sentence:  I am angry because I have lost ______.  This loss is important to me because I _________. (value, believe, want to achieve, or need).  Once you have gained clarity on why you feel angry, then evaluate how strongly you still assess the sensation of loss or injustice.

Now identify the willful agent who is the target of your anger and examine their intent. Ask yourself:

  • To what agent do I attribute this action?  Who do I hold responsible?
  • Did they act deliberately? How do you know?  How can you check your assumption of intention?
  • Do they consider themselves responsible for the action?

An agent is someone who acted deliberately.  If you are angry because you stubbed your toe on the door your choice of agents is limited to:  1)  the door, 2)  the floor, 3)  yourself, 4)  someone who pushed you, or 5)  Some innocent person who was not even in the room at the time.  Note that the first two agents on the list cannot act willfully, and the last did not even act!  The Fundamental Attribution Error—incorrectly attributing an action or intent to an agent—is a common mistake that people make.  If you find yourself blaming an un-willful agent (e.g. the door or the floor) for your anger, perhaps the change that is needed is that you need to take more responsibility for your own actions.

In order to gain a more accurate assessment, we suggest using the GSF standard of practicing the Law of One in valuing empathy, compassion and kindness, holding a deep appreciation for another’s situation and point of view, as the basis for fairness and proper discernment in every situation, no matter whose fault you may think it is.

Origins, Archetypes, and the Plot of Anger

Anger encourages us to act on our sense of fairness. Anger may be interpreted in many of the following ways:

  • A demeaning offense against me or what is perceived as mine.
  • Interference with what we are intent on doing. Thwarted goals. Frustration.
  • Intentional physical harm toward us; actual, threatened, or reasonably perceived,
  • Intentional psychological or emotional harm toward us, including insult, humiliation, denigration, intimidation, or rejection,
  • Disappointment in the performance of others we care about; we get most angry at the people we love the most,
  • Witnessing the anger of another, especially when it is directed at you.
  • The nonverbal message of anger to others is “get out of my way” or “I want to hurt you”.

Benefits and Dangers of Anger

 The anger mechanism can provide important personal messaging about the state of wellbeing and consciousness we are experiencing in the moment.  Here are some of those benefits:

  • Anger tells us that something needs to change.  Are you willing to make the changes required?
  • Anger can provide the motivation to constructively change whatever it was that caused the anger.  It can energize the fight for legitimate rights.  It can motivate us to overcome oppression.
  • Anger can provide the motivation to constructively correct an inequality.  It urges us to act on our sense of fairness and justice.
  • Anger can help to reduce or overcome fear and provide the energy needed to mobilize needed change.
  • Anger sends a powerful signal that informs others of trouble or harm.  It notifies the offender that you have perceived an offense.
  • Anger can be a general response to an external stimulus that needs to be addressed or knowing that there are problems that need to be resolved.

One of the most dangerous features of anger is that expressing anger increases the anger of others around you and this incites violence and harm into the environment.  This can lead to a rapid and dangerous escalation of destructive and painful energies spreading like a virus. People may try to harm the target of their anger, whether its justified or not.  The impulse to harm is probably a central part of the anger response for most people, thus telling us it directly leads to committing actions of violence and brutality.  While anger can be dangerous and must be constrained, it should be acknowledged for the reasons it is there, and not be denied, or covered up by deceptions and lies.  When we learn to control our angry impulses, and stop directing regular angry outbursts at others, choosing instead to source our anger and be responsible for our own behavior, we start to help build our own sense of positively coping with stress, which helps to build our self-esteem and confidence.  Self-esteem is what is needed to know that you can get through the challenges and stressors of everyday life without fear or feeling threatened by others because they have different belief systems or perceptions.

Building Self Esteem

Building self-esteem formally is the outlook to experience oneself as competent and adequate to cope with the basic challenges of life and worthy of happiness and fulfillment.  Others (parents, teachers, friends) can nurture and support self-esteem in an individual, but true self-esteem relies upon various internally generated practices and positive belief systems and motivations.  To be responsible to take care of oneself, and face stress competently and confidently is one way of building a strong base for self-esteem.  In Nathan Branden’s framework, there are six pillars of generating and building self-esteem which help people to better cope with stress and anger:

  • Living consciously: the practice of being aware of what one is doing while one is doing it, i.e., the practice of mindfulness.
  • Self-acceptance: the practice of owning truths regarding one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviors; of being kind toward oneself with respect to them; and of being your own good friend.
  • Self-responsibility: the practice of owning one’s authorship of one’s actions and of owning one’s capacity to be the cause of the effects one desires.
  • Self-assertiveness: the practice of treating one’s needs and interests with respect and of expressing them in appropriate ways.
  • Living purposefully: the practice of formulating goals and of formulating and implementing action plans to achieve them.
  • Personal integrity: the practice of maintaining alignment between one’s behaviors and convictions. Speaking in alignment to your true and authentic self.

Getting more clarity on the source of our own stress and anger and using the tools to refocus our mind in order to gain control over our personal impulses is a critical skill needed during these turbulent times.  If you are not in control of your mental and emotional impulses, something else will take over your mind and emotions, and as a result, you are a high risk for exposure to manipulation, delusions, and possession as a dark portal.  In addition to being easily manipulated by the world of forces and other people, you will also lose all discernment in clarity, accurate assessment, self-determination, sovereignty and personal truth.  This is an important survival skill for all Starseeds, Indigos and awakening people to be able to see the risk and signs of people around us that are run by uncontrollable forms of anger and emotional outbursts, and to recognize they are people traumatized in pain, and are not people that have accurate perceptions of events or act with ethical conduct to demonstrate solid trustworthiness.

Above all at this time, learn to be kind and develop true humility in all situations, gain control over your impulses and diffuse anger, as it will serve you in boundless ways in the longer term.

 

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – December 21, 2016

PAUL LENDA: “How Solar Flares Directly Affect Human Consciousness”

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Everything within this dense configuration of Reality that we call the Universe is interconnected. Through this interconnectedness, everything affects everything else. From the dawn of human spiritual experiences to present-day scientific discoveries, the reality of oneness and interconnectedness has continued to permeate as a recurring aspect of existence within the vastness of what we refer to as Reality. We are realizing, with a continuously-growing conviction, that change and transformation, whether it be in society, consciousness, or otherwise is directly affected by other elements of our universe that we sometimes fail to realize have the ability to affect us in transformational ways.

These connections, which many times are unable to be seen through the limited field of human awareness act as two-way portals and tunnels through which energy particles and fields travel through. This may seem like something out of a sci-fi story but has time and time again been proven to be a very genuine part of our reality. It was only in 2008 that it was publicly stated that there are magnetic portals that connect the sun’s magnetic field with the earth’s. A year earlier scientists uncovered an elaborate and vast web of cosmic filaments hundreds of millions of light years long that connect galaxies to each others. Not only are the sun and the earth linked with each other but so are galaxies light years upon light years away. Distance is no obstacle for the interconnectedness of our universe.

Getting back to the sun and the earth, we come to a very significant and important realization…that solar flares have a direct effect on everything that exists on our blue marble…even human consciousness. Solar flares were found to directly affect the mental and physical state of humans in 2008 and three years later, we are seeing just how true that finding truly is. The sun has such incredible power that it is able to send solar flares shooting into the Earth’s atmosphere and affecting its electromagnetic energy field, as well as affecting each person’s electromagnetic energy field.

When looking at profound shifts in society and consciousness, we can find the pineal gland to be of particular importance. Yes, this tiny part of our brain that has been professed as being a DMT production laboratory acting as our gateway into more subtle planes and dimensions of Reality also regulates circadian rhythm and melatonin production…it is incredibly sensitive to magnetic fields.

The case for solar flares directly affecting human consciousness is of the utmost important right now, since we can see all around us and within our own lives the intense changes and transformations occurring. These changes are exasperated by the electromagnetic forces at play around us. The Russian scientist Tchijevsky put together the histories of 72 countries beginning at 500 BCE and culminating in 1922 within the present era.  He constructed an Index of Mass Human Excitability, in which he found that 80% of the most significant human events occurred during a 5 year period surrounding the peak of solar activity. What this discovery shows us is that when solar-geomagnetic activity is changing the fastest, it has the greatest potential to affect our moods, behavior patterns, creativity and trends. We are in for quite an interesting next few years.

There is a positive side to the increase in sun activity. Periods of increased solar activity don’t just correlate with societal unrest, but also give rise to innovation and enhanced imagination in architecture, arts and science. The old social structures which are not helping humanity become more consciously evolved might be replaced with more suitable and sustainable models. Above all else, this is a time of opportunity and possibility and the chance to use these rushes of energy to create humanitarian advances and a sustainable living environment.

Something that each and every one of us can do is to increase the emotional balance and coherence within ourselves. Harmony is essential in times of chaos. This will enable us as individuals to use these influxes of energy to our advantage. When we raise our internal coherence, we can positively affect our personal relationships and our social environment, which will also be positively reflected in the collective consciousness of humanity.

We are all affected slightly differently by these cosmic forces, such as solar flares, which is why one person may be affected negativity whereas another in a more positive way. Those individuals who have compressed anger, fear, and jealousy will see their energy fields weaken. Our thoughts help shape and create our reality so it should be of little surprise that the toxic emotions and feelings that we may choose to marinate within our minds may result in the weakening of our energy fields, leading us to become more vulnerable to the negative effects of these electromagnetic solar energy influxes. In order for us to not get into such a downward spiral, we need to identify the negative emotions before we are able to resolve them. If our electro-magnetic energy field is weakened, we become more likely to be significantly affected by the increasing solar activity.

The increase in solar activity activates compressed jealousy, anger, and fear in our minds, no matter if we are conscious or unconscious of this process. If people have not been working on healing these issues, the issues become stronger and magnified when there is a period of increased solar activity as there is now. We are living in a difficult period of our timeline, yet we should not allow ourselves to become sad about the state of everything because we can use this period to our advantage. Let’s use this period of increased solar energy to create great opportunities for positive social transformation… the world desperately needs it.

 

 

~via shift.is

 

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “Past Life Healing — 5 Signs of Your Past Life (Best Tips)”

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Past Life Healing

We have lived many lives.  There was a psychologist, Helen Wambach who hypnotised lots of people; she would regress them to a specific time period then ask them predetermined questions like, what are you wearing, what’s that on your face, what gender are you and what she found was fascinating, mind blowing, they were revealing all kinds of things, they were completely different people.  This field is growing more and more in psychology but don’t believe what I say you should know it for yourself.

Many ancient cultures, in ancient Egypt they talked about past lives and reincarnation, I believe we are going to keep coming back to planet earth because we have lessons we have to learn.  Einstein talked about how energy can’t be destroyed or created, it can only be transferred, mystics talked about how we are multi dimensional beings having a human experience.  Souls inhabiting bodies, no one really ever dies, Marcus Aurelius said, what we do now echoes in eternity.

How can this help us become our greatest versions?  I am going to share with you what’s helped me along my journey, I link this into subconscious mind which controls 95% of our daily lives.

5 Past Life Healing Signs

1.  The first past life healing sign is your name, what’s your name?  Whatever your given name is not really your real name.  When you call yourself by your real name that is a gateway to who you were in a past life.  Words are bonds, words are vibrations, in ancient cultures they named themselves because when you name yourself, you now give yourself a new definition.  When someone names you they give you a definition.  So they would call themselves things like, water woman, fire man, rain man, why?  Because they were reconnecting back to the elements.  Names hold significant meanings in our lives. Whatever you name yourself is the kind of energy that is channelling through you, that is why whatever you call yourself you always end up becoming.  So reprogramming the subconscious mind we have to be mindful of what we call ourselves. This shows us and helps us remember who we really are.

2.  The second past life healing signs is the area of interest.  Why do you have affinity for playing the piano, why do you like waking up and running at 3 am in the morning?  What we do in life reveals what we were doing before, because I have seen that time is an illusion, time is not linear, the past, present and future they are all happening simultaneously.  So a past life in essence just happened a few moments ago but why do certain people have certain talents and abilities, do they just learn how to do this in this incarnation or did they learn to do this in another life, that is why they are amazing at it.  So there are great clues, are you interested in metaphysics ? Architecture, banking, make-up, jewelry, food… these hold a deep clue into what you were doing before you came here.

3.  The third past life healing sign is what I call the level of consciousness, sometimes people say well everyone is asleep they don’t get it and they are probably saying the same thing about you.  The level consciousness is where your mindset is, some people they never give up, they have the spirit of a fighter, warrior, where did this come from?  Well because in a past life you could have been training, you could have been a gladiator, you could have had to wrestle bears and stuff.  You learned all of this somewhere else, that’s why you have this consciousness.  Certain times you are seeing the maya, the illusion around you but how come you can see it and other people can’t?  Because you have been places they haven’t and they have been to places you haven’t.  So whenever you allow people the freedom to experience their own Reality you get that aha moment.  You realize we have all lived many lives and therefore we don’t have to interfere with someone else’s time line, we have to focus on ours and be thankful for it.

4.  The fourth sign is what I call the strength and weaknesses are unresolved issues and our magnificent strengths.  What are you facing right now that is challenging, what undesirable quality do you have about your personality, what unresolved issues do you have coming to the surface, some people say I can’t stand that person but have you ever questioned why?  Many times we might have a phobia of spiders, do we ever question why?  So our unresolved issues, maybe you don’t trust someone.  Past life’s are a wonderful way to reconnect back to our traumas and heal our selves because once again there is only now, we can fix the past by healing the present moment.  Our magnificent strengths are weakness’s, what we really love about our selves didn’t just come from this moment, this incarnation, it came from way back, some people they can let go of resentment, they are not jealous, they are kind and compassionate because through time they have worked on themselves.  They have cultivated this magnificent serenity within them selves.

5.  The last past life healing sign I have seen along my journey is that people will remind you of your past life, always connect with those who remind you who you are.  Because you had this conversation with someone and now they are serving as the catalyst, they are triggering this distant memory and you begin to remember that time in Egypt, India… you remember being on specific land mass on this planet, in essence you have this familiarity and this familiarity is how you know your past life.  Certain times it comes through dreams, nightmares, visions. I love meditating, any kind of deep meditation is going to remind you who you are.  Being around supportive friends who don’t judge you, see you in amazing ways with unconditional love that triggers who you were in a past life.  Most people talk about the positives about their past lives but Helen Wambach’s research is fascinating because certain times people were recalling their experiences as being a maid or peasant, we were also so many different things but this is important to know why we behave the way we do and once you connect with that past life experience you have more acceptance of who you are and now you can shape and remould your destiny, become anything you desire.  It starts with acceptance, forgiveness and trust.

 

 

 

~via spiritualunite.com

LJ VANIER: “6 Surprising Benefits of Crying (or Why It’s So Important to Have a Good Cry)”

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When was the last time you had a good cry?  Most folks see watery eyes as a sign of emotional weakness, however, confronting your emotions requires a great deal of strength in the form of personal vulnerability.

Amidst a continuous stream of salty tears slowly sliding down our check, making our eyes puffy and temporary blurring our vision, do you ever wonder what emotional or physical benefits this suspended state of helplessness could have on our delicate and fragile physic?

Well, grab a tissue if you have to and read on to learn some surprising benefits of crying.

1.Crying Releases Toxins

Crying is known to have both physical and mental cleansing effect. The tears that are produced by stress aid the body in getting rid of the stress hormone known as cortisol.

Just like other exocrine processes like urinating, exhaling, sweating, toxic substances are released from the body when we cry. Pain reducing protein prolactin, adrenocorticotropic hormones, and the endorphin leucine-enkephalin are the major chemicals present in emotional tears.

2. Crying Improves Vision

It has been confirmed that tears made by the lacrimal gland can clear up our vision by lubrication the eyelids and eyeballs. Vision can become a little blurry when the membranes of the eyes are dehydrated.

Tears bathe the surface of the eyes which keep it moist by washing away debris and dust. Crying can also guide against the dehydration of various mucous membrane.

3. Anti Bacteria

Crying can also be a good way to get rid of bacteria. Tears are known to contain lysozyme — a fluid also found in semen, human milk, saliva, and mucus that kills almost 90 percent of all type of bacteria within 10 minutes.

Studies have also shown that strong antimicrobial powers can also protect against intentional anthrax contamination. Lysozyme can kill some bacteria by completely destroying their cell walls the rigid outer shell that is known to provide a protective coating.

4. Mood Improvement 

Tears can improve our mood better than any current antidepressant available in the market.

A study in 2008 from the University of South Florida discovers that crying can be self-soothing and elevate the mood better than any antidepressant in some cases. The shedding of tear can dramatically improve the mood of over 90 percent of all cries compared to just eight percent who reported feeling worse after crying. Individuals with an anxiety disorder were less likely to experience any positive effects after crying.

5. Relieves Stress

Even if circumstances still remain the same, a good cry can provide a feeling of relief. Crying is general known to release stress hormone or toxins from the body which can significantly reduce tension.

It is generally believed that crying is a better alternative to punching the wall. Crying is a safe and effective way to deal with stress as it provides an emotional release of pent-up negative feeling, frustration and stresses.

6. Communication Boost

Crying can convey what words cannot express, most especially in a relationship.  This is mostly obvious when a person in the relationship is having a different reaction to a situation that isn’t too transparent until tears begin to show. It is at the very moment one person burst into tears that conversation shifts towards the emotional aspect. Crying can quell a fight and emphasize points not conveyed in words or simply underscore the significance of the feeling behind the dialogue.

In conclusion, a good cry can naturally heal us both psychologically and physiologically.

 

 

 

 

~via isoulscience.com

ISABELLA SNOW: “Coping Tips For Empaths”

Coping Tips For Empaths

Being an empath can be physically and emotionally draining.  Many people are unaware that they’re an empath and do not know how to cope with this ability.

Develop Your Shield Body

Around your physical body, there is a layer of your aura that is devoted to your interface with your environment. Its shape and condition indicate your relationship to your world. People who are empaths often have a “thin skin” in relation to their shield body. When it has holes in it, we are more easily influenced by our environment. Visualize a shield of energy around your physical body. See it as being radiant and complete. You may see it as a particular color. Some people like to see it as white or gold. Decide what color would work well for you, and see it that way. Imagine the shield body as flowing and moving, not static.  We are developing a shield here, not armor. It is good for it to be flexible, so you can let in what serves you, and keep out what doesn’t. Snap your fingers to hold it in place. Do this exercise regularly.

Center of Being

Once you have the shield body in place, imagine that there is a spark in the center of your being that is your pure essence. Focus your attention on the spark, bring all your senses to bear. Also be aware of your sensations, emotions and thoughts. First try this when you are alone, and then, after a time, practice it around others. See if you can switch your awareness from your environment to your self, and back again. Notice the difference between the two.

Don’t Take On Responsibilities That Aren’t Yours

A person can get so used to care taking that they can feel as though they are supposed to do it. You are not. It is good to be as compassionate as possible without going beyond the limits of what you need to do to maintain your health and sanity. You are responsible up to that line, and not beyond it. If you are an empath, your idea of where the line is might be a bit fuzzy. Once you get to know where the line is, try to stick to it. It will make all your relationships clearer and cleaner.

Get Used To Being the Bad Guy

empathsEmpaths are often outwardly kind and caring. They usually get the benefit of everyone thinking that they are almost saintly sometimes. It is easy to get attached to being the “nice guy.” It is not easy dealing with people’s negative emotions, but care-taking others does not ultimately serve them or you. It does not help them to protect them from their feelings. It keeps them from growing up. Besides, it’s not real. It’s much better to live in reality than a padded reality. Yes, they may get angry or sad at you or with you if you don’t do what they want you to do, but it is important to remember that their feelings are not your feelings, and your well-being is not dependent on their well being.

Develop Your Throat Chakra

Sometimes an empath will know what they need to say or do to make good boundaries, but have a hard time following through in expressing it. The throat chakra is the center for the expression of personal truth. Through the opening of the throat chakra, we open ourselves to expressing our true needs and feelings, as well as expressing the creative force as it moves through us. Some good exercises for opening the throat chakra are singing and chanting, sharing your feelings and thoughts with friends, and meditating on the throat chakra. Some healing stones that help with the throat chakra are chrysacolla, turquoise, lapis lazuli, amazonite, and blue lace agate. You can meditate with them, put them in a medicine bag, or wear jewelry (particularly necklaces).

Develop Your Root Chakra

The root chakra helps us to deal with being fully in the world. When the root chakra is open, we are fully grounded and present with whatever is coming our way. When it is not open, we can be disassociative, fearful, and have difficulty staying present with what is going on. Opening and healing the root chakra helps us to release the fears that keep us from our highest manifestation within form. Some exercises that help to open the root chakra are:

Imagine you are sending roots down into the earth from your base. Imagine you can breathe in and out of your root center. On the inhale, breathe in energy from the earth. On the exhale, release any thing that is within you that does not serve you out of the root center and into the Earth.

Some healing stones that you might find helpful are:

  • obsidian
  • Kansas pop rocks
  • hematite
  • red jasper

Smudging And Clearing Regularly

Whether you are having difficulty with your empathic abilities or not, it is a good idea to smudge yourself regularly to release other people’s energy and influence from your energy body. Smudging is a way to clear your energy by waving incense around your body. Sage, copal, frankincense, and Palo Santo are all recommended. Other good clearing methods are: showering, bathing and spending time in solitude.

Take a Clary Sage bath

This is the single most effective thing you can do to clear all that emotional funk away. And I do mean bath – a shower doesn’t permeate in the same manner. You don’t need candles or anything else, just a nice hot bath and some privacy. Give it a good 15 minutes and you will feel much, much better. I recommend it before going to bed, as you can carry all that crap through your sleep and still wake up with it, otherwise. If you can’t find sage bubble bath, it’s ok, anything will work, I just really love the sage.

Breathe

Wherever you are, stop what you’re doing for 5 minutes and just breathe. You should be inhaling through the nose and from the diaphragm. Slowly. And then you should be exhaling slowly, through the lips – don’t just open your mouth and blow it all out. Pretend you’re blowing on a cup of hot coffee; that’s the kind of blowing you want. Slow and steady. Imagine that each time you inhale you are drawing all that crap up to the surface, and then expelling it when you exhale. If you practice, that will be precisely what you learn to do, eventually. Do not overdo it initially – deep breathing can release all kinds of emotional junk you weren’t previously cognizant of, and that will just make you feel worse. Really, really worse. So take it slow until you’re more skilled at it. A few deep breaths is enough when you’re just learning.

Coping Tips For Empaths