There’s a huge misconception about ‘acceptance’. It’s often perceived as a position of weakness. Many people believe that when you’re forced to accept something you cannot change, it means that you’re rolling over to a bigger resistance. You gave up.
That couldn’t be further from the truth.
In fact, acceptance allows you to transcend the resistance you’re facing.
Instead of resisting what life’s throwing at you, acceptance allows you to engage life in a different way.
Four Fundamentals of Flexibility
Acceptance is one of my Four Fundamentals of Flexibility. If you want to expand beyond any challenge, it’s necessary to shift out of what I call Resistance and Persistence Mode. When you resist something, be it an idea, a belief, a conflict, a relationship, a feeling, etc. the issue you have with it will persist. When you resist something, you are channeling a lot of energy into it, and it responds back with the same energy. This sort of exchange creates stagnation. It gets you nowhere. Literally. The result is usually exhaustion and increased stress.
When you shift out of Resistance and Persistence Mode and into a state of Acceptance, something very powerful happens. Your perception shifts. Instead of seeing things as you want them to be, you see things as they are. Your perception can then shift from seeing things as they should be to seeing things as the could be. When you’re able to lift your own blocks in this way, you now become willing to see other options. Options that were not part of your earlier plans. Options that likely offer a better solution or a better approach.
This increase in flexibility of your mind has now empowered you beyond the resistance you initially engaged. Instead of using your energy to push back against something, you’re channeling your energy into productivity… forward movement.
Acceptance is not passive. It allows you to engage life versus fight it. Instead of being right or wrong, there is dedication to resolving issues.
There’s no shame in letting go. Often when we let go, we’re releasing the death grip of our ego. When this happens you are breathing life back in for a solution to appear.
Whenever you’re encountering some resistance in any area of your life, stop. Assess your ego. The ego wants you to suffer. It believes in sacrifice and suffering to attain anything of worth. It’s a tricky belief system to keep you from making big gains with minimal efforts. There’s always another way. And sometimes that way, may not be your idea. It may come from someone else or something else. Can you set your ego aside so that all involved can move forward?
Stagnation kills growth. In nature, if something isn’t growing, it’s dying.
Choosing acceptance allows you to see beyond the current limitations your ego wants you to remain in. More options become available. Acceptance sets the platform for faster and more effective decision making because your perception is wider.
A mind that is open and willing can always see more and therefore do more.
Resistance weakens you. Acceptance strengthens you.
It’s simply a matter of choice.
There is nothing passive about acceptance.
So the next time you encounter a problem or issue that doesn’t seem to be going away, that’s a great sign to look inside.
- What are you resisting?
- Why are you resisting it?
Remember this saying: That which you resist, will persist. Can you accept things as they are? Not so you succumb to the problem but so that you can transcend the problem and see another way out. The idea is to create movement. There’s always more than one way.
And you always have that choice.
Love and expansion,